can a dad get sole custody of childre...
finally

Chesterfield, MO

#42 Jan 15, 2010
... so there is no confusion......My above post is in reply to "inform yourself" from Pikeville and not MissMiss. I neglected to hit the reply button and quote his post.
fifty fifty

Clarksville, TN

#43 Jan 15, 2010
MissMiss wrote:
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That's pretty messed up and I'm a female. My ex husband and I share joint custody but here it means he gets them every weekend instead of every other weekend and we both have a say so in our children's lives. It makes no sense to not give a child a permanent place. One week here, one week there is just silly. What if the mother and father lived states away, or on different coasts? This one month with him, one month with her thing (or even 6 months with mommy, 6 months with daddy) just wouldn't cut it for me. I'd go crazy not seeing my babies that long. I like some of what you said, as we all know it takes two to bring a child into this world, so two should help raise it.
Just my 2 cents on this topic.
I believe I gave examples of LEGAL joint custody arrangements, which included every weekend. So I don't exactly see what your trying to insinuate?
fifty fifty

Clarksville, TN

#44 Jan 15, 2010
finally wrote:
Your guess is incorrect and so are you on the definition of joint custody. Some more details would be helpful.Seems to me you need to brush up on your child custody terminology? Perhaps you were refering to joint physcial custody? Your long babbling definition is not impressive or correct. Joint legal is the standard. Joint physical is a little more difficult.
Child custody issues are determined by what's in the best interest of the child. If he had joint legal custody he would have a say in all major decisions affecting his child. He is not asking for joint custody. He is asking for sole custody. It won't happen. Children are not pets, furniture, recreational toys to be passed back and forth every few weeks. They need stability. I stand behind my reply to 'nail technician" a real parent wouldn't need a week to 'recuperate and rest up'. I see you share the same ideas about the 'burdens of parenting'. For all of those parents without any help; it's insulting. Now let me assume you are a single dad with a joint custody agreement? Right? Wrong? Dosn't matter. I consider myself fairly educated in this subject; but thanks for your concern. I wish the original poster of this topic best wishes for him and his child.
I believe the main point of my last post was to prove your judgmental first reply wrong. Which I successfully achieved. I believe that any child deserves to share as much time as possible with both parents, if the parents are willing. To be quiet honest, like nail tech stated, it's quiet the norm these days for parents to do this. You tried to make it seem wrong for parents to do this. If it was so wrong, I wonder why its included in the definition of JOINT CUSTODY?

In my previous post I gave a meaning of Joint Custody which included examples, whether it be Physical or Legal. Its under the word Joint Custody. I'm not sure why you went in that direction with your last post? Anyways...

I felt like I needed to defend us, parents who have joint custody arrangements with exes. Because you obviously tried to make it seem we were just terrible parents, and odd human beings. In my opinion it takes pretty good parents to come to an agreement with an ex partner, for the sake of their children.The goal of joint custody is to give children as much time as possible with both parents.We've come a long way since we were children and mothers were routinely given full custody of the children and fathers frequently disappeared and less frequently received a standard visitation schedule of every other weekend visits. Just because your situation is different doesn't give you a right to judge.

Studies have been conducted, that also support my post. A study concluded children in physical joint-custody arrangements showed fewer behavioral problems than children under the custody of a single parent.We have seen the damage done to some children raised without male role models. So could you please tell me why you want parents that share custody, feel like bad parents? Because That is exactly what you meant in your first post.

It looks as though this may be a touchy subject for you. Maybe your EX isn't father material, or has no desire to help in parenting duties, whatever the reason may be! So ask yourself does that give you the right to look down upon us who believe a dad/or mother is more than a every other weekend guardian?
really

Chesterfield, MO

#45 Jan 16, 2010
" So could you please tell me why you want parents that share custody, feel like bad parents? Because That is exactly what you meant in your first post."

Again wrong. Unless the parent thinks "whew! made it thru the week. Now to rest for a week and try it again." If you don't mind, I think I would know what I menat in my first post.

"In my previous post I gave a meaning of Joint Custody which included examples, whether it be Physical or Legal. Its under the word Joint Custody. I'm not sure why you went in that direction with your last post?"

My post is clear. Sorry you couldn't keep up. Joint physcial custody is harder to get. Courts don't favor for the children to be passed between the parent like duffle bags. Again you know nothing about my situation and make assumptions.

