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Mar 5, 2011
 

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Captain Obvious wrote:
Hmmm..... common theme is broken homes. All I see here are references to ex this, step that. Try to keep your marriage going or don't have kids if you and your ex aren't mature enough to make a lasting partnership. Don't marry into broken families, you get all the shit. The kids are pissed off and alienated, you can't fix it by changing faces at the top of the family.
I'm sure nobody thinks OH i'll marry or have children with this man so he can ruin my life as well as my kids, ignorance is insulting so before passing your opinions at least have a think to what your saying and why the hell should people keep an unhappy marriage going for Christ sake, its better to come from a broken home than to be still living in one just to please some religious nut
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#43
Mar 5, 2011
 
abusivemomfl1158 wrote:
I have figured out what to do about all the ABUSE my daughter has given me... I MADE her move in with her DEADBEAT DAD. oooo it was with such join they both thought I was kidding...like I used to do. this time I packed all her cloth and dropped off when he was home... that was September 2010. She was mad but I was happier and NO chest pains...we only TEXTED now and then but she never asked to come back...she realized everything I did for her w/o her asking because her dad did nothing 4 her...My daughter turned 18 last week and now we talk but she still lives w her dad...OOOMy 14 to 17 what the crap r we to do with those girls? why r they soo bad???? God bless us all Ps my name was suppose to be abusedmomfl1158
Good for you!

Everyone should follow your advice.

Stop being afraid of your children. If there isn't another parent available then you will just have to report their abuse to the Law and let a Judge put them on the right path to good behavior.

If you don't have tough love now you will always enable an abuser and never, ever find peace. Don't you deserve better?

Children are basically selfish. They don't care what you give them, if they didn't have to work for it.

Take your life back. You deserve better and are worthy. Get professional help and find out why you are allowing someone to abuse you.
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#44
Mar 6, 2011
 
they don't live with the mom cause the mom has alot of mental problems and the kids were neglected, i try to get my boyfriend to get her help and he wont listen, he had to send 1 kid to Sarah reed a home for kids with problems he says he aint sending another one away, she stole my cell phone money then we went to my friends home and she stole her cell phone i was so embarrassed, i cant do anything with the kid i cant trust her no more and i dont ever want to be in that place she put me again, we tried in home therapy never worked we tried hard discipline not hitting but chores chores chores, from scrubbing every wall in house to clean oven toilets every room in the house, didn't work, we don't know what to do with her no more, i am really close of just leaving cause my bf wont step up and take care of the problem he says he don't know what to do so he sits there doesn't even say anything to her but in a low voice i am disappointed in you, i am so go crazy myself from all the stress, i cant do anything cause i have to watch her, he watches her she steals when i do she doesn't so i have to give up my life to watch her 24/7 and i just cant do that
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San Mateo, CA

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#45
Mar 6, 2011
 
Theres a reason why parents and teachers set limits, those that do not respect the rules are probably future theives, robbers, and rapists.
Do yourself a favor, dont give your child weekly allowance count it all.
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Wow seeing these posts proves my point about kids today. They are out of control and have no self control while still getting what they want.

I am sorry for what you are going through but its time to pull yourselves up by the boot straps and take control of your children and your homes.

you have the power and you need to assert it!!! They are using terror, fear, and anger to rule you. Guess what your letting it happen.

SCREW THEIR FEELINGS its time to take control.

First take their stuff and leave them a bed and clothes. No more gadgets, TV, Internet, phones, or motor cars. Their done!!!!

Next if they get physical then you punish them physically. If they attack restrain them and force them to relent.(DONT ABUSE THEM!!!) but you have to look at some type of corporal punishment if needed.

they also need to start doing chores, work in the yard, clean the bathrooms, scrub the floors, wash the driveway.

take control of your children and your homes.

They will learn to respect you and learn boundaries. Its time for parents to start parenting stop worrying about whether or not you are the child's friend.

