Who's slept or sleeping around?

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Nobody you know

Clay, WV

#1 Jan 16, 2013
I know someone that has slept around on their gf quite a few times and she doesn't have a clue about any of it. She's such a nice person, how do you tell someone this kind of news?
SAR

Bluefield, WV

#2 Jan 16, 2013
Just use some tact and consider her feelings.... I know for a fact if I were her I would want to know.... She might even thank you for telling her. It happened to me and I was glad I was told. :)
Nobody you know

Bluefield, WV

#3 Jan 20, 2013
Thanks, its going to be hard to tell her but she needs to know before he gives her something she don't want.
needs to know

Clay, WV

#4 Jan 20, 2013
Nobody you know wrote:
Thanks, its going to be hard to tell her but she needs to know before he gives her something she don't want.
some things are hard but for the best
Guess who

Princeton, WV

#5 Jan 21, 2013
Nobody you know wrote:
I know someone that has slept around on their gf quite a few times and she doesn't have a clue about any of it. She's such a nice person, how do you tell someone this kind of news?
i hope u get to tell her because if u or are u one of my friends they will thank u in the long run i no i would good luck
DearAbbyNot

Bluefield, WV

#6 Jan 22, 2013
Keep your mouth shut, It's none of your business. The friend will end up hating U N the long run.
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#7 Jan 22, 2013
The truth is, all girlfriends are getting slept around on... Also all boyfriends are getting slept around on... All husbands... All wives... Everyone one of us is doing it to everyone else. NO ONE is left out. The ONLY DIFFERENCES between any of us is who has been caught doing what.

I would leave it alone. How will you feel when someone tells your secrets? If anyone has been together for more than a year, then for a relationship to survive long-term, you'll have to learn how to deal with infidelity. Human beings are never satisfied with what they have and have the biggest need for community. Variety and something "new" will always become part of the equation, no matter who you are.
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Clay, WV

#9 Jan 23, 2013
Guess who wrote:
<quoted text>i hope u get to tell her because if u or are u one of my friends they will thank u in the long run i no i would good luck
this is so true if my man was cheating on me i would want to know because their is so many things to catch now days u know and if u love someone you will not want nobody else and a true friend would tell and not keep it from her because she might get mad at you for not telling her so i would tell her she will thank u in the long run
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#10 Jan 23, 2013
wants to know wrote:
...and if u love someone you will not want nobody else
That's just a bubble that's easier for people to live in and exists only in the movies or storybooks. Be honest. Married people find other people attractive all the time. It's human nature. It is "proper restraint" that you would want in a spouse.

You say you'd want to know. I'm trying to tell you.
wants to know

Clay, WV

#11 Jan 24, 2013
Reality Check wrote:
<quoted text>
That's just a bubble that's easier for people to live in and exists only in the movies or storybooks. Be honest. Married people find other people attractive all the time. It's human nature. It is "proper restraint" that you would want in a spouse.
You say you'd want to know. I'm trying to tell you.
this is true and it is ok to find someone else attractive but if you are with someone already it is not good to hurt someone u say u love right their is a lot of nice looking men in this world look but dont touch
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#12 Jan 24, 2013
wants to know wrote:
<quoted text>this is true and it is ok to find someone else attractive but if you are with someone already it is not good to hurt someone u say u love right their is a lot of nice looking men in this world look but dont touch
True. I agree with you almost totally.

But a realistic downfall of this flesh is, the longer you live, the more attractive men/wpmen you are going to see. Your disappointments will grow in number because of unrealistic expectations. It is human nature to seek a remedy for these things in another person if you cannot get remedy from your spouse.

We do look and do not touch. But after a vvvvvvvvery long time of resisting and restraining, coupled with the unhappiness we endure in many relationships, we give in and explore. Then difficulties arise when you are physically pleasured more in your indiscretion than you are with your spouse, maybe even ever... speaking of both men and women.

Adding to that, people in very long term relationships find it hard to keep their sex life "exciting", as each persons every secret becomes a common map for the other... and ultimately boredom sets in. Unfortunately, this is remedied much of the time by a "new" and "risky" sexual relationship that can brings more satisfaction than was even thought of.

