soldier_missed

Since: Jan 06

Rockford, MI

#1 Jan 1, 2006
It's hard knowing that we were just begining to talk again. And to recieve another letter right after I found out he had passed away was especially difficult. The last words I read from this letter made things even harder. "I love you. I always have and I always will. No one knows me the way you do, and no one ever will, not even Karla. Please write back. I need to hear from you. Be careful, I know I will."
I will always love him. I truly trust that I will be with him again someday.

Emily
Sarah

United States

#2 Jan 29, 2006
THis is Karla's best friend sarah...and if he really wrote that to you, you'd better be able to prove it cause that is a pretty sketchy thing to write about someone else's fiance. watch your mouth
Sara

Palatine, IL

#3 Jan 29, 2006
Dear Emily, I understand that we all go through different forms of grieving when we lose someone we know/love. However, I didn't know that lying was a form of greif, it is simply a last ditch effort to get attention. I think it's disgusting that you would make such an attempt! I hope that you realize what you are really doing by posting such blatant lies.
I will not stand by as you try to tarnish the reputation of a wonderful man, friend, American Hero, and son. Although Dane is gone, his family, his fiance and his friends are still here. They are the ones who know the truth.
As someone who witnessed Dane and Karlas relationship with their own eyes, I can tell you about the love that radiated between the two of them. It was absolutely amazing to see...
I would say that I pitty you, however, that was exactly what you were looking for. Therefore, I hope that you will see what you have done and know how wrong you are in telling such lies.
Sara
soldier_missed wrote:
It's hard knowing that we were just begining to talk again. And to recieve another letter right after I found out he had passed away was especially difficult. The last words I read from this letter made things even harder. "I love you. I always have and I always will. No one knows me the way you do, and no one ever will, not even Karla. Please write back. I need to hear from you. Be careful, I know I will."
I will always love him. I truly trust that I will be with him again someday.

Emily
Theo the cousin

Peoria, AZ

#4 Jan 29, 2006
FUBAR. Hello!
Karla

Grand Rapids, MI

#5 Jan 29, 2006
Emily~
The hardest part of reading this disgusting post is not because I wonder whether or not it's true...i have no doubt that you're lying about what dane wrote to you (or didn't write to you as the case may be)...but the hardest part is knowing that you are truly doing this to be selfish, and not thinking about consequences of your immature actions. Any person reading this who knew Dane,like his family, his best friends, and me, his fiance, knows what kind of love we shared. You know it too Emily, which is why you unfortunately feel the need to so recklessly post something that is obviously only an attempt to make yourself feel better. We all know that you were in his past emily, but you were not his future. If you can't let go of that, then that's your problem. But do NOT take my relationship with Dane into your issues. You not only disrespect him by making such callous and desperate remarks for your own vanity, but you disrespect his family and me, and the grief that we're trying to work through. Like sara said, i don't pity you...because that's more than you deserve right now. However, an apology to not only me, but also his family, would probably do wonders for whatever relationship you have left with those of us that are his real family. If you're going to put comments such as these out for anyone to see, as my dear friend sarah said...please be ready to prove it. I'd be willing to share any of the dozens of handwritten letters I have from dane, or even some of the over 200 emails i have from him...maybe that will make you feel better. Or we could get together for lunch at the house we bought together for after our wedding...i'll show you my diamond too if you'd like, i don't think i got around to that at the funeral as you were crying on my shoulder.
Bradley

United States

#6 Jan 30, 2006
First off, I can't believe I just read what was Dane's last words to Emily, so that she thinks that Dane sent it to her. Some of my cousins told me about this and I had to see it to believe it. Such a fake, that ending to the letter. Especially the line, "not even Karla". That line gave it all away for me. To try and ruin the image of my wonderful, awesome cousin, someone I love, well that is really disgusting to make a move like that. For Dane to buy her a house, a ring, and whatever else he bought her and then to confess true love to someone else? Well, that's just not possible. If I'm wrong, then as everybody else said, prove it. Other wise shut up and let us remember how great he was other than to have false images of Dane running around our heads. Let we, his family and his friends, and Karla to not be ambushed with your lies... please.
Emily Vander Geld

Allendale, MI

#7 Dec 11, 2006
Karla~
I want to apologize, if anyone is even still reading this, for the comments I supposedly made. I honestly did not say the terrible things before. I understand that someone said they were me. I am not a petty person and know how much Dane loved Karla. I have proof of that in the last letter he wrote me. I founf this topic page from a friend in college who was looking up a friend that passed away as well. I am embarrassed to know that people would think that I wrote such horrid things. I love Karla, although I barely know her, and loved the fact that she made Dane happy. I hope you forgive me Karla for the harsh things said under my name. I need no apology from you for the things you said in retaliation because I would have said the same things. I hope that you and I can one day be great friends. If Dane loved you so much, I would love to share apart of your life. Please email or call me. My email for future reference for you is emily.s.vandergeld@wmich.edu. I again hope you believe that I would have never said such horrible things.

Emily
Danes_Friend

Lowell, MI

#8 Jun 8, 2007
I was with Dane in Iraq. If he had feelings toward another girl, and felt close to her in a way that was different than he felt for his fiance, then that is just the way it is. He is dead, and we all have to move on and remember him. He was human. If he did write that to you, then he meant it. He didn't say "I want to marry you", or "I'm leaving her for you", if he just stated you and he were close, then don't deny that because Dane wouldn't.:) Hooah!:) I miss you, Dane.
Emily

Walled Lake, MI

#9 Jul 30, 2007
Danes_Friend wrote:
I was with Dane in Iraq. If he had feelings toward another girl, and felt close to her in a way that was different than he felt for his fiance, then that is just the way it is. He is dead, and we all have to move on and remember him. He was human. If he did write that to you, then he meant it. He didn't say "I want to marry you", or "I'm leaving her for you", if he just stated you and he were close, then don't deny that because Dane wouldn't.:) Hooah!:) I miss you, Dane.
I am curious to talk to you.....i mean you may not want to talk to me but i really would like to ask you something that is very personal....my email address is emily.s.vandergeld@wmich.edu.. ..you can contact me there....thank you so much

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