After Prison, Few Places for Sex Offe...

After Prison, Few Places for Sex Offenders to Live

There are 23 comments on the CareerJournal story from Feb 23, 2009, titled After Prison, Few Places for Sex Offenders to Live. In it, CareerJournal reports that:

By STEPHANIE CHEN CEDARTOWN, Ga. -- After two years of fitful searching, Christopher Noles and his family finally found a modest three-bedroom house in rural Georgia.

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concerned

Hiram, GA

#1 Mar 4, 2009
There are consequences in life. I am sure at 14 she might have stated that she consented, but the fact is you cant consent until you are an adult.Think of all the other choices that 14 year olds make and how their thought processes are not quite as an adult..
sdbcm

United States

#2 Mar 5, 2009
concerned wrote:
There are consequences in life. I am sure at 14 she might have stated that she consented, but the fact is you cant consent until you are an adult.Think of all the other choices that 14 year olds make and how their thought processes are not quite as an adult..
Regardless of whether the law says she was old enough or not....I know for a fact it was consentual, and this girl was very mature for her age. Not only in looks, but in attitude and manners. I'll not argue the point, as I personally know this girl. As a result of her relationship with Christopher, she gave birth to my 1st grandchild and second grandchild. If one wishes to call my granddaughters consequences then let it be known they were good ones.
Am I excusing my son's lack of judgement? Of course not. I'm not one of those mothers who thinks her children can do no wrong. Christopher paid his due and was scheduled to come off of the registry 2 weeks after the new "law" went into effect. Because he, and others like him have been lumped together with perverts, pedophiles, violent and repeaters, his life and that of his wife and sons has been horrific. His girls live with their mother, and that is a good thing for them, because if not, they would be suffering as their brothers do.
Christopher's father and I have all but exhausted our life's savings trying to keep a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs. At least the state of Georgia hasn't taken away their ability to receive food stamps and medicaid, because they damned sure took away my son's ability to provide for his family, and with the way the job situations are now in this god forsaken state, even if he's able to be removed from the list, economically nothing changes.
The bottom line where men AND women in Christopher's situation is this - NOT ALL "SEX OFFENDERS" ARE CREATED EQUAL. Knee jerk reactions by politicians has caused devistation that no one can understand unless they are living it!
A final note.....no one will EVER convince me that at LEAST one of those idiots up in Atlanta
never had sex as a teenager with someone the "law" says cannot consent.
concerned

Villa Rica, GA

#3 Mar 5, 2009
sdbcm wrote:
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Regardless of whether the law says she was old enough or not....I know for a fact it was consentual, and this girl was very mature for her age. Not only in looks, but in attitude and manners. I'll not argue the point, as I personally know this girl. As a result of her relationship with Christopher, she gave birth to my 1st grandchild and second grandchild. If one wishes to call my granddaughters consequences then let it be known they were good ones.
Am I excusing my son's lack of judgement? Of course not. I'm not one of those mothers who thinks her children can do no wrong. Christopher paid his due and was scheduled to come off of the registry 2 weeks after the new "law" went into effect. Because he, and others like him have been lumped together with perverts, pedophiles, violent and repeaters, his life and that of his wife and sons has been horrific. His girls live with their mother, and that is a good thing for them, because if not, they would be suffering as their brothers do.
Christopher's father and I have all but exhausted our life's savings trying to keep a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs. At least the state of Georgia hasn't taken away their ability to receive food stamps and medicaid, because they damned sure took away my son's ability to provide for his family, and with the way the job situations are now in this god forsaken state, even if he's able to be removed from the list, economically nothing changes.
The bottom line where men AND women in Christopher's situation is this - NOT ALL "SEX OFFENDERS" ARE CREATED EQUAL. Knee jerk reactions by politicians has caused devistation that no one can understand unless they are living it!
A final note.....no one will EVER convince me that at LEAST one of those idiots up in Atlanta
never had sex as a teenager with someone the "law" says cannot consent.
i wasnt calling your grandchildren consequences. I meant the fact that its hard to find a home away from children was the consequence. Maybe the girl was fine with it. I just know many girls that were coerced into sex at too young an age by an older boyfriend. I have strong feelings about this. At that age you cant buy a house or car alone, so you shouldnt be making life altering decisions about sex either. But i am no fool. Many are having sex as teens. probably most all. but that doesnt change that there is a difference in power in a younger female and older male. You know your situation and I am sorry that you have had to suffer. and i see that all sex offenders arent created equal. Why did he get charged in this case? If she was consentual? DId her parents pursue it ? It sounds confusing to be charged for nothing.
It is sad though that he suffers, but some prominent men in the community have walked around for years with no punsihment for offending against much younger children as a much older man.
sdbcm

Lawrenceville, GA

#4 Mar 5, 2009
Her brother pressed charges, not her parents, and because of her age, the D.A. in Douglas County pursued it... I won't get into Douglas County issues......

