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Single Man

Lexington, KY

#1 Dec 31, 2012
Coming out of a breakup. In some ways it's the worst because she was a good girl. However, she had an angry streak and a drinking problem. That's what makes it hard. Then again I know I've got to go. Too many nights of drama and I don't do drama well.

What are some breakup thoughts, breakup stories? I mainly look at it as a good thing but it's still rough.
well

Mount Washington, KY

#2 Dec 31, 2012
Single Man wrote:
Coming out of a breakup. In some ways it's the worst because she was a good girl. However, she had an angry streak and a drinking problem. That's what makes it hard. Then again I know I've got to go. Too many nights of drama and I don't do drama well.

What are some breakup thoughts, breakup stories? I mainly look at it as a good thing but it's still rough.
Breakups are hard either way you look at it, I split up with my ex in 2009, but after two years of not talking at all. We have become good friends. Try being just friends, if you can
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#3 Dec 31, 2012
well wrote:
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Breakups are hard either way you look at it, I split up with my ex in 2009, but after two years of not talking at all. We have become good friends. Try being just friends, if you can
I would eventually like to do that, but you know how it is when you first break up. I dn't want to leave myself open to get weak to her again, because if she didn't change by now she's not going to. Drinkers never quit drinking for you, they have to do it for themselves.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#4 Dec 31, 2012
You broke up with your girlfriend because she drinks. Thatís stupid, if she is over 21 she has the right to drink as much as she wants and if youíre not the one buying it you shouldnít have anything to say about it. If you cared about her you would accept her flaws, and be beside her in her choices. As for your girlfriend is into too much drama and you donít do drama well. THATíS FUNNIER THAN HER DRINKING PROBLEM. Personally you donít deserve your girlfriend, you deserve to be alone. I mean really, what kind of drama would be such a big deal that you had to break up with her, and more than likely break her heart. I pray she finds someone and when you see that you was just stupid in making the choice to break up with her it will be too late and she will have moved on.
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#5 Dec 31, 2012
are you for real wrote:
You broke up with your girlfriend because she drinks. Thatís stupid, if she is over 21 she has the right to drink as much as she wants and if youíre not the one buying it you shouldnít have anything to say about it. If you cared about her you would accept her flaws, and be beside her in her choices. As for your girlfriend is into too much drama and you donít do drama well. THATíS FUNNIER THAN HER DRINKING PROBLEM. Personally you donít deserve your girlfriend, you deserve to be alone. I mean really, what kind of drama would be such a big deal that you had to break up with her, and more than likely break her heart. I pray she finds someone and when you see that you was just stupid in making the choice to break up with her it will be too late and she will have moved on.
Apparently I didn't make the point well enough... she becomes a completely different person. The sweet girl I love disappears and a demon takes her place. It has had a major negative impact on her life, and has done the same to mine. We're not talking a couple of beers here. She has admitted that she has a problem but won't do anything about it.

That being said, I won't be alone when the time is right for me to date again. Have to take some time off and sort myself out first because she has a good heart and had the potential to be the love of my life, and it's not like I'm just po'd and leaving. It's one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#6 Dec 31, 2012
If it was the hardest decision you have ever had to make you would be a man and stick by the person you say you care about. You donít care about her or you would be willing to stand by her while she apparently needs you the most. She donít need help to stop drinking, if she wants to stop she will. Maybe if you told her how you feel about it and that you would like her to slow down or only drink occasionally maybe she would love you enough to make that choice. And you still didnít clarify about the drama, what kind of drama could be so bad.
Your right doubtful you will be alone for long, because I am sure your like every other man out there and had someone to replace her before you broke up with her.
Scarecrow

Louisville, KY

#7 Dec 31, 2012
There is an old saying, a drunk person's words are the sober person's thoughts. She probably drinks just to pis* you off.

Go down to the liquor store and get enough booz to ease your pain. Repeat if you start thinking about her again.

In relationships gone bad it is better to sever the limb and cauterize the wound. Move on find another girl, there are plenty of them out there..
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#8 Dec 31, 2012
are you for real wrote:
If it was the hardest decision you have ever had to make you would be a man and stick by the person you say you care about. You donít care about her or you would be willing to stand by her while she apparently needs you the most. She donít need help to stop drinking, if she wants to stop she will. Maybe if you told her how you feel about it and that you would like her to slow down or only drink occasionally maybe she would love you enough to make that choice. And you still didnít clarify about the drama, what kind of drama could be so bad.
Your right doubtful you will be alone for long, because I am sure your like every other man out there and had someone to replace her before you broke up with her.
Trust me, we've been through all of that. She's "quit" 10 times or more. If anything I've been weak for not putting my foot down and leaving for good a long time ago.

I get more of a feeling that somebody broke your heart and you're still mad at him. I didn't have replacements set up, none of it. She started drinking again, and I left.

