cheating on husband in prison...

cheating on husband in prison...

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what would you do

Pineville, KY

#1 Oct 21, 2009
what would you do if your husband or wife was in jail or prison and you knew they weren't coming home for at least a year. Would you cheat? better yet, when you talk to them on the phone they accuse you of it, you haven't cheated, but they are constantly accusing you of wrong doing! would it make you mad enough to do something wrong? i also know that my husband used to cheat on me when they where out in the real world. I love him and haven't. cheated and I dont even really want to cheat but their guilty conscience is getting the best of them while they are locked up. I know he loves me with all his heart and people do make mistakes,but i feel proud that I haven't cheated and I love him and I know we will be together when he comes home.The guilt would eat away at me if I did it.But the constant accusations are getting on my nerves!I think men are more apt to cheat than women because they are men.We do love each other but sometimes you just miss the touch of a man ya know? IS IT WORTH IT? AND YES I REALLY DO LOVE HIM. AND WOULD NEVER BE WITH ANYONE ELSE, AS A PARTNER.
Screw Screw

East Bernstadt, KY

#2 Oct 21, 2009
Sounds like if your husband/wife is in jail, they are a looser anyway. So go ahead and screw who you want to.
Corn

Campbellsville, KY

#3 Oct 21, 2009
Safe Sex :)
unknown

Newton, AL

#4 Oct 21, 2009
When he starts with the accusations, hang up on him.You do this often enough, maybe he'll get the hint.
forgotten one

Middlesboro, KY

#6 Oct 21, 2009
What's he in prison for? I'm sure I wouldn't even want to wait and be faithful to someone in prison that committed a crime that may have hurt innocent people.
trena

Manchester, KY

#11 Oct 22, 2009
well wrote:
I am sure he is having sex in prison no matter what, choke and puke.
i was in prison for 3 years for something i didnt do, untill then i had never been with another guy,i soon realized having protection was worth the cost. i told my wife and she said she loved me still and we would work it out when i came home. that has been 15 years ago and we are still married and very much in love. so what i'm saying it can still work but honesty is best policy. Most men spending time behind bars whether he admits it or not has slept with another man ,
I dont know about that

Macon, GA

#12 Oct 22, 2009
Corn wrote:
Safe Sex :)
Is there really any such thing? LOL!
Corn

Somerset, KY

#13 Oct 22, 2009
I dont know about that wrote:
<quoted text>
Is there really any such thing? LOL!
Shhh...lol...
SOOOOO SAAAAD

Lawton, OK

#14 Oct 22, 2009
This is about the most pathetic thing I have ever read on topix. Whatever choice you make, PLEASE don't procreate. The world doesn't need anymore of your kind running around.
carlamarie

Brownsville, TN

#15 Oct 23, 2009
I have been in the same situation that you are in. I did not cheat but was accused of it many times. I stuck by him through everything only for him to finally get out and come home and treat me like dirt. If I had to do it over again things would be different. My biggest mistake was not leaving when he got sent to prison.
Lover

Somerset, KY

#16 Oct 23, 2009
carlamarie wrote:
I have been in the same situation that you are in. I did not cheat but was accused of it many times. I stuck by him through everything only for him to finally get out and come home and treat me like dirt. If I had to do it over again things would be different. My biggest mistake was not leaving when he got sent to prison.
Love is a wonderful thing. So sad that so many do not know what it is.
MissGinga

Ottawa, Canada

#18 Mar 18, 2015
My husband has been in prison for over a year. I have not cheated, nor was inappropriate with anyone. I miss the feeling of having him beside me of course! But I only miss his embrace and his touch and the way he smells. He hasn't accused me of having an affair and I am sure if he did it would be quite annoying! Just ask him this...were you confident in our relationship before you went away? Did you ever have a feeling that something like this could happen while you were gone? try to reassure him...I know it's pathetic to some...but it's jail babez...they are surrounded by men every minute of every single day. if they are not on the phone with you they only have their thoughts in their head... sometimes that gets the best of them. What I do with my husband to make him feel at ease about being inside while I am out is make sure he knows what's up all the time...I include him in my daily activities by telling him how my day was and what adventures or chores or running arounds I had done in the day... I send him letters and pictures often so that he knows I am thinking of him and to reassure him that my love for him is true. I wouldn't suggest going out and venturing with someone...and that's because it seems to me that if you are asking if you should or not, then you already know that you shouldn't because you hear that little Gimminy Cricket in your thoughts. I can see now that it would destroy you inside. I wouldn't advise you to do it lovey.
OhKay

