My husband wants to be a woman

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Rhonda

Houston, TX

#1 Jun 30, 2013
Need some advice here, my husband of 8 years told me last night he wants to become a woman, he told me he cannot live another day as a man. When I woke up this morning he was wearing a bra and womens panties. This is all happening too fast! Last week my husband was out fishing with his friends and now he is wearing womens lingerine and watching Maury. He has already begun looking at flights to Thailand to get "the surgery". He is picking out a womans name as we speak and wants to go shopping with me at Catherine's plus sizes in St Louis this weekend. Is this just a phase my husband is going through? Is he actually going to go through with this? Am I a lesbian now?
chessley

Rolla, MO

#3 Jun 30, 2013
Rhonda wrote:
Need some advice here, my husband of 8 years told me last night he wants to become a woman, he told me he cannot live another day as a man. When I woke up this morning he was wearing a bra and womens panties. This is all happening too fast! Last week my husband was out fishing with his friends and now he is wearing womens lingerine and watching Maury. He has already begun looking at flights to Thailand to get "the surgery". He is picking out a womans name as we speak and wants to go shopping with me at Catherine's plus sizes in St Louis this weekend. Is this just a phase my husband is going through? Is he actually going to go through with this? Am I a lesbian now?
He should teach Calc at UMR they like that stuff.
blah

Rolla, MO

#4 Jul 6, 2013
I think more went on at that fishing trip then your husband is letting on. You might need to consider divorce. Sorry you are going through this.
Studly

Rolla, MO

#5 Jul 6, 2013
Rhonda wrote:
Need some advice here, my husband of 8 years told me last night he wants to become a woman, he told me he cannot live another day as a man. When I woke up this morning he was wearing a bra and womens panties. This is all happening too fast! Last week my husband was out fishing with his friends and now he is wearing womens lingerine and watching Maury. He has already begun looking at flights to Thailand to get "the surgery". He is picking out a womans name as we speak and wants to go shopping with me at Catherine's plus sizes in St Louis this weekend. Is this just a phase my husband is going through? Is he actually going to go through with this? Am I a lesbian now?
Are you hot?

“bark at the moon”

Since: Jun 13

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#6 Jul 6, 2013
Have you ever considered being a dude?
Kid Rock

United States

#7 Jul 6, 2013
My problem is almost as bad, my woman wants to be her husband.
Moe

Clinton, MO

#8 Jul 6, 2013
Talk to Lisa Leach, her husband is now a woman. I feel sorry for the children.
gay pride

United States

#9 Jul 7, 2013
good for him and be supportive its normal
blah

Rolla, MO

#10 Jul 7, 2013
If God wanted her husband to be a woman he would have been a woman. To want to change your sex that your were born with is unnatural and an act of defiance to the creator. Look you can be a flaming queen all you want but please stop asking people to be accepting of it. No one wants to see someone make out in public no matter if it is a couple of queers, or a boy and girl. Your telling a woman whose love of her life, has gone completely bonkers that his behavior is normal. Dude. Please. My ex husband was a closeted gay man, cheated on me and frankly I hope you all go to heck. He ruined my trust in everyone.
bigpoppaslette

Lebanon, MO

#11 Jul 7, 2013
blah wrote:
If God wanted her husband to be a woman he would have been a woman. To want to change your sex that your were born with is unnatural and an act of defiance to the creator. Look you can be a flaming queen all you want but please stop asking people to be accepting of it. No one wants to see someone make out in public no matter if it is a couple of queers, or a boy and girl. Your telling a woman whose love of her life, has gone completely bonkers that his behavior is normal. Dude. Please. My ex husband was a closeted gay man, cheated on me and frankly I hope you all go to heck. He ruined my trust in everyone.
what right do you have to judge anyone you close minded bigot.? Shame pn you. I think the topic was a joke
but if not i think if you truly loved her you should be supportive. They have enough confusion and hate ....shame on you for judging. How would you feel if you felt uncomfortable and not at home un your own body
Coupon Mom

Chicago, IL

#13 Jul 7, 2013
Moe wrote:
Talk to Lisa Leach, her husband is now a woman. I feel sorry for the children.
Dee and Lisa are happily married and the boys love both of their moms. They would appreciate most if you left them off this topic.
posers

United States

#14 Jul 8, 2013
Coupon Mom wrote:
<quoted text>Dee and Lisa are happily married and the boys love both of their moms. They would appreciate most if you left them off this topic.
This question has always been on my mind.. Well both
1.) does this make Lisa a lesbian now? Was she totally cool with Dee's decision?