Good luck everyone and God bless.
threemoreyears

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Apr 21, 2011
 

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I can relate to the wanting to die part, I actually attempted suicide this thanksgiving. It's not worth it! Please don't do it! Know that there are a lot of people going through the same thing as you are. If you are really depressed I suggest you check yourself in to a hospital for a few days. This may seem drastic but it gave me time to clear my head, figure out what I wanted, start some therapy of my own, and try to figure out how to cope. I know it seems like forever but you can kick them out on their rear at 18!:) I'm not saying there aren't times where I totally want to give up again but I have started to make time for me. Go for a walk, treat yourself to a cup of coffee, go swing at a park, take a bubble bath, meditate, anything to get away from the environment for a while. Join a support group. Antidepressants help a lot as well. Know this, there are people who care. You are worthy of being happy! There are a million abusive men out there who love bashing/abusing women to make themselves feel superior but they are the ones that are flawed. Eventually your daughter will see that. Hang in there, this too shall pass!
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My daughter hates me, I didnt do any to her, shes tells lies about me . She ben talking to her father who abused me to the point he tryed to kill me,now he the most wondful man ever , his 3rd wife told her about the abuse ,if I ask her any thig she calls me a fing b
it got so bad ive been deppessed and fill like dieing ,I dont eat or sleep have been not going to work . I thank god every night for my wondful son , i would never hurt him thats why im alive.
Debbie

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I have a 14yr old son, I am a single mother. He has always been a good child until about a year ago. He has constantly been getting in trouble at school. He has been suspended several times. When I ground him or take things away, he just laughs at me and calls me a bitch or a whore and tells me he wishes I was dead. He has beat me with a plastic clothes hanger until I was black and blue
choked me, held me in the floor with his foot on my throat. The police have come to my house and have taken him to the behavioral ward in the hospital, that didn't work. Next he goes to juvie. He doesn't seem to care. This really hurts, more
emotionlly than physically. As a parent, you wonder what you have done wrong, to make your child turn out this way. When they say and do these terrible things to you, it just aches in your heart not just in yours, but you ache for them, because you can't get through to them to help them, can't communicate with them. As parents
our love for them is unconditional, no matter what they do. This is so hard. I could never have done these things to my parents growing up, and it is just so hard to understand where this is all coming from. I guess all we can do is pray, and turn it all over to God! Good luck to each and every one of you! You all will be in my prayers.
ur daughter is a bitch

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Take all the stuff out of her room and if she reacts kick her sorry ass then kick her out of the house don't do anything for her try to make her feel worthless don't put with her bullshit
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Depressed5675 wrote:
So I know that things could be worse.... she could be meaner.... but what she is doing is causing me to feel depressed. Lately I don't look forward to the days anymore. I know at some point in the day she is going to call me a fucking bitch, stupid, ugly, fat, etc. Now that she is always in trouble she calls me a snitch too.
I do my best to not react and usually I succeed but lately I can't help but to feel very sad.
I divorced her father years ago and he treated me very badly. Now I feel like I am stuck with another abuser that I can't get rid of.
slap that lil bitch in tha face. end of story
Eva nacho sista

