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Dismayed

New York, NY

#1 Dec 17, 2012
To those of you who insist on writing into this topic. Do any of you know John? I do. Did any of you ever stop and think that maybe bringing this subject up after all these years is detrimentally distressing to many of us? Well it is. John destroyed not only the lives of the victims, but he also destroyed the victim's families lives, mine and my children's lives, his maternal family's lives, and any of you who encountered him and thought that you may have found a friend in him. I define it as a mass destruction! Mass destructions live on forever! There is much pain associated with this subject because those of us who lived it, still live it every day. Might I add that most of the information that many of you are posting on here is incorrect. The newspaper articles were not always correct either. You would have had to be there to know, and you weren't! I was! I ask that you take a moment of your time to think about what you are doing to those of us by bringing this subject back to everyone's table. It is cruel and insensitive on your part. What you give out in life does come back to you. Stop and think for a moment before you write another one of posts. Just because this website is here doesn't mean you should use it to mame and destroy! For those of you on here, who I believe are intently striving for some attention from this, or who are looking for a few moments of fame through false association with a viscious murderer, why don't you do something nice for somebody this holiday season, like go buy someone a Christmas tree or something like that. Post a blessing to those of us who endlessly suffer from what this man did to our lives and move on! Look at your own lives and think how you would like it if people posted shit about you! Have a Merry Christmas everyone, and remember, be nice!
Bocci

Raynham, MA

#2 Dec 17, 2012
Dismayed wrote:
To those of you who insist on writing into this topic. Do any of you know John? I do. Did any of you ever stop and think that maybe bringing this subject up after all these years is detrimentally distressing to many of us? Well it is. John destroyed not only the lives of the victims, but he also destroyed the victim's families lives, mine and my children's lives, his maternal family's lives, and any of you who encountered him and thought that you may have found a friend in him. I define it as a mass destruction! Mass destructions live on forever! There is much pain associated with this subject because those of us who lived it, still live it every day. Might I add that most of the information that many of you are posting on here is incorrect. The newspaper articles were not always correct either. You would have had to be there to know, and you weren't! I was! I ask that you take a moment of your time to think about what you are doing to those of us by bringing this subject back to everyone's table. It is cruel and insensitive on your part. What you give out in life does come back to you. Stop and think for a moment before you write another one of posts. Just because this website is here doesn't mean you should use it to mame and destroy! For those of you on here, who I believe are intently striving for some attention from this, or who are looking for a few moments of fame through false association with a viscious murderer, why don't you do something nice for somebody this holiday season, like go buy someone a Christmas tree or something like that. Post a blessing to those of us who endlessly suffer from what this man did to our lives and move on! Look at your own lives and think how you would like it if people posted shit about you! Have a Merry Christmas everyone, and remember, be nice!
well said

Since: Sep 12

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#4 Dec 17, 2012
To Dismayed: If you are who I think you are,I would first like to say I am sorry for what I wrote on the topic that thankfully got erased. Then I would like to say I miss you and the kids. I know they are not kids anymore lol. I was angry for many years over everything that happened that night. I know now and I probably knew then that it was not your fault. You are right about the anguish. You must feel it 100 times worse than me though. I would love to get together sometime just to catch up. We all turned out okay and we should not let this bother us for one more minute. Bocci is right about that. I had forgotten but obviously the pain was still there and when I read this it all came back. Maybe in some strange way I needed this to heal. Now I can't figure out why I hated you for so long. None of it was your fault. If this really is you GP then please send me a private message with a way to contact you. If it is not then sorry for rambling on. To send a message just click on my picture. L
Mark Him Absent

Cortland, NY

#5 Dec 17, 2012
As of 12/17/12 Aggregate Minimum Sentence 0076 Years, 06 Months, 00 Days
Aggregate Maximum Sentence LIFE Years, 99 Months, 99 Days
Earliest Release Date 02/26/2064
Earliest Release Type PAROLE ELIGIBILITY DATE
Parole Hearing Date 10/2063
Parole Hearing Type INITIAL RELEASE APPEARANCE
Parole Eligibility Date 02/26/2064
Conditional Release Date NONE
Maximum Expiration Date LIFE
Dismayed

New York, NY

#6 Dec 17, 2012
Grumpy68 wrote:
To Dismayed: If you are who I think you are,I would first like to say I am sorry for what I wrote on the topic that thankfully got erased. Then I would like to say I miss you and the kids. I know they are not kids anymore lol. I was angry for many years over everything that happened that night. I know now and I probably knew then that it was not your fault. You are right about the anguish. You must feel it 100 times worse than me though. I would love to get together sometime just to catch up. We all turned out okay and we should not let this bother us for one more minute. Bocci is right about that. I had forgotten but obviously the pain was still there and when I read this it all came back. Maybe in some strange way I needed this to heal. Now I can't figure out why I hated you for so long. None of it was your fault. If this really is you GP then please send me a private message with a way to contact you. If it is not then sorry for rambling on. To send a message just click on my picture. L
Dear Grumpy. Thank you for your kind and understanding response. It is nice to know that some people do still have some heart. I am not who you think I am. I am someone who shared my life with John for quite some time. It's possible that we may have met very long ago, but that doesn't matter right now. I'm sure that the person you were referring to would appreciate your kind gesture as well. I have kept silent for twenty five years regarding this subject. I had a family to protect. The only reason I came to be on this site was because I was appauled when I was told about it and read it. The more I read into it, the worse it got. This is not a topic. It is a travisty to the lives of me and my family, and the many other lives lost because of one man's rage. Again, thank you.
Dismayed