Somerset, KY

#20 Mar 24, 2015
If somebody constantly accuses you of cheating it's a good sign that they have been cheating themself.
Since He's in prison I wonder if he got "Married" to his cellmate....
Entit

Somerset, KY

#22 Mar 31, 2015
what would you do wrote:
what would you do if your husband or wife was in jail or prison and you knew they weren't coming home for at least a year. Would you cheat? better yet, when you talk to them on the phone they accuse you of it, you haven't cheated, but they are constantly accusing you of wrong doing! would it make you mad enough to do something wrong? i also know that my husband used to cheat on me when they where out in the real world. I love him and haven't. cheated and I dont even really want to cheat but their guilty conscience is getting the best of them while they are locked up. I know he loves me with all his heart and people do make mistakes,but i feel proud that I haven't cheated and I love him and I know we will be together when he comes home.The guilt would eat away at me if I did it.But the constant accusations are getting on my nerves!I think men are more apt to cheat than women because they are men.We do love each other but sometimes you just miss the touch of a man ya know? IS IT WORTH IT? AND YES I REALLY DO LOVE HIM. AND WOULD NEVER BE WITH ANYONE ELSE, AS A PARTNER.
If you're going to cheat please just tell him it's over. It's a slut move to do it while you're together. I repeat do not cheat on him, Tell him it's OVER. Do not be a coward, TELL HIM IT'S OVER>
Mikey

Phoenix, AZ

#25 Aug 29, 2015
My wife cheated when I was away and now she is trying to do everything she possibly can to show me it was a mistake, but its hard to forgive the fact that she had another man in my bed where I rest my head. How do you get over that?
Anonymous

Columbia, KY

#26 Aug 31, 2015
I don't know if it is possible to get over being cheated on or not. Especially when your spouse will not tell you the entire truth. People that are married or in a committed relationship that cheat are NOT thinking about hurting their spouse. They are NOT thinking about hurting their kids. They are NOT thinking about the risk of giving their spouse some kind of sti. They are NOT thinking about how their whole ENTIRE FAMILY they are supposed to love, treasure, and cherish are going to have their ENTIRE life turned upside down. They stupidly are NOT even entertaining the idea that they are NOT really that special or the first person their affair partner has cheated with. They are NOT thinking that one mistake will cost them EVERYTHING! My 9 year old said she thought people that cheated were buttholes. I did not have the heart to tell her that her dad was one. The affair partner is probably stupid enough to think they are hiding it very well. They are probably stupid enough to believe that their marriage is over and they do not have any kind of relationship left. That they don't have sex. They are probably stupid enough to believe their children will actually accept them into their family. They probably do not realize that even children as young as 9 say they would hate their dads girlfriend if the two of you were not together. That you told them it would be okay if they didn't hate their dads girlfriend because you want the best for your children. That the entire time he has been telling her his marriage is over he is telling his wife he wants to build a cabin on the lake with a boat slip and rocking chairs so the two of you can hold hands when you are in your sixties and watch your grandkids playing. That he is sorry for MAKING THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HIS LIFE. HE WANTS HER TO REMARRY HIM. That his WHORE DIDN'T MEAN ANYTHING TO HIM. HE WANTS TO RENEW THEIR VOWS ON THE BEACH IN HAWAII! The spouse that has BEEN FAITHFUL in every way had a friend of the opposite sex and her husband went crazy. He chased him away because he is afraid his wife has feelings for another man. Now if the married person that has no marriage left with his spouse really does not care at all about her, why would he chase her friend away? Because he wants his cake from both women. By the way to all of you married men out their look at what you have and think about all the times your spouse has stood by you. Do you really think some skank that is on her second marriage is really going to do that? Really do you not know that she is screwing her husband and you too? There is a reason they are cheating on marriage 2. You CAN"T TAME A WH@#@. Now the screwed up part is I am left with my child that wants her mommy and daddy together. To feel safe and loved. That is ANOTHER THING THAT WAS THROWN AWAY! I have to decide do I stay with a cheater that is willing to sale anything I want him to and have me stuck up his butt or do I kick him out and start over. Show my kids that they DON"T EVER PUT UP WITH BEING TREATED LIKE LESS THAN A PERSON! Forgive my rambling. I have had trouble sleeping and have lost about 15 pounds since this all came about.
Cheaters never win

