unfair child support amount
Dad of Four

Hyattsville, MD

#105 Apr 17, 2012
Pooper Trooper wrote:
<quoted text>I know some states actually have a Show Cause Order that the PAYING oarent can file. I know Delaware does. That's where I pay my Child Support. Every 3 months I file the paper, drag my Ex into court and have her show proof of where my money is going. 3 times over the last 4 years she was unable to provide any receipts and was FINED by the court. Look into this if you want proof of where your payments are going.
Does a mortgage or rent constitute "where your money is going"? How about utilities and groceries? Then there's sporting equipment, school supplies, clothing, shoes, etc. And we can't forget movies and video games and cell phones! Kids can't be without a cell phone today, and they insist on being constantly entertained. They can't go outside and build a tree house or a fort! They can't ride bikes or roller blade or skate or anything that might cause them to drop a pound. How can a mother be 'fined' if she is providing all of the above and more?
Pooper Trooper

High Point, NC

#106 Apr 17, 2012
Dad of Four wrote:
<quoted text>
Does a mortgage or rent constitute "where your money is going"? How about utilities and groceries? Then there's sporting equipment, school supplies, clothing, shoes, etc. And we can't forget movies and video games and cell phones! Kids can't be without a cell phone today, and they insist on being constantly entertained. They can't go outside and build a tree house or a fort! They can't ride bikes or roller blade or skate or anything that might cause them to drop a pound. How can a mother be 'fined' if she is providing all of the above and more?
She can be fined for not showing PROOF of where the money went. By filing the show cause order I FORCE her to have to account for where MY money is being spent. I started this after my daughter informed me that Mom went out bought herself a 60" Plasma, an Entertainment center, a Laptop and her husband an XBOX 360 with a lump payment I had sent. All the while my daughter needed things as was not getting them. My ex and her husband combined make over 100k a year. They surely don't "need" my $, but I have no problem sending it since it is MY child.

Last year I was actually able to have the Child Support revoked. How you ask? Simple. I found out my daughter was living with her grandmother for the prior 3 months (still is to this day) yet my payments were still being sent to my Ex. She was forced to REPAY me 3 months of Child support which was then handed over to my ex mother inlaw. She doesnt want any child support from me, so in turn , anytime my daughter wants something, I make sure she has it.
Dad of Four

Hyattsville, MD

#107 Apr 18, 2012
Pooper Trooper wrote:
<quoted text>I FORCE her to have to account for where MY money is being spent. I started this after my daughter informed me that Mom went out bought herself a 60" Plasma, an Entertainment center, a Laptop and her husband an XBOX 360 with a lump payment I had sent. All the while my daughter needed things as was not getting them.
Well, that is pretty disgusting! I'd have done exactly what you did. Way to go, Fellow Dad.
single mom

United States

#108 Apr 18, 2012
Where do you people get these state support minimums? I received $50 for 2 years while my ex worked 40 hours a week and attended college part time. I was told that it was a sacrifice I had to make soy child would be better taken care of. During this time, he got $550 behind.....yeah 11 months of no payments.
But, that was then and I was young and stupid. Here is a pointer for those getting screwed over by deadbeats...
You can have it put in your child support order that he has to give you a copy of his W2. If he gets a raise or a bonus, his child is entitled to part of that. Trust me, they are more willing to help with other things if they think they are going to have to go back to court.

Plus, I am not a sit on my ass mother. I work to support my child. My husband works and carries insurance on my child/his step child. 80% of my support goes to a savings account set up for my kid. I only use what I have to on medical copays, stuff to take to the fathers house or on vacations with his family, etc. I am fortunate to be able to put some aside for my child's future, not all mothers are. I wasnt alway able to. I know that when my child is 18 and support stops, I will be scraping together what I can to give them the opportunity to go to college and hopefully what I have put away will help some. So, to all those a hole deadbeats thinking all baby mommas are out buying coach purses and buckle jeans with their money, not all of us are.
Columbus

Saint Albans, WV

#109 Apr 22, 2012
How do the majority of father's in west virginia only pay 50 to 100 month child support regardless of income. What a bunch of sorry bitches these dads are. I make 45,000 a year I pay 750.00 per kid each month. I have two kids I pay 1,500.00 per month. sounds like the women in this area need to stop having children with the type of man that pays 50 a month. If your man wears a mullet in 2012 then you deserve what you get.
Columbus

Saint Albans, WV

#110 Apr 22, 2012
If your man looks like Joe Dirt or MacGruber then all I can say is DUH!!!!!!!!!!

