James Selby Senseless Death

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Sad Individual

Russell Springs, KY

#1 Dec 18, 2010
On Thursday morning, James Selby lost his home to a fire. As it would anyone, he was distraught in seeing his possessions go up in flames. The next day, James apparently took his own life.

Reflecting on other tragedies in this county, we've seen instant response and hundreds of thousands of dollars raised to help someone or some family in need. Businesses gave items for auctions, churches took up love offerings, groups were formed to help make sure every detail was covered. T-shirts and caps were made to recognize the event and the list goes on.

I knew of James Selby but I didn't know him personally. Maybe I'm partially to blame for not being the first person to come forward.

To all these benefit planners and so-called church going Christians who are suppose to share love and compassion, where was it Thursday? Where was it Friday when God only knows what was going through James' mind in the moments before he gave up?

Where was the churches with high steeples and better than thou members who flaunt their cash and fine clothes? Where was the clothing centers and consignment shops to give this family clothes? Where was love?

Did this family have food and shelter after the fire? Did they have someone to encourage them and show love and compassion?

To those who did even the smallest thing, I say thank you. To the rest of us, we should be ashamed. Personally, I know nothing about starting a benefit or raising money, but there are people here who are good at those type things who could have done something.

Sure, raising money takes time and probably couldn't be done in less than 24 hours, but there could have been massive show of support that might have saved a man's life.

More than likely, James died alone, thinking there was no hope.

Today his family is grieving. They've lost their home, husband and dad...maybe brother, uncle or friend. Their world is crumbling.
been there

Russell Springs, KY

#2 Dec 18, 2010
i did not know this man or his family personally..but i do know what it feels like..to want to take ur own life..i understand how he felt..the spirit of suicide..claims many..many lives each year..it is a cold..hurtful..devastating place..u feel all alone..u feel like no one cares anything about u..or ur circumstances..or ur life..u feel as if its hopeless..and many..many times..people think that death is the only way out of this place of torment..so sad..i dont think there is anything anymore painful..than the feeling of hopelessness..lonliness and helplessness..yes..ive been where james has been..ive thought about and wanted to kill myself..many..many times..but still i hold onto the one thing that can get me thru..and that is God..God is the only one who knows and understands someones pain and turmoil..only he can help..yes..i am a christian..and christians have those feelins too..do i like the way that i feel..NO..i just wish that maybe more people wud be more sensitive to other peoples lives..and try to be more caring and understanding and try to reach out to those of us who are hurting..u never know who u just mite be a difference to u..and who u mite be able to help..god knows i am willing to do just that..but if we dont know how someone is hurting..then we cannot help..my heart and prayers go out to james selbys'..family and friends..rest in peace james selby..
notice

Russell Springs, KY

#3 Dec 18, 2010
I only knew James briefly. I was at Wally World in Columbia a couple years ago shopping for a computer and James was in the aisle and noticed me checking things out and offered his opinion and advice on different computer selections. He didn't know me from Adam, but was acquainted with my wife. When I made up my mind on the computer he graciously offered to come to my house to set it up if we would give him a ride home when done since he didn't have a car. When we got home James was wild tearing open boxes pulling cables and computer peripherals and essentials out of cartons with abandon. I wondered what I had gotten myself into. Moments later though lo and behold he did indeed know what he was doing and had the computer booted up and running in no time. Though I only knew him briefly apparently he never knew a stranger. God bless James Selby.
caiaphas

Leitchfield, KY

#4 Dec 20, 2010
Christians in Russell are Christians in name only. They go to church because it is a social gathering and not for the right reasons. Then there are the fundy idiots in front of Mcdonalds, yelling and reminding people why they became atheists in the first place. It is a sad, sad situation for sure.
deuce mcalister

Russell Springs, KY

#5 Dec 20, 2010
caiaphas wrote:
Christians in Russell are Christians in name only. They go to church because it is a social gathering and not for the right reasons. Then there are the fundy idiots in front of Mcdonalds, yelling and reminding people why they became atheists in the first place. It is a sad, sad situation for sure.
Then there are people like you, who are on their way to Hell in a handbasket, because you won't except the free gift that Jesus Christ paid for you on the cross. Get off the "fundy idiots." They are trying to help you in the way the BIBLE tells them to.

