A Community Torn Apart By A Tragic Accident

[Turbo31171]

This comment is for all the residents of Portage the keep pointing the finger at my brother for the accident that Killed Eric, Gordo, Ryan. You better get all your facts straight. I'm tired of people talking saying things that that are to stupid to realise that my brother wasn't at fault for the accident. McKush was at fault and that he was nearly three times over the legal drinking limit. He was on the wrong side of the road. He was to drunk to drive. And yet his friends at the party he at left him drive with Gordo, Ryan and Eric in the car. they are the ones to blame. So McKrush YOUR SON KILLED HIMSELF WITH RYAN, ERIC AND GORDO!!!Another fact for all you dumb jackasses out blaming my brother is that my brother was not as drunk as you assume which means when you assume something makes an ass out you!!!My brother was just barely over the legal limit. Only thing that sve my brother was the fact he was driving a truck. So if he wasn't driving a truck and was driving a car I would have buried my BROTHER, MY SISTER AND HER FIANCE. If that would have happened their would have been hell to pay through McKrush's dad.

[Lycanthrope]

I am sorry for your loss. I am curious because my background is deep in law enforcement...so I have a question first:

Where you there when the crash occurred?
Did you read the crash site evaluation?
What experience do you have in crash forensics?

You stated your brother was 'not as drunk as'.
Well, since you are wanting to have everyone get their facts straight. He was INTOXICATED. He was IMPAIRED. So, your anger, while understood, is misplaced. As tragic as this is, your brother did have a role in this horrible event. I am sorry you lost him. I have seen firsthand this kind of thing..over and over. It would do you well to speak when you are reasonably informed about the subject. It's better that you don't lash out at the community at large. People respond emotionally to this stuff. All of us have feelings that are valid, but when addressing fact, you'll need to do better.

I have been a certified DUI instructor, and worked in law enforcement for years. What has happened here is unfortunate. Alcohol did play a role in this crash, however..so did the indiscretion of the other driver. The two together was a deadly mix. It is what it is. People make bad decisions and the results are self evident. There will be a lot of pain over this for years to come. Unfortunately, this will happen over and over.

I used to work DUI roadblocks. You wouldn't believe the things I have seen. Personally I feel that if you are caught driving impaired or intoxicated and you are charged..you should lose your driver's license permanently. DUI offenders repeat. If you kill someone while under the influence, I believe you should receive life in prison, or the death penalty. Sound harsh? Talk to someone that lost a little girl or boy when they were driving them home from a school event. The offender doesn't deserve a second chance..to what? Kill again? The facts stand.

You see, we are a society that is litigious. We know our rights and we'll kill to keep them but we don't know our responsibilities. Even if we did, we are too lazy and arrogant to take them on.

I spend 16 years in this country's Army, defending what I believed in. When I read news stories like this, it is disheartening.

We have a long way to go.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. Time will heal your heart if you let it.

[tlm]

the three kids were on the wrong side of the road,if u no law so much.u need to get the story wright u dumbass,u now the law.befor u think u need to read the story.if u no the law u would of done that.have a nice day

[shuqin]

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[love]

what we all need to remember is lives where lost.it doesnt matter who people blame or dont blame are loved ones will never come back home.my prays are with all the families.

[TURBO31171 hater]

to TURBO31171 who do u think u are? i mean really? How are you going to blame a man who is now dead. I would think that you should just be happy your brother is alive. They were both wrong. but for one effin second did u stop to think how you would hurt his family by saying the bs you said? I graduated and am very close friends with rich's brother, i think that what you said was rude, and very insensitive. you should be ashamed. and for that i hope your brother goes to prison and has a WONDERFUL time. and by the way have u ever heard of spell check??