Since: Mar 12

Location hidden

#111 Apr 24, 2012
Here's a solution everyone... Use a condom! Stop having kids you can't afford
smh

Parkersburg, WV

#112 Apr 26, 2012
You moms that "depend" on child support from dads amaze me. You complain that you need that money for rent, food ect...but what do you plan to do when that kid reaches 18 and it STOPS. I have a child that I receive child support for, and guess what, it is hers. To do whatever it is that she wants. If she wants a pair of jeans from Hollister, she can buy them, but she know that what she gets is all that she will have, and this has taught her to budget her money, and I am very proud to say that she has quite a chunk saved. Teach your kids some responsibility, and learn some for yourself in the process. If I didn't have her, guess what, I would still have to pay a mortgage, electric and so forth. If you can't afford to support yourself without child support, get an education and do something about it, unless you plan on finding some other sucker to live off of for the rest of your life.
blahblahblah

Oklahoma City, OK

#113 Apr 26, 2012
If you people would not go out and f*ck complete losers, then you would not have to worry about child support. Oh, and I have read that condoms work, but maybe these losers don't even have enough money to buy those......hmmmm...... Oh yeah, health departments all over the country will give them out for free. Holy SH*T!!! Here's another idea, instead of posting on here go get another job, or in most of your cases, a job.
Advice

Oakvale, WV

#114 Apr 27, 2012
Child support is a joke. About as much of a joke as the people who work in child support.

Unless the person you're trying to collect child support from has a legitimate job, you're not getting it. Although the amount that person owes will continue to increase and collect interest (for the state to keep, not for you!), you'll never get it unless the person is working. If unpaid, the person goes to jail, but you still don't get any money.

I had to file for child support when I left the hospital when I had my child. It was mandatory since I was unmarried at the time even though the father and I were together, living in the same household, and financially supporting each other just fine without state interference.

Then, we split up while the child was still a newborn. Anyway, I never received any money from child support, no matter how badly I needed it (they kept their fees first with what little money they could collect), until I started a very well paid career myself. With that job, I didn't need child support as I made more than enough money for regular full-time hours of work. But they finally decided to send me money once I wasn't in such need.

Several years later, his father and I get back together. We move in together and began supporting each other financially again, as he also now had a well-paid job. We immediately informed child support to please stop taking money from us since we were living together. They kept collecting money from our family and holding it in some account somewhere. Of course they couldn't tell us anything about this account, including the actual total amount that was currently in it at any given time.

They continued to collect money while we were waiting for a supposed order to attend court to determine who gets what amount (since he owed child support from the past as well as what they were still collecting from us). The order never came. Several months later, we happened to be at the courthouse, went to the circuit clerk's office ourselves, and asked to be served. They couldn't find our paperwork, but they eventually did.

Several months later, we finally reach our court date. Of course, all of their records of what was collected were incorrect. Luckily, I had kept every pay stub and the info from his taxes showing the amounts they had collected and kept. Surprise, surprise... they actually owed us double what they were claiming they had collected.

Several months later, we finally received all of our money back. Wonder how many thousands of dollars they collected in interest from holding OUR money in THEIR "account"? I think they should also have to provide official documentation of this amount of money as well and give it to us, as interest for the year that they were just collecting and holding our money for no reason. But of course, they kept it for themselves. That's how they make their cut of the money owed. That, or somebody's personal pockets became awfully fat from it.

Since: Apr 12

Ardsley, NY

#115 Apr 27, 2012
Epic fail wrote:
<quoted text>Exactly, dead beat parents need to not be allowed to even drive a car unless they are abiding by the rules. Drivers licenses should be revoked if they aren't paying. Maybe they should go without (like their children do) they need a frigging taste of their own medicine.
It costs $11,000 a year to raise a child. Hard to believe but it's true, consider the gas to go to activities, clothing, hair cuts and any other activity(zoo, sports, bowling) doctors appts,medicine, clothing. I could go on and on.
real smart idea take there license then they can't drive to work so then you won't get nothing!
notawestvirginia n

Sandyville, WV

#116 May 10, 2012
ATTN: Stupid women if you have sex with WHITE TRASH men you will continue to get the big 50.00 a month. Your fault you deserve what you get. When you mess around with the trash with the tatoo on the neck type. If you had a kid by someone who wasn't dead beat white trash you would get a fair amount. If you had a kid by a guy making 50 or 60 thousand a year you would be getting around 700.00 to 900.00 a month.
Wow

Hyattsville, MD

#117 May 11, 2012
Here's an idea...

