KJm

United States

#41 Oct 22, 2010
Yes thats the Jake we know and Love. That is the JAKE we will always remember. Thoughts about how to be a better son and turning hiatus life around. peace speak peace to family, to JAKE, TO Maddie peace...
Moon Flower

United States

#42 Oct 22, 2010
I sure don't know any people perfect in this world do you all? Jake did have a big heart, he was kind, we had a lot of laughs together. He sure did love his family, specially his Dad. He would talk about his Dad and how his Dad would stick up for him no matter what. He was heart-broken over his sisters death. He was devastated when he couldn't see his little girl. I still shed tears for him and his family and wouldn't wish the loss of 2 children on anyone. Personally I wouldn't be able to handle it. Let Jake rest in peace and let his family know there are a lot of people out there who loved him and would give anything if he was still here with us. All we can do is pray for him and his family and help his family get thru this tragedy the best way we can, and that does not mean bashing Jake. Jake we love you very much and miss you with all our hearts. I will see you in heaven someday.
kellie

Collinsville, IL

#43 Oct 22, 2010
my aunt loved jake she loves all her children and for someone to say he tried to find love from her is wrong your basically saying she didnt love him thats just bullshit my aunt is a very good mother and me being a mother myself i understand her not wanting to enable him to do drugs any good mother would not enable there child to do drugs or anything wrong.our kids will do things in life we dont agree with and jake did things my aunt did not agree with but she loved him unconditionally.so to kjm know MY aunt before you say anything about her.
Distant Relative

Florissant, MO

#44 Oct 22, 2010
May our Heavenly Father give peace and healing to the Ray family.
Family

Sunrise Beach, MO

#45 Oct 23, 2010
Please leave this family alone, haven't they suffered enough. Before you judge "walk a mile in their shoes" and see how you feel. The loss of a child is something you can't understand unless you have gone through it, and they have lost two. So think before you comment, what if this was your child.
Oh my

Chicago, IL

#47 Oct 23, 2010
"dirty" shame on you!!! I pray that the good Lord have mercy on your soul on judgement day. To the Ray family, I don't know who would post such awful things, but I apologize you have had to read it. Perhaps with my fellow topix members we can have these awful posts removed!
family

United States

#48 Oct 24, 2010
i will miss u jake!!!!!!!!!
Moon Flower

United States

#49 Oct 24, 2010
I still shed tears for my dear friend and his family. I miss you and love you Jake!! Rest in peace my brother!
Anonymous

Salem, MO

#50 Oct 24, 2010
kellie wrote:
my aunt loved jake she loves all her children and for someone to say he tried to find love from her is wrong your basically saying she didnt love him thats just bullshit my aunt is a very good mother and me being a mother myself i understand her not wanting to enable him to do drugs any good mother would not enable there child to do drugs or anything wrong.our kids will do things in life we dont agree with and jake did things my aunt did not agree with but she loved him unconditionally.so to kjm know MY aunt before you say anything about her.
so if you are bothered by all the negetivity and worried about how it affects your family...don't you think you and your mom should consider Berrys family.They also love thier family UNCONDITIONALLY.They have done nothing to any of you,yet you and your mom continue to trash them.To the best of my knowledge he hasn't even been proven guilty any more than Jakes death has been proven drug related.Everyone on here is going on assumptions...sound familiar?I knew Jake very well and yes Jake had issues,but Jake was the type of person that didn't care if he was judged by others.He was real unlike alot of Salems finest...he was himself and didn't pretend to be who he wasn't and anyone who actually met Jake can say whatever they want...but in reality noone could hate him,instead they felt they should try to help him find himself,because that was the way ALOT of people seen him...lost.When all he ever wanted was to be happy,he did alot of things searching for that happiness that led him in over his head.But that doesn't give anyone the right to judge him because he wasn't the way THEY thought he should be.God has a time for everyone...and it was Jakes time to go,he was called.It doesnt matter how or why,thats Gods choice.Jake, I loved you and wish you would have found the happiness here on Earth you so badly wanted before you left and I'm sorry you didn't... But I know now you have found that peace and happiness you were searching for.Rest lil guy and enjoy.
Anonymous