Plus some alcoholics need help quitting. It's not easy for some people, and I've watched some drink themselves into the ground.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#9 Dec 31, 2012
Scarecrow, really you just prove my point. Men our dogs if he cared about the girl at all he would stand by her even if he doesnít like that she drinks.
To single man

United States

#10 Dec 31, 2012
Single Man wrote:
Coming out of a breakup. In some ways it's the worst because she was a good girl. However, she had an angry streak and a drinking problem. That's what makes it hard. Then again I know I've got to go. Too many nights of drama and I don't do drama well.
What are some breakup thoughts, breakup stories? I mainly look at it as a good thing but it's still rough.
okay are you for real is crazy!!! Dnt listen to them. Judging by your post you seem like you are educated, as in you spelled all of your words correctly! That being said, you sound to me like you made the right choice. I'm assuming you all have no children together...correct me if I am wrong! Why would you stick in a relationship with an alcoholic who refuses to stop!!! That is jst crazy! Get out and don't look back! I'm sure someone would love to have you if the one who did doesn't care enough to stop! Sometimes you can't always let your heart lead the way, in this case sounds like your head told you it was time for a change. People who don't want to change will notn and you can't force them to! Would you want the mother of your child to be some screaming alcoholic demon when not passed out cold? Would you feel comfortable leaving for work and her being alone with that child all day? Run, run far away and don't look back. With all of the losers in Shep, I'm sure there is a nice lady looking for a guy like you maybe not now but one day! Good luck to you!
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#11 Dec 31, 2012
To single man wrote:
<quoted text> okay are you for real is crazy!!! Dnt listen to them. Judging by your post you seem like you are educated, as in you spelled all of your words correctly! That being said, you sound to me like you made the right choice. I'm assuming you all have no children together...correct me if I am wrong! Why would you stick in a relationship with an alcoholic who refuses to stop!!! That is jst crazy! Get out and don't look back! I'm sure someone would love to have you if the one who did doesn't care enough to stop! Sometimes you can't always let your heart lead the way, in this case sounds like your head told you it was time for a change. People who don't want to change will notn and you can't force them to! Would you want the mother of your child to be some screaming alcoholic demon when not passed out cold? Would you feel comfortable leaving for work and her being alone with that child all day? Run, run far away and don't look back. With all of the losers in Shep, I'm sure there is a nice lady looking for a guy like you maybe not now but one day! Good luck to you!
I may be crazy, I just feel that if he loved or cared about his girlfriend he would stand by her in a time of need, not call it quits because he donít like her drinking. As you say he must be educated because he spelled all of his words correctly, I guess itís a safe to say that you are uneducated in the fact Dnt is not a word, itís donít and jst isnít a word either itís just, and I am assuming that notn was meant to be notÖ before you make crakes at other peoples educational level maybe you should make sure that you can spell basic words like just, donít, and not.
I am assuming they donít have children, but if he says this is the hardest decision he has had to make then maybe it was the wrong decision, maybe he should try to be there for her and help her make the right choice.
It makes me laugh when I see people on this site post that people in Shepherdsville are losers, but there on a topixs about Shepherdsville. Our lovely town may have people who like to cause drama, be drug addicts, or alcoholics and some of them maybe terrible parents. But thatís not the majority thatís the minority. There are a lot of hardworking, law obeying citizens, and great parents in my community. There is no other place I would rather live. If you hate it so much move across the county line, but I am sure that they have the same issues and many more issues.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#12 Dec 31, 2012
Single Man wrote:
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Trust me, we've been through all of that. She's "quit" 10 times or more. If anything I've been weak for not putting my foot down and leaving for good a long time ago.
I get more of a feeling that somebody broke your heart and you're still mad at him. I didn't have replacements set up, none of it. She started drinking again, and I left.
Plus some alcoholics need help quitting. It's not easy for some people, and I've watched some drink themselves into the ground.
Maybe if you cared about her you would try to find the reason behind why she drinks so much. If you cared about her at all leaving wouldnít be an option. I am sure at some point everyone women has been hurt by a man and yes part of everyone women will always be mad or angry at the man who broke her heart, however I am not the one on topix posting my business for other people to put their thoughts in on it. So letís not talk about me.
If you cared about your girlfriend, you would help her get to the reason behind her drinking not just leave her in a time of need. And alcoholics need help learning how to deal with issues, the issue that their trying to avoid by drinking, they donít need help learning how to stop drinking. That concept is easy, stop drinking! If you love your girlfriend, try to get her to go to an AA meeting, or try to talk to her personally about why she drinks. Donít just walk out on her.
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#13 Dec 31, 2012
are you for real wrote:
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Maybe if you cared about her you would try to find the reason behind why she drinks so much. If you cared about her at all leaving wouldnít be an option. I am sure at some point everyone women has been hurt by a man and yes part of everyone women will always be mad or angry at the man who broke her heart, however I am not the one on topix posting my business for other people to put their thoughts in on it. So letís not talk about me.
If you cared about your girlfriend, you would help her get to the reason behind her drinking not just leave her in a time of need. And alcoholics need help learning how to deal with issues, the issue that their trying to avoid by drinking, they donít need help learning how to stop drinking. That concept is easy, stop drinking! If you love your girlfriend, try to get her to go to an AA meeting, or try to talk to her personally about why she drinks. Donít just walk out on her.
I have. I've sat down and read articles on addiction and recovery, I've taken her to AA, I've done a lot of things. I shared with her the story of watching my favorite uncle drink himself to death. I've tried to help her over and over.

