Domestic Violence Abusers

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Free

United States

#1 Jun 19, 2013
Anyone you know that is a domestic violence abuser put their name on here. Let's tell the world who they are. Anyone who is living in domestic violence seek help! There is alot of help out there no one should live in domestic violence ever!!!!!!!!
really

Lexington, KY

#2 Jun 19, 2013
The moral thing to do people is leave. Shaming someone is not the answer. Get a life... troublemaker and check yourself before you wreck yourself! Keep your business to yourself only you can make a change.
Tyra

United States

#3 Jun 19, 2013
B 4 I date a guy I always google his name if he has been arrested or been talked bout on topix it will show up . If u work in retail or know someone in retail u can always get him 2 fill out a credit app & u can c if he has good credit. Always check out a mans history 1st b 4 getting involved. Never get involved with a man who has no real job been married numerous times & lives at home with his parents that's a big red flag there is something wrong with him!
Lucy

United States

#4 Jun 19, 2013
Terrance Walker Johnson
Lucy

United States

#5 Jun 19, 2013
really wrote:
The moral thing to do people is leave. Shaming someone is not the answer. Get a life... troublemaker and check yourself before you wreck yourself! Keep your business to yourself only you can make a change.
Sounds to me like you are afraid someone is going to post your real name on here really
Personal

Winchester, KY

#6 Jun 19, 2013
This is a personal issue and not for anyone to meddle in. I have a good friend that is talked to like a dog daily, belittled daily and chooses to stay. She lives in a beautiful home, drives a luxury automobile and her children have the finest. She says that would not be possible if she were living on what she can make and she wants nice things. She is willing to listen to belittling words in exchange for what she has. I think that is her business not mine.

By the way
I think most women given the opportunity to live her life would agree with her. Most women I know are sick and tired of working themselves to death, perhaps a tirade would be worth it. Not for me to say.
Serious

United States

#7 Jun 19, 2013
Personal wrote:
This is a personal issue and not for anyone to meddle in. I have a good friend that is talked to like a dog daily, belittled daily and chooses to stay. She lives in a beautiful home, drives a luxury automobile and her children have the finest. She says that would not be possible if she were living on what she can make and she wants nice things. She is willing to listen to belittling words in exchange for what she has. I think that is her business not mine.
By the way
I think most women given the opportunity to live her life would agree with her. Most women I know are sick and tired of working themselves to death, perhaps a tirade would be worth it. Not for me to say.
OMG!!!!!! This is awful !!!!!! I know no one who would agree with you!!!!!!!! I have been in the same situation & I left never will regret it either !!! I was never so happy when I left !! She has children he will have to pay child support she can make it plus those children are living in that atmosphere & probably being absused as well. As her duty as a mother she needs to get her childern out of that environment !!!! I would list my Exs name on here but he is now dead of drinking himself to death so no need now.
Lil Tot

United States

#8 Jun 19, 2013
Sherman Breedlove
jezlyn

United States

#9 Jun 19, 2013
really wrote:
The moral thing to do people is leave. Shaming someone is not the answer. Get a life... troublemaker and check yourself before you wreck yourself! Keep your business to yourself only you can make a change.
The "moral" thing? You're clueless about how domestic violence works. It is never as simple as leaving! You need to read up on how it really works before you say that!
Why

United States

#10 Jun 19, 2013
Serious wrote:
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OMG!!!!!! This is awful !!!!!! I know no one who would agree with you!!!!!!!! I have been in the same situation & I left never will regret it either !!! I was never so happy when I left !! She has children he will have to pay child support she can make it plus those children are living in that atmosphere & probably being absused as well. As her duty as a mother she needs to get her childern out of that environment !!!! I would list my Exs name on here but he is now dead of drinking himself to death so no need now.
Sorry to disappoint you but I agree with the previous poster. Here is why. I have been married 18 years and raised two kids. I have worked like a dog with little help and zero appreciation. If I could find a man that had money and I don't mean piddly money, I mean money that would allow me to have a nice home, nice car,a housekeeper, a vacation somewhere other than Florida and pay for our childrens education I would not care how he treated me. I would not stay and be hit but he can curse me, cheat, whatever I don't care. I am worn out slaving for nothing.

What you don't realize if presented with real money and a real life other than slavehood most women would do the same. They just won't admit it.
uhhh

United States

#11 Jun 19, 2013
In other words, there is to some degree, security. I would hope there would be a point where you would draw the line and find a way to get out. Whether or not you have the best of everything.
I was mentally and emotionally abused for 28 years and finally I couldn't take it anymore. He took a drastic turn and became rather creepy and scary. I had to sneak out. I left for work one morning and never went back.
I, by no means had it made, but I did have it fairly comfortable. He always worked hard and was a good provider. My biggest problem with leaving was he'd torn my self esteem down and I believed his crap. It was only when I was spooked, that I got out! I don't have it as easy financially now, but I have started to feel secure in other ways. No money can buy that!
Why

