Affair

[Stuck N Between]

Friends with a married couple and I know one of them is having an affair but the other spouse is clueless. Should something be said to the non cheating spouse?

[angel_eyes4708]

I think yes if the friend is clueless and you tell them then they will know your a true friend

[no wqy]

Stuck N Between wrote:

Friends with a married couple and I know one of them is having an affair but the other spouse is clueless. Should something be said to the non cheating spouse?

I wouldn't tell them. Some how, some way, it will turn on you and you will be the bad guy. They will stay together and you will lose a friend or two. Just my opionion.

[Mama Bear]

This is really a hard position for you to be in. The clueless one deserves to know. If my husband were cheating on me I would want to know and I would expect a good friend to tell me if they knew something was going on. Yes you could end up being the bad guy by telling them but if you are good friends with this person and you are 100% sure the other is having an affair, I think you should tell them. I knew someone who was cheating on her husband and I should have told him but I didn't. He eventually found out and they divorced but it took awhile. It was sad, he was a really great guy and she was a royal b*tch, she didn't deserve him.

[hOTHEAD uGLY]

No way is right, it will come to light eventually anyway. Don't get involved, but also slowly move away from the situation

[Your cheatin Heart]

Keep your f*@king nose out of it! It is none of your d*amn business!

[heartless]

Your cheatin Heart wrote:

Keep your f*@king nose out of it! It is none of your d*amn business!

I would tell, they deserve to know! they are cowards!! kick them to the curb!!!!!

[likely response]

I would suggest the spouse not having the see a divorce lawyer asap.

[likely response]

I would suggest the spouse not having "the affair" see a divorce lawyer asap. sorry I type faster than my computer

[I-am-back]

M.Y.O.B.

[Anti punks]

Just send them a letter explaining the situation they are in. Don't put a return address, maybe the address of the person who is cheating with there spouse, on it. Be complete with all information that will help with their " seeing the light" so to speak. They deserve to know what is going on, their life and health are in question here. Hasn't anybody on here ever heard of A.I.D.S, Hep.A, Hep. B, HPV, Herpes and the list goes on. Think about them and how you might feel if it was you. All those who said "don't tell" must have no sense of loyalty and I would go as far as to say this. I believe they would cheat on their other half. Save your response's because I don't care what anybody, like yourselves, thinks about anything this important.

[madmax]

I know people who have told the clueless spouse and ended up losing them as a friend. Because the cheating spouse turned it all around and lied their way out of it. Made it look like the friend was just trying to start trouble. But, if it were me, I want to know. It's a tough spot to be in.

[for real]

This is a situation when it would depend on your own beliefs and how comfy you are with tellin facts if they are a couple and you are 100% sure when you tell you dont do it behind the back of the cheater but instead do it while they are aware and know it is coming from you and you dont approve and that you are wanting to make situation better not worse. That is my opinion

[Your cheatin Heart]

Like I said before. Just keep your damn nose out of their business! It is not your place to open your mouth. How would you feel if they went postal and killed them after hearing you?

[anti punks]

Thats why they had "crime of passion laws" back in the day. Guess they should have thought about that before they betrayed their "UNION". Most of the time nobody dies because of these types of situations. They have the right to know what is going on, Period.

[Your cheatin Heart]

anti punks wrote:

Thats why they had "crime of passion laws" back in the day. Guess they should have thought about that before they betrayed their "UNION". Most of the time nobody dies because of these types of situations. They have the right to know what is going on, Period.

So you enjoy sticking your nose in someone else's business? How would you like it if they stuck their nose in yours?

[sorry]

Take the spouse to see for her/his self just happen to be their and see it worked for my friend.

[simply sweet]

The person will find out on their own soon enough. But if you do decide to tell, Make sure you can prove what your saying. It's probably better to show the person instead of tell the person they are being cheated on. like they say, saying is believing.

[just4u]

The victim in the relationship has a right to know. Just make sure that you can prove it when you tell them. They should appreciate your honesty.

[SMESTAC]

Your cheatin Heart wrote:

Keep your f*@king nose out of it! It is none of your d*amn business!

BRAVO BRAVO You one one the few people on the site with brains.