Cause of death ruled a suicide in missing Penfield teen

The Monroe County Medical Examiner's Office has ruled the manner of death a suicide in the case of the missing 15-year-old Penfield boy Andrew Dezio. Full Story
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guess what

Rochester, NY

#47 Jan 19, 2008
father was mean, always yelling at him
guess what

Rochester, NY

#48 Jan 20, 2008
]his father was a mean guy always yelling at him a person can only take so much
rozShoem

Fairport, NY

#49 Jan 20, 2008
guess what wrote:
father was mean, always yelling at him
Hi,
It was my understanding that the father had been trying to help his son. I believe someone said that the father had told authorities that the boy had been having a rough day or something. It was my understanding that although the school authorities and boy's peers said boy was happy, etc....that it was the father who knew his son was having a rough time on that day. His knowing that information is what led authorities to realize the boy had suicided. From what I understand, the father believed the boy to be having difficulty but others did not. The father's insight as to the boy having a rough time fortunately allowed authorities to conclude how the boy had died. I heard the father say on tv that the situation (before body was found)had been very draining, exhausting for him. It certainly is a tragedy.
rozShoem

Fairport, NY

#50 Jan 20, 2008
DCH wrote:
Right after discovering him the sherrif's dept said there was no sign of foul play.
I too wondered how they could not have found him with K-9's. I have driven to the area and the wooded spot he was in is very small, yes we had snow but it wasn't that deep, a dog could easily run through it and through the wooded lot. Also there are houses very close by this wooded lot. I would like to know the details of the search.
Hi,
The method of death in terms of how they found him does not totally rule out foul play. Sometimes "suicides" are creatively staged. There must have been other factors contributing to the speedy ruling.

DCH

Since: Jan 08

Penfield

#51 Jan 21, 2008
guess what wrote:
father was mean, always yelling at him
Really? That is so sad. As a parent I know how you can get upset with your kids but in the end I would lay down my life for them.
Was his dad selfish, as far as his life coming before his children's? From some of the blogs I have read on various sights seems like it.

DCH

Since: Jan 08

Penfield

#52 Jan 21, 2008
rozShoem wrote:
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Hi,
It was my understanding that the father had been trying to help his son. I believe someone said that the father had told authorities that the boy had been having a rough day or something. It was my understanding that although the school authorities and boy's peers said boy was happy, etc....that it was the father who knew his son was having a rough time on that day. His knowing that information is what led authorities to realize the boy had suicided. From what I understand, the father believed the boy to be having difficulty but others did not. The father's insight as to the boy having a rough time fortunately allowed authorities to conclude how the boy had died. I heard the father say on tv that the situation (before body was found)had been very draining, exhausting for him. It certainly is a tragedy.
If you knew your son was having a rough day and not acting like himself, which I heard his father say on an interview with the news, and your son takes of in freezing weather upset, not dressed for it why do you wait until the next day to call police?
I don't want to blame the father but I am sorry after an hour I would have been out searching myself after two hours I would have called authorities.
rozShoem

Fairport, NY

#53 Jan 23, 2008
DCH wrote:
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If you knew your son was having a rough day and not acting like himself, which I heard his father say on an interview with the news, and your son takes of in freezing weather upset, not dressed for it why do you wait until the next day to call police?
I don't want to blame the father but I am sorry after an hour I would have been out searching myself after two hours I would have called authorities.
Hi,
I agree that I would be out the door behind him had I been in the same situation. Therefore, this tells me that something about the situation may have involved other factors. Today young people have cell phones, he may have thought his son planned to call a friend...possibly stay with a friend overnight. Comments seem to be consistent that this teenager was well liked and had a lot of friends. It would be logical for the father to either expect his son back within minutes because he was not dressed appropriately for the cold, or that he might stay with someone. No parent would guess his/her child is standing in the cold within 2 blocks of his/her home contemplating and then commiting suicide. If I were to end my life in this same way, it would seem that I left the house in seconds in a rage....so quickly I had not taken time to dress warmly....I would not have had the time to select an item to use to enable me to assist me in completing my goal, ending my life. The other part of the situation that would seem strange.....is that this item was something that evidentally would need to be used for its intended purpose that it had been used for on a day to day basis. It would seem that someone would have started looking for that item, would have "missed" that item after a few hours...... given the state of affairs when this individual left the house....I think that I would have put the two and two together. Yes, I would have been concerned. On the other hand, I do not have teenagers at home. I know that parent-teen encounters can sometimes be very stressful and it is sometimes beyond difficult to accurately assess or analyze situations as they occur. Emotions and exhaustion sometimes get in the way. I believe there is a certain necessary timeframe before authorities will search for a missing person and/or for missing person info to be submitted. Does anyone have accurate info regarding timeframes?
saddened

