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Concerned Parent

Princeton, WV

#1 Jun 19, 2012
I would like public opinion on the subject of parents allowing boyfriend's to move into their home with their daughters. This is happening more and more. It leaves the daughter in a position that she's stuck with this boy and has no chance of finding anyone else. A child at 14-15-16 years old does not know what she's doing. It's the parent's responsibility to look out for her.Ruining the girls reputation is just one of many things that can happen due to this situation. OPINIONS PLEASE
EBO

Bluefield, WV

#2 Jun 19, 2012
I lived with my ex boyfriend and his grandparents at 18. It did not make me feel obligated to stay. They were very nice and its a matter of opinion. its really not your business anyways.
so right

Newport, VA

#3 Jun 19, 2012
i agree with concerned parent. these days teenagers control the parents it seems.
Miss Nikki Lane Herself

Ardsley, NY

#4 Jun 19, 2012
I was 15, my mother let my current boyfriend move in after just a month of us dating. Looking back now I wish she'd have whooped my hind end and denied me he was older than me he was 21. It caused me to grow up faster than I should have, I guess it was a learning experience. Our relationship lasted almost four years. I personally dont think anyone at 15 is ready for something so stable. I know I wont be letting my son or daughter participate in these activities.
Anonymous
#5 Jun 19, 2012
no i agree that it is a parents job to watch over their children. no they should not let a bf/gf move in with either. to me that is like telling them go ahead and have sex and have a baby while your at it. no it would be a diff. situation if the person had nowhere else to go but still i dont agree with it!
bored

Oakvale, WV

#6 Jun 19, 2012
EBO wrote:
I lived with my ex boyfriend and his grandparents at 18. It did not make me feel obligated to stay. They were very nice and its a matter of opinion. its really not your business anyways.
I hate crap like this it is most certainly a parents business what there child does and wants as a matter of fact it's their responsibility to make decisions regarding their minor child.inviting a boyfriend or just a friend is opening doors to a whole world of liability issues,pregnancy, and lord knows what else
Not to talk trash

Bluefield, WV

#7 Jun 19, 2012
It's basically saying "go ahead and you know what".

Level 1

Since: Mar 11

Princeton, WV

#8 Jun 19, 2012
My daughter is 16 and wanting to move in with her boyfriend whom she has been with for about 8 months. I have been trying to tell her she needs to focus on school. Next year is her senior year. She doesn't need to be distracted by this boy and he is very distracting and needy. I want her to get an education and go to college not become another teenage mom. She is even talking to his mom about her helping to get her emancipated! This really got me heated. She will move in with his family over my dead body !
you lie

Paintsville, KY

#9 Jun 19, 2012
Miss Nikki Lane Herself wrote:
I was 15, my mother let my current boyfriend move in after just a month of us dating. Looking back now I wish she'd have whooped my hind end and denied me he was older than me he was 21. It caused me to grow up faster than I should have, I guess it was a learning experience. Our relationship lasted almost four years. I personally dont think anyone at 15 is ready for something so stable. I know I wont be letting my son or daughter participate in these activities.
Forget the boyfriend, work on your writing and math skills.

“Right To Die With Dignity ”

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Since: Oct 11

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#10 Jun 19, 2012
nameless24740 wrote:
My daughter is 16 and wanting to move in with her boyfriend whom she has been with for about 8 months. I have been trying to tell her she needs to focus on school. Next year is her senior year. She doesn't need to be distracted by this boy and he is very distracting and needy. I want her to get an education and go to college not become another teenage mom. She is even talking to his mom about her helping to get her emancipated! This really got me heated. She will move in with his family over my dead body !
I've read your comments and was thinking about teen's behavior. Most will always desire to have the things or be around the people that the parent's oppose. It becomes tug of war with the teen wanting anything that the parent dislikes or vetoes. I sat down and wrote a list of pros and cons for my child to see when it came to life changing decisions. I watched carefully and never used my opinion in the discussion and watch my facial expressions when the topic was brought up for discussion. After we sat down and made the list, I always would state recall the list of pros and cons and that I love you, but will not always agree with your decisions. Don't know what else to tell you, but if you continue to make this into an issue then you will get an episode of teen behavior. As far as the boyfriend's family, they would be guessing what my next move would be because my replies would be cordial and to the point with as little contact as possible. Also, show your daughter that this is not your only thing that you have to worry about as an adult that you have a life and she is a part of it, but she is not going to ruin yours and her relationship with her teenager stunts. You do have some legal options if she moves to another family and you can go to court and remove yourself as a parent and I would counteract that when the pros and cons came to existence and when emancipation became a word choice of your daughter in the pros I would add to the cons these words, voluntary termination of parental rights and explain what all that entails. I would be very clear about support/money, visits, and how all ties would be broken on your part. Good luck. Parenting is no walk in the park!
Brent Barry

