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#1 Nov 15, 2012
I get so frustrated with people. They ask my advice and when I give it they ignore it or argue about it. My friend dumped his girlfriend. He still loves her but he is pissed off at her so he don't want to get back together I told him this if you love her and she loves you there isnt anything that can't be fixed she is a good woman and he know she won't ever cheat on him and he know she do anything for him. I told him to get her back before it to late or some one else see who she is. He wont because he mad at her. I tell him to forgive her because everyone makes mistakes and he made some to. He just keep ignoring her and making her feel bad. I dont have a girl friend and probly dont have room to give advise but he had a good one and I hate to see him lose that girl forever because he is being dumb and cant forgive her. She forgive him for everything. I guess I am just saying that life to short so dont stay mad if you love someone and they love you because one day it might be to late. I love my buddy but he being real stupid right now. Anger is a tempory emotion and it will go away but it might be to late if you hold that anger in all the time and dont try to fix thins. That all Im saying.

Rolla, MO

#2 Nov 16, 2012
Maybe you give to much bad advice and people just dont listen to you anymore...Keep your noes where it belongs.

Rolla, MO

#3 Nov 16, 2012
jake wrote:
Maybe you give to much bad advice and people just dont listen to you anymore...Keep your noes where it belongs.
The guy got asked for advice...
no name

Salem, MO

#4 Nov 16, 2012
some people just don't listen.and sounds to me you like this girl.take her for yourself.
Mitch McAlister

Saint Robert, MO

#5 Nov 17, 2012
When giving advice it's best to go into all situations believing 100% that it wont be taken, or will be misinterpreted, and be okay with it. No advice given from one person to another can be used directly without consequence. There are a lot of personal feelings, moral ambiguity, and life experience that cloud every thought we have. These variables make it nearly impossible for one person to tell another person what would be best for them in a given situation. What you believe may be the best course of action for a friend most likely is what would be best for YOU in that situation. Of course advice like "Don't put your hand on a hot burner" is going to be universal for everyone but advice geared toward specific situations are too nuanced for anyone but trained professionals to adequately analyze and respond to.

Your only hope in advice giving should be that the recipient hears you and truly considers what you say. Don't mistake people not doing what you've advised them to as them "Not Listening". What you have said may well have played an integral part in their decisions, but they chose to use that advice constructively instead of just blindly following what you say. This is a GOOD thing. It means your friends are capable of deeper thought.

Be proud of friends who think for themselves. When they ask for advice give it. When they don't follow that advice to the tee, or disregard it entirely, and end up hurt or in a bad spot don't spout "I told you so" or any such nonsense! BE THERE FOR THEM! Help them pick themselves up and put back together the pieces of their fractured emotions. Everyone has to learn about life from their own life...mistakes will be made...don't get mad about it, help them.

I'll leave you with my favorite quote about giving advice: "People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly." - Brendan Francis

Salem, MO

#6 Nov 17, 2012
Well maybe since he isn't listening to you and she is such a great person your single, she's single. get the picture.

Rolla, MO

#7 Nov 17, 2012
Lady love???When?

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