love guru

Knoxville, TN

#1 Feb 4, 2013
l have made a lot of mistakes in my life and I have never regretted any of them because without mistakes, you don't learn and get stronger. Although, there is one mistake in my life that I do regret every day of my life. I try to help and give free advise on this site and others just to help people not make that same mistake I have made. So let me begin... I use to have this man in my life that we were both so much in love with each other. He had his faults and i had mine. We started getting into the rhythm of trying to be the one in control of of the other one. I was very jealous and he was too. I never actually cheated on him, however I have him every reason to think that i did. I liked it when he was always wondering what I was doing and where I was. I felt like that kept me on his mind. To my knowledge, he never cheated on me either. He was just so perfect in everyone elses eyes, I thought someone could possibly take him away from me. The fights got worse and we began to going to the extreme in mean and hurtful things we would say to each other. It finally came to the point where we split up and we started dating other people. I thought he would never be over me and i thought he would be easy to replace. I have dated and been marriedcan divorced since then. He got married as well and is still to this day. I knew his would last because if anyone let him, he would be a perfect husband and father. Yes, they have kids now too. I run into him and his family from time to time. When I see him, the bottom of my stomach feels like butterflies at first then it starts to hurt all the way into my heart. I miss the little things he would do, not to mention the caring and compassion he had for me. Now someone else is living the life that I should have had. I thought I could just start all over and be ok without him. I know by the way he looks at me when he sees me til this day, that he still loves me somewhere down deep inside. He is too much a good person to act on it because of his family. I wouldn't do that anyway. He told me that he would always be there for me and I know he would. I never put him in the predicament to help me or talk to me because why conflict his new life. I have made mistakes, but that was my worst. I still love him to this day, though all my other relationships and marriage. I don't do anything without wondering what he would think. Don't make the mistake I have made. Whether you are a man or woman. You know if you love someone and can't get them out of your head. Make it work people. You have to give as much or more than you receive to make it work. But it will be worth it.
the facts

Durham, NC

#2 Feb 4, 2013
Did you ever stop to think it wasn't meant to be with the two of you? or do you think if not for the mind games the two of you would be together? One thing I don't agree with is you reading into the look he gives you when you see him. Unless you can read minds you seriously don't know what someone else is thinking. Time moves on and ppls feeling change. Just because yours haven't doesn't mean his is still the same. Maybe it is wishful thinking. Don't bother him.
Yep

Kingsport, TN

#3 Feb 4, 2013
I second that. How can you prove that his wife is not indeed his true love?

You cant assume you are his true love or he still has feelings. He seems to have gotten over you.
Seriously

Bowling Green, KY

#4 Feb 4, 2013
If a wife was someone's true love, they never would have stepped out on them.
amen

Louisville, TN

#5 Feb 4, 2013
That is exactly right, that is just something you do not do.
Yep

Kingsport, TN

#6 Feb 4, 2013
He didn't.
the facts

Durham, NC

#7 Feb 4, 2013
Seriously wrote:
If a wife was someone's true love, they never would have stepped out on them.
hey wonder child....slowly reread the first post....the man has NOT stepped out on his wife. OH MY GOSH..YOU PPL KILL ME NOT PAYING ATTENTION BEFORE YOU COMMENT ON A POST. PLEASE REREAD SLOWLY SO MAYBE YOU'LL GET IT THIS TIME.
Yes

Knoxville, TN

#8 Feb 4, 2013
the facts wrote:
<quoted text>hey wonder child....slowly reread the first post....the man has NOT stepped out on his wife. OH MY GOSH..YOU PPL KILL ME NOT PAYING ATTENTION BEFORE YOU COMMENT ON A POST. PLEASE REREAD SLOWLY SO MAYBE YOU'LL GET IT THIS TIME.
They're from Kentucky...what did you expect lol.
the facts

Durham, NC

#9 Feb 4, 2013
Yes wrote:
<quoted text>
They're from Kentucky...what did you expect lol.
That explains!Lol
love guru

Knoxville, TN

#10 Feb 5, 2013
Have you not ever listened to music at all? This world is full of men and woman that have made the same mistakes. There is only one love of your life. If you disagree, then you have never been in love. There is a dif between in love and that deep feeling of knowing you cant get that person out of your head.
the facts

Durham, NC

#12 Feb 5, 2013
Really people wrote:
See how dumb Tn people are. Just because a person's location is shown. Does not mean that is where they really are. Are you all that clueless i thought so.
I was being sarcasitic dumba**! I think I know the location is not correct.
the facts