In short, we are all "fallen" beings plagued by the flesh. We are a terrible lot, mostly. Our human nature isn't pretty at all, I'll be the 1st to admit. But this and much, MUCH more is the Truth... I could talk about it forever... but no one wants to listen to that stuff, lol...
Check out reality

Northfork, WV

#13 Jan 24, 2013
Reality Check wrote:
The truth is, all girlfriends are getting slept around on... Also all boyfriends are getting slept around on... All husbands... All wives... Everyone one of us is doing it to everyone else. NO ONE is left out. The ONLY DIFFERENCES between any of us is who has been caught doing what.
I would leave it alone. How will you feel when someone tells your secrets? If anyone has been together for more than a year, then for a relationship to survive long-term, you'll have to learn how to deal with infidelity. Human beings are never satisfied with what they have and have the biggest need for community. Variety and something "new" will always become part of the equation, no matter who you are.
Listen,in my opinion,I feel that you may have a heavy burden on your heart.I also think and pray for all of us who remain faithful to our "other half" that love abounds them forever.And I wish the same for you.Temptations are all around us these days and have been since the creation of humanity.In order to be faithful to yourself we need to remain away from the "near occasion" of sin.That means dont go around places or people who would tempt you to give in to their lifestyles that possibaly may pull you down to give in to the "near occasion" of sin into the sinful act its self.Love between two people should reflect the coveanant between the two,especially in marriage.If you begin to feel lonely in a relationship,that usually means there is a break down in communication in that relationship.We have to resolve that problem first.In any way we can,with the Lord's guidance.And if communication dosen't work,try counciling to help with our misunderstandings and feelings before we "give-up" or "give-in". My wife and I have been married for eight years and together for for more than 9 years.I trust her with everything in me. She has been there for me in my lonelinest and darkest hours.With support and love from her,my father and sister,and my(late mother),my wife's family,our church family,anything GOOD and is possible when we put the Lord Jesus first in our personal lives.Duringthe dating years,and finally, our married lives together. Pull out your bibles as a couple and ask the Lord to bless your heart and mind through the Holy Spirit,then each find a passage of scripture and read it.I suggest the book of Psalms, personaly, and then with patience and love,discuss what each one feels that the passage(s) of scripture means to each of you individually,and before you know it,you are with the Lord in discussion with each other.Because, as it was said by the Lord,"when two or more are gathered in My name there I shall be with you all in Spirt (Holy Spirt).I can not think of a better group to be with in my whole World,than with the one(s) you love and the One who was born, lived,preached and taught His disciples.Then was betraied, denied, tourtured, beaten, and handed down in judgement in accoredance to the scripture and handed down through the prophets to save US ALL from our sins with His crucifixion,death,burial.But as He promised, He went into Hell, and on the third day, He arose again in fullfillment of scriptures, and appeared to His diciples many times and taught them how to teach others as He taught them. And before He assended into heaven, He breathed on them and the Holy Spirit came upon them all. He then said ,take what you know to be the truth and go out upon all the nations and babtise them in My name and teach those as I have tought you. If the Lord as MAN, could withstand His temptations before His death, then so we can do the same,ourselves Remember that the Lord has already saved us, all we have to do is accept His greatest gift, and that is through His gift of commitment to us and to Him. As we then should share His gift of commitment to our spouses or our sweethearts and carry out the greatest commandment of all"Love your neighbors as yourself." I pray this helps those who stuggle with infideality.
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#14 Jan 24, 2013
Check out reality wrote:
Listen,in my opinion,I feel that you may have a heavy burden on your heart.I also think and pray for all of us who remain faithful to our "other half" that love abounds them forever.And I wish the same for you.Temptations are all around us these days and have been since the creation of humanity.In order to be faithful to yourself we need to remain away from the "near occasion" of sin.That means dont go around places or people who would tempt you to give in to their lifestyles that possibaly may pull you down to give in to the "near occasion" of sin into the sinful act its self.Love between two people should reflect the coveanant between the two,especially in marriage.If you begin to feel lonely in a relationship,that usually means there is a break down in communication in that relationship.We have to resolve that problem first.In any way we can,with the Lord's guidance.And if communication dosen't work,try counciling to help with our misunderstandings and feelings before we "give-up" or "give-in". My wife and I have been married for eight years and together for for more than 9 years.I trust her with everything in me. She has been there for me in my lonelinest and darkest hours.With support and love from her,my father and sister,and my(late mother),my wife's family,our church family,anything GOOD and is possible when we put the Lord Jesus first in our personal lives.Duringthe dating years,and finally, our married lives together. Pull out your bibles as a couple and ask the Lord to bless your heart and mind through the Holy Spirit,then each find a passage of scripture and read it.I suggest the book of Psalms, personaly, and then with patience and love,discuss what each one feels that the passage(s) of scripture means to each of you individually,and before you know it,you are with the Lord in discussion with each other.Because, as it was said by the Lord,"when two or more are gathered in My name there I shall be with you all in Spirt (Holy Spirt).I can not think of a better group to be with in my whole World,than with the one(s) you love and the One who was born, lived,preached and taught His disciples.Then was betraied, denied, tourtured, beaten, and handed down in judgement in accoredance to the scripture and handed down through the prophets to save US ALL from our sins with His crucifixion,death,burial.But as He promised, He went into Hell, and on the third day, He arose again in fullfillment of scriptures, and appeared to His diciples many times and taught them how to teach others as He taught them. And before He assended into heaven, He breathed on them and the Holy Spirit came upon them all. He then said ,take what you know to be the truth and go out upon all the nations and babtise them in My name and teach those as I have tought you. If the Lord as MAN, could withstand His temptations before His death, then so we can do the same,ourselves Remember that the Lord has already saved us, all we have to do is accept His greatest gift, and that is through His gift of commitment to us and to Him. As we then should share His gift of commitment to our spouses or our sweethearts and carry out the greatest commandment of all"Love your neighbors as yourself." I pray this helps those who stuggle with infideality.
You are correct. Of course I have a heavy burden upon my heart... MANY of them, as a matter of fact... as do most people alive today, over one thing or the other. I won't argue there.