2.) is dee into men or women
Wandering

United States

#15 Jul 8, 2013
The thing with Dee & Lisa has me speechless. I would like to know more details!
Terminology

Jefferson City, MO

#16 Jul 8, 2013
gay pride wrote:
good for him and be supportive its normal
Let's not call this behavior "normal". It's not even "average". It is part of the life of such a small percentage of the population, and acted upon by even a smaller percentage. It is so many standard deviations outside the mean that it is nearly off the scale.

It is one of those outlying behaviors that keep psychiatrists busy and plastic surgeons wealthy.

It is definitely not normal.
Lyn

Beaverton, OR

#18 Jul 12, 2013
I am actually going through something similar with my husband of 10 years, although, I have been seeing "signs" for the past few years. It is important for you to really ask yourself what you need in all of this and how you are going to get it. Your husband is doing the thing that HE needs to do. Unfortunately, that leaves you to define your relationship with him through these changes. For me, I have stepped back into a "friendship" with my husband, but both of us are aware that he is excited about his new self, while I am not in exactly the same place. There are times that I am angry, and sad about the changing dynamic of our family. Other times, I am proud of him and truly want to help him through this transition. We both know to give each other room when necessary, and I have been very clear (and he has been very sensitive) to how much change I can handle at one time. It is definitely a "one day at a time" process.
Just make sure you take care of yourself in this, too. I know how complicated it is.
Crooked

United States

#19 Jul 13, 2013
gay pride wrote:
good for him and be supportive its normal
you nasty homo! Move to san francisco! Effin turd burglars!!!
RidingTheSameBoa t

Chicago, IL

#20 Jul 14, 2013
Unless you are going thru this you do NOT know a thing! The idea of men being with men, women being with women, men becoming women, etc., does not come from God. Just because it is a norm in the USA right now, it does not make it normal behavior. It makes it common behavior.

My husband of a few years decided to go back to his previous "character" and used my clothes and other things while I was out of the house. He did this without thinking of the consequences or thinking of his wife & family. He had no problem with it and was boasting about it as he confessed what he had done. Evidently it has been an issue for over 30 years and he is still struggling with it. We are still together today after a separation, he says it is not an issue but I believe he is still struggling. He is homophobic but always talking about homosexuals on tv and in our community (thinking I don't know he is hiding). Our intimate life is nonexistent because I can't get my mind past all of this. I am always checking my female supplements, clothes, toiletries, a miserable way to live. I do not know how much longer I can do this. All I know is that I cannot do anything to change him. If he does not do the hard work to change, he will remain the same, and possibly without me. I married a man, to live as husband and wife. I did not go out and advertise for a roommate or a girlfriend.

Some may ask, why am I still with him? I'm married and when I married him I meant it. He is my best friend and although I don't like what is going on and am not happy anymore, I'm currently hanging by a thread in our marriage because I'm so unhappy.

Although God wants us to love like He does and we can certainly do that, it doesn't mean we are to further encourage the behavior. My husband knows that if he does this again I will leave him and I mean it. But, it doesn't mean our marriage is so much better. It has actually gotten worse because there is no intimacy in our marriage and I no longer trust him.

Hope this helps in answering on whether or not it's a phase. It is not.
No, you are not a lesbian now. Your husband, and mine, are homosexuals and we are wives that are straight.
Rhonda wrote:
Need some advice here, my husband of 8 years told me last night he wants to become a woman, he told me he cannot live another day as a man. When I woke up this morning he was wearing a bra and womens panties. This is all happening too fast! Last week my husband was out fishing with his friends and now he is wearing womens lingerine and watching Maury. He has already begun looking at flights to Thailand to get "the surgery". He is picking out a womans name as we speak and wants to go shopping with me at Catherine's plus sizes in St Louis this weekend. Is this just a phase my husband is going through? Is he actually going to go through with this? Am I a lesbian now?
single mom

Warrensburg, MO

#21 Jul 14, 2013
Rhonda wrote:
Need some advice here, my husband of 8 years told me last night he wants to become a woman, he told me he cannot live another day as a man. When I woke up this morning he was wearing a bra and womens panties. This is all happening too fast! Last week my husband was out fishing with his friends and now he is wearing womens lingerine and watching Maury. He has already begun looking at flights to Thailand to get "the surgery". He is picking out a womans name as we speak and wants to go shopping with me at Catherine's plus sizes in St Louis this weekend. Is this just a phase my husband is going through? Is he actually going to go through with this? Am I a lesbian now?
I'm afrade I would be giving him or her the sex change my self cut it off she should of made the decision before marrying you hope you don't have kids with him
lol

Rolla, MO

#23 Jul 15, 2013
Lol
LMBO

Rolla, MO

#24 Jul 15, 2013
Is your husband named DuvalsOwn? He is one of those big black drag queens but I thought everyone already knew he wanted to be a woman. Bahaha

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