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OMG

Somerset, KY

#1 Feb 23, 2013
Should you get revenge on people or let it go and be the better person?
comes around back to them

Mchenry, IL

#2 Feb 23, 2013
Eventually it will get them...in the rear
Just me

London, KY

#3 Feb 23, 2013
OMG wrote:
Should you get revenge on people or let it go and be the better person?
Let it go and don't let the anger rule your life. Being a better and more successful individual is the best revenge. It was for me!
OMG

London, KY

#4 Feb 24, 2013
comes around back to them wrote:
Eventually it will get them...in the rear
The waiting for that to happen is the hard part.
OMG

London, KY

#5 Feb 24, 2013
Just me wrote:
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Let it go and don't let the anger rule your life. Being a better and more successful individual is the best revenge. It was for me!
This is extremely hard to do. I have never wanted to get revenge on anyone, until now. I know I should not want this, but somedays I am consumed with how I can avenge this wrong.

“I'll paint any car,”

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#6 Feb 24, 2013
I'll poop in Their Raisin Bran for 20 bucks.
My Advice

Pineville, KY

#7 Feb 24, 2013
Revenge is a vicious circle, you get revenge on them and that will cause them to want to do the same and on it goes. I say whatever it is chalk it up to experience and grow from it.
Just me

London, KY

#8 Feb 24, 2013
OMG wrote:
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This is extremely hard to do. I have never wanted to get revenge on anyone, until now. I know I should not want this, but somedays I am consumed with how I can avenge this wrong.
If at all possible, create distance between yourself and this person. Do not speak to them and avoid them at all costs. It will give you time to think and allow you to focus on the more important aspects of your life. No phone calls, texts, Facebook messages, etc. Try to put your energy into something more positive. Don't waste your precious time on this person.

“It is what it is, folks!!”

Since: Feb 10

The land of harmony and peace

#9 Feb 24, 2013
I agree, "Just Me". When someone does you wrong, purge them from your life. No contact, no messages, nadda. Block any way that they have of contacting you again. Why keep the drama going? It accomplishes nothing to seek revenge. Unless a law has been broken, just move on and leave them in your past. Never forget what they did to you and learn from it. That means learning just enough from the negative experience to never allow anyone else the chance to do it to you again.
(I also don't believe in giving second chances to anyone who's screwed me over. What's done is done and I move on)..
Just me

London, KY

#10 Feb 24, 2013
_-_Nope_-_ wrote:
I agree, "Just Me". When someone does you wrong, purge them from your life. No contact, no messages, nadda. Block any way that they have of contacting you again. Why keep the drama going? It accomplishes nothing to seek revenge. Unless a law has been broken, just move on and leave them in your past. Never forget what they did to you and learn from it. That means learning just enough from the negative experience to never allow anyone else the chance to do it to you again.
(I also don't believe in giving second chances to anyone who's screwed me over. What's done is done and I move on)..
I'm the same way about second chances. There are too many people out there who take advantage of others over and over. It's disgusting. I certainly won't allow it to happen to me!
manfromthewest

Somerset, KY

#13 Feb 24, 2013
they say.. .what goes around, comes around. it does happen
OMG

Somerset, KY

#14 Feb 24, 2013
Just me wrote:
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I'm the same way about second chances. There are too many people out there who take advantage of others over and over. It's disgusting. I certainly won't allow it to happen to me!
What if you have been married 42 years?
Just me

London, KY

#15 Feb 24, 2013
OMG wrote:
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What if you have been married 42 years?
I have to assume this person wants you to waste your time on him/her. Don't give them the satisfaction of taking any more of your time. If you do, it just tells them they are still getting to you. Don't give them anything else. Show this person you aren't going to be consumed by them any more.
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#16 Feb 25, 2013
I got revenge the old fashion way,......I outlived them all?
OMG

Manchester, KY

#17 Feb 25, 2013
Just me wrote:
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I have to assume this person wants you to waste your time on him/her. Don't give them the satisfaction of taking any more of your time. If you do, it just tells them they are still getting to you. Don't give them anything else. Show this person you aren't going to be consumed by them any more.
How in the world do you ever start over. I went fr having parents to husband. I have never ever been on my own. I can say that scares me to death.
Just me