Nor will I argue with anything you have to say here in this post listed above. God is real. Only a complete idiot would argue that point. And the Word does tell us of the way out of despair of all kinds: Love. The love you have for God can rise above any and everything dark and evil in this world. I have experienced it... lived it... seen the testimony of it in many others... I KNOW it is real.

(cont.)
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#15 Jan 24, 2013
(cont.#2)

For a great many years, I never thought... "THIS" could happen to me. I never thought spite, vengeance and hate could dominate me in such ways as this. I lived all inside of what you just explained, Check Out. I had the love within me.

But something happened within me when I realized the realities around me and within me. A person's voluntary relationship with God is just that: voluntary. God makes promises to us... Promises He will never break. The contents of those promises are beyond human comprehension, as we couldn't keep ONE promise as hard as we try.

My choices of late has been to unrestrain myself... to show the world how dam*ed sneaky I can be... that I can take secrets to my grave also... that just like my spouse, I can kiss them goodbye every morning and take the hair of another in one hand as I take my full pleasure with them... and no one will EVER know. "I" can be just as lowly, cowardly, pleasure-able (to another as well as myself), sneaky, hurtful and devious as any other, including my spouse.

Will God see me through this? He's seen me through many other things, some even similar to now... but this is new water for my charts. He remains faithful when we are not. Am I taking advantage of that? No rocket science there. Of course I am.

As messed up as this is... that's where I am. Now I'll go shut up for a while, lol.

By the way, thanks for the good intentions. I'm not beyond appreciating that.
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#16 Jan 24, 2013
P.S. to Check Out Reality:

I do hope that frail bubble of restraint you live in now lasts for your entire lifetime. You restrain yourselves from the flesh because of your Love of The Spirit.

