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can a dad get sole custody of children in ky

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a real man

Charleston, WV

#1 Jan 7, 2010
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
Pburg2010

Logan, WV

#2 Jan 7, 2010
I think most courts view is that the best place for the children is with their mother, however, if you can prove her to be unfit you have very high chances of getting custody.
Good luck.
probablynot

Clarksville, TN

#4 Jan 7, 2010
oh, and don't do it just to try and SPITE her. that will only destroy the kids. be sure of it when you do it.
County matters

Springfield, KY

#5 Jan 7, 2010
a real man wrote:
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
It's sad, but the county that you live in has a lot to do with it. A lot of the time it all depends on who you know, but if you have solid evidence and proof that your wife is not capable of taking care of your children, you may have a shot. You'll probably need a good lawyer to pull it off though.
a real man

Charleston, WV

#6 Jan 7, 2010
well in partly its why im doing it and the other is i believe if she leaves the children should stay with me.ill find something i can use surely to keep them.thanks for all your comments though.
fathr

Prestonsburg, KY

#7 Jan 9, 2010
yes i know this because it happend here in floyd cty 12 yrs ago
bored

Logan, WV

#8 Jan 10, 2010
a real man wrote:
well in partly its why im doing it and the other is i believe if she leaves the children should stay with me.ill find something i can use surely to keep them.thanks for all your comments though.
Are you saying that part of the reason you want to try to get them is spite?
ray

Charleston, WV

#9 Jan 10, 2010
I have been through this before. The only way that a court will give you custody of the kids is if you prove that she is an unfit mother. I asked my lawyer exactly what does unfit mean, and he said if you can prove that she is an drug addict or if she is having sexual affairs in front of the kids. He said of course they are other smaller things that can make her unfit but these are the two major ones. They will also take into consideration who the kids prefer to stay with.
I don't think a child should have to grow up without either parent in their lives though, it is the kids that suffer from this. Even if you do prove her unfit, she should still have visitation rights even if they have to be supervised. good luck.
The X Eastern Kentuckian

United States

#10 Jan 10, 2010
a real man wrote:
i am needing some one to tell me if in the state of ky if i prove my soon to be ex wife is unfit can i get sole custody of our children?or does the court favor the mother?
Examine your motives. Like the rest of us guys, we're deeply wounded by having to pay child support because that involves giving money to someone we have hard feelings for. That in itself rubs us the wrong way and makes us think that the kids are better off with us when really we probably know thats not true in most cases.

Its really the anger that drives you and not the fact that the kids are better off with you although sometimes it is the case.

Explore your motives, know yourself and don't pull the kids into your motives unless they are at real risk. A substandard mother parent does not an abuser make. Suck it up and pay your child support and be thankful that now you can go out and start over and don't have to be up all hours of the night with a sick baby.
a real father

Chesterfield, MO

#11 Jan 10, 2010
A real father does what is in the best interest of his children, not himself. He spends quality with his children whether he is married or divorced. He never speaks negatively of the mother to them because he knows that his children love her as much as they love him and to do so, only hurts them. A real father plans in advance how much time he'd like to spend with his children and makes the effort to see it through. If you are a real father, you realize that although you might pay child support, that things like school, Christmas, and birthdays are opportunities for you to buy something special for your child "just from you." A real father realizes that his children needs both parents in their lives and does whatever he needs to do to make it possible. A real father puts jealousy and spite behind him in the best interest of his children. A real father doesn't seek ways to upset their children's lives but to improve it. If your motive is to get rid of child support or to get revenge, then you are not behaving as a real father should. Whatever went wrong with your marriage, do not make your children suffer anymore for it. They have suffered enough and deserve some stability. A real father does the suffering for them.
a real man

Charleston, WV

#12 Jan 10, 2010
real father you are so right,even though im angry the children need both parents.after all she has been a good wife and a good mother.im angry because she was tired of the fighting and thinks we are better off apart.i believe shes right and i feel so ashamed using my children to get back at her.they need both of us.so i appreciate all thats been said.
agreed