Winchester, KY

#12 Jun 19, 2013
uhhh wrote:
In other words, there is to some degree, security. I would hope there would be a point where you would draw the line and find a way to get out. Whether or not you have the best of everything.
I was mentally and emotionally abused for 28 years and finally I couldn't take it anymore. He took a drastic turn and became rather creepy and scary. I had to sneak out. I left for work one morning and never went back.
I, by no means had it made, but I did have it fairly comfortable. He always worked hard and was a good provider. My biggest problem with leaving was he'd torn my self esteem down and I believed his crap. It was only when I was spooked, that I got out! I don't have it as easy financially now, but I have started to feel secure in other ways. No money can buy that!
It is easy for all of us to judge each other and I am only stating my opinion. I think the difference is most people don't know what real money is. I am not talking about a home in Deacon Hills and a Toyota. I am talking about a home, luxury car, not worrying over any bills, my children having nice things and an education. I am talking about having enough money to never again worry about what something costs. I would not stay and be beaten but many women I know stay that are not respected, cheated on and put down. I am saying that if I had the chance between what I have done and REAL money I would put up with most anything to get it. I am weary with struggling, working, and constantly worrying if there will be enough to survive. Listening to verbal abuse would beat the heck out of 50 hour work weeks and still little to show for it. For just a short time in my life I would like to go to sleep, not worry about one single bill, and get up when I wished rather than to an alarm clock at 6 am. Money would allow that. Again, just my opinion.
beenthere

United States

#13 Jun 20, 2013
jezlyn wrote:
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The "moral" thing? You're clueless about how domestic violence works. It is never as simple as leaving! You need to read up on how it really works before you say that!
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Lets talk of woman that file false charges.
They gain control of the home and children.label Ing the man as a wife beater or violent is not a concern to them only the means to a divorce judgment more favorable in their interests.
uhhh

United States

#14 Jun 20, 2013
Why wrote:
<quoted text>It is easy for all of us to judge each other and I am only stating my opinion. I think the difference is most people don't know what real money is. I am not talking about a home in Deacon Hills and a Toyota. I am talking about a home, luxury car, not worrying over any bills, my children having nice things and an education. I am talking about having enough money to never again worry about what something costs. I would not stay and be beaten but many women I know stay that are not respected, cheated on and put down. I am saying that if I had the chance between what I have done and REAL money I would put up with most anything to get it. I am weary with struggling, working, and constantly worrying if there will be enough to survive. Listening to verbal abuse would beat the heck out of 50 hour work weeks and still little to show for it. For just a short time in my life I would like to go to sleep, not worry about one single bill, and get up when I wished rather than to an alarm clock at 6 am. Money would allow that. Again, just my opinion.
I understand that, but respect has value also. You can grow just as weary about being insulted, disrespected and so forth. How can you be any happier when your spirit is broken and you can't enjoy those finer things? Your kids can't be happier if they love you and know how your husband treats you. I think it would be easier to put up with, but it wouldn't last forever.
jezlyn

United States

#15 Jun 20, 2013
beenthere wrote:
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Lets talk of woman that file false charges.
They gain control of the home and children.label Ing the man as a wife beater or violent is not a concern to them only the means to a divorce judgment more favorable in their interests.
Well obviously, that's a whole different story! The point I was making, is to tell a woman that is being abused to leave because its the moral thing to do is crazy! How about telling the abuser that the moral thing to do is leave??? He's the one in the wrong, not the victim. I realize that it's ludicrous to expect the abuser is going to leave, but to put the morality and responsibility on the abused is wrong! They already know they need to get out. There are numerous reasons that leaving isn't always that simple. Besides that, when the abused leaves, the first 24-48 hours are very critical to their lives because they are at high risk of being found and murdered. That's one of the main reasons why women are afraid to leave, along with several other reasons. Leaving doesn't always put a stop to it!
Shewie

United States

#16 Jun 20, 2013
I know a woman that puts up with her husband cheating on her with men just because he has $$$$. Now that's sick she puts up not only him cheating on her but gay on top of it 4 $!!!! What's wrong with woman?? I don't give a $hit how much $ they have I would not stand 4 any kind of abuses EVER!!!!
Donia

United States

#17 Jun 20, 2013
Charles Manson
tillie

United States

#18 Jun 20, 2013
Shewie wrote:
I know a woman that puts up with her husband cheating on her with men just because he has $$$$. Now that's sick she puts up not only him cheating on her but gay on top of it 4 $!!!! What's wrong with woman?? I don't give a $hit how much $ they have I would not stand 4 any kind of abuses EVER!!!!
I could do it. As long as he was kind to me and we had a strong bond otherwise. Of course there'd be no hanky panky going on between us! He'd have to be discreet. I wouldn't care other than that. You know, it would be like a friendship. If he's kind and gives me everything else, what's the big deal? It would be my business.
OMG

United States

#19 Jun 20, 2013
tillie wrote:
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I could do it. As long as he was kind to me and we had a strong bond otherwise. Of course there'd be no hanky panky going on between us! He'd have to be discreet. I wouldn't care other than that. You know, it would be like a friendship. If he's kind and gives me everything else, what's the big deal? It would be my business.
You & all the other woman like yourself are nothing but ole prostitutes for $!!! You have no respect for yourself what so ever!!!!!
Why

Whitesburg, KY

#20 Jun 20, 2013
uhhh wrote:
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I understand that, but respect has value also. You can grow just as weary about being insulted, disrespected and so forth. How can you be any happier when your spirit is broken and you can't enjoy those finer things? Your kids can't be happier if they love you and know how your husband treats you. I think it would be easier to put up with, but it wouldn't last forever.
Once again, we all have different thought patterns. For many of us there is little respect in the jobs we have so what is the difference in going to work, struggling to make ends meet and staying home with money not putting up with workplace stress?

As for the cheating people on here keep referring to, check out the statistics on how many men cheat. It is staggering. So fidelity is no reason to stay because most don't have it anyway.

Sex, is there any question that this topic is in a state of crisis in American? Watch any TV commentator like Dr. Oz for example and see what married couples sex life has evolved to.

You can work and have what I think you perceive as respect or if you can find money you can sit by the pool, have your house cleaned, travel in Europe and put up with verbal abuse. It is all about choices and a very personal issue.

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