why do married or engaged men masturb...
My me

United States

#26 Jul 15, 2010
Men is jerks
cats

Lexington, KY

#27 Jul 15, 2010
men r jerks wrote:
I have caught my husband watchin porn on the computer, many times while my daughter is in the next room asleep and he thinks there is nothing wrong with it. What if she gets up and he's sittin there watchin that? It's all about you men and gettin off. WHO CARES about gettin off all the time? I sure as hell don't. Men think that's all us women are good for is spreading our legs whenever they want,cooking,cleaning and taking care of kids. FUNK THAT my legs are stayin closed!! U men wonder why we are crazy,well I have some news for ya, u made us that way!!
i don't think you are even good for that
what if

Berea, KY

#28 Jul 16, 2010
it's the woman who finds comfort in porn, cause she is the one suffering in silence? Going on for years and years... but sometimes through no fault of the other party. Could be long hours that keep him too tired to perform, could be illness, whatever.
Whats the alternative to porn in this case? Divorce? Cheating?
Some people think watching porn is cheating, but there is no physical contact. And is it really cheating if you aren't getting your needs met at home so you go meet someone for a discrete no strings attached encounter with all intents of staying in a sexless marriage??
wow

Richmond, KY

#29 Jul 16, 2010
I agree with some of what Barb is saying, I think you do need to spice things up but also think men just want a quickie, because i do to sometimes.
men r jerks

Richmond, KY

#31 Jul 16, 2010
cats wrote:
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i don't think you are even good for that
What the hell r u talkin about? What am I not good for?
butt-licker

Cincinnati, OH

#32 Jul 16, 2010
to you ladies, come give me a try, just bend over and spread em and smash that sexy butt on my mouth and make me eat it for a few hours, once you have had a good rimming and clit sucking by me then youll be ok to withstand that week until you get him. and with me it will be just oral unless you have a dildo and you can have me hold it with my mouth while you ride my face,,, if this sounds like something you may want to try contact me at bear_hunky@yahoo.com, we can do it here in the morning or where ever you wish
boner

Berea, KY

#33 Jul 19, 2010
The main reason is that after a while you girls hole get stretched out of whack. Cant feel nothin. Plus no excitement. Nothin different. So tighten that hole or we will stroke that pole. Oh yeah, might help to lose a few pounds.
anonymous

Budd Lake, NJ

#34 Aug 10, 2010
hi, i hate to say this to you but from my own experience it may be possible that he is a sex addict, just like an alcoholic. I know many people do not believe it's an actual addiction but it is. Why don't you ask him if he likes to watch porn and he will probably tell you that he doesn't or maybe he does,but he can't stop. It's heartbreaking to find out the truth, believe me, I know. But there are 12 step groups for these people and the results will have a tremendous affect on you and your husband.
ouch

Winchester, KY

#35 Aug 10, 2010
I'd say he's unfortunately probably cheating on u and fantasing about his new fling when he's choking his chikin.
philosophist

Lexington, KY

#38 Aug 11, 2010
So why is the focus on him? It is the woman who is complaining. Go get a vibrator, get a good one. Take care of yourself. If he is interested in satisfying you....if he loves you...HE will feel threatened by this and get on the ball ....er...scuse the pun. If not, then you are satisfied and it will be easier for you to look at other concerns in the marriage. Batteries replaced diamonds as a woman's best friend LOOOOOONG ago. By the way...it isn't cheating....any more than a man watching porn is...or could both of those items be cheating? Men need the visual, women need the touch. Men have gone to get it, women can too.
I dunno

United States

#39 Aug 11, 2010
cause it's a lot easier than doing it without porn!
Emerald

Berea, KY

#40 Aug 11, 2010
Men and women do things like this because it is fun..it is taboo...it is forbidden. Once they know it is ok to look at it they don't do it near as often or at all because then the naughtiness of doing something sneaky is no longer there and neighed is the rush that they get from it.(speaking from experience here)
THE REAL DARK RIDER

Nicholasville, KY

#41 Aug 12, 2010
Emerald, you're a bad girl!
Emerald

Berea, KY

#44 Aug 13, 2010
THE REAL DARK RIDER wrote:
Emerald, you're a bad girl!
Not bad...just naughty lol.
Emerald