United States

#11 Jun 19, 2012
Miss Nikki Lane Herself wrote:
I was 15, my mother let my current boyfriend move in after just a month of us dating. Looking back now I wish she'd have whooped my hind end and denied me he was older than me he was 21. It caused me to grow up faster than I should have, I guess it was a learning experience. Our relationship lasted almost four years. I personally dont think anyone at 15 is ready for something so stable. I know I wont be letting my son or daughter participate in these activities.
ARE YOU SERIOUS???????? Man 21 GIRL not women 15??????? WHAT???? So you mean to tell me your parents listened to you get your head banged through the head board by a grown man for FOUR YEARS!!!!!!!! O MY GOD! Im a guy and even i dont think that is alright. If you were 18 or 19 maybe but 15???????? You cant tell me your mom or dad didnt come busting in the room when they heard you screaming at 12 o clock at night like is everything ok? No way thats just night ok 15 is WAYYYY TOOO YOUNG!! statutory ***e
EBO

Bluefield, WV

#12 Jun 19, 2012
bored wrote:
<quoted text> I hate crap like this it is most certainly a parents business what there child does and wants as a matter of fact it's their responsibility to make decisions regarding their minor child.inviting a boyfriend or just a friend is opening doors to a whole world of liability issues,pregnancy, and lord knows what else
I was 18. Also I was raised right, in fact I am 22 and have no children. I am smart enough to know what birth control is unlike most teenage girls around here. I'm glad I did it, I learned many lessons. And I don't know about you, but when kids are young, what is going to stop them from seeing each other?
be a parent

United States

#13 Jun 19, 2012
Be a real parent not a best friend tell her no when she is 18 then she can make those decisions. At that age every girl thinks she is in love and wants to spend every min with their bf. But as a parent you can't just allow her to run the house hold put your foot down tough love is sometimes the only answer to saving your child from messing up their life. They may get mad at the time but will see later it was for their own good. If they really love eachother then they will be together when they grow up and can handle real life.
abc

Princeton, WV

#14 Jun 20, 2012
I would beat my child's ass if they even thought about it. Until they are 18, they have no business even being alone with a boy, let alone moving in with one. I am eighteen years old, and if I would have even asked that I would have been sorry. Then again, my parents were actual parents.
Syw19735
#15 Jun 20, 2012
Concerned Parent wrote:
I would like public opinion on the subject of parents allowing boyfriend's to move into their home with their daughters. This is happening more and more. It leaves the daughter in a position that she's stuck with this boy and has no chance of finding anyone else. A child at 14-15-16 years old does not know what she's doing. It's the parent's responsibility to look out for her.Ruining the girls reputation is just one of many things that can happen due to this situation. OPINIONS PLEASE
If we allow that what are we teaching our children???
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Edward

Hillsboro, WV

#17 Jun 20, 2012
Any parent that would allow their underage daughter to have a live in boyfriend is trash.
And daughter is destined to be trash too.
the truth

United States

#18 Jun 20, 2012
Concerned Parent wrote:
I would like public opinion on the subject of parents allowing boyfriend's to move into their home with their daughters. This is happening more and more. It leaves the daughter in a position that she's stuck with this boy and has no chance of finding anyone else. A child at 14-15-16 years old does not know what she's doing. It's the parent's responsibility to look out for her.Ruining the girls reputation is just one of many things that can happen due to this situation. OPINIONS PLEASE
No, I do not believe parents should allow either sex to move in with each other unless the girl is pregnant. Otherwise, yes teenagers are unstable in their mind sets and often change their ways over night. Now given if these (kids) are adults like 23 and they want to live together but cannot afford it then yes I am all for that.
tom

Lewisburg, WV

#19 Jun 20, 2012
Parent's that let boyfriends or girlfriends move in to thier home with thier kid is giving the child the green light that,It's ok with thier parents to sleep with the boyfriend or girlfriend
come on people wake up We are tring to stop teenage girls from having babies you are giving them the green light to sleep with them
Carolyn

Princeton, WV

#20 Jun 20, 2012
Some parent's will let this happen just to keep the girl happy and keep her off of their back. They don't want to deal with her problems so anything to shut her up.
wise up

Pearisburg, VA

#21 Jun 20, 2012
Carolyn wrote:
Some parent's will let this happen just to keep the girl happy and keep her off of their back. They don't want to deal with her problems so anything to shut her up.
Hey!!!! Instead off talking shi==t about people here!1Why don't you go talk to then to their face?!Are you to chicken shi==t?? what business is it of yours !!Why are you losing sleep over something that is none of your business!!!!!!!

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