married but dont know what to do

married but dont know what to do

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Since: Nov 10

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#1 Dec 18, 2010
I have been with my husband goin on 10yrs but only married 1 yr i have 3 children by him, i was a mother at 17 and didnt get to do alot of stuff other people got to do we have had a rough road more bad times then good i think i stayed with him cuz he always said no one will want me because i have kids and he said he is the best thing i can get so after all these yrs i believed it even after him putting me down for yrs i still stayed with him.. dont get me wrong i do love him. but a few weeks ago an ex found me on facebook and i havent spoke with him since i was 17 and at the time i was pregnant he then wanted me to move with him so he can take care of me and my child but i didnt speak to him again after that. well we have been talking and he is sayin he wants to wait for me and still cares for me. he knows i am married. i was his first love and after all the hell i have been through with my husband now i look back and wonder where my life would be if i stayed with this other man. i dont know what to do i thought my feelings were gone for this other man until he started talking to me again i am being torn between 2 men and dont know what to do
bbm

Glenview Nas, IL

#2 Dec 19, 2010
Have a threesome
Oh my

Tremont, IL

#3 Dec 20, 2010
I wish I had some way to contact you in person... it really sounds like you needs a friend, therapist, or minister to help you work through this.. good luck!
him roid

AOL

#4 Jul 1, 2011
bbm wrote:
Have a threesome
when in doubt........

Since: Nov 09

Wytheville Va.

#5 Jul 2, 2011
Well you pretty much made your decision at age 17. You have been married to this man for 10 years and have three children with him. You still love him. Do you love your children? You have been through a lot with your husband and do you really want to give all that up for what might turn out to be a worse situation? Why has this other man come back into your life? Desperation, rebound, other issues that might not make for a very long or meaningfull relationship? The old saying "the grass is always greener" holds true. Are you willing to tear your family apart for some lustfull feelings that will be short lived? My advice, find a counselor and work on your marriage.
Think

Chicago, IL

#6 Oct 16, 2012
I completely agree wit SoBit.. If you still love your husband then there should be no reason you should wanna leave.. And as for the ex, a person can change a lot in ten years and he may not be the person you used to know.. Ultimately the decision is yours but your not the only one being affected by it, your husband will go through a lot a your kids will too.. Focus on the positive and what you have
guest

United States

#7 Oct 20, 2012
I am the product of this exact situation. Think long and Hard before u make a decision. I found out a year later that the grass isn't always greener. Now I'm a struggling single mom barely making ends meet.
whatever

Urbana, IL

#8 Nov 24, 2012
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. But then again why would you want to stay with a man that puts you down. My x husband use to say that to me all the time, that he was the best thing that happen to me. Please! Thou I didn't have another man involved I gathered up my kids and I decided ididnt want to be mentally abused by him no more. Times were rough but don't leave cuz of another man, leave cuz it's what's best for u and ur kids.

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