I am pregnant by my married lover

I am pregnant by my married lover

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Down trodden

Waterloo, Canada

#1 Oct 10, 2010
I just found out two days ago that I am very much pregnant with this man's baby. I told him tonight and he was completely stunned. He left in such a hurry. I don't think he completely understood when I was telling him. I am just as stunned as I was told I would never be able to have children. Any advice?
Hope

Dallas, TX

#2 Oct 10, 2010
Give him time and space and let him think about it. He ha some major decisions to make. 9 chances out of 10 he will not leave his wife for you though. You need to decide if to can do this alone. If you can, good for you. If not, update us and I will post the number of some adoption agencies. I wish you the best.
Golden Ticket

Van Wert, OH

#3 Oct 10, 2010
Are you married?

Since: Jan 10

Location hidden

#4 Oct 10, 2010
Are you serious?

You couldnt find an unmarried man? Does it make you feel good that the both of you just broke up a family. He was too coward to be faitful or walk away. You must have been to lonely or have low self esteem or just didnt care he was married.

He will probably never leave his wife. He will also probably have nothing to do if the child unless you are one of the special homewreckers.

Why dont you people think before laying down and bringing an innocent child into your sick twisted world?

Do you know the hell that everyone involved is going to go through?

Stupidity and selfishness is all I can say.

You both made your bed, now go sleep in it.
wow

AOL

#5 Oct 10, 2010
Respect marriage...he was only using you for a piece of ass on the side, now you have to raise a bastard child. Trust me, he will not leave his wife over this. Oh, and use a condom, you probably arent the only whore he is banging. My advice is have a C-section so you dont pass along herpes to your love child.
JRS

Shattuck, OK

#6 Oct 10, 2010
Nunya30 wrote:
Are you serious?
You couldnt find an unmarried man? Does it make you feel good that the both of you just broke up a family. He was too coward to be faitful or walk away. You must have been to lonely or have low self esteem or just didnt care he was married.
He will probably never leave his wife. He will also probably have nothing to do if the child unless you are one of the special homewreckers.
Why dont you people think before laying down and bringing an innocent child into your sick twisted world?
Do you know the hell that everyone involved is going to go through?
Stupidity and selfishness is all I can say.
You both made your bed, now go sleep in it.
I kinda have to agree with this.

I wouldnt have been so harsh about it. I have been in the situation. Except, I was the wife who's husband got another woman pregnant. I know the pain it causes everyone involved. I just wish you and him both would have been more responsible and not hooked up. You should have walked away from someone who is married. For every action there is a consequence. I just hope your prepared to face them. I also hope your prepared for the reality of that your probably going to be a single mom. Chances are if his wife forgives him he will not leave her. There will not be some fairytale happy ending in this mess. I really feel bad for you. I feel bad for his wife and his kids if there are any. You all just entered a turbulent roller coaster ride.
Thats aweful

Dallas, TX

#7 Oct 10, 2010
Did you forgive your hubby? I feel horrible for you. I hope you have been able to emotionally heal. It has to be horrible.
JRS wrote:
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I kinda have to agree with this.
I wouldnt have been so harsh about it. I have been in the situation. Except, I was the wife who's husband got another woman pregnant. I know the pain it causes everyone involved. I just wish you and him both would have been more responsible and not hooked up. You should have walked away from someone who is married. For every action there is a consequence. I just hope your prepared to face them. I also hope your prepared for the reality of that your probably going to be a single mom. Chances are if his wife forgives him he will not leave her. There will not be some fairytale happy ending in this mess. I really feel bad for you. I feel bad for his wife and his kids if there are any. You all just entered a turbulent roller coaster ride.

“Two stones with one bird”

Since: Oct 09

The Compound

#8 Oct 10, 2010
Down trodden wrote:
I just found out two days ago that I am very much pregnant with this man's baby. I told him tonight and he was completely stunned. He left in such a hurry. I don't think he completely understood when I was telling him. I am just as stunned as I was told I would never be able to have children. Any advice?
Here is some good advice.

Don't come to Topix looking for advice or pity reagrding a self-created clusterfuck.

You knew the risks now deal with it. The only person that I feel any pity for is the unborn child.

