Patchogue schools apologize to wandering boy's family

[Lawsuit]

grandmael wrote:

Actually it said "selective mutism" not autism. Selective mutism is when a child can speak but does not. It usually involves control issues. The child controls the adults in his life by deciding when he will or will not speak.
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Yes, I realized that and made my correction above.

[Gypsophilia]

Newsday,
Could you please remove the horrible picture of the kid with the fn** up mouth?

[Slappy White]

research b4 u type wrote:

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SM = Selective Mutism!

I'll let this one go because you are Canadian and everybody knows Canadians are retarded.

[Slappy White]

Seeing as how the kid lives in that crappy apartment complex in East Patchogue, I think the kid would have been better off if someone had kidnapped him.

Yeah, I said it.

[Me Hung Too Low]

Me Hung Too Low wrote:

Patchogue-Medford I have been to this school many times, I was a sub teacher. I never seen a school so bad, this school belongs in the BRONX - the kids are animals, the parents are White Trash. This school is located in the most depressing area of long Island. This is Mastic, Shirley, Medford, Ghetto Trailer Park Trash at it's best! Parents are all Section 8, Wic, wellfare, 80% of the kids get free lunches becuase the parents qualify for it because they are loosers in this area.

I say turn this school in to a rehab center for ghetto re-tart skells plunger moneys.

[Slappy White]

Gypsophilia wrote:

Newsday,
Could you please remove the horrible picture of the kid with the fn** up mouth?

As annoying as it is, it's much better than the harelip they usually have on the right side of the page. That thing freaks me out.

[parent of a child with SM]

Good money after bad wrote:

Daniel has been diagnosed with selective mutism, a learning disability in which children sometimes remain silent in social situations.
I wish ALL children had this disorder. The problem with most kids is they don't know when to shut their big mouths. Kind of like their parents on the cellphone.

I don't know what parent in their right mind would wish selective mutism on any child... Selective mutism is not a learning disability, it is an anxiety disorder that causes such great fear in a child that they freeze up and CANNOT physically talk, and in some severe cases , like my son, CANNOT communicate at all. There are people who certainly should not be voicing their opinions in public, mainly those who don't know what they are talking about, but it's certainly not innocent children....

[parent of a child with SM]

Slappy White wrote:

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I'll let this one go because you are Canadian and everybody knows Canadians are retarded.

and you are a shining example of the american population.... illiterate and uneducated... do your research before you make yourself look even more foolish than you already do...

[parent of a child with SM]

Lawsuit wrote:

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Yes, I realized that and made my correction above.

once again people , selective mutism is an anxiety issue, caused by fear, not a control issue as was stated , and corrected over 20 years ago.

[Billy D Williams]

an American wrote:

I can tell you what will happen at the next board meeting.... the supt. will say that this is a personnel matter.....well its not a personnel matter but rather a CRIMINAL MATTER and someone should be held accountable.... but the liberal Pat-Med school district will not offer any REALISTIC solution!!!!

That's what happens when you vote budgets down. They cut staff. This is the fault of the Patch-Medford voters.

[lennie]

an American wrote:

I can tell you what will happen at the next board meeting.... the supt. will say that this is a personnel matter.....well its not a personnel matter but rather a CRIMINAL MATTER and someone should be held accountable.... but the liberal Pat-Med school district will not offer any REALISTIC solution!!!!

Again ,you're confusing personal with personnel /staff

[Massapequa Man]

The problem is Patchogue is the ghetto, white trash. This is how parents out East take care of there kids. They teach them to work the wellfare system, Section 8 free house, wic, foodstamps. This area of LI is Ghetto White Trash Hell. Parents and teachers out east have no idea how to take care of themselves not to say the cannot take care of kids.

[Dr Freud]

they censored r e t a r d e d

[lennie]

an American wrote:

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No you schmuck its personnel not personal. Personnel refers to matters involving employees....

The Supt. says the problem is a personnel Staff issue not personal as in private .

[Fecal Matters]

Personally, I think the personnel problem is a personal matter. But hey, that's my personal take on it, don't take the personnel matter personally.