"It looks as though this may be a touchy subject for you. Not at all. Just giving my opinion.

"Maybe your EX isn't father material, or has no desire to help in parenting duties, whatever the reason may be! So ask yourself does that give you the right to look down upon us who believe a dad/or mother is more than a every other weekend guardian?

Is that legally? or just between you and your ex? Either or I don't care. My opinion is just that. I would never look down on a parent's desire to raise a child.

We just disagree and that's fine.

I believe what you are trying to get across is your version of joint custody without involving the legal system. Good for you.
fifty fifty

Clarksville, TN

#46 Jan 16, 2010
really wrote:
" So could you please tell me why you want parents that share custody, feel like bad parents? Because That is exactly what you meant in your first post."
Again wrong. Unless the parent thinks "whew! made it thru the week. Now to rest for a week and try it again." If you don't mind, I think I would know what I menat in my first post.
"In my previous post I gave a meaning of Joint Custody which included examples, whether it be Physical or Legal. Its under the word Joint Custody. I'm not sure why you went in that direction with your last post?"
My post is clear. Sorry you couldn't keep up. Joint physcial custody is harder to get. Courts don't favor for the children to be passed between the parent like duffle bags. Again you know nothing about my situation and make assumptions.
"It looks as though this may be a touchy subject for you. Not at all. Just giving my opinion.
"Maybe your EX isn't father material, or has no desire to help in parenting duties, whatever the reason may be! So ask yourself does that give you the right to look down upon us who believe a dad/or mother is more than a every other weekend guardian?
Is that legally? or just between you and your ex? Either or I don't care. My opinion is just that. I would never look down on a parent's desire to raise a child.
We just disagree and that's fine.
I believe what you are trying to get across is your version of joint custody without involving the legal system. Good for you.
I ask everyone, that reads this post, to go to Google and type joint custody in the search bar. That way you can confirm what I've been typing is the legal definition of joint custody.

I'm not quiet sure what judge you were in front of, but the judge for child custody in our case, asked us and our lawyers if we had an agreed arrangement of child custody. The judge wants both parents to come to an agreement.

Just to be more clear, visitation agreement/ Time sharing describes an arrangement through which both parents share the children. Time sharing can be varied as the families that use it.

There is no "right" schedule that fits all families or all age groups.
really

Chesterfield, MO

#47 Jan 16, 2010
fifty fifty wrote:
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I'm not quiet sure what judge you were in front of, but the judge for child custody in our case, asked us and our lawyers if we had an agreed arrangement of child custody. The judge wants both parents to come to an agreement.

There is no "right" schedule that fits all families or all age groups.
... and what happens if the answer is no?

I actually agree with your last sentence. Everything else; not so much. Like I said; we disagree. No big deal.
well said

Jasper, IN

#48 Feb 6, 2010
a real father wrote:
A real father does what is in the best interest of his children, not himself. He spends quality with his children whether he is married or divorced. He never speaks negatively of the mother to them because he knows that his children love her as much as they love him and to do so, only hurts them. A real father plans in advance how much time he'd like to spend with his children and makes the effort to see it through. If you are a real father, you realize that although you might pay child support, that things like school, Christmas, and birthdays are opportunities for you to buy something special for your child "just from you." A real father realizes that his children needs both parents in their lives and does whatever he needs to do to make it possible. A real father puts jealousy and spite behind him in the best interest of his children. A real father doesn't seek ways to upset their children's lives but to improve it. If your motive is to get rid of child support or to get revenge, then you are not behaving as a real father should. Whatever went wrong with your marriage, do not make your children suffer anymore for it. They have suffered enough and deserve some stability. A real father does the suffering for them.
From all the mothers in the world, THANKS!
a mothers love

Charleston, WV

#49 Feb 10, 2010
divorce is hard enough on the children,both parents need to do what is right for the children.they need to know whatever happened did not happen because of them.children need both parents and for one parent to keep the other from the children is nothing more than selfish and childish,you cant use a child as a pawn to get revenge on the ex.may god bless all and know that a true parent only wants whats best for their child.
good dad

West Liberty, KY

#50 Feb 28, 2010
yes you can get sole custody of your children i know i done it three months ago she was abusive to me and the children drugs and a lot of other things but dont lose your cool in front of judge harris he is very strict and comply with his orders i know been there when he was in mag co or judge caudill
greg

