My relationship with my sons dad ended before the autism diagnosis, prior to my son being 1 years old. The relationship with my future hubby started at learning about autism. Imagine a man with no children of his own and then slap THIS child into his life..... the man never made a run for it. to tis day has never complained either. Autism has more so pulled us together and gave us a focus point. In 2006, we decided to get married and that hubby of mine even hyphened his last name so my son could find some relation to him than just the only daddy he's ever really known.
Yea, not all relationships go down the toilet, and if they do it was probably doomed to begin with but easier to blame on autism. When my mom and dad got a divorce, my mom blamed it on us kids. All it is is blame away from the adults unto something else. It's lack of coping skills and it wouldn't matter if it was autism, money issues or just plain differences of personalities; without coping skills any marriage will end over any reason.
And yes, my son was DX'd severe infantile onset- he has progressed and every day progresses. Every child does, unless there is severe known brain damage that causes a veggie state.
As for those yearly figures, that more is attributed to ABA and not every family decides that route and not every child benefits from it. I certainly have never spent near those amounts solely due to autism interventions. Also, at a certain age, the child ages out of ABA, it's only directed at young children and you never see an adult with severe autism ever get ABA.
This is by far NOT the answers to autism and a horrible thing for any parent to read.