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Aug 4, 2011
 
Depressed5675 wrote:
So I know that things could be worse.... she could be meaner.... but what she is doing is causing me to feel depressed. Lately I don't look forward to the days anymore. I know at some point in the day she is going to call me a fucking bitch, stupid, ugly, fat, etc. Now that she is always in trouble she calls me a snitch too.
I do my best to not react and usually I succeed but lately I can't help but to feel very sad.
I divorced her father years ago and he treated me very badly. Now I feel like I am stuck with another abuser that I can't get rid of.
HELLO...YOU SHOULDN'T PUT UP WITH THAT!!YOU NEED to have a talk with her & let her know that you've lived like that before with her dad THAT'S WHY you left him, & that YOUR "NOT" going to live that abusive life with her!! SHOW your grounds!! She NEEDS to RESPECT you!! TELL her IF she thinks life is so easy that she can LEAVE your house & live her life out there the way she wants! She WILL see that its NOT ALL fun & games, there's responsibilities sacrifices you gotta do to make it in this world!!She'll probably want to leave so she can stay or live with friends,BUT...do you really think she'll last out there?? She'll be back CAUSE then she'll see that her friends are REALLY NOT her friends!! EVERYONE HAS RULES!! & NO ONE LIVES FOR FREE!!Then she'll REALIZE the best thing is to go back where she had it MADE & she WILL change her ways!! THEY ALWAYS COME BACK TO THERE MOM'S!! BUT...YOU "REALLY" NEED TO STAND YOUR GROUND & "DON'T" BE AFRAID!! If you don't want to go that route call the cops & let them talk to her! They WILL come & help you out & talk some sense to her!! GOOD LUCK!! P.S. PLEASE go to the DR. so they can give you some medication for the depression BEFORE it gets worse! TAKE CARE!!
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Ellen wrote:
<quoted text> You do not deserve to be called harsh hames nor sworn at and although you reacted in a strong way - it is understandable. As a mom you love and have taken such good care of your daughter, Im sure. When teens do this, they know its wrong, you know its wrong, everyone knows its wrong - and I would stick to my guns on this and let her go her way and think about it, even if that means that it isnt easy for you. In fact, I think one of the worst things to do is when the abused tries to make ammends right away with the abuser. When she has cooled down - she should tap into her memory of her loving mom and how all you can have is one mom, so she certainly shouldnt abuse her like this. Im tired of hearing psychologists saying - try to find out whats wrong - Ill tell them whats wrong - they think its okay to spew their anger on people who they know love them, and they dont have to impress, and they wouldnt dare do it to others they are trying to impress. You and your husband need to go to some kind of counseling though - the problem lies with him too- your daughter is using you, him and the grandparents like a ping pong game. Whenever something gets a little tough, dad pulls her out and brings her to grandmas house?? What kind of message is that!
I agree with the above the comment that teen spew their anger on people who thay know love them and do not have to impress. I have a daughter 17 years who has abused me verbally and recently physically for the last few years. She has called me every name in the book. If anything goes wrong it is my fault. I believe her anger comes from something outside she is dealing with and not something I have done. I have tried the 100 percent rule (give 100 percent and expect nothing in return and it will happen). Does not work she will just take more advantage of me. I have called social services but the seem to busy or by the time they get back to me fight is days over. She can also be very sweet if in a good mood so I am on pins and needles. She is also a terrible slob who can not even change a roll of tollet paper. To peers teachers and friends parents she can hide this thank goodness but I belive she may treat frients this way at times. I am counting the days till she turns 18 and graduates HS. I am going to start thinking about myself, move to Florida and if she wants to come along it will be my rules only. She could go live wiht her Dad he has a big house and money, but I think she hates him even more then me. Maybe she has a mental problem that has not been diagnosed. She is ruining my life to the point I wish she was never born. I know that is wrong and I belive someday when she gets over this stage I will feel diffently.
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Aug 5, 2011
 
I agree with the above the comment that teen spew their anger on people who thay know love them and do not have to impress. I have a daughter 17 years who has abused me verbally and recently physically for the last few years. She has called me every name in the book. If anything goes wrong it is my fault. I believe her anger comes from something outside she is dealing with and not something I have done. I have tried the 100 percent rule (give 100 percent and expect nothing in return and it will happen). Does not work she will just take more advantage of me. I have called social services but the seem to busy or by the time they get back to me fight is days over. She can also be very sweet if in a good mood so I am on pins and needles. She is also a terrible slob who can not even change a roll of tollet paper. To peers teachers and friends parents she can hide this thank goodness but I belive she may treat frients this way at times. I am counting the days till she turns 18 and graduates HS. I am going to start thinking about myself, move to Florida and if she wants to come along it will be my rules only. She could go live wiht her Dad he has a big house and money, but I think she hates him even more then me. Maybe she has a mental problem that has not been diagnosed. She is ruining my life to the point I wish she was never born. I know that is wrong and I belive someday when she gets a wake up call I will feel diffently.
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Sep 13, 2011
 