[Slappy White]

Fecal Matters wrote:

Personally, I think the personnel problem is a personal matter. But hey, that's my personal take on it, don't take the personnel matter personally.

The personalities of the personnel are (in my personal opinion) in question. However, how can one person judge the personnel without knowing the persons involved? Personally, the personal lives of the personnel are none of anybodys business. I am personally offended by some of the comments from the persons on this topix board. I take it very personally that you can sit here and criticize the personnel for their personal faults. Has not one person here made any mistakes?

[Disgusted in Illegalhaven]

lennie wrote:

<quoted text>I think you are confusing personal with personnel(staff involved)

No, I understand the difference. However, as a parent whose children go to the district, I want to know how he is handling this matter and what policy and procedures are being put in place to protect my children. If it happened at one school, I can guarentee it is happening in other schools. As a side note, I was in another school a few days later and you had to see how they acted when a child was spotted walking around the school un-escorted! Had it not been for this incident a few days earlier, that child might be in the same situation!

[Maur]

Slappy White wrote:

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The personalities of the personnel are (in my personal opinion) in question. However, how can one person judge the personnel without knowing the persons involved? Personally, the personal lives of the personnel are none of anybodys business. I am personally offended by some of the comments from the persons on this topix board. I take it very personally that you can sit here and criticize the personnel for their personal faults. Has not one person here made any mistakes?

You ought to write for The Seinfield comedy show

[Stevenson_Family _Friend]

We are all so grateful that Daniel is safe. He is a wonderful little boy and a delight to have around.

Quite frankly, I am shocked at how this school handled children going to their school on a day to day basis; with no one keeping watch at all the exits/entrances of the school and making sure all the children in the school are safe. I think that any parent deserves that right if they are a) paying real estate taxes, and b) entrusting the care of their children to the principal and faculty of their school.

Shame on the principal and the school district, for that matter, in the handling of this case. I just hope that they now have some sort of system in place to prevent something like this from happening to another child in this school. If they don't, then they better put something in place immediately before something happens to another child. It could have been ANY ONE OF THE CHILDREN who go to that school regardless of what others say on this bulletin. He's 7 years old for crying out loud!!! Not an independent adult, or a teenager who would be able to put two and two together when certain situations arise. 7 year olds are still experiencing things in their lives and have no way of knowing how to handle most situations out there.

And just to clarify something with all of you who say he has "autism"... He has Selective Mutism, which is, by the way, not any shape or form of autism. It is a condition where a child would have excessive shyness in social situations and is too afraid to speak to a stranger. Kind of like social anxiety.

My family and I are just glad that little Danny is home safe and sound.

[Tommy]

Stevenson_Family_Friend wrote:

We are all so grateful that Daniel is safe. He is a wonderful little boy and a delight to have around.
Quite frankly, I am shocked at how this school handled children going to their school on a day to day basis; with no one keeping watch at all the exits/entrances of the school and making sure all the children in the school are safe. I think that any parent deserves that right if they are a) paying real estate taxes, and b) entrusting the care of their children to the principal and faculty of their school.
Shame on the principal and the school district, for that matter, in the handling of this case. I just hope that they now have some sort of system in place to prevent something like this from happening to another child in this school. If they don't, then they better put something in place immediately before something happens to another child. It could have been ANY ONE OF THE CHILDREN who go to that school regardless of what others say on this bulletin. He's 7 years old for crying out loud!!! Not an independent adult, or a teenager who would be able to put two and two together when certain situations arise. 7 year olds are still experiencing things in their lives and have no way of knowing how to handle most situations out there.
And just to clarify something with all of you who say he has "autism"... He has Selective Mutism, which is, by the way, not any shape or form of autism. It is a condition where a child would have excessive shyness in social situations and is too afraid to speak to a stranger. Kind of like social anxiety.
My family and I are just glad that little Danny is home safe and sound.

Why didnt your friend teach her son if there are no one in the classroom... Go back to the principals office. He was 7. Its May... He should know where the principals office is by now. Its not like he just started his first week there. Your blaming the school is unjust and foolish because you have to teach children responsibility as early as they can talk! My 3 year old nephew knows not to go outside the gate of his busy street without holding someones hand.