My question for people like Hess and WHite is this, why is it up to the guy to buy the trip, plan the whole shebang etc., what is truly the womans end of the Holiday? If White wants a trip, she can take her husband on it, why does he have to plan the whole day when I can bet he could care less and knows that at best he will get a miniscule gift in return for his Flowers, Dinner, Chocolates, Breakfast in bed and trip to wherever all for that sweater he has been dying for.