Salem, MO

#51 Oct 25, 2010
nettie59 wrote:
<quoted text>dont be pointing fingers shame on u. my so called black heart didnt do this. as my daughter said jesses day of judgement hasnt came yet so watch what you say. he could be sentenced to death for taking andrea's life. jake had a good heart.god decided it was time for him to come home.we all know where jesse is going
Do you really know where Jesse is going?Do you know HIS heart?we can see the color of yours,but it's not to late to change it if you turn to God and let his words guide you instead of you trying to rewrite the Bible...just saying.The Ray family has been thru ALOT,my prayers go out to Theresa and Jimmy and the brothers and sister but...Nettie59 and Kellie instead of being bitter and arguing with everyone,why don't you just try being there for the family and let them do the talking for a change.They really don't need to hear all the bitterness,they need to remember their children are at peace.They are in a much better place,they are happier than anyone on earth could possibly imagine.And they will never feel lost or lonely EVER again!!!!The Ray family needs to know their children are with God and when you lash out it leaves room for doubt...the bible says "to be absent from the body ,is to be present with the Lord!!!!!!"Please try to be a positive for Theresa...thats what she needs right now...and to ALL you who have doubt...Theresa loved her son!!!1 You don't know half the things she's done to try to help him.Maybe she didn't always do the right things but noones perfect and shes NEVER claimed to be a doctor or counselor!!!!
Anonymous

Salem, MO

#52 Oct 25, 2010
kellie wrote:
to whoever shame on you is nettie 59 is my mom and as far as the berry family jesse has not yet received his punishment and my cousin jake didnt murder anyone like jesse murdered my cousin andrea.you people must not have lives to get get on here and bash jake.my family has been through enough and idiots like you people dont make things easier bashing my family. some of you people may have knew jake and may not have liked him but you dont have to put your negative thoughts and comments about him he has a family and we are grieving right now and batgirl jake didnt smoke crack so how the hell do you know how he died when my aunt dont even know cause they have not even did the autopsy yet so do you know something we dont or is that one of your drug induced illusions? see thats what i am talking about you people act like you know jake and you dont unless you were family to him keep your danm mouth off of my cousin and let jake rest in peace.
by comments you make...I'm not real sure you know the family as well as you want people to think you do...I knew Andrea and Jake both and NEVER did I hear them mention you!!!But yet you argue like you were closer than anyone to them both???Maybe you and your mom just like drama?Is that possible?
Anonymous

Salem, MO

#53 Oct 25, 2010
dirty wrote:
This is a public forum, so if you don't want to read dirt, get out. People gossip, and spread lies whether its in true life (behind your back) or on the internet behind a mask of anonymity. His parents are prolly least concerned with what dirt gets smeared on a dinky website like this by people with WAYYY too much time on their hands. Seriously, you people spend too much time on facebook and on this site.
Clearly the internet doesn't help salem residents become smarter, it makes you people more stupid (if thats even possible).
The interent is the greatest technological advancement and enables us to do so many great things like communicate and have access to information from around the world instantly, but somehow you salem backwards livin hicks have turned it into a tool to brag about who fought who at the roadhoase and spread bullshit about people over dosing.
IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ TRASH ABOUT THIS KID< GET OUT. GO PRAY IN CHURCH OR ATTEND HIS SERVICE. BUT DON'T TELL THE REST OF US TO STOP.
YOU STOP. YOU STOP USING THE INTERNET TO MAKE YOU STUPID.
fuck this kid and fuck the backwards community that didn't provide him with the right outlets and the right opportunities to better himself. I've got a terrific idea, lets just up property taxes so we can build a bigger and better jail and hire more cops cause thats what we need. We need more idiots like joe chase to pick up weed smokers. We need more cops to not help dead kids.
Dirty,most people read thru your comment without giving thought to what you were actually saying..I understand it and AGREE,the family has way more things on their mind than to worry about this site and people are gonna do what they are gonna do...some of Jakes family members are just as guilty but don't see themselves as they see others...(better than thou???)anyway yes this could have been prevented if our community would get more involved with helping those with addictions...the problem tho is noone knows what to do to help!!!This town needs someone to have a meeting to show us what to do to help someone who isn't willing to go into rehab or who can't afford to go.we have a treatment center right here in town,but cant help our own...because we don't know what to do to help!!!We ALL need educated.Locking them up in jail doesn't help them it only keeps them clean for alittle while then they get out still addicted and jonesing for the next high...and we fail them because we don't know how to make them see they are better off without that next high.That life isn't really that bad sober.
family

