is cheating unforgivable?

is cheating unforgivable?

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regret

Greenup, KY

#1 Dec 22, 2012
Is cheating an unforgivable? Because you cheat does it mean you do not love who you're with. I recently cheated. I cheated on someone who was very good to me. I left for someone I believe holds the key to my heart, someone I know is my soul mate. Once we were together again I spent our time together feeling sorry for the one I left, and kept seeing them. Eventually the one I loved found out, and now I've lost them again. Is what I've done forgivable?
scorpion

Chesterfield, MO

#2 Dec 22, 2012
I believe if there was true love in the heart of the first love..they will find forgiveness ..forgiving is a part of loving...wish you much luck :)
scorpion

Chesterfield, MO

#3 Dec 22, 2012
but first ~forgive yourself :)
why

Campton, KY

#4 Dec 22, 2012
regret wrote:
Is cheating an unforgivable? Because you cheat does it mean you do not love who you're with. I recently cheated. I cheated on someone who was very good to me. I left for someone I believe holds the key to my heart, someone I know is my soul mate. Once we were together again I spent our time together feeling sorry for the one I left, and kept seeing them. Eventually the one I loved found out, and now I've lost them again. Is what I've done forgivable?
If you cheated your not with the wright person.When you love some one YOU DONT CHEAT ON THEM.
Sunshine

United States

#6 Dec 23, 2012
Which one do you regret hurting the most? If you really believe the second one is truly your soul mate, wild horses couldn't drag you away.

Since: Sep 11

KENTUCKY

#7 Dec 23, 2012
Make sure your not confusing sex with love.
Dishonesty

Campton, KY

#8 Dec 23, 2012
Cheating, stealing, lieing are all in the same category. It is a dishonor to someone either to yourself or someone else. If you were the one being cheated on how would you feel? Would you pat yourself on the back and say it is OK or would you feel betrayed. Do not get on here and try to justify yourself.
certain

Wolfforth, TX

#9 Dec 24, 2012
I've been cheated on, but I've forgiven. Love is bigger than lust. People make mistakes, people learn from them as well.
BTDT

United States

#10 Dec 24, 2012
Yes, it is pretty well Unforgivable, but if they LOVE you, they'll TRY, and eventually succeed. However, IME with it, if they had just had the breasts or ovaries to TELL ME what was going on, All Would Have Been Well. It's not so much the Cheating, it's The BETRAYAL, and the LIES. NO EXCUSE FOR LYING IN THIS SITUATION. NONE! And if you 'just didn't TELL him at all,' you STILL LIED, because you still FAILED TO TELL THE TRUTH. Because of that, everything you ever told them is a Lie, as they see it, everything you ever did was an Act, and everything you WILL do or say is Suspect, and not to be taken seriously. The REAL Question is, Do YOU have the Womanhood in your panties to WORK to rebuild what YOU DESTROYED? Damn few do. It'll be Hard, you'll have to put up with a certain amount of bitterness, and being Distrusted for a LONG time. But you DESERVE it, you ASKED for it, and YOU EARNED IT. Are you WOMAN enough to Make It Right? Are your breasts BIG Enough to suffer the penalty for what you did? If so, you are in a sad Minority, and I wish you All The Best. If not, well, a Cheater don't DESERVE to be Loved and Cherished. All they deserve is to be Screwed and LEFT. And shot if/when Caught in the Act.
leroy

West Liberty, KY

#11 Dec 24, 2012
what it is? Way to spit it BTDT.
cowboy

Wright, WY

#12 Dec 26, 2012
certain wrote:
... People make mistakes ...
The subject under discussion is not, and can never be, a "mistake," my friend.(Unless your spouse has an identical twin who crawled into your bed while you were in the bathroom.
If you can call a wilful Wrong a "mistake" or accident, you have no right to expect forgiveness. "I did it. It was my decision, my choice to betray you,'dear,' Your forgiveness would be nice, but I neither expect nor deserve it." Forgive? Easier (Alzheimer's?) to forget.jmho
Precious

West Liberty, KY

#13 Dec 28, 2012
This is Sandy Hook and everybody cheats on everybody, just how it is here. Us girls cant stand it when we hear other girls brag about sleeping with the cutest guys with the nicest packages. We have to go get our cute guys with nice big packages too.

