a young life lost

There are 37 comments on the Lowell Sun story from Oct 29, 2010, titled a young life lost. In it, Lowell Sun reports that:

Compassionate glances, long hugs and cherished memories were shared last night on Ayer High School's football field as about 300 students gathered to remember a friend who took her own life.

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Money

Northborough, MA

#1 Oct 29, 2010
Sad to hear about someone so young taking their own life. My prays go out to the family.
Chelmsford

Chelmsford, MA

#2 Oct 29, 2010
My deepest condolences to the family of this gir. There is nothing worse than loosing a child. May she rest in peace. God Speed........
ringringletitfri cknring

United States

#3 Oct 29, 2010
"They knew my son was on mental-health medications, but they still had to treat us like dirt," Walter Perkins said. "It was in his third year and he had no way to find another school. It was nuts, but it is politically correct. They did the politically correct thing by treating him as a Nazi war criminal."

Perkins said the night his son killed himself, he called Groton School Headmaster Richard Commons and said to him, "You killed my son."

Read more: http://www.lowellsun.com/ci_16466677#ixzz13kh...

THAT suicide bothers me, ALOT.

Does this Dad acknowledge his remarks to the boy about ruining his future by hanging out with those boys and being involved in the bullying incident that got him kicked out of the Groton school.

A fragile youth in a very serious situation. The boy argued that he was not a bully and wrongly accused...did he get ANY support at home for that or was all the focus on getting him into another school...
TheMedia

Boxford, MA

#4 Oct 29, 2010
And the media wonder why we hate them. The Groton School incident was totally unrelated to this, yet gets plenty of attention in the same article as this tragedy. There is no evidence of any bullying, yet that's the hot button issue in the media today, so they have to try and link the Ayer HS incident and the Groton School incident, and also link bullying to the Ayer HS incident despite no evidence. How about covering the facts of the individual story and link it to bullying when and if any evidence of that arises? Because that would be real, honest journalism, not lazy, easy sensationalism. Shame on the Lowell Sun and these writers.
pepperell resident

Hollis, NH

#5 Oct 29, 2010
This is a tragedy, my heart goes out too her family. So very sad.
greg

Dracut, MA

#6 Oct 29, 2010
the media and the schools are over reacting to supposely bullying with out any facts or prove of dangerous bullying being anybody.they are also grossly over reacting to threats by students or disregaurding students mantal health.
bad karma

East Hampton, CT

#7 Oct 29, 2010
One gathers from these two latest teen suicides that the atmosphere in our society, and in particular our schools, is so toxic some children have decided life is not worth living.

A few years ago there were media reports that suggested our society had taken a harsher turn; a sea change of ill-will appeared in our institutions, government, and every day life. Each adult bears some responsibility in their own little sphere of influence for generating negative karma.
hot head

Milton, MA

#8 Oct 29, 2010
God Bless that girl and her family and friends. RIP
Kris

Somerville, MA

#9 Oct 29, 2010
Tell you children you love them everyday. What could have been so bad that she thought she had no one to turn to? My heart goes out to her Family and friends. Doesn't make sense....:(
comment

Essex Junction, VT

#10 Oct 29, 2010
People can complain about me invading my children's privacy but parents have to pay attention.

Read their Facebook (and whatever social site they post on). Read their text messages. Read what their Facebook friends write. Encourage them even to blog or use a diary. Seriously - if your kid even might be upset, try to overhear the cell phone call they make to their friend. You could save their life. If they don't want to talk to you, you have to find ways to hear what they are afraid to say.

I am not blaming the parents in this girls case - I can't imagine being blindsided by a suicide by child who apparently had so much going for her.

I'm just suggesting the rest of you parents out there - be a parent first, then a friend. Snoop, sneak - do whatever you have to do to make sure your child is ok.
snoop n sneak

East Hampton, CT

#11 Oct 29, 2010
That's what it's coming down to- snooping and sneaking on your children. That way children learn their parents have absolutely no integrity. A home should be a prison too.
Aunt

Hudson, NH

#13 Oct 29, 2010
comment wrote:
People can complain about me invading my children's privacy but parents have to pay attention.
Read their Facebook (and whatever social site they post on). Read their text messages. Read what their Facebook friends write. Encourage them even to blog or use a diary. Seriously - if your kid even might be upset, try to overhear the cell phone call they make to their friend. You could save their life. If they don't want to talk to you, you have to find ways to hear what they are afraid to say.
I am not blaming the parents in this girls case - I can't imagine being blindsided by a suicide by child who apparently had so much going for her.
I'm just suggesting the rest of you parents out there - be a parent first, then a friend. Snoop, sneak - do whatever you have to do to make sure your child is ok.
Couldn't agree more-parents don't do this anymore....
RWS

Waterloo, Canada

#14 Oct 29, 2010
I don't agree with snooping at all. Snooping can also lead to your child taking your life. If someone wants to committ suicide, they'll make it happen regardless. Bully is not to blame in the AHS situation, I attend the school.
Fed up

Framingham, MA

#15 Oct 29, 2010
God be with that family I cant imagine the pain they are in. What a tragedy.
ayer_res

Brewster, MA

#16 Oct 29, 2010
RWS wrote:
I don't agree with snooping at all. Snooping can also lead to your child taking your life. If someone wants to committ suicide, they'll make it happen regardless. Bully is not to blame in the AHS situation, I attend the school.
Your very right. This girl was loved and cherished and was so beautiful. Everyone loves her.
Anonymous

Shrewsbury, MA

#17 Oct 29, 2010
This is so upsetting. I once new this girl, i am from ayer,MA. She was my friend. I am in shock. That's all i can say.
bullying

Wellesley, MA

#18 Oct 29, 2010
who is saying theres no evidence of bullying.. r u crazy... she wrote in one of her goodbye notes BULLYING.. how clear does this have to be... mr.themedia and greg egghead... you must be one of those coverup anything in ayer dudes
bullying

Wellesley, MA

#19 Oct 29, 2010
god bless the lowell sun for exposing the truth about bullying
Whatever

Framingham, MA

#20 Oct 29, 2010
Suicide is the easy way out but I blame the state and school systems for not pushing the new anti-bullying law faster. Now another life is lost because the state is to worried about elections on 11/2/10.
parent

Lowell, MA

#21 Oct 29, 2010
You better believe I read my kids facebooks and some of their text messages. UHM I pay the bills, so technically they are all my accounts, accessed by the phones, ipods and computers I purchased.

Only thing is that my kids know I go on their accounts. No snooping needed. If they want a facebook, they know that I will know the password and go on whenever I want.

You wouldn't believe the trashy and threatening behavior. I have actually contacted other parents' because I was concerned with what other children were posting on their page.

I look out for my kids, their friends,and my friend's kids. Call me over protective???No my kids do plenty that I don't know about, however if they do something wrong and I find out about it they will have consequences.

Too many parents turn a blind eye. What they don't know can't hurt them.

I have no idea what happened in this case. I certainly hope it wasn't bullying and that the school wasn't aware of it. I truly wish these kids could be made aware that there are other ways out, and the pain it leaves behind for their families. Along with bullying presentations, we should be educating kids on the results of suicide. It gets glammed up in the media and the kids don't get to see the reality of broken families that never recover.

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