SpEcIaL OnE

United States

#1 Nov 5, 2012
Ok.. I (female) cheated on my boyfriend April 2011. We stayed together after working things out. February 2012 he asked me to marry him, i said yes and we April 2012. In June 2012 he cheats. "my consequences for the April 2011 incident"

is this how a man seriously justifies his actions?
Guest

Batesville, AR

#2 Nov 5, 2012
SpEcIaL OnE wrote:
Ok.. I (female) cheated on my boyfriend April 2011. We stayed together after working things out. February 2012 he asked me to marry him, i said yes and we April 2012. In June 2012 he cheats. "my consequences for the April 2011 incident"
is this how a man seriously justifies his actions?
now you're even

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#3 Nov 5, 2012
Start a relationship on deceit expect it to end the same.
honeidew

United States

#4 Nov 5, 2012
SpEcIaL OnE wrote:
Ok.. I (female) cheated on my boyfriend April 2011. We stayed together after working things out. February 2012 he asked me to marry him, i said yes and we April 2012. In June 2012 he cheats. "my consequences for the April 2011 incident"

is this how a man seriously justifies his actions?
That just means that he never "really" forgave you and he didn't cheat just to get even, he cheated because he wanted to. He just used that to justify why he cheated. Y'all need counseling. Not trying to be funny.
the one

United States

#5 Nov 6, 2012
SpEcIaL OnE wrote:
Ok.. I (female) cheated on my boyfriend April 2011. We stayed together after working things out. February 2012 he asked me to marry him, i said yes and we April 2012. In June 2012 he cheats. "my consequences for the April 2011 incident"

is this how a man seriously justifies his actions?
that's what your carma returned you , you two might as well give up
The dirty

Cabot, AR

#6 Nov 6, 2012
Wow!!! While I totally believe in karma, I also disagree. It's one thing to cheat before marriage, but it's a whole other ball game after committing yourself through marriage. I understand that cheating is wrong either way but come on people.

“NSA”

Since: Jul 10

Location hidden

#7 Nov 6, 2012
SpEcIaL OnE wrote:
Ok.. I (female) cheated on my boyfriend April 2011. We stayed together after working things out. February 2012 he asked me to marry him, i said yes and we April 2012. In June 2012 he cheats. "my consequences for the April 2011 incident"

is this how a man seriously justifies his actions?
How did you justify your actions?
someone

United States

#8 Nov 6, 2012
There is no "justifying" cheating. Cheating is cheating. It is wrong no matter what the situation is. If you choose to work it out and move forward and gain back the trust then do so. Two wrongs don't make a right.
thatonedude

United States

#9 Nov 6, 2012
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in any relationship! After one has cheated, you may both agree to work through it and continue the relationship but the one who got cheated on does not ever forget that betrayal. They may say forgive and forget but it is never forgotten. Two wrongs dnt make a right, but when the one who got cheated on is tempted by someone of the opposite sex, it is very easy to ask yourself "would my man/woman do it to me?" If the answer is yes, it makes it an easy justification! I personally believe once your cheated on, the relationship is officially over! So to the chic that started this thread, learn from your mistakes and dnt fk up your next relationship by betraying your SO, because it will come back to bite you in the ass every time!
someone

United States

#10 Nov 6, 2012
thatonedude wrote:
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in any relationship! After one has cheated, you may both agree to work through it and continue the relationship but the one who got cheated on does not ever forget that betrayal. They may say forgive and forget but it is never forgotten. Two wrongs dnt make a right, but when the one who got cheated on is tempted by someone of the opposite sex, it is very easy to ask yourself "would my man/woman do it to me?" If the answer is yes, it makes it an easy justification! I personally believe once your cheated on, the relationship is officially over! So to the chic that started this thread, learn from your mistakes and dnt fk up your next relationship by betraying your SO, because it will come back to bite you in the ass every time!
But the one that got cheated on should have felt the betrayal and wouldn't wish the feeling upon anyone. And if you choose to stay in the relationship you must obviously love them and want it to work out so why would you want the person you love and fought for to feel the same betrayal?
Guest

Batesville, AR

#11 Nov 6, 2012
How about you two work it out and agree neither of you are perfect and sometimes you make mistakes.

Or better yet, why not agree that you love each other, but that monogamy is a farce and most people cheat at one point or another, so you may as well have an open relationship.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#12 Nov 6, 2012
Once you cheat on someone chances are you will continue to cheat on that person. There's a reason for doing it and people don't usually change.
just sayin

United States

#13 Nov 6, 2012
Once you marry ..you have stood before god and said forsaking all others
republican

Batesville, AR

#14 Nov 6, 2012
open up your marriage, you'll be happier if you affirm your love for each other while letting yourselves be free to enjoy life to its fullest.
someone

United States

#15 Nov 6, 2012
republican wrote:
open up your marriage, you'll be happier if you affirm your love for each other while letting yourselves be free to enjoy life to its fullest.
That's not a marriage. They aren't married yet from what I gathered. So if your relationship is how am I gonna get him/her back for doing this and that to me then its time to just end it.
Guest

Batesville, AR

#16 Nov 6, 2012
don't take other people's word it that its over. Those are people who, when something breaks, they throw it out immediately.

Is the most important part of your marriage your control over his body? Hopefully not. If he can forgive you for cheating, you can forgive him, if you are both committed to staying together.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#17 Nov 6, 2012
Guest wrote:
don't take other people's word it that its over. Those are people who, when something breaks, they throw it out immediately.

Is the most important part of your marriage your control over his body? Hopefully not. If he can forgive you for cheating, you can forgive him, if you are both committed to staying together.
Youre right continue to hope that the other person will change and get excited when they do for a short period of time. That'll make the inevitable separation much easier than just doing it now. People don't change forever old habits resurface. Throwing away something that's broke to risk more hurt in the future is a realistic approach. We don't all live in la la land
Guest

Batesville, AR

#18 Nov 7, 2012
N_arcci wrote:
<quoted text>
Youre right continue to hope that the other person will change and get excited when they do for a short period of time. That'll make the inevitable separation much easier than just doing it now. People don't change forever old habits resurface. Throwing away something that's broke to risk more hurt in the future is a realistic approach. We don't all live in la la land
most couples that experience infidelity, which by the way are most couples, get past it and are stronger as a result. They accept each others flaws.

Don't do anything rash like everyone else seems to be suggesting.

Both of you should seek counseling, individually and as a couple.

It will get better!

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#19 Nov 8, 2012
Guest wrote:
<quoted text>most couples that experience infidelity, which by the way are most couples, get past it and are stronger as a result. They accept each others flaws.

Don't do anything rash like everyone else seems to be suggesting.

Both of you should seek counseling, individually and as a couple.

It will get better!
They don't accept it they use it as a free pass to cheat themselves.

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