heart still broken

United States

#1 Dec 19, 2012
My heart is broken. What can I do to get past this? I loved this person so much and he always treated me so badly. I know after all he has done to me, we will never be back together. I know he's a bad person and that he is bad for me. Even though I know all that, I still miss him sometimes. How long does it take a heart to heal? And why do I still love someone who was so awful to me? I know it sounds crazy, because I left him. But he left me no choice and it breaks my heart to know that I can never allow myself to go back. I just want to move on, more than anything I want to feel whole again. Please, any advice on this matter may help. Don't be mean to me, my heart can't take it! Lol

Louisville, KY

#2 Dec 19, 2012
what did he do???

United States

#3 Dec 19, 2012
Time heals all. Don't go back with him people don't change that much very quickly. Family and friends are the ones to turn to. Maybe something new and different to get your mind off him. I don't know you but you might want to find a church group. Many have singles groups. Just don't be depressed life is to short to worry about people like this. I hope some of this will help you.

Warrenville, IL

#4 Dec 20, 2012
Take your time and decide what you want out of life and the kind of man you want to have in your life, nothing heals a broken heart until you meet that person that makes your heart whole again, I am speaking from my own experiences so it may not be the same for everybody, but when I left my wife I thought I would never find Love again, I was depressed and heart broken and everybody tells you that you will meet somebody and everything will be allright, but that doesn't help because you think you never be happy again and unless you have been through it you can't know the sadness that comes with a lost love. I have since met a wonderful lady and we were married last year, and now I have a woman who I love with all my heart who I would have never met if I didn't make that choice to leave, I was married 20yrs and my wife decided she wanted to mess around and still be married so I left, I am not putting the blame on her I just didn't want to live like that, so all the heartache and wondering what I did wrong to deserve to be treated like that passed when I met the lady I married and I have never been happier and I God every night for bringing us together. So after a long winded story I guess I am saying don't give up on Love and the thing that fixes a broken heart is meeting that special person. This is the same time of the year we broke up and I know its tough its hard anytime but around the holidays it is harder than ever, but hang in there and you will find that special person, I wish nothing but the best for you and hope your dreams come true.
me in shep

Elizabethtown, KY

#5 Dec 20, 2012
Join the crowd
me in shep

Elizabethtown, KY

#6 Dec 20, 2012
We are all lonely

Sonora, KY

#7 Dec 20, 2012
I'm not lonely, but pain woke me up.
There will always be pain in life, sadly.
My advice, quit thinking of how it
” could have/should have been” think about how it really was.
There is a reason you left, correct? THAT is what you need to remember and that you love yourself more than to allow another to treat you any less than you deserve, or desire!
You will get over it and find another, but happiness comes from within FIRST. You have to realize that wasn't your path in life and go on. After time has gone by people tend to forget their anger and just ”miss” a person. You've got to occupy your mind with other things. A really good place to lose yourself in is the Bible. His love is ALWAYS readily available. If you're a believer?
Good luck, I am sorry you feel so empty but Jesus can permanently fill that void, and He will never treat you badly, if you listen, He will lead you to that special someone He has in mind for you, maybe He's waiting for you to learn to love yourself more first..? Even if you're not a believer, I'd say you have to love yourself first and learn to be happy alone, to get to know your true self, not what we tend to mold ourselves into to please others, as some do.
I do know that in most cases, true love is found when you least expect it so don't ever ever give up!
heart still broken

United States

#8 Dec 20, 2012
Thank you so much to everyone who has responded. For those who asked, I do believe in God. Just a few months ago, I committed my life to God and was saved. I pray everyday and night for God to take away this pain and heal my heart.
For those who asked what the guy did to make me leave, its a long story, but the short version is he treated me badly everyday and I caught him cheating twice and took him back. He was always so convincing and of course he knew just what to say to me. The final straw was when he came home drunk one night and beat me up so badly I had to take a trip to the er. Like I said, I know I can never go back to him, and I know what's been done can never be undone, but there's still this pain in my heart that I have for losing someone I loved so much. How can you be so good to someone and love them so dearly and they still do any\everything they can to treat you like you don't matter? Its just been really hard for me to get over. I know I have to move on.

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