To everyone else, God makes it rain upon both the good and the bad.
Admitted Atheist

Russell Springs, KY

#6 Dec 20, 2010
caiaphas wrote:
Christians in Russell are Christians in name only. They go to church because it is a social gathering and not for the right reasons. Then there are the fundy idiots in front of Mcdonalds, yelling and reminding people why they became atheists in the first place. It is a sad, sad situation for sure.
AMEN to that and the comment below yours comes straight from some self ritous Christian acting PRICK!
Listen everyone, I would much rather you to be real and admit that you are less tan pefect that to be some church going hypocrite that goes to chrch every Sunday just to show other people that they "Are gouing to church" and making sure they write a check to put into the offering plate rather than annonymously giving. Aside from that I think that instead of giving to some greeday assed preecher to tell you that you are worthless and dommed for hell, churches should pay their electric billl and then give the rest of it to the needy but no they all want to build their towers to Babylon. Toweres that someday will come crashing down.
Admitted Atheist

Russell Springs, KY

#7 Dec 20, 2010
Sorry for my typos I was interupted several times at work on my break while writing this.
Sad Individual

Russell Springs, KY

#8 Dec 20, 2010
Sad Individual wrote:
On Thursday morning, James Selby lost his home to a fire. As it would anyone, he was distraught in seeing his possessions go up in flames. The next day, James apparently took his own life.
Reflecting on other tragedies in this county, we've seen instant response and hundreds of thousands of dollars raised to help someone or some family in need. Businesses gave items for auctions, churches took up love offerings, groups were formed to help make sure every detail was covered. T-shirts and caps were made to recognize the event and the list goes on.
I knew of James Selby but I didn't know him personally. Maybe I'm partially to blame for not being the first person to come forward.
To all these benefit planners and so-called church going Christians who are suppose to share love and compassion, where was it Thursday? Where was it Friday when God only knows what was going through James' mind in the moments before he gave up?
Where was the churches with high steeples and better than thou members who flaunt their cash and fine clothes? Where was the clothing centers and consignment shops to give this family clothes? Where was love?
Did this family have food and shelter after the fire? Did they have someone to encourage them and show love and compassion?
To those who did even the smallest thing, I say thank you. To the rest of us, we should be ashamed. Personally, I know nothing about starting a benefit or raising money, but there are people here who are good at those type things who could have done something.
Sure, raising money takes time and probably couldn't be done in less than 24 hours, but there could have been massive show of support that might have saved a man's life.
More than likely, James died alone, thinking there was no hope.
Today his family is grieving. They've lost their home, husband and dad...maybe brother, uncle or friend. Their world is crumbling.
Why judge this to be funny? The ones responsible for benevolence and love for others failed miserably. Sometimes it's not the wolf in sheep's clothing you have to watch out for, it's people exiting the church houses on Sunday. The preacher may preach on love and compassion and most never practice it once they leave, yet they will say amen from the proverbial corner! Can someone say amen?
sure

Russell Springs, KY

#9 Dec 20, 2010
Sad Individual wrote:
<quoted text>Why judge this to be funny? The ones responsible for benevolence and love for others failed miserably. Sometimes it's not the wolf in sheep's clothing you have to watch out for, it's people exiting the church houses on Sunday. The preacher may preach on love and compassion and most never practice it once they leave, yet they will say amen from the proverbial corner! Can someone say amen?
that Rowena preacher sure knows how to say amen after every other word he spouts and shouts
ASelby

Little Rock, AR

#10 Jan 13, 2011
notice wrote:
I only knew James briefly. I was at Wally World in Columbia a couple years ago shopping for a computer and James was in the aisle and noticed me checking things out and offered his opinion and advice on different computer selections. He didn't know me from Adam, but was acquainted with my wife. When I made up my mind on the computer he graciously offered to come to my house to set it up if we would give him a ride home when done since he didn't have a car. When we got home James was wild tearing open boxes pulling cables and computer peripherals and essentials out of cartons with abandon. I wondered what I had gotten myself into. Moments later though lo and behold he did indeed know what he was doing and had the computer booted up and running in no time. Though I only knew him briefly apparently he never knew a stranger. God bless James Selby.
curious to know how your' wife met James.I've been looking for my dad for years. Last heard: he had been going by this name. My dad knows everything about computers and spent most of his time messing with at least one. So this story strikes my interest. Please respond.
oneidjack

Whitehouse, OH

#11 Jan 14, 2011
ASelby wrote:
<quoted text>
curious to know how your' wife met James.I've been looking for my dad for years. Last heard: he had been going by this name. My dad knows everything about computers and spent most of his time messing with at least one. So this story strikes my interest. Please respond.
The deceased Mr. Selby (full name James Ralph Selby) was born in Russell County, Ky. in 1962 to Ralph Byron and Susie Selby. He married there in 1985, and, to the best of my knowledge, never lived elsewhere.
just me

Jamestown, KY

#12 Jan 14, 2011
oneidjack wrote:
<quoted text>
The deceased Mr. Selby (full name James Ralph Selby) was born in Russell County, Ky. in 1962 to Ralph Byron and Susie Selby. He married there in 1985, and, to the best of my knowledge, never lived elsewhere.
didnt you mean the dad wasRalph selby and he married Susie Birdwell?
oneidjack

Whitehouse, OH

#13 Jan 14, 2011
just me wrote:
<quoted text>
didnt you mean the dad wasRalph selby and he married Susie Birdwell?
James Ralph Selby was the son of Ralph Byron Selby and Susie (Birdwell) Selby. He married Linda Harmon.

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