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guilty

Jersey City, NJ

#1 Sep 11, 2011
well i've been with my gf for 10 months and i work with this rly hot girl and we've been chillin for a while and the other nite we got drunk and had sex...i've been feelin rly guilty. should i tell my gf and if so how do i tell her? i don't want to lose her....
really

Waynesboro, VA

#2 Sep 11, 2011
if u dont want to lose your girlfriend you shouldnt be even looking at other women and for sure not having sex with them. my advice is tell your girlfriend what you have done and pay the price, make your bed, lay in it. so called men these days make the situation worse when they lie.
guilty

Beckley, WV

#3 Sep 11, 2011
but what if she leaves me and i rly don't want to hurt her...if i tolld her it would ruin us
marty

Beckley, WV

#4 Sep 11, 2011
If you have washed your mustache and she doesent smell the tuna leave it in the can!!!!!Lol Fish On!!!!!!!!!!
seriously

Beckley, WV

#5 Sep 11, 2011
one you really shouldn't of been chillin with some girl from work...... It isn't right especially when you are attracted to her, and obviously she attracted to you..... You shouldn't of drank with her either I mean what did you seriously think was going to happen when you got drunk and she did as well, not to mention what is the story you have been giving your girl, have you told her that you have been chillin with this other girl before something like that happened with you all, cause if you didn't then that probably means that you don't care about her or love her like you say you do, cause it is not right to cheat period, nor to hang out with other girls alone without your girl around, nor to talk or text to other girls that you are attracted to anyways!!! You need to be honest with her and hope that she can forgive you and she cares about you enough to forgive you but I wouldn't count on it, to many girls are getting hurt by guys who like to cheat now adays..... I mean the saying goes oncea cheater always a cheater, I am not saying that you will do it again, but it will just make it that much easier for you later on because you know you can do it and get by with it!!!! Just be honest with her and hope for the best!!!
seriously

Beckley, WV

#6 Sep 11, 2011
the thing about you not telling her because you don't want to hurt her, I think she would rather hear it from you then find out by someone else. I mean either way it might be the end of you two but, if you don't tell her and she finds out on her own then she is going to think that you never had any intention of telling her, and you were just going to continue this affair behind her back.
guilty

Beckley, WV

#7 Sep 11, 2011
i don't think i'm going to tell her yet....
larry

Tarboro, NC

#8 Sep 11, 2011
guilty wrote:
but what if she leaves me and i rly don't want to hurt her...if i tolld her it would ruin us
Don't ever tell anything! Don't hang yourself stupid!!!!!
Agreed

Rocky Mount, NC

#9 Sep 11, 2011
guilty wrote:
well i've been with my gf for 10 months and i work with this rly hot girl and we've been chillin for a while and the other nite we got drunk and had sex...i've been feelin rly guilty. should i tell my gf and if so how do i tell her? i don't want to lose her....
Guess you should have thought about all of this beforehand, hmmm?
Dont do it

Beckley, WV

#10 Sep 11, 2011
Do not tell your girlfriend. You made a stupid mistake , it was one night, unless you have feelings for this girl you slept with just let it go, deal with the guilt and go on with your life with your girlfriend. Now if you continue to want to have sex with this other girl or others girls then you need to end it with the girlfriend. Its the right thing to do.
OMG

United States

#11 Sep 11, 2011
And this is the reason I am single!!!! Guys r such a$$es!!!!! U need to tell her if she finds out from someone else u can bet u will lose her!!! U must not love her the way u say u do if u would ever think of cheating let alone go through with it!!! Get over ur self and tell her the TRUTH!!!
Tell Her

Houston, TX

#12 Sep 11, 2011
If you care about her then you should tell her. This is a small town and talk gets around so if she hears it from someone else you won't have a chance. If you tell her yourself then maybe you two can work things out. Put yourself in her shoes if she made the mistake would you want to know from her or someone else?
what is wrong with people

Oakvale, WV

#13 Sep 12, 2011
you don't love her very much or you wouldn't even be giving girls a second glance, much less having inappropriate thoughts about them, then even acting upon them! of course you should tell her, even though that news sure as hell isn't going to get you the bf of the year award, do you have any idea how much she will appreciate the honesty and what it took for you to tell her in the end (after the initial psycho meltdown of course). then you'll probably have to find a new job if she decides to stay with you, i know i wouldn't want you going back to work with this female that lacks morals (she is just as guilty if she knew you had a gf). honesty is always the best policy, no matter how bad the consequence, if she leaves you, it is what was meant to be. just put yourself in her shoes, if she cheated on you, would you rather hear it from others and be made to feel like you've been made a fool of, or hear it straight from her?
from experience

Fairfield, VA

#14 Sep 12, 2011
Honestly, it'd be better just to tell her. Ive been cheated on and unfortunately I had to hear it from other people. All it did was make me feel like a fool and it hurt me the most to think that my boyfriend couldn't be honest with me. If he would've told me himself, then yes I would've been really upset, but I would've been able to respect him for having the balls to man up for his mistakes and maybe I would've tried to work through it.

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#15 Sep 12, 2011
OMG wrote:
And this is the reason I am single!!!! Guys r such a$$es!!!!! U need to tell her if she finds out from someone else u can bet u will lose her!!! U must not love her the way u say u do if u would ever think of cheating let alone go through with it!!! Get over ur self and tell her the TRUTH!!!
Like girls are angels and never cheat? I know girls who have cheated consistently for years and not a word is said to anyone. She has no intentions of telling anyone and none of the people that do know have any intentions either.

At least this dude is feeling guilt. I know a lot of women who are so cold-blooded that they wouldn't bat an eyelash if the guy they were with broke up with them, in a mean way, because he found out they cheated.

Unlike you, however, I'm not quite as judgmental and believe that every person is different to themselves and not their gender.
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i call BS

Fairfield, VA

#17 Sep 12, 2011
Wtf is wrong with people today? Y do people ask for or get into a serious relationship just to turn around and let their own selfishness and insecurity ruin it. Anyone who cheats is just a p.o.s. period. Much less u cheat and then decide to ask topix for advice? U sound like an idiot to me.
TellHer

Jersey City, NJ

#18 Sep 12, 2011
Speaking from experience, she should hear it from you. it's always worse hearing it from someone else. If you love her, she should be worth telling the truth to. And she will find out eventually, nothing is ever kept a secret. If she feels the same way about you then maybe you guys could work it out and get through it, but that'll be harder to do if you are still lying to her. You have to show her that you are and can be trust worthy..( that is if u really can be) tell her!!
Okay

United States

#19 Sep 12, 2011
Be a man, grow a set, and tell her what u did. Own up to your actions, if you dot, you aren't a man at all you are just one of these slimey little boys that will never keep a good girl in their life because they can't man up to their actions. And what happens if the girl gets pregnant? Or better yet, what if you get herpes and give it to the girl you care sooooo much about?? Let your balls drop and tell her, quit being a whiney baby coward!!!
nononononono

Bedford, VA

#20 Sep 12, 2011
dont tell on yourself stewpidhead
maury

United States

#21 Sep 12, 2011
I just talked to the girl you cheated with. She said to tell you that she lied to you about being on the pill.

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