young teen girl sleeping with 20 yr old

young teen girl sleeping with 20 yr old

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a concerned parent

Hendersonville, NC

#1 Jul 9, 2010
I have a friend who is hurt and confused on how to go about handeling her boyfriend of 3 years and who is the dad to her to youngest kids, one who is a little over a year and the other was born just last week who has left her and is now messing with a 15 or 16 year old little girl. The way I understand it the guy doesn't help out with the kids, and hasn't called or asked to see them since the little baby was born. someone contacted the parents of this little girl and told them what their daughter was doing, and I believe that the little girls parents were in all denial. So if the parents won't do anything is their anything my friend can do? I mean it's not right for him to have helped her have these two babies and not help her raise them, and now starting messing around with a little girl who has hot pants.
Wish

Memphis, TN

#2 Jul 9, 2010
Wish I had the right words to help out but sorry. If her parents do not care enough to take charge of their daughter then this girl could end up like your friend with a new baby and no one to help. It happens everywhere and unfortunately the trend just keeps going and going. 20 yr old boy and 15 year old girl could cause him LOTS of trouble with the police.
Female

Drummonds, TN

#3 Jul 9, 2010
Well you cant make a dead beat dad help with the kids. All you can do is go to DHS or court and at least make him pay child support. I believe I know the person you are referring to though but I will not name names. I fell sorry for the two babies though at least they have a mom to take care of them! Their father should step up and start being a daddy, but Unfortunatly you see it all the time fathers who just dont do what they should. Keep your head up!

“You want me but....”

Since: Dec 09

I'm so mean

#4 Jul 9, 2010
Female wrote:
Well you cant make a dead beat dad help with the kids. All you can do is go to DHS or court and at least make him pay child support. I believe I know the person you are referring to though but I will not name names. I fell sorry for the two babies though at least they have a mom to take care of them! Their father should step up and start being a daddy, but Unfortunatly you see it all the time fathers who just dont do what they should. Keep your head up!
Statutory rape is against the law though. Does it matter what the parents say? The state could take that up I believe. I would talk to the juvinile authorities.
female

United States

#5 Jul 10, 2010
That's not gonna help the girl with two kids! Regardless of the age of who the guy is messing with I doubt he is gonna change regardless. Yes he is wrong! Let's hope that's not really the age of the girl cause if so that makes him sick!
sickmen

United States

#6 Jul 10, 2010
yeah that is sick! There's alot of grown ass men in this town messing with young girls , young girls acting like they're grown & parents who don't make time to give a damn.
why

Ripley, TN

#7 Jul 10, 2010
Why is she having kids without being married to him in the first place.Getting what she deserves.Don't worry,Hell get on walfare I'll take care of them.
lol

United States

#8 Jul 10, 2010
why wrote:
Why is she having kids without being married to him in the first place.Getting what she deserves.Don't worry,Hell get on walfare I'll take care of them.
lol, that's funny, but I agree with you. Go sign up for food stamps, wic, and welfare...the state will go after him then for sure...lol Here's the point though, I think there some jealousy over the new girlfriend it wouldn't matter the age if someone don't love you anymore it's over...point blank...All you can do now is put the kids first...A lot of you are downing a man for dating a young girl...whoop d doo...if she's 16 and he's 20 that only four years difference, if they're not having sex; it's not illegal. There's a lot of married couples who have a bigger age gap than 4 years... If she was like real young I could see more of a concern or if he was say in his thirties that would be a problem...But if he's on 20 and she's 16, it's four years and they may be soul mates...who knows???

“You want me but....”

Since: Dec 09

I'm so mean

#9 Jul 10, 2010
lol wrote:
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lol, that's funny, but I agree with you. Go sign up for food stamps, wic, and welfare...the state will go after him then for sure...lol Here's the point though, I think there some jealousy over the new girlfriend it wouldn't matter the age if someone don't love you anymore it's over...point blank...All you can do now is put the kids first...A lot of you are downing a man for dating a young girl...whoop d doo...if she's 16 and he's 20 that only four years difference, if they're not having sex; it's not illegal. There's a lot of married couples who have a bigger age gap than 4 years... If she was like real young I could see more of a concern or if he was say in his thirties that would be a problem...But if he's on 20 and she's 16, it's four years and they may be soul mates...who knows???
4 years use to be statutory rape. May still be. How do you know that they're not having sex?
why