Durham, NC

#13 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
Have you not ever listened to music at all? This world is full of men and woman that have made the same mistakes. There is only one love of your life. If you disagree, then you have never been in love. There is a dif between in love and that deep feeling of knowing you cant get that person out of your head.
Just because you feel he is the love of your life doesn't mean you are his. That is also in music! You seriously need to move on. If he wanted to be with you he would.
love guru

Boiling Springs, SC

#14 Feb 5, 2013
I have moved on and am ok now. All I am saying, you never get over that piece missing inside you. I have a normal life, great kid and live a happy life. You cant control that feeling when you see a coffee cup, a jacket, a truck, hear an old familiar song or eat a certain food that reminds me of him. I reminisce for a second or two and then I carry on. I'm just saying you don't want to end up wondering bout what might of been.
dat be da butt bob

Kingsport, TN

#15 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
l have made a lot of mistakes in my life and I have never regretted any of them because without mistakes, you don't learn and get stronger. Although, there is one mistake in my life that I do regret every day of my life. I try to help and give free advise on this site and others just to help people not make that same mistake I have made. So let me begin... I use to have this man in my life that we were both so much in love with each other. He had his faults and i had mine. We started getting into the rhythm of trying to be the one in control of of the other one. I was very jealous and he was too. I never actually cheated on him, however I have him every reason to think that i did. I liked it when he was always wondering what I was doing and where I was. I felt like that kept me on his mind. To my knowledge, he never cheated on me either. He was just so perfect in everyone elses eyes, I thought someone could possibly take him away from me. The fights got worse and we began to going to the extreme in mean and hurtful things we would say to each other. It finally came to the point where we split up and we started dating other people. I thought he would never be over me and i thought he would be easy to replace. I have dated and been marriedcan divorced since then. He got married as well and is still to this day. I knew his would last because if anyone let him, he would be a perfect husband and father. Yes, they have kids now too. I run into him and his family from time to time. When I see him, the bottom of my stomach feels like butterflies at first then it starts to hurt all the way into my heart. I miss the little things he would do, not to mention the caring and compassion he had for me. Now someone else is living the life that I should have had. I thought I could just start all over and be ok without him. I know by the way he looks at me when he sees me til this day, that he still loves me somewhere down deep inside. He is too much a good person to act on it because of his family. I wouldn't do that anyway. He told me that he would always be there for me and I know he would. I never put him in the predicament to help me or talk to me because why conflict his new life. I have made mistakes, but that was my worst. I still love him to this day, though all my other relationships and marriage. I don't do anything without wondering what he would think. Don't make the mistake I have made. Whether you are a man or woman. You know if you love someone and can't get them out of your head. Make it work people. You have to give as much or more than you receive to make it work. But it will be worth it.
If you let him put it in your butt everyone now and then you'd still be together!!!!!!
lost

