N.Y. law often makes for messy divorce

N.Y. law often makes for messy divorce

There are 52 comments on the Newsday story from Jul 12, 2008, titled N.Y. law often makes for messy divorce. In it, Newsday reports that:

This story was reported and written by Katie Thomas and staff writers Melanie Lefkowitz and Randi Marshall.

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sam kelly

Brooklyn, NY

#1 Jul 12, 2008
brinkley should have never had the media involved in her private life. this saids something about her also.
james dean

Bronx, NY

#3 Jul 12, 2008
It says that she is a washed up has been who will do anything for publicity. judging from that photo she is one nasty bitch. She looked good to me for about 20 seconds. How does a Guy stick around long enough to marry her?
Robert Lewis

AOL

#4 Jul 12, 2008
Madonna's state tax liens, Alex Rodriguez's tax liens, Jose Canseco's tax liens and judgments, Dennis Rodman's federal tax liens

http://webofdeception.com/#madonna
DrDoom

Scarsdale, NY

#6 Jul 12, 2008
These days divorces are so rough that all parties lose most everything to the lieing lawyers...
Go to a mediator and settle like adults, not greedy spoiled little children. Be level headed, and save some of what you worked so hard for, or..........
go to a lawyer and give them everything...Your choice

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#7 Jul 12, 2008
Divorces go on for a long time in this state. Uh...let's see. Lawmakers don't change the law, so then lawyers make all the money and parents are left with nothing.

No one thinks about the kids anymore.

But their attorneys can put that extension on their house on their clients' money. What a crock. Don't get married. It's the best thing you'll ever NOT do.

Since: Mar 07

Location hidden

#8 Jul 12, 2008
She has 4 kids with 4 different guys. Can someone give me a HOOOOOOEEEE!!

Marriage in todays age is overrated. Still don't have a damn clue why anyone does it.
Long Shot Island

Freeport, NY

#10 Jul 13, 2008
I think New York's divorce laws are appropriate just the way they are. If a couple mutually decides for divorce, they can draw up an agreement, both sign it, live by it for a year and it becomes a conversion divorce, with no fault assigned. NO ONE is forced into signing or pressured against their will. There are only four narrow grounds for suing otherwise (mental cruelty, physical cruelty, abandonment or adultery.)

NO COUPLE wakes up one morning and decides to mutually divorce. One or the other starts making plans first, and the other person is forced to play 'catch up.' The laws as they stand cannot prevent divorce, but they do slow down the process and reduce the chances of one person being railroaded quickly and unfairly. Divorce SHOULD be hard to get; marriage is a cut above shacking up and deserves some form of protection, thin as it might be. The last thing we need is to encourage more divorce by instituting no fault as an option, and putting kids and left spouses (men or women) at further disadvantage.
sam

Port Jefferson Station, NY

#11 Jul 13, 2008
Divorce does put a woman low and her children.
Divorce creates more confusion in relationships.
Divorce is in the bible as something God hates.
Divorce was invented because of the hardness of the hearts of men.
james dean

Bronx, NY

#12 Jul 13, 2008
The look on Christie's Face in that picture says it all about Her. " I want it and I want it now"! I bet her Kids hate her and she has no "Friends" at all.
Seymour Osset

Edison, NJ

#13 Jul 13, 2008
Divorce is an ugly thing. I don't care if Christie says her kids are "away" for the summer. Her son is old enough to have friends who will talk to him or tease him about what his Dad did - because that's how kids are. In the unlikely event that this doesn't happen, as he grows up, their kids will go online and read all about the case - all of this would not have happened if they had settled early on. And both of their lawyers knew what a reasonable settlement would be - they know this because they have been down the same road many times before. The only thing the kids would have known was that Dad had a young girlfriend - not something to be proud of, but something that could be "explained". The web cam and the swinging sites, etc.- much harder to explain. We should all learn something from this, even if our financial circumstances are not the same as this couple.
THE FRITO BANDITO

Brooklyn, NY

#14 Jul 13, 2008
Shoot the partner, go to jail for 7 1/2 years then your free and still have your $$$.
Who Cares

Skippack, PA

#15 Jul 13, 2008
Enough about Christie Brinkley!!
Steve

Westtown, NY

#16 Jul 13, 2008
Bull....add no fault and the lawyers will have a bigger field day.

As for Brinkly.....Typical "ex-celebrity" pig. Why on earth would she insist on a public spectacle unless she just craved attention. Absolutely no pont to it. And frankly, who the hell cares!
Blood sucking lawyers

Bronx, NY

#17 Jul 13, 2008
Divorce in New York is all about how much the lawyers can bleed a family. Many lawyers actually encourage their clients to get divorced instead of reconcile or mediate. Is this really best for their clients? Like the corporate raiders of the 1980's these unscrupulous scheisters break a family apart in order to get at their assets. They then go about bilking both parties while encouraging animosity.
One favorite trick of the leeches is to get the woman to call the police to report that her husband has "threatened" her life. Due to most police departments' policies - they MUST arrest the husband and throw him in jail for a night or a weekend. There is nothing like the shock and awe effect of being tossed in the jail to inspire fear and anger. This is all to encourage an escallation in the divore war. This is a war that only the lawyers "win".
Thanks to our legal system - judges allow their lawyer buddies to get away with this. The DA or attorny general should be investigating this practice as it is common and clearly unethical and illegal.(ofcourse they to are lawyers...)
Divorce in this country on the whole actually favors women. Sure, they may not have quite the same access to their husbands money but they get the child support, the house and use it for whatever they choose too. Oh yes, they may have to work harder to make ends meet, but they should have thought about it before they chose to get a divorce.
The statistics are that 80% of divorces are iniated by women! Typically these women have read about high profile, high payout cases and somehow think their middle class husband is going to come up with a surprise multi-million dollar settlement! This is the media promoting this absurd notion.
The system is broken and it is being raped by lawyers. Until someone stops these parasites our society will continue to rot from within.
edward