United States

#54 Oct 25, 2010
Batgirl wrote:
I was not trying to be mean wondering asked what happened and a friend of his told mr that they think he over dosed I am very sorry I will be praying for the family sorry for any hard feelings I never meant any harm but I wish the family peace and may god be with them
he does from some sort of a blow to his head.... we have the autopsy papers to prove there was no crack involved thank you for the prayers greatly appreciated... my family needs thenm but there are some things you say or their are things you don't and talking about him o ding on crack isn't the best thing to anouse to the public
Batgirl

United States

#55 Oct 25, 2010
Look like I said I was not sure so I apologize. A friend that new him said she heard from some friends to him that is what it was. Again plz except my dearest apologies. I never meant any harm truly. My prayers be with him family and little girl. Family is very important. You r right o should not have said nothing till I heard it from his family. I am a mother of 2 it would kill me if something happened to them. Please don't hold any pain or anger towards me. Like I said I am very sorry for everything ok. Your whole family will be in my prayers. People say alot of things when they don't get all the facts.
Madman

Lone Jack, MO

#56 Oct 25, 2010
R I P
Sarah White

Troy, MO

#57 Oct 25, 2010
Rest in peace Jake... My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends... He will be missed by many
DMV

Saint Louis, MO

#58 Oct 25, 2010
So, so sorry--beyond words... My prayers are with Teresa, Abby and rest of family!
kate

Saint Thomas, MO

#59 Oct 26, 2010
family wrote:
<quoted text> he does from some sort of a blow to his head.... we have the autopsy papers to prove there was no crack involved thank you for the prayers greatly appreciated... my family needs thenm but there are some things you say or their are things you don't and talking about him o ding on crack isn't the best thing to anouse to the public
So he was murdered?
jill

Saint Thomas, MO

#60 Oct 26, 2010
Jake for sure did heroin and oxys that is why he was kicked out of Maddies parents house. He was a good guy when he wasnt doing the drugs and i know for a fact drugs do alter peoples personality and actions. How many more people have to die before the justice system does something other than a slap on the wrist? They got tougher with drunk driving why cant they get tougher with drug offenders? The dealers are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week no ID required no age limit either! Pretty damn sad!
Jacobs Cousin Melissa

Ballwin, MO

#61 Oct 26, 2010
Theresa, uncle Jimmy, Abby, Justin, Lance, Darren, and all our family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you all very much. We were at Andreas funeral and I'm so sorry we couldn't get off work to make it to Jacobs. I told my mom & sisters & Mark my brother to be sure & give you all hugs for us & tell you guys if you need ANYTHING call us anytime. Whether if its a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand. I can't even begin to imagine how hard this has to be for both of you. We love Jacob just as much as Andrea and no more or no less. the min. I got that phone call I said no way!!!! I grabbed both my kids & hugged them so tight. I turned the cheek & thought to myself what if that was me in their position.... You guys are holding it stronger than I could ever if that was me in your position. You would be putting me in a half way house cause I would go in sane. Its good that you have Brody & Abby cause them two will be the strength to help you stay strong. You can call us anytime. Neither of us could get off work or we would of been there. Thats why we came down to your house Sunday. We love you all very much. Alot of us get wrapped up in our work life and busy schedule and we don't tell each other enough how much we should love and cherish the moments we do have here on earth. No matter what the circumstance is you should always take time to tell your family, friends & loved ones how much you love them cherish them and appreciate them.

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