Medford mom's fight for son continues

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Nancy Vartabedian has served three jail terms in the name of what she calls parental rights -- and she could serve a fourth sentence starting Friday as she continues a long battle for custody of her 9-year-old ...
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Former LIer

Marion, NY

#1 May 18, 2007
I can only say that I agre 100% with the claim that Family Court in NY State is a JOKE ! Child Support alone is driving Men & Women to the brink of Bankrupcy! The percentages that have been deveolped are so out of wack with reality that it is unreasonable to think an WORKING adult can be expected to live on what they leave you with. I do not know the Whole story behind this one , but if all the legal work were done when she was a NY resident , it does not matter where "She and her Son" move to , they still have to obey the NY settlement . That is the only way the Court can protect the Rights of BOTH Parents .Just because Mom decides to try and alienate her son from his Dad by moving , She still has to follow the orig agreement , or work something out IN NY Family Court before leaving . Good luck to Dad in this one.... ps , yes , I am a DAD !

Since: Apr 07

Lon Gisland

#2 May 18, 2007
Former LIer wrote:
I can only say that I agre 100% with the claim that Family Court in NY State is a JOKE ! Child Support alone is driving Men & Women to the brink of Bankrupcy! The percentages that have been deveolped are so out of wack with reality that it is unreasonable to think an WORKING adult can be expected to live on what they leave you with.
You are 100% correct. I won't even go into the issue here.
margaret

Stony Brook, NY

#3 May 18, 2007
IN THIS DAY AND AGE CHILDREN NEED THE LOVE AN SUPPORT OF BOTH PARENTS. REGARDLESS OF THE SITUATION. MAYBE THE COURT SHOULD SEE WHO THE CHILD PREFERS TO BE WITH, DOESNT THE CHILD HAVE A SAY IN HIS OR HER LIFE? DO THE PARENTS REALIZE THIS TUG OF WAR BETWEEN THEM IS ONLY HURTING THE CHILD? I HAVE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION, AND HAVE TO SAY MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF, HIS EX AND HER HUSBAND SHARE ALL REGARDING THE WELFARE OF THE CHILDREN. I KNOW ALL CASES ARE NOT THIS EASY, NOR HAS IT BEEN FOR US, THERE HAS BEEN COURT AN CUSTODY BATTLES FOR BOTH OF US BUT WE REALIZED WHAT WE DOING TO THE CHILDREN JUST BECAUSE OF OUR SELFISH NEED. SOMETIMES THE CHILDREN ARE MORE MATURE THAN THE PARENTS. ALL I AM SAYING IS SIT AND THINK ABOUT HOW THIS IS AFFECTING YOUR CHILD? WHY NOT SIT DOWN WITH YOUR CHILD AND SEE WHAT HE THINKS, AND MAYBE THE TWO OF YOU CAN COME TO SOME KIND OF AGREEMENT WITHOUT HAVING TO CONSTANTLY GO BACK AND FORTH TO COURT AND SERVICE JAIL SENTENCES. BELIEVE ME I UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS WOMAN FEELS I WOULD GO TO ANY LENGTH TO PROTECT AND HELP MY CHILD, BUT I WOULD ALSO THINK HOW THINGS AFFECTED HER FIRST. IT IS CALLED LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.
Ririri

Stony Brook, NY

#4 May 18, 2007
drunkenlimeybastard wrote:
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You are 100% correct. I won't even go into the issue here.
Judge Lynaugh was the judge for my case when I went to get sole custody of my son back in 2002 when his step-mother told my son he had killed her baby inside because he is so bad she has to yell at him all the time. The Judge threw the case out and the Law Guardian told me not to believe everything a four year old says....unbelieveable.....he has now been blamed for the removeable of their cat from the house due to the fact his bedroom is in the basement with the litter box.....and one day he must leave the door open the next day he has to keep it closed......judges and law guardians and the whole process is a JOKE JOKE JOKE........The father is now suing me for sole custody and wants his new wife to raise our son in the basement in segragation.....
Hmm

Port Jefferson Station, NY

#5 May 18, 2007
What I can't understand about child support laws is that they are based in part on what a judge "thinks you should be able to earn". And if your support is set based upon a certain amount of income, and then your income goes down, your child support does not. I think women typically make out like bandits in this situation. I have a friend who was with a woman for 3 years. She got pregnant, told my friend it was his, and so when they broke up he paid child support. For the next 5 years he paid child support and visited the child regularly. This woman then proceeds to meet a new guy and tells my friend that the child is not really his after all and that my friend can't visit the child anymore. My friend goes to court to get a paternity test and indeed, the child is NOT his. The family court judge however, tells my friend that he is still obligated to pay child support because, "the child has become accustomed to a lifestyle based in part on your child support payments". That is the most outrageous thing I have ever heard. My friend is lied to, willingly pays support because he thought the child was his, then finds out it is NOT HIS, and now he can't visit the child but STILL has to pay support until the child is of legal age. That is disgusting.
Patricia Johnson