Chesterfield, MO

#13 Jan 10, 2010
a real father wrote:
A real father does what is in the best interest of his children, not himself. He spends quality with his children whether he is married or divorced. He never speaks negatively of the mother to them because he knows that his children love her as much as they love him and to do so, only hurts them. A real father plans in advance how much time he'd like to spend with his children and makes the effort to see it through. If you are a real father, you realize that although you might pay child support, that things like school, Christmas, and birthdays are opportunities for you to buy something special for your child "just from you." A real father realizes that his children needs both parents in their lives and does whatever he needs to do to make it possible. A real father puts jealousy and spite behind him in the best interest of his children. A real father doesn't seek ways to upset their children's lives but to improve it. If your motive is to get rid of child support or to get revenge, then you are not behaving as a real father should. Whatever went wrong with your marriage, do not make your children suffer anymore for it. They have suffered enough and deserve some stability. A real father does the suffering for them.
The best post I have read on this fourm.
oh yes you can

Pikeville, KY

#14 Jan 10, 2010
if you can proof her a durg addicted or lets the kids go hurngry an drty an sick you can get all rights to your chiidren
u can magoffin

Louisa, KY

#15 Jan 10, 2010
my husband got full custody of his 2 kids..he brought witneses in telling what a drunk;n piece of sh;t she was,all it took,alot easier these days...but please dont scream and fight around the kids,,my mom &dad started divorce when i was 5,they fought in court 4 over 2 yrs. over me.[only child]. but at home, it truly just about became a murder sene,, i;m 42 yrs. old now,and my nerves r still shot!!!
CountryLady

Louisa, KY

#16 Jan 10, 2010
a real father wrote:
A real father does what is in the best interest of his children, not himself. He spends quality with his children whether he is married or divorced. He never speaks negatively of the mother to them because he knows that his children love her as much as they love him and to do so, only hurts them. A real father plans in advance how much time he'd like to spend with his children and makes the effort to see it through. If you are a real father, you realize that although you might pay child support, that things like school, Christmas, and birthdays are opportunities for you to buy something special for your child "just from you." A real father realizes that his children needs both parents in their lives and does whatever he needs to do to make it possible. A real father puts jealousy and spite behind him in the best interest of his children. A real father doesn't seek ways to upset their children's lives but to improve it. If your motive is to get rid of child support or to get revenge, then you are not behaving as a real father should. Whatever went wrong with your marriage, do not make your children suffer anymore for it. They have suffered enough and deserve some stability. A real father does the suffering for them.
You sound like a truly well rounded individual. I hope (if you don't already) you have children because you truly understand the meaning of that it takes to be a great parent!
great father

Logan, WV

#17 Jan 11, 2010
whats bad is im a great father and was the mother as well. id wake up all hours of the night to change diapers warm bottles run him to the hospital when he was sick. i spent every day with him while she went to school and worked. id take him to my job with me while she would do her thing. i did what i could to be a good man to her but she decided she wanted someone else. when i found out about her cheating she asked me to leave the apartment we shared. i could not take my son because i had no were to take him. now that im on my feet with a wife and an apartment the mother wont let me see my son. ignores every contact i try to have with her. when i went to volunteer child support i figured id at least get visitation. the court told me to contact an attorney. when i contacted the free attorney i was told they couldnt help me because she had already contacted them. what is a great father supposed to do. any suggestions would help or words of advise
nail technician

San Juan, Philippines

#18 Jan 11, 2010
A Real father wants to spend time and be part of his kids' lives. He puts 50 % into it raising his children. A father is more than just seeing their children 1 day, every other week. It takes a woman and a man to create a baby, and both should have to raise them, equally. Now a days, most 'smart' women make sure their exes have just as much responsibility as they do with FAIR visitation. 1 week with the mother, and the next week with the father.
nail technician

San Juan, Philippines

#19 Jan 11, 2010
why not work out joint custody with her? you have the kids one week, and she has them the next week. It would give each of you a week to recuperate and rest up. I don't see how she could get by with this.
what

Chesterfield, MO

#20 Jan 11, 2010
nail technician wrote:
why not work out joint custody with her? you have the kids one week, and she has them the next week. It would give each of you a week to recuperate and rest up. I don't see how she could get by with this.
Are you serious? Do you know how unstable this would be for a child?(depending on the age) A real parent soesn't need to 'rest up'. He is asking for advice and help not this.
what

Chesterfield, MO

#21 Jan 11, 2010
great father wrote:
when i went to volunteer child support i figured id at least get visitation. the court told me to contact an attorney. when i contacted the free attorney i was told they couldnt help me because she had already contacted them. what is a great father supposed to do. any suggestions would help or words of advise
Why would she need to cantact the free attorneys? She should be represented by the Division of Child Support. That doesn't sound right? You ask what a great father is supposed to do? How about pay for an attorney?(and I didn't write that to be a smarta$$.) There are so many sites online to find help.

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