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Herrin, IL

#1 Apr 1, 2013
How do you tell someone that the man she is in love with but shes not dating, is banging someone else? He won't tell her :(
Morgan Lily

West Frankfort, IL

#2 Apr 2, 2013
"He's just not that into you."
be a good friend

Johnston City, IL

#3 Apr 2, 2013
Probably, you wont have to tell her. If she is in love with him, she wont listen to you anyway and she wont believe it. Oddly enough, women like her will eventually grow tired of it, and see that he is not ALL that and a bag of apples. He then will pursue her only to find her much happier without any thoughts of him.
Blonde

Yates Center, KS

#4 Apr 2, 2013
Loyal women go through more bullshit than anyone else I swear.
Tell her, if she don't believe you it may still set the wheels in motion. Does he know she loves him?
jesters mom

Stockton, MO

#5 Apr 2, 2013
She probably already knows and is playing the field herself. Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha
1hunos

Marion, IL

#6 Apr 3, 2013
I'm sure that she knows he is seeing someone else. Women are acutely aware of that sort of thing. Tell her to stay busy, get plenty of exercise, pray for the strength to get through a very painful situation (especially if she is unable to talk about it with anyone), and above all else DO NOT "play the field". Substituting one for another doesn't make getting over someone, that you've cared for deeply, any easier. And by all means, tell her to be patient with herself. This a process, it will take her lots of time to work through this.*Crying, binge eating, throwing fits, cussing, and missing him terribly are allowed, but only on weekends*:)
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Johnston City, IL

#7 Apr 3, 2013
1hunos wrote:
I'm sure that she knows he is seeing someone else. Women are acutely aware of that sort of thing. Tell her to stay busy, get plenty of exercise, pray for the strength to get through a very painful situation (especially if she is unable to talk about it with anyone), and above all else DO NOT "play the field". Substituting one for another doesn't make getting over someone, that you've cared for deeply, any easier. And by all means, tell her to be patient with herself. This a process, it will take her lots of time to work through this.*Crying, binge eating, throwing fits, cussing, and missing him terribly are allowed, but only on weekends*:)
Of course he knows! It strokes his ego because she is a pretty lady and a good girl. He should leave her alone, Who freaking does that, I mean really. This is good advise, since she would never admit to anyone that she is head over heels in love with him. Personally, I do the binge eating part myself secretly, but I am a girl that would never let NO MAN do that shit to me. The first sign of a player and he is GONE in my book. Go to Sonic, have me a big o burger and some tater tots and he's history :). Why more woman dont stand up for themselves is beyond me.
1hunos

Marion, IL

#8 Apr 3, 2013
It's been my experience that it's hard to make a woman see something that she doesn't WANT to see. I'm sure his behavior has been like this since she's known him, but as the saying goes "love is blind". Hopefully, she can accept that this is the way he is and remember him fondly. If she is a nice lady, she will want him to be happy even though she didn't mean anything to him. I think that is the mark of real closure. As far as the binge eating, Haagen Daaz Salted Caramel Truffle is the best when drowning your sorrows..
Baker

Belleville, IL

#9 Apr 3, 2013
Ahh yes, the old "I don't want her but I don't want anyone else to have her" he could have feelings for her but he may be insecure about them. Idk I knew a guy like this once. Tell her to run like hell
1hunos

Marion, IL

#10 Apr 3, 2013
Well, if he's got his head up every skirt in the county, all of his feelings are below the waist ! I'm not judging him though :) I'm a flawed individual with my own set of issues. but a nice lady deserves to be treated well.. just sayin I would have to guess that she cares for him because of who he is not what he does..
SarahZ

Johnston City, IL

#11 Apr 3, 2013
1hunos wrote:
It's been my experience that it's hard to make a woman see something that she doesn't WANT to see. I'm sure his behavior has been like this since she's known him, but as the saying goes "love is blind". Hopefully, she can accept that this is the way he is and remember him fondly. If she is a nice lady, she will want him to be happy even though she didn't mean anything to him. I think that is the mark of real closure. As far as the binge eating, Haagen Daaz Salted Caramel Truffle is the best when drowning your sorrows..
Me and Haagen Daaz have spent many lonely weekends together until I realized the love of my life was just some fat, greedy, bar troll that only had time for me when he was drinking and had no one else. Tell her to do Yoga, it is healing, cleansing and therapeutic. Anyone that sees my name will know who I am and the person I am referring too. My last message to him was on his fb wall saying "WTF WAS I THINKING" and just like that, Poof he was gone. It felt like a breath of fresh air.
1hunos

