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Duluth, GA

#1 Jan 21, 2013
Ok I know this will open up for a lot of idiot comments but its meant for women who are married and even have children possibly. I just believe there are more of us out there like I am about to describe than they would like t admit. We are married and we are lonely. Feel in wanted in attractive. Some have ventured out crossed that line. Fell in love maybe. But chose to stay a wife and hold your family together even though u have no love at home? Share if u want.
just me

Evansville, IN

#2 Jan 22, 2013
I feel the same way but have never crossed the line I fell in love with someone else but stayed where I am it hurts to watch someone you love walk away while you sit where you are knowing its not allowing you to be happy
Friend

United States

#4 Jan 22, 2013
[QUOTE who="??????"]Ok I know this will open up for a lot of idiot comments but its meant for women who are married and even have children possibly. I just believe there are more of us out there like I am about to describe than they would like t admit. We are married and we are lonely. Feel in wanted in attractive. Some have ventured out crossed that line. Fell in love maybe. But chose to stay a wife and hold your family together even though u have no love at home? Share if u want.[/QUOTE]

I'd like to have friendship with you women that is safe somewhere you can hang out to getaway and relax and enjoy good confersation and feel comfortable
just me

Bowling Green, KY

#5 Jan 22, 2013
I dont know the area very well
??????

Duluth, GA

#8 Jan 24, 2013
I know the area and I also know what crossing that line feels like. I never ever thought in a million years I would do it. I did though and it was fun just letting go but then I fell in love and actuall found myself married being hurt by my husband by giving me no attention and then not getting the feelings I wa feeling from this man I crossed the line with. I ran home and have regretted doing what I did because that woman is not me nor what I believe in. I have held my family together but at the expense if my own personal happiness in areas that mean a lot to a woman and I don't just mean sex. Anyone out there understand? Been there to one degree or another?
surehave

Greenville, KY

#10 Jan 24, 2013
Yes ladies...been there and done that! Hubby never knew but I left because I thought I should , for everybody to be happy and it ruined my life! Ruined several lives. My advice to you is IF you love your hubby, make it work and don't let attention from other men sway you from that. Keep open communication with him and KEEP a relationship!
Eviction Notice

Duluth, GA

#11 Jan 24, 2013
just me wrote:
I feel the same way but have never crossed the line I fell in love with someone else but stayed where I am it hurts to watch someone you love walk away while you sit where you are knowing its not allowing you to be happy
Falling in love with someone else is crossing the line! You took a vow to love and honor your husband until death . This is the best advice anyone can give you so here it goes... Tell your spouse how you are feeling tell them your needs and desires. You do what you can to wake them up! Running to another is never the answer... Seek marriage counseling.
surehave

Greenville, KY

#12 Jan 24, 2013
[QUOTE who="??????"]I know the area and I also know what crossing that line feels like. I never ever thought in a million years I would do it. I did though and it was fun just letting go but then I fell in love and actuall found myself married being hurt by my husband by giving me no attention and then not getting the feelings I wa feeling from this man I crossed the line with. I ran home and have regretted doing what I did because that woman is not me nor what I believe in. I have held my family together but at the expense if my own personal happiness in areas that mean a lot to a woman and I don't just mean sex. Anyone out there understand? Been there to one degree or another?[/QUOTE]
That woman wasn't me either but it happens, and yes I TOTALLY understand.
wise@40something

Hermitage, TN

#13 Jan 25, 2013
I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!!
surehave

Greenville, KY

#14 Jan 25, 2013
[QUOTE who="wise@40something "]I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!![/QUOTE]
Yes but what you feel "in the heat of the moment" is not necessarily what you will feel even in a month, so be careful with your actions, and congratulations on your happiness!
???

Duluth, GA

#15 Jan 25, 2013
Eviction Notice wrote:
<quoted text>Falling in love with someone else is crossing the line! You took a vow to love and honor your husband until death . This is the best advice anyone can give you so here it goes... Tell your spouse how you are feeling tell them your needs and desires. You do what you can to wake them up! Running to another is never the answer... Seek marriage counseling.
Thank you for your advice. I wish what you say would work. I am not an uneducated or ignorant person. I have opened up I have begged to talk to an outsider I have laid it all on table. He loves me he is just confortable and the problems I speak of he feels are all in my head. I am a woman who freaks out as he sees it all is fine.
wise@40something

Hermitage, TN

#16 Jan 25, 2013
surehave wrote:
[QUOTE who="wise@40something "]I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!!"

Yes but what you feel "in the heat of the moment" is not necessarily what you will feel even in a month, so be careful with your actions, and congratulations on your happiness!
You are so totally correct!! And thank you! The situation I was in when I cheated, in my heart the present relationship had ended several years before. I also feel and have seen many times from other relationships that cheating is something that is so very difficult to get over and makes things tense and sometimes the one cheated on can not get over it no matter how hard they try. It's an unfortunate situation all the way around! Hoping for the best for all involved it is a heart wrenching situation.
???