Hampton Bays, NY

#7 May 18, 2007
Has anyone considered how a jail term will affect the child and his relationship with his mother and father? Has the Court appointed a law guardian for the child? If the mother goes to jail, the child will grow hating the father, or perhaps worse, grow up to be like the father. What kind of father would consent to having the mother of their child put in jail for several months? Is this the kind of father that should have custody? Is he likely to encourage a relationship with the mother? A resolution/solution court is needed in cases involving family disputes and children and counselling, therapy, anger management, and a mental health evaluation is needed for the father.
KTM

Hampton Bays, NY

#8 May 18, 2007
The jailing today was not about child support. Mother had custody removed in 1999 by a Judge without a hearing; the reason - the mother was brought up on contempt charges for allegedly denying father visitation before an order was issued. Mother lived in Florida at the time with the permission of the Court. A JHO signed the papers starting the proceedings and not a judge. Mother questioned the JHO's right to sign the papers and whether NY Courts had the right to hear the case. Mother appealed the removal of her child without a hearing, costing her thousands. Mother won. The mother had custody trial costing thousands; because child had been in father's care for so long, custody stayed with father. Mother has been fighting since then to regain her parenting rights as the custodial parent and to challenge bringing her up to NY and the fact that a JHO and not a Judge signed the papers to commence the proceedings. Mother was fighting and the Court issued an Order prohibiting her from bringing any further applications without the permission of the Court; the Court usually denied Mother permission to bring further proceedings. Mother fought in the only way she knew how and as a Mother and Loving Parent. Mother's child is devastated by the Mother's incarceration.
maryk

Hampton Bays, NY

#9 May 19, 2007
Several years ago Judge Lynaugh refused to hear a case where a little boy and his mom were being abused out of state by the father and had moved back to New York; she stated that New York was not the home state.
maryk

Hampton Bays, NY

#10 May 19, 2007
Several years ago Judge Barbara Lynaugh refused to hear a case in New York where a little boy and his mom were being abused out of state and had moved back to New York; she said New York could not hear the case. Why aren't her decisions consistent?
Catherine

Bronx, NY

#11 Apr 4, 2008
This is all too familiar...my stepson's hands and feet are duct taped together quite often. We have one stepson now..no outcome yet. We go back very soon. I hope for the best.
Ririri wrote:
<quoted text>Judge Lynaugh was the judge for my case when I went to get sole custody of my son back in 2002 when his step-mother told my son he had killed her baby inside because he is so bad she has to yell at him all the time. The Judge threw the case out and the Law Guardian told me not to believe everything a four year old says....unbelieveable.....he has now been blamed for the removeable of their cat from the house due to the fact his bedroom is in the basement with the litter box.....and one day he must leave the door open the next day he has to keep it closed......judges and law guardians and the whole process is a JOKE JOKE JOKE........The father is now suing me for sole custody and wants his new wife to raise our son in the basement in segragation.....
Katie OBrien

Bronx, NY

#12 Apr 4, 2008
There are TWO sides to every story. I'm about to go read the entire article. I must say that Stepmothers never get enough credit. That mother DOESN'T HAVE HER CHILD FOR A REASON!!!! Don't hear mother and automatically feel bad for her. Unfortunately there are mothers with no maternal instinct. Is she fighting for the child or because the child is be raised by someone else because she can't be bothered to be a full time mother!
Debbie

Brooklyn, NY

#13 May 24, 2008
I understand there are two (2) sides to every story. However, it should not matter who your attorney is or who your Judge is in the Court system. Yet it does. We have Judges deciding issues for others when there personal and professional life is in shambles. We have law guardians making recommendations when they cannot even raise their own. We have Judge's looking for pay raises, and putting the litigant's case in jeopardy. The best thing anyone can do is to stay out of the Courts. You may get justice, but it will take a long time and cost a fortune. We should not have appointed Appellate Division Judges that are running for re-election in the Supreme Court involved in romantic relationships with other Supreme Court Judges. This is wrong.
bratcat