Ripley, TN

#10 Jul 10, 2010
Words right out of my mouth.
a concerned parent

United States

#11 Jul 10, 2010
I don't think my friend is so much worried about him dating someone else I think her main concern is her kids, and him not helping, and let's just say he does start helping, and he does start getting visitation to the babies, I can see where she would be concerned about him taking her babies around this little young girl, who I am pretty sure is 15 not 16 anyway. How much can a 15 year old know about taking care of two babies less than two years old. oh and how many people actually get married these days anyway all marriage is anymore is a freaking peice of paper. Amd of I am not mistaken the 20 year old boyfriend is still messing with her emotions telling her that he loves her, and blah blah blah. I am just glad she has her guard up and is not letting him come back. I do know that he has already taken the oldest baby out town around all those kids, not very daddy like at all. and I know that my friend threw a hissy fit about that!
WHY

Ripley, TN

#12 Jul 10, 2010
Sounds to me like your friend can not take rejection.Like lol said welfare is always there for the ignorant that can't take care of themselves and there children.
female

United States

#13 Jul 10, 2010
Obviously it sounds like this 20 year old is not ready to grow up and be a dad, and if she is worried about the children's safety then I wouldn't want them to be around him anyway at least not by their selves. So if he wants to see them bad enough then he will agree to the moms terms. How old is the mother? Surely she is old enough to know if they aren't married he has no rights to the children unless they been to court which I doubt. So the ball is in her court.
a concerned parent

United States

#14 Jul 10, 2010
I am not real sure, but I do know that she knows her rights she went through a bad divorce and I think her main concern is that this is the second family she has started that is not going to work out, like I said I think she could really care less about the guy dating someone else, it's my understanding that they have been having problems for the past year or so, she was just trying to make things work for the kids sake. but like I told her this is really her fault as much as it is his because she should have known better than dating a younger guy and having kids, boys mature much slower than girls...
why

Ripley, TN

#15 Jul 10, 2010
Kids having kids.Grow up before you have children I have to support

“You want me but....”

Since: Dec 09

I'm so mean

#16 Jul 10, 2010
She needs to accept that she's the mom and dad and not expect sh** from him. Don't ask for nothing and you never have to deal with him or his playmates. Even though you probably won't get nothing even if you ask.
guest

Sioux City, IA

#17 Jul 10, 2010
a concerned parent wrote:
I have a friend who is hurt and confused on how to go about handeling her boyfriend of 3 years and who is the dad to her to youngest kids, one who is a little over a year and the other was born just last week who has left her and is now messing with a 15 or 16 year old little girl. The way I understand it the guy doesn't help out with the kids, and hasn't called or asked to see them since the little baby was born. someone contacted the parents of this little girl and told them what their daughter was doing, and I believe that the little girls parents were in all denial. So if the parents won't do anything is their anything my friend can do? I mean it's not right for him to have helped her have these two babies and not help her raise them, and now starting messing around with a little girl who has hot pants.
If all of this is true, someone should report him to the police and dept. of human services. First of all, this is statutory rape. Secondly, if he will leave one girlfriend with children to take care of, he could do the same to this girl. My advice to the girls is to wait until marriage to have sex and then you won't find yourself unmarried and alone with children to raise.
guest

Sioux City, IA

#18 Jul 10, 2010
sickmen wrote:
yeah that is sick! There's alot of grown ass men in this town messing with young girls , young girls acting like they're grown & parents who don't make time to give a damn.
Where are the parents of these young girls? 15 and 16 year olds are not mature enough to make their own decisions. Wake up, parents! Know where your children are and what they are doing before it's too late!
guest

Sioux City, IA

#19 Jul 10, 2010
why wrote:
Why is she having kids without being married to him in the first place.Getting what she deserves.Don't worry,Hell get on walfare I'll take care of them.
The sad fact is the taxpayers foot the bill. They ought to make the dads pay! And if the girls don't want to reveal the dad's identity, they shouldn't be given welfare.
Just stating the facts

Ripley, TN

#20 Jul 10, 2010
a concerned parent wrote:
I have a friend who is hurt and confused on how to go about handeling her boyfriend of 3 years and who is the dad to her to youngest kids, one who is a little over a year and the other was born just last week who has left her and is now messing with a 15 or 16 year old little girl. The way I understand it the guy doesn't help out with the kids, and hasn't called or asked to see them since the little baby was born. someone contacted the parents of this little girl and told them what their daughter was doing, and I believe that the little girls parents were in all denial. So if the parents won't do anything is their anything my friend can do? I mean it's not right for him to have helped her have these two babies and not help her raise them, and now starting messing around with a little girl who has hot pants.
I'm sorry but there were signs from thi whole situation way before he left. If he is the pedifile that you or she claims, that was not an overnight revelation. Theree were signs a long time ago. If that is true, why allow yourself to get pregnant? Woman have to use our heads.
Tennessee law tells that anyone that has a sexual relationship w/ anyone under 18, it is illegal. If the parents are not concerned, that places them in harms way also. They can be charged as well.
Sounds like your friemd should look at raising her children herself because he doesn't need to be an influence in their lives anyway.

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