And the drama... it's not just regular drama, there has been some for-real sh1t happen. Danger to myself, danger to herself. I have my closure as far as that part goes.

I guess I'm trying to remind myself that many people have it much worse, so I don't get to feeling sorry about myself.
Scarecrow

Louisville, KY

#14 Dec 31, 2012
are you for real wrote:
Scarecrow, really you just prove my point. Men our dogs if he cared about the girl at all he would stand by her even if he doesnít like that she drinks.
Go back and reread my comment. The girl is probably trying to dump his a**. There could be a thousand reasons for her behavior but one thing is for sure, it is not going to get any better.

Can it get worse ???? Hel* yes. What if she turns up pragnet ?????
I know a guy that paid child support for 15 years, then found out he was not the father....... I thought the kid looked like someone else but didn't say anything......

BETTER MOVE ON NOW, It will only get worse......
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#15 Dec 31, 2012
Scarecrow wrote:
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Go back and reread my comment. The girl is probably trying to dump his a**. There could be a thousand reasons for her behavior but one thing is for sure, it is not going to get any better.
Can it get worse ???? Hel* yes. What if she turns up pragnet ?????
I know a guy that paid child support for 15 years, then found out he was not the father....... I thought the kid looked like someone else but didn't say anything......
BETTER MOVE ON NOW, It will only get worse......
You donít know if it will get better or worse, you might not even know the person. People change! If he is having sex with someone then thatís a chance he is taking on them getting pregnant. Your right some people cheat on their partner and donít tell them until years later. But that has nothing to do with this guy saying he cares about someone but is leaving her because she drinks too much. His girlfriend drinking is a stupid reason to leave her, if she was cheating on him that would be something different. And I donít get how you come up with that she might be trying to dump him, he is the one who broke up with her because he is childish and canít deal with the issues at hand between his self and girlfriend so he broke it off with her then got on topix to announce it to the world.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#16 Dec 31, 2012
What the hell is wrong with her drinking? If she is over the age of 21 it is legal for her to drink, and I highly doubt that her life is in danger from drinking. People seem to make things bigger than what they really are. You know what you properly done her a big favor by leaving her, she will find someone better. If you canít stand by her then you must not have ever cared to start with.
Your answering about the drama isnít an answer at all. If she is a danger to herself or you besides the drinking then you should seek help for her, not leave her. You really are a piece of shit, if you left her knowing that she needs you. If she is a danger to herself, and you left her then if she does something stupid then you should remember you just left her and didnít help her.
I donít even get why you posted this on topix. Obviously you donít give a fuck about her or you wouldnít have left her, so why is it your on here talking about itÖ what was you seeking, someone to tell you that you did the right thing leaving your girlfriend because there was a little thing about her you didnít understand? Well people like Scarecrow will tell you all day that you did the wrong thing, but the truth is youíre a piece of shit for living someone you say you care about while they needed you!
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#17 Dec 31, 2012
Like I said... she has put me and herself in danger several times and I can't deal with it.

No time for you two, who don't even know each other, to hijack the thread with your own personal assaults.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#18 Dec 31, 2012
Single Man wrote:
Like I said... she has put me and herself in danger several times and I can't deal with it.
No time for you two, who don't even know each other, to hijack the thread with your own personal assaults.
If she put herself and you in danger several times that was your stupidity for letting her do so. Youíre not even saying how she put you both in danger. I may not know her, however if what youíre saying is real and about someone in Shepherdsville, doubtful you know 100% for sure I donít know her. I didnít hijack your thread; however I stated my opinion if you ever cared about the person you would have never left her over something so little. If you didnít want anyoneís opinion on the issue you shouldnít have posted it on a public website.
Single Man

Lexington, KY

#19 Dec 31, 2012
are you for real wrote:
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If she put herself and you in danger several times that was your stupidity for letting her do so. Youíre not even saying how she put you both in danger. I may not know her, however if what youíre saying is real and about someone in Shepherdsville, doubtful you know 100% for sure I donít know her. I didnít hijack your thread; however I stated my opinion if you ever cared about the person you would have never left her over something so little. If you didnít want anyoneís opinion on the issue you shouldnít have posted it on a public website.
Well as somebody said, you have to love yourself before you can love somebody else. I won't go into the details, but she has endangered her safety and mine and if I love myself, I'm not going to lose my life by an accident I could have prevented.
are you for real

Erlanger, KY

#20 Dec 31, 2012
What the hell was the purpose of this thread to start with? And you donít have to leave her for drinking, if that is when she makes her poor judgments then donít be around her when she drinks.

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