Austin, TX

#15 Jul 6, 2008
maryk wrote:
Several years ago Judge Barbara Lynaugh refused to hear a case in New York where a little boy and his mom were being abused out of state and had moved back to New York; she said New York could not hear the case. Why aren't her decisions consistent?
In responce to this I agree with you!! She is not consistant and bends the law to accomodate what she wants. I am dealing with her yet again when i should not be. I live in Texas and my childs father lives in New Jersey. Yet she claims she has Jurisdiction, My question is over who? She and her gal pal law guardian Karyn Bell are threatening to sign over custody to this New Jersey resident after it finaly came out he had been molesting her for the past 2 years. And that is why she did not want to go all this time. She was affraid to speak up untill now. I am a the point where i feel the whole system is just currupt. I say this because i have notified every official in both states including the FBI in New Jersy and no one wants to get involved, not even he NY supervising judges. Now i know why people take the law into there own hands. Because there is no system. All there is are pockets and they run pretty damn deep. It will be over my dead body befor he ever touches my child again.
Bratcat

Austin, TX

#16 Sep 5, 2008
tHIS ANIMAL THEY CALL A JUDGE " Barbara Lynaugh" she is nothing short of a predator on children for "favors" in return. Today my 15 year old child was dragged out of her Texas school in handcuffs to be given to her abuser " molester" father. He took her to new Jersey at his residence. No one lives in New York but she signed her custody over to a sexual abuser!! She also back dated phoney modification orders that were never served to me. Then she orderd me to have no contact with my child!! I am not the one who abused her!!! There are no words strong enough to describe this animal. When is some one going to step in and get her off the bench? After 50 or more children are killed or raped? doubtful.
Cari thomson

New Hyde Park, NY

#17 Oct 20, 2008
barbarah lynaugh is a monster! I havn't seen my son in years and when I had an order to see my son The father of my son would just not show.The father of my son is mentally ill. he did this to his first wife and she hasn't seen her three children in 10-11 years. I have talked to local private detectives about her and he one of them said that he needs more people to come forward about this judje. This detective has personally seen the destuction of lives commited by barbarah Lynaugh and is in contact with a local tv news journalist and she wants to do a story on her. Someone in this blogg has mentioned that if the mother doesn't have custody of her children that the mother must be a drug addict or not have maternal instincts.Ignorance is not kind. Ther is severe corruption in the court system of NY. Barbarah Lynaugh is seriosly disturbed and she is morally corrupt. I've spoken to a local Psychotherapist in suffolk County and he said that this judge has abused her power more than any other judje has witnessed. It has been confirmed that Barbaragh Lynaugh is under judicial review which also means "judicial investigation" for having the highest number of appeals. I am arranging meetings with other victims Of this judje in order to pursue a class action suit for having a disturbed judge behind the bench. I have been in contact with other officials throughout this court system and none of them can stand Barbarah lynaugh. My attorney told me the other day that there trying to remove her from the bench. I don't understand why this did't take place years ago. I have suffered imense psychological torture from the father of my son. He also has had my son call the stepmother "mommy" for several years. 4-=5 mothers days-no visits, 4 going on 5 christmases and Christmas Eves with no visits with my son. I pay this horrific man Child support and never see my son. I am serios about taking necessary measures to not only get this judje removed from the bench but to also sue the state of New York for damages. Whoever is interested in joining me with this mission please reply. Cari thomson.
bratcat

Austin, TX

#18 Nov 2, 2008
she forced my 15 year old daughter in Texas to go with her abuser. i have not seen her since. Last i herd the state of N.Y, removed her from his custody and brought her to the pysch ward for treatment. How can i help get this s.o.b. off the bench and help you?
Bratcat

Austin, TX

#19 Dec 20, 2008
Well it has been three months since my 15 year old daughter has been dragged out of her Texas school. Since then she was temporaryly removed from the abuser father and then returned due to she was threatned to retract her report against him. The state still has not done anything in regards to Lynaugh. I guess we need to loose a few hundred more children befor N.Y. wakes up or maybe they just refuse to admit they have lost control of there own judicial system. I hear the screams every night when i go to bed knowing my daughter is a victim every night of her father. You would think the state would have looked further in to the situation at the hospital when they brought my daughter in for pysch intervention. Mainly since she was cutting up her arms out of fear from the father. They never looked twice. More than likely my daughter will hurt herself again or committ suiside and yet N.Y. will still be sitting on there hands with there finger up there ass. I hope some one is keeping a body count on all the children Lynaugh has damed to hell.
rayna malone

Newark, NJ

#20 Jul 28, 2009
i cry to sleep every night - scared i am going to loose my kids she is a loose cannon - i dont know what i can do to help but i will do anything
rayna malone

Newark, NJ

#21 Jul 28, 2009
my e-mail address is raynamalone@mac.com - good luck - alot of us are counting on you
Sick2my-stomach

Hampton Bays, NY

#22 Dec 12, 2009
I cant believe the judge gave danny dobbins custody!!!!...he is a child MOLESTER!!!!!!

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