ex-wives trying to get their man back

ex-wives trying to get their man back

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know it all

Hazard, KY

#1 Oct 16, 2008
My boyfriend`s ex-wife keeps trying to break us up she won`t let him see his kid`s,because we have a baby together.My daughter doesn`t even know her other sibling`s,I think that it`s sad that someone has so much hate in them that they make their own life miserable.......
STOP

Hazard, KY

#2 Oct 16, 2008
THEY WILL STOP AT NOTHING I KNOW I GO THROUGH IT EVERYDAY RUTHLESS
i know

London, KY

#3 Oct 16, 2008
x wives are bitches that why they are x unfortunately they are the mother to our children that are made to be under their evil spells until they get older then the truth comes out!!!
MJM

London, KY

#4 Oct 16, 2008
i'm about to have a little girl with my husband. he has been divorced for four years, and we've been together for 3. we've only seen my stepsons once in the time we've been together. she gets her support check and anything else she can get from the government with her "sob story", but all we want is for our daughter to know her brothers, and to know they are doing ok. it's hard in todays society. the ex can just mosey on up to the courthouse and get a no contact order if the husband sneezes wrong. It's not fair!
member

London, KY

#5 Oct 16, 2008
It takes a lot to get a no contact order against a parent. Did he not have any custody rights to the child. Now a days the courts almost always give joint legal custody to both parents. that way ex's cant get away with interfering with the child's time with the other parent. If the ex does interfere then take her/him back to court for contempt. The judge hates to see these cases and almost always gives the parent that files the charges even more time and sometimes there is no child support awarded if both parents provide for the child at each home.
So in other words it can really back fire on a ex to interfere in the relationship or parenting time of the other parent.
MJM

London, KY

#6 Oct 16, 2008
so we should probably go back to court. we really want our daughter to know her brothers. she is due next month. the ex said he was mean. he use to be in the military, so her lawyer used that against him. there's no order now, but everytime we try to contact anyone, she makes a fuss and tries to get epo's and stuff against the both of us. we are christians, and we pray about it everyday. there was custody rights, it's just a messed up situation. someday it will all come back on her. God bless everyone!
single mom

London, KY

#7 Oct 16, 2008
member is right, most of the time the courts give the parents joint custody. There should have been a custody agreement with the divorce. If there was, take the ex to court and let the judge know what she is doing. Don't let her lawyer bully you guys. It is against the law to withhold visitation from the father/mother. Keep a journal of all the instances that this has happen. Make sure you date the visitation refusals and what went down. Take this information to court and show what has happened. It's not against the law to tape your phone converstions with the ex. Good luck.
iknow

Ashburn, VA

#8 Oct 16, 2008
that is not hate...she still has feelings for him..otherwise she wouldn't be trying to cause trouble.
know it all wrote:
My boyfriend`s ex-wife keeps trying to break us up she won`t let him see his kid`s,because we have a baby together.My daughter doesn`t even know her other sibling`s,I think that it`s sad that someone has so much hate in them that they make their own life miserable.......
misterm

Louisville, KY

#9 Oct 16, 2008
it is a SHAME that the courts even have to deal with visitation at all...we as adults who will do anything to prove "we love our children" use the same child as a weapon! The ONLY reason a child should be withheld is abuse (true abuse not this pit-pat shit people come up with)It has always baffled me how the same parent was good enough to sleep with, have a child with, help raise the child until the divorce/split-up then they become the WORST parent/person on earth.People quit using your child as an ace in the pocket.
MJM

London, KY

#10 Oct 16, 2008
oh, if you were only over the court system, the world would be a better place...
Fed Up

Paducah, KY

#11 Oct 16, 2008
My fiancée’s ex wife is a complete and total bitch. They have been divorced for 5 years and we have been together for 2 years. When we first got together I didn’t really think bad of her and she never really started causing problems or maybe it was just because I didn’t catch on… Anything that she can possibly come up with to be a pain in the ass she will... She calls and text all the time. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with the fact they speak because they have a child together but its one thing to call concerning your child and another to call when it has nothing to do with the child. Examples: To get someone’s phone number that he don’t even talk too by the way… Hello it’s called a phonebook!!! And she has called to let him know that some of his friends were at a strip club that she was at.. Who fucking cares? And she has been told several times not to call unless it has something to do with the kid which really makes sense… But apparently she is too stupid to figure that out. And he has to watch what he says to her because she is a bitch and there’s no telling how she would turn it around. And what’s so funny is she has a boyfriend that she lives with… She really needs to just stop and grow up and act her age and let it go because he has… Sorry to go off but this is my only way to vent because if I say something to her about not even trying to start trouble just letting her know that it needs to stop she will make it sound like I am this violent person who her son isn’t safe to be around… It’s just really sad because the situation could really be worse… If I had a child with someone and he lived with someone else I would be more focused on whether that person was good to my child because most cases now days that’s a problem. And she really should be thankful that me and the little boy do have a good relationship… Which in all honesty is probably why she starts shit anyways, but im not trying to take her place the child already has a mother im just trying to fit it and be apart of his life because I am apart of his fathers.
iknow