New York, NY

#7 Dec 17, 2012
Mark Him Absent wrote:
As of 12/17/12 Aggregate Minimum Sentence 0076 Years, 06 Months, 00 Days
Aggregate Maximum Sentence LIFE Years, 99 Months, 99 Days
Earliest Release Date 02/26/2064
Earliest Release Type PAROLE ELIGIBILITY DATE
Parole Hearing Date 10/2063
Parole Hearing Type INITIAL RELEASE APPEARANCE
Parole Eligibility Date 02/26/2064
Conditional Release Date NONE
Maximum Expiration Date LIFE
You are very correct. Your information is posted in the NYSDOCS. At the time of John's trials and arraignments, the death penalty did not exist, nor was there DNA technology at the time. The death penalty would have suited his crimes very well. Someone else posted various posts using the term, purgerers. There were no purgerers in any of this.
false

Rome, NY

#8 Dec 19, 2012
"Dismayed wrote: There were no purgerers in any of this. "

there wasn't?? OMG, ROFL.

"Dismayed wrote:. I have kept silent for twenty five years regarding this subject. I had a family to protect."

what are you "trying" to protect them from??

WHERE ARE YOU GOING WITH THIS?
Dismayed

New York, NY

#9 Dec 19, 2012
false wrote:
"Dismayed wrote: There were no purgerers in any of this. "
there wasn't?? OMG, ROFL.
"Dismayed wrote:. I have kept silent for twenty five years regarding this subject. I had a family to protect."
what are you "trying" to protect them from??
WHERE ARE YOU GOING WITH THIS?
That was 25 years ago! I'm not trying to protect anybody from anything now because it's over. It's been over for a long time. This topic should never have been brought up because it caused a lot of pain and sorrow to many of us way back then, and along with it came many reprocussions. It is a travisty to those of us who survived this man, and to those of us who's lives were destroyed by what he did! By the way, what does ROFL mean anyways? I'm new to all this.
Hello again

Clinton, NY

#10 Dec 19, 2012
Dismayed wrote:
<quoted text> That was 25 years ago! I'm not trying to protect anybody from anything now because it's over. It's been over for a long time. This topic should never have been brought up because it caused a lot of pain and sorrow to many of us way back then, and along with it came many reprocussions. It is a travisty to those of us who survived this man, and to those of us who's lives were destroyed by what he did! By the way, what does ROFL mean anyways? I'm new to all this.
It means rolling on the floor laughing. I agree with you,it should have stayed buried in the back of our minds instead of being throw on here like this.
Dismayed

New York, NY

#11 Dec 20, 2012
Hello again wrote:
<quoted text>It means rolling on the floor laughing. I agree with you,it should have stayed buried in the back of our minds instead of being throw on here like this.
Thank You!
tricks are for kids

Rome, NY

#12 Dec 20, 2012
shocking.

Shocking.

SHOCKING..!!!
hello

Rome, NY

#13 Dec 20, 2012
awwwww get a room
Bocci

Waltham, MA

#14 Dec 20, 2012
tricks are for kids wrote:
shocking.
Shocking.
SHOCKING..!!!
what's so fg shocking
Bocci

Waltham, MA

#15 Dec 20, 2012
hello wrote:
awwwww get a room
u get a room
THE TRUTH

Rome, NY

#16 Dec 20, 2012
Dismayed wrote:
<quoted text> That was 25 years ago! I'm not trying to protect anybody from anything now because it's over. It's been over for a long time. This topic should never have been brought up because it caused a lot of pain and sorrow to many of us way back then, and along with it came many reprocussions. It is a travisty to those of us who survived this man, and to those of us who's lives were destroyed by what he did! By the way, what does ROFL mean anyways? I'm new to all this.
hello j.. whats up girl
glass

Rome, NY

#17 Dec 20, 2012
sounds like something straight out of "helter skelter"?
just sayin.
false

Utica, NY

#18 Dec 20, 2012
where are you going with this?
mental hygiene

Rome, NY

#19 Dec 21, 2012
jk was insane leave it at that
false

Cortland, NY

#20 Dec 21, 2012
where are you going with this?
gays

Canastota, NY

#21 Dec 21, 2012
no dna match.
what did the dude do wrong?
there is good in everybody.
let the guy go.

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