my daughter has not yet called me anything, to my face, but i feel the same way as if i am stuck with one like her father
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Some reasons why teens verbally assualt:
Teenagers may verbally assault others at times of stress and frustration. They can be impatient with questions because they feel that parents are too demanding. Another reason is that they may not have the problem solving skills to deal with disappointment or to resolve conflicts in an appropriate manner. Some teens blame everyone else for their difficulties and make excuses for their inability to cope.
They gravitate toward negative peers and tend to be sulking angry adolescents.
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Oct 2, 2011
 
sadmom76 wrote:
My 15 year old daughter was blood curdling screaming in my face along with spitting. She then starts attacking me dug her claws into my forearms and she kicks me in my stomach, we fall on the couch where she starts pulling my hair and calling me slut and whore. Some how she managed to kick me 2 more times in stomach and more name calling. This is not like her the attacking any way. I need help any suggestions
call the cops and let them deal with her. 30 days in jail will make here think first.
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are you still checking these emails? I just read something very close to was is happening now in my life. I wonder if tthings got easier for you. How is your daughter doing? What would you do different now that 3 years have passed since you posted? thanks.
Depressed5675 wrote:
So I know that things could be worse.... she could be meaner.... but what she is doing is causing me to feel depressed. Lately I don't look forward to the days anymore. I know at some point in the day she is going to call me a fucking bitch, stupid, ugly, fat, etc. Now that she is always in trouble she calls me a snitch too.
I do my best to not react and usually I succeed but lately I can't help but to feel very sad.
I divorced her father years ago and he treated me very badly. Now I feel like I am stuck with another abuser that I can't get rid of.
Proudmomma

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Oct 11, 2011
 
I am sad to read these poss. These are things I hear all the time from parents. I was lucky, only a few years of wanting to kill my daughter...now she thinks we walk on water. The BEST parents she knows of...she will be as strict as we were when she has kids...maybe more so. We were strict and never wavered on the rules...rules about dating etc were set in stone at the age of 10...not made up as we went along. Yes, there were times that I wanted to give in...but we didn't. Once you cave your rules mean NOTHING. Don't give in to OTHER parents! They may or may not suffer from their lack of rules or wanting to be their kid's friend...I loved my children too much to JUST be their 'friend'. Demand respect...deserve respect. LIVE the example of what you want THEM to be!
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Nov 6, 2011
 
Unhappy Mother wrote:
I have a 14 year old step son who is very difficult to deal with. He doesn't care about school and currently flunking 5 out of 6 classes. All he wants to do is hangout, go online, play games and talk on the phone with his girlfriend all night long. He called me a fuckin bitch yesterday and broke two of his brother trophies out of anger beacuse I cut off his phone at 9pm so that he can study of his finals. He also told me that I am not his mom and for me to get the fuck out of his room. This is a child I helped raised for 12 years. What should I do? My husband is afraid of loosing him so he hasn't done much to discipline him.
im in the same boat. exactly the same. hes 14 and dosent listen to me at all. i have raised tghis kis as my own since he was 4 and now he acts like im the most evil bitch just cause i lay down rules. i actually hate my life and want a divorce from my husband now because of it... we all derserve better....
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Dec 21, 2011
 
my son verbal abusin me sometime i get so scared i dont want to be around him he threats me also bad its gonna be hard for me but its time i put a stop to him.i have to report the abuse before its to late for me an my other children.i right now could not shed a tear if somethin was to happen to him thats how bad he makes me feel. i was abused also by his dad physically verbally mentally i got out the relationship just in time. because cops where even scared of this guy. but now i have his son an he doubly worse.
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Captain Obvious wrote:
Hmmm..... common theme is broken homes. All I see here are references to ex this, step that. Try to keep your marriage going or don't have kids if you and your ex aren't mature enough to make a lasting partnership. Don't marry into broken families, you get all the shit. The kids are pissed off and alienated, you can't fix it by changing faces at the top of the family.
It does have a lot to do with broken homes and fathers not being a part of their children's lives! The sole responsibility a lot of the time falls on the mother, which was never intended to be! Mothers cannot fulfill both jobs of mother and father, no matter how hard they try! There is a new movie out called "Courageous" that I think all fathers should see.
Maybe if they did they would see how important their role of fatherhood plays I. The lives of their children, and how they are affected when they aren't in their life!

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