It's all just so sad. I can only hope the state corrects this great injustice. Not just for my son, but for all the men and women who are in the same situation.

I agree with you on the older men issues. Of course there are women who do the same thing, we just don't hear about it as often. These people deserve the harshest of punishments. I will be the first in line to do some serious damage to perverts if allowed to do so.
Polk citizen

Watseka, IL

#5 Mar 14, 2009
concerned wrote:
There are consequences in life. I am sure at 14 she might have stated that she consented, but the fact is you cant consent until you are an adult.Think of all the other choices that 14 year olds make and how their thought processes are not quite as an adult..
Former Polk County Sheriff's Office Maj. Mike Sullivan says the proximity-based employment and residential restrictions create a false sense of public safety. None of the 78 offenders he was tracking before he retired committed their crimes on victims they lived or worked near.
When did he retire?Look up Don Wheeler on (sex offenders) on
http://www.polk.gasheriff.net/
It was his grand daughter.
donuthole

United States

#6 Mar 16, 2009
so do they just hang out at the mall and pick a random kid? hardly unless the perv was exposing himself
quite a few kids have been molested by neighbors, family, teachers, etc. hardly confirms your source. I have to question how long he dealt with them.
concerned

United States

#7 Apr 10, 2009
Polk citizen wrote:
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Former Polk County Sheriff's Office Maj. Mike Sullivan says the proximity-based employment and residential restrictions create a false sense of public safety. None of the 78 offenders he was tracking before he retired committed their crimes on victims they lived or worked near.
When did he retire?Look up Don Wheeler on (sex offenders) on
http://www.polk.gasheriff.net/
It was his grand daughter.
This source is fine, but maybe the molestors didnt tell abotu the neighbors they offended against. On the other hand, I have been working in the mental health field for 10 years, and I would have to say, after hundreds of patients, that most of them were molested or raped by a neighbor, family friend, man across the street that they were babysitting for,or there babysitter etc. Proximity is a factor.
JohnnyzDad

Cedartown, GA

#8 May 30, 2009
As a parent I don't give a rat's ass if ANY sex offender is having trouble finding a place to live or work because, you know what? We regular people are having a hard time finding a safe place for our kids to live and attend school with out one of you low life monsters popping up. Quit preying on kids and guess what? No one will restrict where you can live or your ability to work. It is that f-ing simple. You made your choice, now deal with it. Personally, I think they should just castrate all sex offenders or put you before a firing squad-but it isn't up to me.
Nanny

Acworth, GA

#9 Jun 5, 2009
Some folks just don't get it, and never will....
sdbcm

United States

#10 Jul 21, 2009
Nanny wrote:
Some folks just don't get it, and never will....
You're right. They see the term "sex offender" and all they think about is little kids. Never mind that ADULTS are at risk from predators too. The whole point I was trying to make (and that others are missing) is that......NOT ALL "SO CALLED" SEX OFFENDERS ARE A DANGER TO KIDS OR THE PUBLIC. A one time "offense" such as what happened with my son is NOT a reason to stay on the offender list for life and be tracked. The families and children of non-violent, non-predatory, one time "offenders" are being made to suffer because of knee-jerk reactions. What's next? Coming after everyone, who as a teen had sex? Then you damned sure better come get me, or at least TRY!
chief

Rome, GA

#11 Jul 21, 2009
Nanny wrote:
Some folks just don't get it, and never will....
Who are you talking about?

I'll dig those sickos a hole in the ground and that'll give them a place to live. or not
sdbcm

United States

#12 Jul 21, 2009
chief wrote:
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Who are you talking about?
I'll dig those sickos a hole in the ground and that'll give them a place to live. or not
read my response to her.....
Lady U shouldnt breed