Berea, KY

#45 Aug 13, 2010
Reverend Jim Jones wrote:
And remember:"ONCE A CHEATER-ALWAYS A CHEATER"and viewing porn IS a form of cheating..and a damn good indication that someone is considering straying and will given time.(Hell,they already are in their mind
by watching porn so it's just a matter of time until their body follows!)
It is NOT a form of cheating. Having sex is cheating not viewing porn. And you can't sit there and say you have never looked at a naked woman whether online or in a book when you were in a relationship with another woman. Don't even go there, because you are no saint.
LOL

Lexington, KY

#46 Aug 13, 2010
Emerald wrote:
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It is NOT a form of cheating. Having sex is cheating not viewing porn. And you can't sit there and say you have never looked at a naked woman whether online or in a book when you were in a relationship with another woman. Don't even go there, because you are no saint.
Of course its not cheating and Bill didn't cheat with that gal in the green dress either. Oh and if you lust after another person and jack them off that is not cheating either right? As long as you don't have physical sex with them, you are innocent? LOL see ya on the solstice.
b boy

Richmond, KY

#47 Aug 13, 2010
why do you sometimes go to McDonald instead of cooking a meal?
Emerald

Berea, KY

#48 Aug 14, 2010
LOL wrote:
<quoted text> Of course its not cheating and Bill didn't cheat with that gal in the green dress either. Oh and if you lust after another person and jack them off that is not cheating either right? As long as you don't have physical sex with them, you are innocent? LOL see ya on the solstice.
That subject with "Bill" is a sore subject with me because he didn't do anything that the rest of the men in American wouldn't do. Yet he got penalized for it which wasn't fair. I mean come on take a look at Hilary, anyone in their right mind would be getting it from across the fence...lol

I believe in open relationships so that way you don't have to worry about "cheaters". That is how it should be.
Jebus

Social Circle, GA

#51 Aug 16, 2010
Reverend Jim Jones wrote:
<quoted text>You are ludicrous,Emerald and I mean that not meaning to be offensive.There are many ways to cheat that do not go
as far as involving sex.If you are in a committed relationship or a
marriage then kissing someone is cheating as far as I'm concerned.I see you are a"swinger"or whatever,you call it an"open relationship"so hell,nothing is really cheating to you then I assume.Sorry but in my book a man viewing porn while being involved with someone is a form of cheating,it's at least wanting to cheat in your mind if nothing else.I hate to burst your bubble but I am no typical male,when I love a woman I love them fully with
all my heart and soul so I don't need to look at nude women because A.I would be with someone I love,why want for anyone else and B.Why bother looking at fake,unrealistic women that I would never have a chance with anyway?lol.I know most men and women accept porn viewing but I'm sorry but I do not.
You answered your own question Rev. "Why bother looking at fake,unrealistic women that I would never have a chance with anyway?"

THAT'S EXACTLY WHY! No regular guy out there has a chance to bang an unrealistically hot porn star, and more so, if they had the chance they likely WOULDN'T because most "regular" guys don't really cheat. They may fantasize all day about all the dirty, nasty things they'd do to a hot chick, but given the chance they'd probably embarrass themselves in 3 minutes and most guys know it would go down like that.

Fantasies are a far leap from "cheating" and porn is nothing but a visual fantasy. The only real form of cheating involves another person physically or emotionally, this is where I agree. It doesn't have to be sex to count, you could have any kind of inappropriate relation & consider it cheating, but in no way is watching porn OR masturbating "cheating".

Sorry to the lady who started this, but seriously, how about actually trying to please your husband instead of whining on Topix. Call him out next time you ask him about it and he lies. How about initiating intercourse yourself? All these "poor me" stories are usually because most women believe the man is the only one responsible for showing interest. I'd bet he watches so much porn because he thinks you have no interest in satisfying him.
Emerald

Berea, KY

#52 Aug 16, 2010
Reverend Jim Jones wrote:
<quoted text>You are ludicrous,Emerald and I mean that not meaning to be offensive.There are many ways to cheat that do not go
as far as involving sex.If you are in a committed relationship or a
marriage then kissing someone is cheating as far as I'm concerned.I see you are a"swinger"or whatever,you call it an"open relationship"so hell,nothing is really cheating to you then I assume.Sorry but in my book a man viewing porn while being involved with someone is a form of cheating,it's at least wanting to cheat in your mind if nothing else.I hate to burst your bubble but I am no typical male,when I love a woman I love them fully with
all my heart and soul so I don't need to look at nude women because A.I would be with someone I love,why want for anyone else and B.Why bother looking at fake,unrealistic women that I would never have a chance with anyway?lol.I know most men and women accept porn viewing but I'm sorry but I do not.
Another uneducated bible thumper...just what the world needs....roflmao !

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