But you probably also have a false sense of the "reality" around and within you. i hope that when/if you ever come face to face with the realities around you, that you fare better than I in mind, body and Spirit.
Check Out my Reality

Northfork, WV

#17 Jan 24, 2013
Reality Check wrote:
P.S. to Check Out Reality:
I do hope that frail bubble of restraint you live in now lasts for your entire lifetime. You restrain yourselves from the flesh because of your Love of The Spirit.
But you probably also have a false sense of the "reality" around and within you. i hope that when/if you ever come face to face with the realities around you, that you fare better than I in mind, body and Spirit.
I appreciate your honesty, not only to me but to yourself. I cannot judge anyone, least I be judged the same way. Only you know what is going on, and the feelings and emotions in your life. I do hope that the fragility of life and love will last me a lifetime, as you say and hope it will". What can I do to help you?
Reality Check

Princeton, WV

#18 Jan 24, 2013
Check Out my Reality wrote:
I appreciate your honesty, not only to me but to yourself. I cannot judge anyone, least I be judged the same way. Only you know what is going on, and the feelings and emotions in your life. I do hope that the fragility of life and love will last me a lifetime, as you say and hope it will". What can I do to help you?
Thank you, friend. I really do appreciate that. Honesty is easy because everything else is just pretense... and why "pretend" anything? We're all basically the same. Anyone who would have us think differently just wants to elevate themselves in their own mind. I know that. Maybe a few others. But when you know that, it's easy to tell who's BSing and who's not. most people are just full of it.

Nothing I'm aware of can help me except for the unexplainable things that come from "Him". Many times I have simply one morning awoke with something I did not have when I went to sleep the evening prior. I can only hope for that again. My head knows what I need. My heart simply will not follow. God is the only one I know of that can help steer the heart.

I have prayed for so many things over and over again... and there was a time when I had better been ready to get what I asked for because most times He didn't waste any time at all. Now? I've asked for so many things day after day, I just stopped, mainly because I know there's nothing wrong with God's memory, lol. It's up to Him... and me I suppose. I just can't seem to even find the ability to care anymore.

But I'll make it, just like most people who are just like me make it. We have Hope. Don't fret it. I don't. There's no purpose in it... as there's no purpose in most (not all) things a person does in their lifetime.
Check out my reality

Northfork, WV

#19 Jan 24, 2013
Reality Check wrote:
<quoted text>Thank you, friend. I really do appreciate that. Honesty is easy because everything else is just pretense... and why "pretend" anything? We're all basically the same. Anyone who would have us think differently just wants to elevate themselves in their own mind. I know that. Maybe a few others. But when you know that, it's easy to tell who's BSing and who's not. most people are just full of it.
Nothing I'm aware of can help me except for the unexplainable things that come from "Him". Many times I have simply one morning awoke with something I did not have when I went to sleep the evening prior. I can only hope for that again. My head knows what I need. My heart simply will not follow. God is the only one I know of that can help steer the heart.
I have prayed for so many things over and over again... and there was a time when I had better been ready to get what I asked for because most times He didn't waste any time at all. Now? I've asked for so many things day after day, I just stopped, mainly because I know there's nothing wrong with God's memory, lol. It's up to Him... and me I suppose. I just can't seem to even find the ability to care anymore.
But I'll make it, just like most people who are just like me make it. We have Hope. Don't fret it. I don't. There's no purpose in it... as there's no purpose in most (not all) things a person does in their lifetime.
I feel better with this post because you feel it, know it, and are showing me and everyone else what you feel. The earlier posts worried me because I sinced what I felt was your need. Is forgiveness out of the question right now? If it isn't any of my buisness, just tell me, I wont take offense to it. I'll just back it down for you. OK?
Reality Check

Denver, CO

#20 Jan 25, 2013
Check out my reality wrote:
Is forgiveness out of the question right now?
I've done that more times than I can count... and I've needed forgiveness just as much or more. I just don't have anymore within me right now.

But if you want to have coffee one morning and talk about it? lol. That'll be ok.*wink
Check Out Reality

Northfork, WV

#21 Jan 27, 2013
Reality Check wrote:
<quoted text>I've done that more times than I can count... and I've needed forgiveness just as much or more. I just don't have anymore within me right now.
But if you want to have coffee one morning and talk about it? lol. That'll be ok.*wink
I will continue to pray for you. In order to truly feel the release of forgiveness is not only by asking for it, but believing in it yourself that you are forgiven. sometimes its hard to express the acceptance of forgiveness from within, but you have to let go to break the chains that bind your heart of true happiness. I appreciate the invite for coffee, but I dont care much for it. And I am on here when time allows, so we'll just continue the conversations like they have been, on here if that is ok with you. ok?

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