Marion, IL

#12 Apr 3, 2013
Like I said, remember him fondly, wish him all of the happiness in the world and move forward with life. Best of luck with your friend.
Blonde

Belleville, IL

#13 Apr 3, 2013
I let my friend cry on my shoulder while we shared a couple bottles of wine. This was all over a man she had a major crush on but he didn't know she even existed. Later I learned from a few of his one nighters that he had a tiny Peter and didn't even know how to please a girl. Thank God for unanswered prayers ladies.
SarahZ

Johnston City, IL

#14 Apr 3, 2013
Women have no secrets. Not really. We readily spill the beans about everything from the guy we hooked up with to our marital problems. But thereís something we need to talk more openly about: penis size.

Why? Because men have made size a taboo subject. I find that the arrogant, rude, narcissistic and shallow men have distinctively smaller penises than a friendly, outgoing, personable man. dont you?

Our silence isnít helping, you know its true This is evidenced by the overwhelming amount of emails for penis enlargement procedures clogging up my spam folder. Bottom line, if you are a man and you have had numerous sex partners that are "OK" with you being just friends-you probably have a below average peewee. And ladies, if he is a prick, its because his dick size is pitiful.:)
1whoguesses

Marion, IL

#15 Apr 3, 2013
Well girls, I would have to say that any size, shape, or anything resembling a penis looks pretty darn good to me at this point because it's been a while, a long while..! Haagen Daaz..Chocolate raspberry truffle is to die for (just finished off a pint) lol ;)
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Herrin, IL

#16 Apr 3, 2013
I just don't know how to tell her with out hurting her bad. I know the girl he is banging is a silly bch and he has no intentions of sticking with her. It's just the cruelty of it all.
Be a good friend

Herrin, IL

#17 Apr 4, 2013
Unfortunately men do not let go easily of an ego booster if that is all she is to him. I have a friend like this as well..........she has even ended our friendship..........because I called him out on it.
She's pretty and successful..........Dont jnow much about him but I have read junk on here that depicts him as a player prick. Sad sad sad.
Be a good friend

Herrin, IL

#18 Apr 4, 2013
1hunos wrote:
I'm sure that she knows he is seeing someone else. Women are acutely aware of that sort of thing. Tell her to stay busy, get plenty of exercise, pray for the strength to get through a very painful situation (especially if she is unable to talk about it with anyone), and above all else DO NOT "play the field". Substituting one for another doesn't make getting over someone, that you've cared for deeply, any easier. And by all means, tell her to be patient with herself. This a process, it will take her lots of time to work through this.*Crying, binge eating, throwing fits, cussing, and missing him terribly are allowed, but only on weekends*:)
You have good advice. Good to know there is some intelligent life on here apart from all the baby daddy drama And who's skankin who as I see in other posts.
We all make choices. Your friend deserves to know just what she was to him. If she's on fb KEEP HER OFF .........if he is on it too. A constant reminder of him and what she felt. A hub for jealousy and depression ........
1hunos

Marion, IL

#19 Apr 4, 2013
I have experienced the same thing..trying to convince a woman that she's being used is difficult if she doesn't want to believe it. Eventually she'll be able to open her eyes and see the situation for what it is. I've heard this said "people that come into your life are one of two things, a blessing or a lesson". She believed he was the first and eventually, my hope is that she'll realize that he is the second. As far as facebook goes, she had a page and got rid of it, not because of him, but an area businessman that wouldn't leave her alone.
Mel

Belleville, IL

#20 Apr 4, 2013
I too have had experienced a similar situation. Never slept with him, ever. I went on a few dates and years later he still wouldn't let me go. Always calling, telling me how pretty I was, how he loved to hear my voice. He lived in St. Louis so distance was his reason until I found him to be a married man. It still wasn't easy to shut the door but with a lot of support from friends and prayer I was able to forget him completely. His intentions were only to get some attention

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