United States

#13 Feb 12, 2010
sdbcm wrote:
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You're right. They see the term "sex offender" and all they think about is little kids. Never mind that ADULTS are at risk from predators too. The whole point I was trying to make (and that others are missing) is that......NOT ALL "SO CALLED" SEX OFFENDERS ARE A DANGER TO KIDS OR THE PUBLIC...
You do understand WHY they began labeling sex offenders as such, don't you? Because people, like your sex offender son, once HAD the freedom to go on with their lives after their OFFENSE. They WERE allowed back in to society and treated as equals. Do you know what happened to change that? Sex offenders, like your son, re-offended and re-offended and then they began stalking normal regular innocent people-including kids. Megan's law was passed because too many children lost their lives and/or their innocence all because sex offenders, like YOUR SON, were allowed to integrate back into society and instead of taking their second chance at life and learning from their mistakes they chose to abuse the system and endanger all of us because they are sick in the fucking head. The truth is, the world has no use for sex offenders-it is literally the lowest low. While, as a parent, I get your feeling like your son deserves another chance, its a shame that you weren't able to be there for him when he was a child and fill any void that left him all screwed up in the head and subsequently landed his ass on the sex offenders list. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess, but just because you didn't do a better job raising him does not mean that we as a society have to make allowances for him or accept your excuses for him. No, maybe its not fair that his family members that didn't offend have to be affected by his actions-but that's his fault, not ours. The fact that you would take to a public forum to let us know how unfair he's being treated in your eyes almost makes me laugh-but its sad. What about the person he was charged in assaulting? Whether you agree that is was an assault is a moot point because some one some where clearly felt that an assault-not a 'boys will be boys' incident, but a clear assault-took place which means there was a VICTIM and I'm sorry but I care more about THEIR being able to move on with their lives than your pandering ass of a son. Wake up and stop being so self centered. It isn't about you or him-its about us feeling safe in our own homes. Atleast he just ended up on 'the list'...next time he sexually assaults someone his outcome may be far worse..for him atleast.
Joe Bob

United States

#14 Feb 12, 2010
Hard to believe, someone from California with morals!!

Lady U shouldnt breed
Bakersfield, CA
sdbcm

United States

#15 Feb 15, 2010
What the hell makes you think I wasn't there for him as a child? Where did you get THAT from? Our son was raised in a loving, caring, stable home. In fact, his father and I have been married for 33 years and are still going strong. Our son was given all the love two parents can give and then some. He had clothes on his back, food in his stomach, a roof over his head and was appropriately disciplined when needed. First and only marriage for either of us! DON'T YOU EVER DARE ACCUSE ME OF NOT BEING THERE FOR HIM! You do not have that right!

As for his "victim"....she became his WIFE and they had another child together. They were married for almost 8 years before they divorced. An amicable divorce I might add. They are STILL friends.

You don't know me...you don't know my son....you don't know the FACTS. I said it before and I'll say it again...not all sex offenders are "created" equal. And....I'll guarantee that, out of all the people who have participated in this discussion, at least ONE of you had consentual sex as a teen with your teen girl/boy friend...and THAT's what this was. Two teens in love.

The first discussions in this topic have disappeared. I don't know why. There should be another entire page. Regardless, I'm done with this. I'll not stick around and be accused of things that are not true.
the law

Rome, GA

#16 Feb 15, 2010
too bad he got caught up in something intended to put a stop to the crimes against children

Since: Oct 09

Location hidden

#17 Feb 16, 2010
I agree. It is unfortunate and sad that the state has not taken measures to correct the problem. There are many many guys and gals out there that are in this young man's situation.

Personally, I don't see anything changing because of folks who would rather lump all "offenders" into the same catagory.

sdbcm, I sympathize with you. Please try and block out the folks on here who choose to be ignorant of the facts. Let's just hope that they never have to experience what you and your family have gone through, for if they do, they will be turning to you for support. It could happen. All it would take is for their son or daughter to be convicted for doing exactly what your son did.

And you're right, there used to be another page to this subject. I wonder what happened to it?

caswell

Cedartown, GA

#18 Feb 16, 2010
they should make abortions retroactive for sex offenders
MELWATS

Suwanee, GA

#19 Feb 16, 2010
CHILD MOLESTATION IS A VERY MISLEADING TERM WHEN USED AS SOMETHING SOMEONE WAS CONVICTED OF, I HAVE WORKED IN A LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCY FOR THE PAST FIFTEEN YEARS AND HAVE SEEN TIME AND TIME AGAIN SOME GIRL OR GUY BE CHARGED WITH THIS FOR HAVING SEX WITH AN UNDERAGED MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, WE ALL KNOW THIS IS WRONG AND SHOULD BE CHANGED. PEOPLE NEED TO BAN TOGETHER AND HAVE THE TERMINOLOGY CHANGED, IF YOU WERE SIXTEEN AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND WAS 14 AND YOU HAD SEX, DOES THAT MAKE YOU A SEX OFFENDER? THINK ABOUT IT.
sdbcm

United States

#20 Feb 19, 2010
The way the law is written now...yes, MELWATS, the 16 y/o would be classified as a sex-offender.

The "powers that be" don't want to hear about it though. Hell...none of them even bothered to reply to inquiries sent by us and friends. Personally, I think they're afraid of having to eat crow....

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