We may keep some wee little man around to buy us our pills and pay our bills but we all sleep with the same 20 guys. You know those gorgeous hunks that look like they came right off CMT and have those bulges you can see 100ft away.

So yeah, we all cheat. I don't expect forgiveness. I can't help myself to the cutest guys with the nicest packages and neither can any of the other girls around here. Some are just goody two shoes and won't admit it.
BTDT

United States

#14 Dec 28, 2012
LMAO, Yes, Pretty Much, IME. Our very own Back-country version of Sodom and Gomorrah.....
The Other Side

Olive Hill, KY

#15 Dec 28, 2012
My husband always thinks the grass will be greener on the other side. When he was growing up he was sure it would be better when he married; while he was married to his first wife he was sure it would be better if he left her; when he moved back in with his mother he was sure things would be better if he could just find the right one and marry again; I was the idiot who walked into THAT trap. I BELIEVE MARRIAGE SHOULD BE FOREVER, but much like you, he can't make up his mind because "the grass may be greener." He's carrying on emotional affairs via email, facebook, and secret meetings that he doesn't have the ca-hones (physically OR emotionally) to carry out. So, NO, cheating IS NOT forgivable. The whole town may think you're a saint, but the person lying next to you at night knows the difference. It doesn't matter whether it's your spouse or your lover. On behalf of the more faithful among us...quit looking for greener grass.
abc

West Liberty, KY

#16 Dec 28, 2012
Precious is a slutty skank ho!
answer

West Liberty, KY

#17 Dec 28, 2012
The Other Side wrote:
My husband always thinks the grass will be greener on the other side. When he was growing up he was sure it would be better when he married; while he was married to his first wife he was sure it would be better if he left her; when he moved back in with his mother he was sure things would be better if he could just find the right one and marry again; I was the idiot who walked into THAT trap. I BELIEVE MARRIAGE SHOULD BE FOREVER, but much like you, he can't make up his mind because "the grass may be greener." He's carrying on emotional affairs via email, facebook, and secret meetings that he doesn't have the ca-hones (physically OR emotionally) to carry out. So, NO, cheating IS NOT forgivable. The whole town may think you're a saint, but the person lying next to you at night knows the difference. It doesn't matter whether it's your spouse or your lover. On behalf of the more faithful among us...quit looking for greener grass.
IF you put up with that shit ITS YOUR FALT not his.Yes marriage should be forever so find the wright person and it will be.
Tellin truths

Morehead, KY

#18 Dec 30, 2012
@regret, cheating can be forgivable, I think it would take a lot to build trust back, you would have to be in it with the soulmate for the long hall. What is really wrong about the situation is that you kept seeing someone you felt sorry for, and I am assuming lied to that person or at least let that person believe you cared. You sound pretty selfish. The first step toward forgiveness would be to break it off completely with the one who is not your soulmate. That would show your soulmate that you are on the road to forgiveness.
Precious

West Liberty, KY

#19 Dec 31, 2012
abc wrote:
Precious is a slutty skank ho!
No I'm a good girl. I don't give it to just anybody. Just the cutest guys with the nicest packages.

If you are average looking and average size then you don't have a chance to get this here. I ONLY sleep with about 30 men and they are all drop dead gorgeous and have nice packages. I don't get anything much out of the actual sex. I just like bragging to all my friends and making them jealous that I get all the cutest guys with the nicest packages.
BTDT

Campton, KY

#20 Dec 31, 2012
LMAO @ Precious. SO TYPICAL of girls these days,lol. However, in all honesty, Precious you are still a Virgin, as you have never been with ME. Therefore you have only a vague Idea AT BEST of How It's SUPPOSED to Be. IOW, despite what you think, you are not yet a Woman, and can never Be one. In a few years when you are so old and ugly that even a drunk won't sex you, think on this and eat your heart out.
SCHOOL MATE

Van Lear, KY

#21 Jan 1, 2013
WOW You are all crazy!!!!

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