Schenectady, NY

#54 Jan 23, 2008
DCH wrote:
I feel the same way about this story, my son keeps telling me I am obsessed. I find myself looking up videos and blogs on facebook and spacebook to see Andrew and his friends. I have been so sad about it and that he was hurting so very much that he couldn't reach out to someone. I too have been praying everyday for his family and that hopefully he has found peace.
on a slightly different topic-you said you looked at the blogs of his friends. i also did and was shocked over a couple of things. first, there is a recent post in which one girl calls another a "random f%&k." i could not believe how incredibly mean spirited this individual could be to another person. the one girl had reached out to the other in kindness and that was how she responded. my feelings were so hurt for the girl. i also felt it was completely inappropriate to say in a public forum and inappropriate considering the purpose of the group. you said you had a son that age. is that how teens treat eachother? it would break my heart if someone was so mean to my daughter.

i was also surprised by the content of some of the girl's profiles. they seemed very sexualized. is it common for 15 and 16 year old girls to want to look skanky? do their parents look at their profiles?!!

i guess i am out of touch and in for some surprises when my daughters reach the teenage years!

DCH

Since: Jan 08

Penfield

#55 Jan 24, 2008
saddened wrote:
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on a slightly different topic-you said you looked at the blogs of his friends. i also did and was shocked over a couple of things. first, there is a recent post in which one girl calls another a "random f%&k." i could not believe how incredibly mean spirited this individual could be to another person. the one girl had reached out to the other in kindness and that was how she responded. my feelings were so hurt for the girl. i also felt it was completely inappropriate to say in a public forum and inappropriate considering the purpose of the group. you said you had a son that age. is that how teens treat eachother? it would break my heart if someone was so mean to my daughter.
i was also surprised by the content of some of the girl's profiles. they seemed very sexualized. is it common for 15 and 16 year old girls to want to look skanky? do their parents look at their profiles?!!
i guess i am out of touch and in for some surprises when my daughters reach the teenage years!
Unfortunately alot of teens do treat each other with lack of respect, adults too for that matter. It shocked me too to read that, I have my son and a teenage daughter. And yes many of the girls look "skanky" that is the exact term I use with my children as I see these girls coming out of the high school when I pick my son up. I think that some parents don't pay attention, some parents are too busy working or doing their own thing or you have the mothers that try to look like a 20 something themselves, I see them all the time.....right now my son knows not to be bringing home a "skanky" dressed girl, when he does bring one home to meet me....hasn't happened yet and hopefully not for awhile. I think too there are alot of adults who don't treat people with respect and the children see this and learn that this way is ok.
My daughter had a "friend" that treated her terribly, I happened to see some emails unbeknownst to my daughter where this girl called her terrible names, swore at her. She was supposedly her best friend. I copied the email and sent it to her mom with a note like a FYI and I would want to know if my daughter was treating someone like this and she completely ignored it, mind you she had been to my home several times and had many conversations so we weren't strangers. Thankfully my daughter took my advice and ended the friendship, she has never regretted it...but it was a very long road.
Jenna

Honeoye Falls, NY

#56 Feb 21, 2008
my sister heard about Andrew i n school and when she came home from school she was crying and i said what's wrong and she said that Andrew they found him dead. and i felt really bad for my sister. But at least Andrew is in a good place right now.
zach

United States

#57 May 29, 2008
jackass wrote:
nice going dad all that over a video game "GAME OVER"
how dare you. andrew was a great friend of mine. people like you deserve to die, not people like Andrew dezio. and Greg dezio is a great man who happened to get in a fight with his son, so go die.
Cooter

Washington, DC

#58 May 29, 2008
I guess he showed him!!!!!!!
kaelyn bondy

Troy, NY

#59 Jun 9, 2008
bryan dezio went to penfield highschool with my sister and it was sad to hear about his death. he has a brother that graduated
kay

United States

#60 Jun 24, 2008
saddened wrote:
<quoted text>
on a slightly different topic-you said you looked at the blogs of his friends. i also did and was shocked over a couple of things. first, there is a recent post in which one girl calls another a "random f%&k." i could not believe how incredibly mean spirited this individual could be to another person. the one girl had reached out to the other in kindness and that was how she responded. my feelings were so hurt for the girl. i also felt it was completely inappropriate to say in a public forum and inappropriate considering the purpose of the group.
by the way i said random ____ but if you read what the other girl said it was not out of kindness and that girl did not even know andrew and you may ask how i know that well lets just say im a girl who actually gave andrew the time of day spent time with him outside of school and thought i knew andrew and well if i thought iknew andrew it was better than people such as that girl who made the comment prior to mine.
thanks for caring so much as to what i said to another girl that made a comment not out of kindness.
fun555

Rochester, NY

#61 Feb 28, 2009
Its called "Thinning the heard" people.
Hallie dezio

Sodus, NY

#62 Feb 25, 2013
I love and miss you andrew<3
Cousins forever. Always remember never forget <3

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