Out of control 18year old
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Curious

San Diego, CA

#22 Feb 2, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.

What is the exact issue? See many 18 year old kids are finding their own, and having to live with democratic parents, and finally realizing they are plain trash, but not knowing how to get away from the welfare trash and finally be an upstanding Republican.

This creates issues because the parents are unsure how to handle a child that want to be successful and happy and not live within the welfare system.

So my advice is simple. If you want your 18 year old to respect you? Get a job. Support yourself. Get yourself off the dope. Stop selling your body for drug money. Stop asking her to help you make the cash.

Give that kid something to be proud of and she will make you proud too. Or as proud as a drunken, doped up, ran down, pill head, can be.

Good Luck.
Time Out

Kuttawa, KY

#23 Feb 2, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.
!TIME OUT!

What exactly, in detail, is she doing that is so bad?
Well

Murray, KY

#24 Feb 3, 2013
Send her to me, I will tame her with my root!
where have you been

Henderson, KY

#25 Feb 3, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.
This didn't happen overnight. What were you doing about her rude, foul mouth before? She's an adult. You flunked.
to be honest

Henderson, KY

#26 Feb 3, 2013
where have you been wrote:
<quoted text>This didn't happen overnight. What were you doing about her rude, foul mouth before? She's an adult. You flunked.
Oh please!
Knows

Nicholasville, KY

#27 Feb 5, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.
It is hard to do.. but put her out! I have been there and my life is much better. Your right, they turn the whole family upside down, and the siblings suffer WORSE than the parents. They break up the family and down the road, NEVER change. Everytime you know they are coming, your stomach turns inside out, and that is exactly what I would do. I hate when the parents get the bashing, because you can raise them in Church, have good role models around them, and the exact opposite is what they run too. Fast forward, three to four years down the road, and they still disrespect you. I promise.. put her out! They don't get better the older they get, just worse.
Knows

Nicholasville, KY

#28 Feb 5, 2013
where have you been wrote:
<quoted text>
This didn't happen overnight. What were you doing about her rude, foul mouth before? She's an adult. You flunked.
Your so stupid, there are alot of parent's going through this. You have no right to tell her she flunked. You can put a bad kid, in counseling, send them off, Church and be a good citizen yourself and they still can turn out like that. I am sure he/she has done all they know to do. You have no right, to say that to her. Sounds like you might of been a bad one too, because you have ATTITUDE issues. Judge yourself, quit telling others they flunked. She/he ask what they can do.. not to be judged. IDIOT!!
Hey

Nicholasville, KY

#29 Feb 5, 2013
Curious wrote:
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What is the exact issue? See many 18 year old kids are finding their own, and having to live with democratic parents, and finally realizing they are plain trash, but not knowing how to get away from the welfare trash and finally be an upstanding Republican.
This creates issues because the parents are unsure how to handle a child that want to be successful and happy and not live within the welfare system.
So my advice is simple. If you want your 18 year old to respect you? Get a job. Support yourself. Get yourself off the dope. Stop selling your body for drug money. Stop asking her to help you make the cash.
Give that kid something to be proud of and she will make you proud too. Or as proud as a drunken, doped up, ran down, pill head, can be.
Good Luck.
You must have been on dope when you typed this, idiot!
swim

Richmond, KY

#30 Feb 5, 2013
It is much harder now that she is 18. Should have washed her mouth out with soap years ago and spanked her a$$ before it got to this point. What were you doing when she was little to dicipline her? So many parents today try to be their child's buddy instead of their parent.
Old Nick

Richmond, KY

#31 Feb 5, 2013
If you'd properly disciplined her when she was younger, this wouldn't be an issue now. Best you can do is put her out of the house. She's eighteen; you're under no obligation to support her any longer. Tell her to be out of the house in two months or you'll put her shit on the curb and change the locks on the doors.
my experience

Montréal, Canada

#32 Feb 5, 2013
My parents didn't expect much from us four kids. But one thing they DID expect from us is respect. You respected everyone. You did not talk back to our parents, grandparents, other family members or even strangers. Otherwise all we had to do was basic type things...go to school and get good grades, clean your room if you wanted to have company, wash dishes and help out with the family pets and garden.(which wasn't much) My parents rule was when you turn 18 and you want to live with us you follow our rules, if you can't then there is the door. Basically the only rule we had after 18 was letting our parents know when to expect us home and to keep ourself substance free. If we were going to be running late then call them. We didn't even have to pay rent and our mother washed our clothes and made our meals.LOL We were spoiled with a capital S. None of us had any kind of problems with the law or anything else. Three out of four are college educated, all hold down good paying jobs, all married decent spouses who work as well. Even the son in laws call mom and dad, mom and dad and went so far as to say, when they married us, they married the family.
My advice is to tell the 18 year old there is the door and don't let it hit you on the @ss on the way out. School or no school. They have to hit rock bottom without you enabling them for them to change.
roddle