The only part of your post that I will address is the assumption that you don't think he completely understood when you were telling him.

Trust me, no one in this world understands better than him right now. You are the one that doesn't get it.
Jrs

Newcastle, OK

#9 Oct 10, 2010
I actually did forgive him after a long, long time of being apart. It was a horrible situation. My oldest son still has resentment towards what his dad did to all of us. I am in fear of their father son relationship. My son told me one time that he loved me but he didnt know if he loved his dad. That was heartbreaking to hear.
Good Plan

United States

#10 Oct 10, 2010
Down trodden wrote:
I just found out two days ago that I am very much pregnant with this man's baby. I told him tonight and he was completely stunned. He left in such a hurry. I don't think he completely understood when I was telling him. I am just as stunned as I was told I would never be able to have children. Any advice?
For starters you should get a back alley abortion. Second, you should act like you dont know what the married man is talking about if he asks about the baby. Third, continue banging the married man. Abortions and affairs are both very cool.
Getreal

Marion, OH

#11 Oct 10, 2010
ITs martyr's baby!!!

“Two stones with one bird”

Since: Oct 09

The Compound

#12 Oct 10, 2010
Getreal wrote:
ITs martyr's baby!!!
(Maury pointing at me)

You ARE the father!

(crowd goes wild)
Shamrock

AOL

#13 Oct 10, 2010
Drop the kid! Actually at this point not a kid. The world is full of unwanted kids who are forgotten, by the "end choice" types the minute they are born. Do it as early as possible and do it now. This assumes that "dangly dick" does not want to step up, assume ownership and support. Fat chance. Otherwise it is a dead end for the kid, which the end abortion sorts don't want to own up to. Just crow about. Next time keep your legs crossed or learn about birth control.

Since: Sep 10

Location hidden

#14 Oct 10, 2010
Seriously? Told you couldn't have children? You should've been keeping your legs closed to a married man. He's a total idiot for believing you when you said you couldn't have a baby and not putting a rubber on it to stick it in you. Hope you have a nice life. Oh wait, NO I DON'T.
lwow

Marion, OH

#15 Oct 10, 2010
Down trodden wrote:
I just found out two days ago that I am very much pregnant with this man's baby. I told him tonight and he was completely stunned. He left in such a hurry. I don't think he completely understood when I was telling him. I am just as stunned as I was told I would never be able to have children. Any advice?
yea dont sleep with married men
OMG

Marion, OH

#16 Oct 10, 2010
Good Plan wrote:
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For starters you should get a back alley abortion. Second, you should act like you dont know what the married man is talking about if he asks about the baby. Third, continue banging the married man. Abortions and affairs are both very cool.
this person is worse off than the one in this crappy situation please dont be this stupid you laid now u pay
OMG

Marion, OH

#17 Oct 10, 2010
Martyr Machine wrote:
<quoted text>
(Maury pointing at me)
You ARE the father!
(crowd goes wild)
lmao
OMG

Marion, OH

#18 Oct 10, 2010
I was told I could never have kids when I was 18 I got married and got pregnant 3 months later, when I was 27 and his mom said I trapped him how do you trap someone you are married to lol. but I dont know about you, but I was happy I was going to have the baby I was told I could never have!! so my advice to you is forget the married man, and raise your child, it is possible!!! but you need to quit sleeping with men that are taken how would you like to be in his wifes position
Nikki

Quincy, MA

#19 Oct 11, 2010
Go after him for child support. DO NOT let him walk away from this because he is married. HE made the decision to have sex with you knowing fully that a child was a possibility.
Down trodden

Warwick, RI

#20 Oct 11, 2010
Well I expected a lot of backlash but I don't really don't care. There is so much more to this story. I doubt he will ever be able to leave his wife. She has him backed into a corner financially. Funny thing about it is,he doesn't evenlive with her! They pretty much maintain separate lifestyles except for the fact that they are stil married.

I am definitely keeping this child. Plain and simple. I would love for him to be a part of it,but I'm not going to worry about it at present.

He does not live here and I'm seriously considering leaving this area. I have little to no ties here.

He called this morning and said he would not abandon this child. Time shall tell I suppose. I don't feel like I have broken up this marriage because it was over before we even got involved.

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