How about WAITING to have a child with a responsible man who has a good job and who loves you and any children he will produce with you? WAIT on Mr. Right, fall in love, get married, THEN have children. WORK on your marriage and your parenting skills every day and STAY together. Problem solved.

We are too "throw away" in America today, even when that includes marriage and children.
real world

Ardsley, NY

#118 May 11, 2012
Wow wrote:
Here's an idea...

How about WAITING to have a child with a responsible man who has a good job and who loves you and any children he will produce with you? WAIT on Mr. Right, fall in love, get married, THEN have children. WORK on your marriage and your parenting skills every day and STAY together. Problem solved.

We are too "throw away" in America today, even when that includes marriage and children.
Most of the people on here are living in the real world, not some perfect imaginary one where the men are perfect and even help out with kids and take out the trash!!!! Get real TARD!

In the real world, you get married have a child and the man meets a women at work. She's an only child set to inherit quite the sum of money from her moneybag parents. So, even tho she is quite the whale and not real pretty, he leaves his new wife and baby for the heiress.
Not all women are whores just out giving it away for free. Nice to see you and the others out there classifying all single mothers as party girl sluts out for a thrill or a baby and a check!! Many of us were the victim. And before you make your smart remarks, I am not ugly, I am not fat!! I am a pretty young mother who recently remarried an amazing looking man. As for you, I hope your little fairytale comes true for you because most of the time it doesn't!
Wow

Hyattsville, MD

#119 May 14, 2012
real world wrote:
<quoted text>
Most of the people on here are living in the real world, not some perfect imaginary one where the men are perfect and even help out with kids and take out the trash!!!! Get real TARD!
In the real world, you get married have a child and the man meets a women at work. She's an only child set to inherit quite the sum of money from her moneybag parents. So, even tho she is quite the whale and not real pretty, he leaves his new wife and baby for the heiress.
Not all women are whores just out giving it away for free. Nice to see you and the others out there classifying all single mothers as party girl sluts out for a thrill or a baby and a check!! Many of us were the victim. And before you make your smart remarks, I am not ugly, I am not fat!! I am a pretty young mother who recently remarried an amazing looking man. As for you, I hope your little fairytale comes true for you because most of the time it doesn't!
In YOUR 'real world'- that YOU'VE created. Sorry for your luck, Chick. Get a little common sense, and you won't be screwed over like the dumb arse you are.
Wow

Hyattsville, MD

#120 May 14, 2012
And, by the way, I'm living my 'fairytale' so don't be a HATER!
KARMA

Ardsley, NY

#121 May 14, 2012
To all those trashing the single mothers on here, WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND!!!!! It may not happen to you, but you may be the parent of one of these deadbeat dads getting by with the bare minimum. Better yet, maybe your daughter will have a relationship with one of these losers and end up with $50 a month to take care of a child on. Will you label your own daughter a whore???? Are you gonna tell her how stupid she is and that her child deserves no better because she was slutting around??? What if she is still in high school? Ya gonna make her have an abortion? I bet you will be really embarrassed then! Maybe you will change your tune and see that not all women screwed over by men, are easy. Karma will catch up to you! We don't have to know who you are or when it happens, but we all know it will happen!
Wow

Hyattsville, MD

#122 May 14, 2012
Children LEARN what they live,

and

Children LIVE what they learn.
puuuleez

Parkersburg, WV

#123 May 14, 2012
real world wrote:
<quoted text>
Most of the people on here are living in the real world, not some perfect imaginary one where the men are perfect and even help out with kids and take out the trash!!!! Get real TARD!
In the real world, you get married have a child and the man meets a women at work. She's an only child set to inherit quite the sum of money from her moneybag parents. So, even tho she is quite the whale and not real pretty, he leaves his new wife and baby for the heiress.
Not all women are whores just out giving it away for free. Nice to see you and the others out there classifying all single mothers as party girl sluts out for a thrill or a baby and a check!! Many of us were the victim. And before you make your smart remarks, I am not ugly, I am not fat!! I am a pretty young mother who recently remarried an amazing looking man. As for you, I hope your little fairytale comes true for you because most of the time it doesn't!
And then there are those of us, quite grounded in the real world, who have based our relationships on something more than looks. My husband and I may not be Barbie and Ken, but he is a damn good involved father who is there for our 4 children and holy crap...he takes out the trash AND mows the yard!

Moms...get an education and support yourselves, even if you have remarried. Quit depending on a mans income or child support!
Really

Ardsley, NY

#124 May 15, 2012
Wow wrote:
Children LEARN what they live,

and

Children LIVE what they learn.
So your parents were hypocrites and you're raising some wee little hypocrites, too?!?!? Good job!!!!

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