Ironton, OH

#33 Feb 7, 2013
life was alot easier when it was okay to hit a kid. it was even easier when it was okay to just verbally abuse a kid.
Wondering

Tucker, GA

#35 Feb 14, 2013
She's worse and worse. Calls me a "fat f&[email protected] bitch" when I stop what I'm doing to do whatever she needs. I hate being her mom. I hate the way she treats me.
A mamas heart

Lewisburg, OH

#36 Feb 14, 2013
Wondering wrote:
She's worse and worse. Calls me a "fat f&[email protected] bitch" when I stop what I'm doing to do whatever she needs. I hate being her mom. I hate the way she treats me.
Mama, I am so sorry. I wish I could talk to you. I had a child that ripped my heart out and I cried a million tears. She did everything opposite of how she was raised. I was a good hard working mom and couldnt give her a lot. she did drugs, slept w men, she would sneak her bf in the house and he wd spend the night, became an acoholic and all of the above. I can say I began to hate her. I cried till I couldnt cry anymore. I remember one time in particular she was prob 14 and she thought she was a women. I was at the end of my rope. I know this is gonna sound harsh but I said I AM GONNA SHOW YOU WHO THE WOMAN OF THIS HOUSE IS. I stripped her butt naked and whipped her but all over the place. She kept it up . One last time she snuck her bf in her bedroom. I warned her if it happened I would pack her bags and set her out. I got brown grocery bags and packed her stuff and said leave. It broke my heart to do it. Long story short she really struggeled but she has been sober for 8 yrs , on the same job for over 10 yrs, now has a precious 7 yr old.( the love of her life. no more drugs , men, no more nothing. NOW I CANT HARDLY MAKE HER GET OUT.
A mamas heart

Lewisburg, OH

#37 Feb 14, 2013
Wondering wrote:
She's worse and worse. Calls me a "fat f&[email protected] bitch" when I stop what I'm doing to do whatever she needs. I hate being her mom. I hate the way she treats me.
continued...after I had her leave I got on TBN and contacted every ministery (faithfully, everyday!)I could and would go to church and stand in the gap for her. I put her on every prayer list imaginable .(even over seas!) I was one desparate mama! LOL I continued to speak over her. I got some good scripture verses and I waited. I dont want to get religioous on you but ..the Bible says when you have done all you can do to stand. Lady I stood on the word of God and continued to speak powerful scriptures over her. I would cook meals and set her plate just like I always did.(even though she was not there) The Bible says to see those things that are not as though they were. I got on my knees and I reminded the Lord of the proverbs 31 scripture about her children calling her blessed. It was close to mothers day and I got a mothers day card from her and It was the same scripture. She said Mom I call you blessed!!! Everything was up hill from there. She is my best friend and I am hers. MAMA WHAT EVER YOU DONT EVER GIVE UP ON HER! its a hard thing to not rail back . Its hard to be humble with a child the way mine "WAS".and God as my wittness I didnt even like my own child and she sure PUT ME THROUGH HELL But I loved her unconditionally ( I hope that makes sense) She has told me a thousand times how sorry she was for being mean to me. and I told her , Honey it only took once. I have no problems w my daughter. none! I can rest and breath easy . She is wonderful!!!!!!! I hope this encourages you some.( If I might ask, can you tell me what your daughters first name is? I like to know who I will be praying for. If you dont want to say her name I will give you an email so you can send me her name. I dont pray small little dried up prayers I am a person who will go to war for your child and get her on prayer lists and mama you just stand back and watch what is gonna take place in her life. I like to contact people that I know that will be diciplined and be faithful to pray for her. MY DAUGHTER IS PROOF PRAYER DOES WORK. Hang in there love!!
sigh

United States

#38 Feb 15, 2013
If prayer works so well, why didn't you dummies do it to prevent them from becoming thieving pill hoes?
anal jim

Ironton, OH

#39 Feb 15, 2013
teach her a thing or two about anal. works everytime.
hold on

Lebanon, KY

#40 Feb 15, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.
Is she hot??
Big Dad

Richmond, KY

#41 Feb 15, 2013
Wondering wrote:
How do others deal with ungrateful, rude, foul mouthed "children" of 18? I love her with all my heart but I hate what she does to our family.
Ain't nobody got time to fool with 'dat! Whup that AZZ!
Sue

Winchester, KY

#42 Feb 15, 2013
I can assure you that the child did not become a problem at 18. I would wager she is the same child that at age 6 you told the first grade teacher she was just so interested in the world around her and that was why she wouldn't get her work done, then at 10 you said, oh, she is bored, then at 15 you said, oh her friends led her into trouble. This problem did not start overnight I would say you have been in denial for years.

Why is it parents do not see that they raised these problem kids, go look in the mirror and see the reason it is as it is.

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