Charleston, WV

#51 Mar 1, 2010
the judge now is not harris its marshall.hell be fair not like that little gnome harris.good luck on the custody battle.remember though its really the children whom get hurt in the process.
stopthemadness

Pikeville, KY

#52 Nov 12, 2010
a real man wrote:
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
You do not have to prove her unfit to get sole custody. You would need to prove her "unfit" to take her parental rights away. YES You can get sole custody of your children. My son did. The question you should be asking is can I get it in S.E. KY! The judges here won't give you a second thought! YOU WILL NEED AN ATTORNEY! And about $3000 and more n' likely a strong social service case against her. Courts do not favor the mother per se but social services seems to. They will give her every chance in the book to keep her kids even if she is a POS! Be wise and keep strong. Be relentless! Document everything! I mean everything. Keep a journal. Best wishes to you and your.
stopthemadness

Pikeville, KY

#53 Nov 12, 2010
a real man wrote:
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
Here is the actual law: KRS 625.090.
well

Frankfort, KY

#54 Nov 12, 2010
my fiancee got full custody of his child here in eky from judge harris.... so it is very possible.. he did prove that the mother was unfit and she was...
after the custody battle we have had my step son for over a year and she comes and goes whenever she feels that her motherly duty is calling... and i mean she might call once a month to say hi.. and then she might actually come to visit him every two months or so.... but he has stablity with us and couldnt be happier... we encourage her to see him but she chooses not to or makes reason why she cannot.... but that is her lose not ours... he is a great boy and is very happy!
mommy man

Eubank, KY

#55 Nov 15, 2010
I Raised my little girl from birth while her mother chased after a dead end job 70 hours a week when she wanted to transfer to lexington and put in more hours i told her i couldnt handle any more responsibility she attacked me and i defended myself she left the child with me and left three days later I got served with custody papers. Ky is a best intrest of the child state not a stricktly mother state why should a child be raised by a grandmother or a day care when she has a good daddy that will do it. Its an up hill battle for a father to get custody and the mothe WILL play dirty. Their your kids fight rentlessly dont give her a chance to get on her feet mothers with primary custody of children cant financialy affort to fight for long TAKE PICTURES OF EVERY THING BUG BITES ECT I HAVE FOUND IF SHE IS TRULY A SORRY MOTHRER GIVEN ENOUGH ROPE SHE WILL HANG HERSELF
lostanconfused12

Hopkinsville, KY

#56 Mar 8, 2013
so my my child is1 an her father hasjus recently came into her life he hasbeen payon child soupport but now hestaking me tocourt for full custody ofher...its killing me he had a poliece man serve me papers he says the reason is that we jump from home to home anim on drugs...i ve had the same home since shes been born an iwas [recribed pain meds in the past an my body got addicted to them after i reliazed i had a problem iwent an got help iam curently in a rehab program to getoff of them.....i also got intosome trouble anstole a prescription pad anwrote out a few but now im going to counciling na meetings an in this program.. whats should i do an what do u think will happen??? iam a very good mother an my babys are well taken care of my oldest kid is 5 an my middle one is 3 ive never been in any troublean cps hasnever been called on me there daddoesnt think there is a problem withhe was there being taken care of they think iam a good mother its just my youngest child father..please help
Anonymous

Hopkinsville, KY

#57 Mar 8, 2013
MissMiss wrote:
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That's exactly what I was thinking. Good post.
are you a legal social worker??
N My OPINION

Pikeville, KY

#58 Mar 8, 2013
YES
Been there

Richmond, KY

#59 Mar 10, 2013
What gets me is when the wife and new spouse gets the earned income tax money every year off my kids!!
And who watches the kids when there is no school? Someone who will side with them no doubt..
God have mercy on the working man
faith

Logan, WV

#60 Mar 10, 2013
Yes it can be done ! I won my kids from their unfit mother! Good luck

misb56

“Christmas is over”

Since: Jan 13

The North Pole

#61 Mar 13, 2013
a real man wrote:
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
The court dose favor the mother but, if you can prove her unfit or that you are the childrens care giver you can get them . Unfit dose not mean she cheated on you or anything like that . She has to be an unfit mother

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