London, KY

#18 Feb 25, 2013
OMG wrote:
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How in the world do you ever start over. I went fr having parents to husband. I have never ever been on my own. I can say that scares me to death.
You don't recognize your self-worth. It won't be easy to start over and careful planning and budgeting will be important. You seem to be in a mindset where you are dependent on this person (understandably so) but you have to start thinking of yourself as a separate, independent being. Surround yourself with friends and family who support you. Your love is valuable and you shouldn't give it to someone who isn't worth it and not returning it. Keep yourself busy. Volunteer in the community if you can. Show this person what you are worth and how much BETTER you are without them.
OMG

Manchester, KY

#19 Feb 25, 2013
Just me wrote:
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You don't recognize your self-worth. It won't be easy to start over and careful planning and budgeting will be important. You seem to be in a mindset where you are dependent on this person (understandably so) but you have to start thinking of yourself as a separate, independent being. Surround yourself with friends and family who support you. Your love is valuable and you shouldn't give it to someone who isn't worth it and not returning it. Keep yourself busy. Volunteer in the community if you can. Show this person what you are worth and how much BETTER you are without them.
I sometimes feel that no one will ever truly love me the way that I want to be loved, because I love deeply and I want to be loved like that. Is that kind of love really out there? My spouse (and my close friends) say they have never known anyone who loved the way I loved my husband and the way I love them. I really have unconditional love for others but not for myself.
Just me

Duluth, GA

#20 Feb 25, 2013
OMG wrote:
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I sometimes feel that no one will ever truly love me the way that I want to be loved, because I love deeply and I want to be loved like that. Is that kind of love really out there? My spouse (and my close friends) say they have never known anyone who loved the way I loved my husband and the way I love them. I really have unconditional love for others but not for myself.
I believe there are people out there who love that way but you must love yourself first and foremost. You must look at the good qualities you have and be the person you want to be. We often get so caught up with our lives that we lose our true identity and don't know who we are anymore. There is a quote that I like; "Man, know thyself! All wisdom enters there." Why don't you love yourself? What's not to love?
OMG

London, KY

#21 Feb 25, 2013
Just me wrote:
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I believe there are people out there who love that way but you must love yourself first and foremost. You must look at the good qualities you have and be the person you want to be. We often get so caught up with our lives that we lose our true identity and don't know who we are anymore. There is a quote that I like; "Man, know thyself! All wisdom enters there." Why don't you love yourself? What's not to love?
I guess my self esteem has plummeted because of what has happened and I don't feel like I have anything to offer. I know who I am. I am a good person, love God, always consider how others would feel, very forgiving, very loving, helpful to others. The way I've been all my life. I just say what was not lovable about me. Why would he do this to me? Why did he not love me enough not to do this to me. So on and so forth. Makes me doubt who I am and what I should be. Ive always liked myself until now.
Just me

London, KY

#22 Feb 25, 2013
OMG wrote:
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I guess my self esteem has plummeted because of what has happened and I don't feel like I have anything to offer. I know who I am. I am a good person, love God, always consider how others would feel, very forgiving, very loving, helpful to others. The way I've been all my life. I just say what was not lovable about me. Why would he do this to me? Why did he not love me enough not to do this to me. So on and so forth. Makes me doubt who I am and what I should be. Ive always liked myself until now.
Men have a harder time seeing what they have until it's gone. I was in a situation where my boyfriend was seeing one of my family members behind my back. I stopped speaking to my family member but my boyfriend insisted he wanted us to work things out. I became insecure, checking his phone, email, Facebook, etc. If he was even minute late coming home, I convinced myself he was cheating again. I became someone I didn't want to be. I didn't want to feel insecure and keeping tabs on him was consuming my life. I split up with him and focused on myself. I told him why and explained that I couldn't love him until I found myself again. He had hurt me deeply but there was no way I could forgive him until I separated myself from the situation. It's hard to think clearly when you are in the middle of it. After a few months (he was very patient and did everything I asked and left me alone when I needed him to) I finally felt free again. We moved back in together and got married. He has never cheated on me again and treats me like a princess because he said it was too hard for him to live without me. However, if he would have left for good and wasn't patient, it didn't matter because I finally realized that without him, I was just fine too.

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