East Bernstadt, KY

#28 Mar 23, 2016
Anonymous wrote:
I don't know if it is possible to get over being cheated on or not. Especially when your spouse will not tell you the entire truth. People that are married or in a committed relationship that cheat are NOT thinking about hurting their spouse. They are NOT thinking about hurting their kids. They are NOT thinking about the risk of giving their spouse some kind of sti. They are NOT thinking about how their whole ENTIRE FAMILY they are supposed to love, treasure, and cherish are going to have their ENTIRE life turned upside down. They stupidly are NOT even entertaining the idea that they are NOT really that special or the first person their affair partner has cheated with. They are NOT thinking that one mistake will cost them EVERYTHING! My 9 year old said she thought people that cheated were buttholes. I did not have the heart to tell her that her dad was one. The affair partner is probably stupid enough to think they are hiding it very well. They are probably stupid enough to believe that their marriage is over and they do not have any kind of relationship left. That they don't have sex. They are probably stupid enough to believe their children will actually accept them into their family. They probably do not realize that even children as young as 9 say they would hate their dads girlfriend if the two of you were not together. That you told them it would be okay if they didn't hate their dads girlfriend because you want the best for your children. That the entire time he has been telling her his marriage is over he is telling his wife he wants to build a cabin on the lake with a boat slip and rocking chairs so the two of you can hold hands when you are in your sixties and watch your grandkids playing. That he is sorry for MAKING THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HIS LIFE. HE WANTS HER TO REMARRY HIM. That his WHORE DIDN'T MEAN ANYTHING TO HIM. HE WANTS TO RENEW THEIR VOWS ON THE BEACH IN HAWAII! The spouse that has BEEN FAITHFUL in every way had a friend of the opposite sex and her husband went crazy. He chased him away because he is afraid his wife has feelings for another man. Now if the married person that has no marriage left with his spouse really does not care at all about her, why would he chase her friend away? Because he wants his cake from both women. By the way to all of you married men out their look at what you have and think about all the times your spouse has stood by you. Do you really think some skank that is on her second marriage is really going to do that? Really do you not know that she is screwing her husband and you too? There is a reason they are cheating on marriage 2. You CAN"T TAME A WH@#@. Now the screwed up part is I am left with my child that wants her mommy and daddy together. To feel safe and loved. That is ANOTHER THING THAT WAS THROWN AWAY! I have to decide do I stay with a cheater that is willing to sale anything I want him to and have me stuck up his butt or do I kick him out and start over. Show my kids that they DON"T EVER PUT UP WITH BEING TREATED LIKE LESS THAN A PERSON! Forgive my rambling. I have had trouble sleeping and have lost about 15 pounds since this all came about.
Sorry to hear about the problems you have had. Most of the time these type of relationships don't last. If you are able to completely forgive and move on and work on your marriage then that would be great. If you think he will just continue to cheat then you need to move on. Your kid needs a stable household whether that is all of you together getting along or you and your kid by yourself. Good luck on everything and I will keep you in my prayers.
Dictate

Somerset, KY

#29 Mar 24, 2016
My cellmate say my dictate good
Danbanger

Somerset, KY

#30 Mar 24, 2016
trena wrote:
<quoted text>
i was in prison for 3 years for something i didnt do, untill then i had never been with another guy,i soon realized having protection was worth the cost. i told my wife and she said she loved me still and we would work it out when i came home. that has been 15 years ago and we are still married and very much in love. so what i'm saying it can still work but honesty is best policy. Most men spending time behind bars whether he admits it or not has slept with another man ,
Of course you didn't do your crime. Prison is where innocent people go.

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