Kingsport, TN

#16 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
l have made a lot of mistakes in my life and I have never regretted any of them because without mistakes, you don't learn and get stronger. Although, there is one mistake in my life that I do regret every day of my life. I try to help and give free advise on this site and others just to help people not make that same mistake I have made. So let me begin... I use to have this man in my life that we were both so much in love with each other. He had his faults and i had mine. We started getting into the rhythm of trying to be the one in control of of the other one. I was very jealous and he was too. I never actually cheated on him, however I have him every reason to think that i did. I liked it when he was always wondering what I was doing and where I was. I felt like that kept me on his mind. To my knowledge, he never cheated on me either. He was just so perfect in everyone elses eyes, I thought someone could possibly take him away from me. The fights got worse and we began to going to the extreme in mean and hurtful things we would say to each other. It finally came to the point where we split up and we started dating other people. I thought he would never be over me and i thought he would be easy to replace. I have dated and been marriedcan divorced since then. He got married as well and is still to this day. I knew his would last because if anyone let him, he would be a perfect husband and father. Yes, they have kids now too. I run into him and his family from time to time. When I see him, the bottom of my stomach feels like butterflies at first then it starts to hurt all the way into my heart. I miss the little things he would do, not to mention the caring and compassion he had for me. Now someone else is living the life that I should have had. I thought I could just start all over and be ok without him. I know by the way he looks at me when he sees me til this day, that he still loves me somewhere down deep inside. He is too much a good person to act on it because of his family. I wouldn't do that anyway. He told me that he would always be there for me and I know he would. I never put him in the predicament to help me or talk to me because why conflict his new life. I have made mistakes, but that was my worst. I still love him to this day, though all my other relationships and marriage. I don't do anything without wondering what he would think. Don't make the mistake I have made. Whether you are a man or woman. You know if you love someone and can't get them out of your head. Make it work people. You have to give as much or more than you receive to make it work. But it will be worth it.
i could have sworn i have read this from some where else ,did you copy this from some-where.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#17 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
l have made a lot of mistakes in my life and I have never regretted any of them because without mistakes, you don't learn and get stronger. Although, there is one mistake in my life that I do regret every day of my life. I try to help and give free advise on this site and others just to help people not make that same mistake I have made. So let me begin... I use to have this man in my life that we were both so much in love with each other. He had his faults and i had mine. We started getting into the rhythm of trying to be the one in control of of the other one. I was very jealous and he was too. I never actually cheated on him, however I have him every reason to think that i did. I liked it when he was always wondering what I was doing and where I was. I felt like that kept me on his mind. To my knowledge, he never cheated on me either. He was just so perfect in everyone elses eyes, I thought someone could possibly take him away from me. The fights got worse and we began to going to the extreme in mean and hurtful things we would say to each other. It finally came to the point where we split up and we started dating other people. I thought he would never be over me and i thought he would be easy to replace. I have dated and been marriedcan divorced since then. He got married as well and is still to this day. I knew his would last because if anyone let him, he would be a perfect husband and father. Yes, they have kids now too. I run into him and his family from time to time. When I see him, the bottom of my stomach feels like butterflies at first then it starts to hurt all the way into my heart. I miss the little things he would do, not to mention the caring and compassion he had for me. Now someone else is living the life that I should have had. I thought I could just start all over and be ok without him. I know by the way he looks at me when he sees me til this day, that he still loves me somewhere down deep inside. He is too much a good person to act on it because of his family. I wouldn't do that anyway. He told me that he would always be there for me and I know he would. I never put him in the predicament to help me or talk to me because why conflict his new life. I have made mistakes, but that was my worst. I still love him to this day, though all my other relationships and marriage. I don't do anything without wondering what he would think. Don't make the mistake I have made. Whether you are a man or woman. You know if you love someone and can't get them out of your head. Make it work people. You have to give as much or more than you receive to make it work. But it will be worth it.
Very well said and respectful. You can always loose the love of your life and it is when it comes back to you that you know it is meant to be. maybe a few years from now it will change. Maybe not. as long as you let him be happily married and dont run any type of interfearance then he will respect you. Dont let ppl on here bring you down. I did the exact same thing as you wrote on here. I let him go or broke up with him because I was tired of his ways and yadda yadda. I still care for him but I left that small town and never looked back. Im not married and he just got married awhile back. I know he is happy and Im tickled for him. Just dont wait forever for him because you will waste your life away. try to avoid him as much as possible bc the more you are around him the more you might make a mistake. wish you luck!!!

“To Thine Ownself Be True”

Since: Jan 13

All of Space and Time

#18 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
I have moved on and am ok now. All I am saying, you never get over that piece missing inside you. I have a normal life, great kid and live a happy life. You cant control that feeling when you see a coffee cup, a jacket, a truck, hear an old familiar song or eat a certain food that reminds me of him. I reminisce for a second or two and then I carry on. I'm just saying you don't want to end up wondering bout what might of been.
I know exactly what you're talking about. I too know the pain of loss and the constant struggle to keep emotions in check when there are reminders all around. It's difficult to be secretly in love with someone and be powerless to do anything about it. Especially if the one you love is with someone else. It's okay to have the feelings for that other person, but if they're with another it isn't okay to act on those feelings. Be happy that they're doing okay, if you truly love them then their happiness will be enough to soothe you, even if they aren't with you.
Yo Mama Obama

Mills River, NC

#19 Feb 5, 2013
Sometimes common people make mistakes , but I never have. Yes everything is going just like I planned.

Praise Allah (Obama = perfection)
the facts

Durham, NC

#20 Feb 5, 2013
love guru wrote:
I have moved on and am ok now. All I am saying, you never get over that piece missing inside you. I have a normal life, great kid and live a happy life. You cant control that feeling when you see a coffee cup, a jacket, a truck, hear an old familiar song or eat a certain food that reminds me of him. I reminisce for a second or two and then I carry on. I'm just saying you don't want to end up wondering bout what might of been.
I am not trying to be mean. I have had the shoe on both feet. That is why I said what I did. I still have thoughts about my ex but, I have also had an ex try to come back into my life and the feelings wasn't the same anymore. For some "The heart refuses to surrender completely a piece of it's heart." I'm glad you are not letting this run your life. Good luck always!

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