Bronx, NY

#18 Jul 13, 2008
My mom got remarried in '75, 6 years after my father drove his car into a bridge abutment, killing himself, as a solution to his "issues" after returning from Vietnam.
Being 22 with one child and pregnant and having suffered through my father's 1 year demise, my mother went into survival mode. In that time she met and married my stepfather.
As time went on and my mother recovered she became herself again which put a lot of strain on my stepfathers idea of a highly structured style of a relationship.
Ultimately the two grew apart through no real fault of their own, just the natural consequence of personal maturity at different paces.
The end result was my mother having to lie about my stepfathers behavior. He immediately informed my brother and sister (both from their marriage) of what my mother intended to say in court. This instantly put a very emotionally charged situation over the top, causing (so far) unrepairable damage to my mothers relationship with her children.(i.e.) I've seen my brother twice, very briefly, over the last 10 years.
Realizing the damage that was being caused by lying about my stepfather in court, my mom made a decision not to lie and suffered dearly in the settlement.
She did get the house but had to forgo any claim to the pension . She's 63 now, working with no medical benefits. She lost all her savings in the divorce, most of which was from an insurance benefit paid from my fathers death.
Sadly, the worst thing that can happen to my mom is that she lives until shes 90.
Grats to the judges and lawyers pulling in 300k a year off people like my mom.
mjd

New York, NY

#19 Jul 13, 2008
Blood sucking lawyers wrote:
Divorce in New York is all about how much the lawyers can bleed a family. Many lawyers actually encourage their clients to get divorced instead of reconcile or mediate. Is this really best for their clients? Like the corporate raiders of the 1980's these unscrupulous scheisters break a family apart in order to get at their assets. They then go about bilking both parties while encouraging animosity.
One favorite trick of the leeches is to get the woman to call the police to report that her husband has "threatened" her life. Due to most police departments' policies - they MUST arrest the husband and throw him in jail for a night or a weekend. There is nothing like the shock and awe effect of being tossed in the jail to inspire fear and anger. This is all to encourage an escallation in the divore war. This is a war that only the lawyers "win".
Thanks to our legal system - judges allow their lawyer buddies to get away with this. The DA or attorny general should be investigating this practice as it is common and clearly unethical and illegal.(ofcourse they to are lawyers...)
Divorce in this country on the whole actually favors women. Sure, they may not have quite the same access to their husbands money but they get the child support, the house and use it for whatever they choose too. Oh yes, they may have to work harder to make ends meet, but they should have thought about it before they chose to get a divorce.
The statistics are that 80% of divorces are iniated by women! Typically these women have read about high profile, high payout cases and somehow think their middle class husband is going to come up with a surprise multi-million dollar settlement! This is the media promoting this absurd notion.
The system is broken and it is being raped by lawyers. Until someone stops these parasites our society will continue to rot from within.
Well said....
Politicians are bankrolled by law firms to keep $ trains like this in place

Case in point - Shelly Silver - on the take from Weitz & Luxembourg - he doesn't even report how much $ he receives from them.....a nice loophole he probably arranged for himself

Lawyers are at the top of the list of problems in this country - but they govern themselves.....politician lawyers will not enact laws to stop the constant flow to their own trough

goalie29

Edison, NJ

#20 Jul 13, 2008
First of all, someone who is married 4 times should have their head examined. Why not make it harder ro get married, like a waiting period?
Also, all divorces do is make lawyers richer and when they become judges they postpone cases so their bretheran can make more money. Just another example of our great legal system & the legislators who are afraid to change laws because it would affect their hidden agenda!
lpat

AOL

#21 Jul 13, 2008
I have been going through the process for over three years now and the only people who are thriving are the idiot lawyers I have hired. My husband is paying through the nose as well as myself in retainers and other charges and the lawyers are loving it. I want it to end and there seems no end in sight. Why is it so difficult to end a bad marriage and move on. The lawyers don't want it to end,their seemingly unending funds from us will be over regarding this case so they drag it along and do not expedite it in any way.I am fed up and disgusted with lawyers and never was before but believe me I have gotten a real education regarding them and I don't like it!
Mr Clean

United States

#22 Jul 13, 2008
A Marriage License should have an Expiration date as a Drivers license does.
Phil Martone

White Plains, NY

#23 Jul 13, 2008
There is no doubt that only lawyers benefit from divorces.I could write a book about my experiences but suffice it to say I separated from my wife 5 years ago,went to a divorce lawyer who told me I must pay her {the lawyer}to draft a legal separation agreement and after one year that agreement would be the basis for the divorce.I gave the lawyer a retainer fee of $5000,she drafted the separation agreement but my wife refused to agree to it or even to negotiate its terms.The lawyer refused to refund a penny of the $5000 I paid her because she said,at the rate of $250 per hour,she spent more than 20 hours consulting with me and writing the "separation agreement".$250 x 20 hours equals $5000 so I wasted $5000 for nothing.5 years later I am still "illegally separated" and $5000 poorer because I don't have money to pay another lawyer to sue my wife for divorce using one of the fault grounds that New York recognizes and my wife has no money to pay a lawyer either.Obviously if you can't pay the lawyer's fees,New York wants you to stay married in name only and remain "illegally separated" until either you or your "spouse" dies.

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