Duluth, GA

#17 Jan 25, 2013
[QUOTE who="wise@40something "]I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!![/QUOTE]

Thank you! I am so glad u have found happiness! My children are growing and it will not be long and I feel I will be making some changes I really do. I just don't know if they will lead me to remain with my husband who I love dearly or to seek out on my own for awhile and find happiness.

There will be negative ignorant comments I am sure on here but I will not respond to them. Thank you for taking time to share your life experience about something I think is a huge issue for many women.
???

Duluth, GA

#18 Jan 25, 2013
surehave wrote:
[QUOTE who="wise@40something "]I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!!"

Yes but what you feel "in the heat of the moment" is not necessarily what you will feel even in a month, so be careful with your actions, and congratulations on your happiness!
Thank you
wise@40something

Hermitage, TN

#19 Jan 25, 2013
[QUOTE who="???"][QUOTE who="wise@40something "]I understand what all of you are saying! I expect to get negative comments on this but here it goes... I'm married to my 3rd husband, who is my best friend and soulmate! I will make a long story short... I have learned throughout my years that you MUST make yourself happy! If you have kids, you feel like you have to stay for them. When I finally left my kids dad I worried, but found out that my kids were happier too! They could feel the tension and unhappiness. When I was more relaxed and happier they knew. I am a strong believer in keeping a family together kids need there mom and dad but unfortunately in this day and time that doesn't happen often, I was fortunate that my ex remained in my kids life and is a great dad. I also am a firm believer that heating is completely wrong! Did that on my 2nd husband because I was miserable. Kids were older and I realized this was not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...but as soon as I had an affair I asked him to leave. I have been with my husband now for 5 years and never felt any thing like this. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it always brings you a better place! Sorry to ramble on but this subject touches my heart. I read all this mess on topix but I DO NOT respond but this is a serious topic and I hope all the smart a$$ comments stay off here. I hope this gives some insight for you and helps in some way. Just remember you have to make your self happy before you can make anyone else happy!!"

Thank you! I am so glad u have found happiness! My children are growing and it will not be long and I feel I will be making some changes I really do. I just don't know if they will lead me to remain with my husband who I love dearly or to seek out on my own for awhile and find happiness.

There will be negative ignorant comments I am sure on here but I will not respond to them. Thank you for taking time to share your life experience about something I think is a huge issue for many women.[/QUOTE]
You're welcome! I just feel like this is so important and serious and I hope the very best for you in any decision you make and always, always remember everything happens for a reason!
Skipper

United States

#20 Jan 25, 2013
[QUOTE who="??????"]I know the area and I also know what crossing that line feels like. I never ever thought in a million years I would do it. I did though and it was fun just letting go but then I fell in love and actuall found myself married being hurt by my husband by giving me no attention and then not getting the feelings I wa feeling from this man I crossed the line with. I ran home and have regretted doing what I did because that woman is not me nor what I believe in. I have held my family together but at the expense if my own personal happiness in areas that mean a lot to a woman and I don't just mean sex. Anyone out there understand? Been there to one degree or another?[/QUOTE]

I know exactly what you mean. I'm a man and went through the same thing.
Footboy

Duluth, GA

#21 Jan 26, 2013
[QUOTE who="??????"]Ok I know this will open up for a lot of idiot comments but its meant for women who are married and even have children possibly. I just believe there are more of us out there like I am about to describe than they would like t admit. We are married and we are lonely. Feel in wanted in attractive. Some have ventured out crossed that line. Fell in love maybe. But chose to stay a wife and hold your family together even though u have no love at home? Share if u want.[/QUOTE]

Is foot play considered crossing the line I've got a few married women that letr give them pedicures snd foot massages and I really enjoy it they say they do is that ok or not ?
me

Evansville, IN

#22 Jan 26, 2013
surehave wrote:
Yes ladies...been there and done that! Hubby never knew but I left because I thought I should , for everybody to be happy and it ruined my life! Ruined several lives. My advice to you is IF you love your hubby, make it work and don't let attention from other men sway you from that. Keep open communication with him and KEEP a relationship!
I really hope I know who this is. I lost my best friend and just once I'd like to hear her say she made a mistake.
surehave

Greenville, KY

#23 Jan 27, 2013
me wrote:
<quoted text>I really hope I know who this is. I lost my best friend and just once I'd like to hear her say she made a mistake.
I don't know who you are but yes I DID and I am sorry for it!
surehave

Greenville, KY

#24 Jan 27, 2013
me wrote:
<quoted text>I really hope I know who this is. I lost my best friend and just once I'd like to hear her say she made a mistake.
BIG mistake!

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