Ashburn, VA

#12 Oct 16, 2008
true..she should be very thankful that you are good to her child. My children had a horrible step-mom, just because she didn't like me. I tried getting along with her, but she just refused. I suppose it was because she slept with her husband previously when he was my husband & feared I would do the same to her after she got with him. Stupid B***ch didn't realize I didn't want him after that. They deserved each other.Guilty conscience maybe???
Fed Up wrote:
My fiancée’s ex wife is a complete and total bitch. They have been divorced for 5 years and we have been together for 2 years. When we first got together I didn’t really think bad of her and she never really started causing problems or maybe it was just because I didn’t catch on… Anything that she can possibly come up with to be a pain in the ass she will... She calls and text all the time. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with the fact they speak because they have a child together but its one thing to call concerning your child and another to call when it has nothing to do with the child. Examples: To get someone’s phone number that he don’t even talk too by the way… Hello it’s called a phonebook!!! And she has called to let him know that some of his friends were at a strip club that she was at.. Who fucking cares? And she has been told several times not to call unless it has something to do with the kid which really makes sense… But apparently she is too stupid to figure that out. And he has to watch what he says to her because she is a bitch and there’s no telling how she would turn it around. And what’s so funny is she has a boyfriend that she lives with… She really needs to just stop and grow up and act her age and let it go because he has… Sorry to go off but this is my only way to vent because if I say something to her about not even trying to start trouble just letting her know that it needs to stop she will make it sound like I am this violent person who her son isn’t safe to be around… It’s just really sad because the situation could really be worse… If I had a child with someone and he lived with someone else I would be more focused on whether that person was good to my child because most cases now days that’s a problem. And she really should be thankful that me and the little boy do have a good relationship… Which in all honesty is probably why she starts shit anyways, but im not trying to take her place the child already has a mother im just trying to fit it and be apart of his life because I am apart of his fathers.
member

London, KY

#13 Oct 16, 2008
misterm wrote:
it is a SHAME that the courts even have to deal with visitation at all...we as adults who will do anything to prove "we love our children" use the same child as a weapon! The ONLY reason a child should be withheld is abuse (true abuse not this pit-pat shit people come up with)It has always baffled me how the same parent was good enough to sleep with, have a child with, help raise the child until the divorce/split-up then they become the WORST parent/person on earth.People quit using your child as an ace in the pocket.
Agreed!!!
I am an ex

Bristol, TN

#14 Oct 16, 2008
They are called ex husbands or ex wifes for a reason. Believe me most of us do not want our ex's back nor do we think they want us back. We made the choice not to be together any longer. Just remember though, if you are with someone's ex (wife or husband)and they cheated with you..you had better believe they are gonna cheat on you. Sorry, but it is the fact's...you will not be the one to change them..
know it all

Hazard, KY

#15 Oct 17, 2008
Well she maybe still in love with him,but she broke that marriage up when she was caught with her sisters husband!I have been with him for three years now,and nothing has changed.I love him,but its really hard to deal with,and now its causing problems with us.what should i do?
MEANESTMFONTHEBL OCK

Mount Vernon, KY

#16 Oct 17, 2008
To know it all: Ask yourself "Is this love bigger than these problems"? And if the answer is yes,then you keep your head up and keep going.You deal with it and this situation can only make you and yours grow stronger.You will figure it out together.If the answer is no than get out now it will only get worse for you and your child.There can be no second guessing in a situation like this.Either your love for him and All his children is strong enough to pull you through or it's not.There is no shame in doing what is best for you and your child!!! Good Luck.
observer

Finley, TN

#17 Oct 17, 2008
know it all wrote:
Well she maybe still in love with him,but she broke that marriage up when she was caught with her sisters husband!I have been with him for three years now,and nothing has changed.I love him,but its really hard to deal with,and now its causing problems with us.what should i do?
Best idea is to stay away from conflict, build on your relationship and keep the outside influence just that, outside the property. Therefore ex's have less contact and dwell on their own life. If ex's don't let a parent see the child, send the child a "I love you" card, but don't make comments that will only make the child feel worse, send presents as well. Address it too the child. But always remember don't get into drama, just remind the child you love them. For the absent parent,recieving a card a week will mean more to a child, then listening to negativity from either parent. So take the time, spend a few bucks or make your own card and stamps can be bought with the money you save from one cup of coffee. It is not about the ex, it is the memories the child has about YOU!
they dont give

Brownsville, TN

#18 Oct 17, 2008
observer wrote:
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Best idea is to stay away from conflict, build on your relationship and keep the outside influence just that, outside the property. Therefore ex's have less contact and dwell on their own life. If ex's don't let a parent see the child, send the child a "I love you" card, but don't make comments that will only make the child feel worse, send presents as well. Address it too the child. But always remember don't get into drama, just remind the child you love them. For the absent parent,recieving a card a week will mean more to a child, then listening to negativity from either parent. So take the time, spend a few bucks or make your own card and stamps can be bought with the money you save from one cup of coffee. It is not about the ex, it is the memories the child has about YOU!
yes and alot of times the ex never gives the child the card or whatever sent.
better believe it

London, KY

#19 Oct 17, 2008
know it all wrote:
My boyfriend`s ex-wife keeps trying to break us up she won`t let him see his kid`s,because we have a baby together.My daughter doesn`t even know her other sibling`s,I think that it`s sad that someone has so much hate in them that they make their own life miserable.......
Then maybe he should go home to them, and stop playing house with you. If you truly loved him, you would encourage him to go back and make it work, even if it means you lose him now, cause I promise you'll lose him later. Oh, and a bit of a warning. He'll play around on you too. You have nothing that is so special that he'll treat you any different. Just sayin'.
Lorie

Finley, TN

#20 Oct 17, 2008
know it all wrote:
My boyfriend`s ex-wife keeps trying to break us up she won`t let him see his kid`s,because we have a baby together.My daughter doesn`t even know her other sibling`s,I think that it`s sad that someone has so much hate in them that they make their own life miserable.......
Sometimes an ex-wife's hate toward the "girlfriend" is because that is why their marriage broke up. Most mothers should think of what is best for their children when it comes to visitation.

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