MOM

Clarkesville, GA

#1 Nov 5, 2008
my husband and i are wanting to adopt but it is very hard. if you know of someone that is pregnant and doesn't know what to do please post. adoption is a fantastic solution - great for the child - we have a loving family and would provide a happy home.
barnburner

Saint Louis, MO

#2 Nov 5, 2008
What State are u in? Missouri needs people to adopt their kids. I have adopted one there myself. It is not easy but way easier than a foreign adoption.
MOM

Clarkesville, GA

#3 Nov 5, 2008
missouri

“Embrace life & enjoy the ride!”

Since: Jun 08

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#4 Nov 5, 2008
Have you thought about being a foster parent? At times that can lead to adoption.
Dont Know

AOL

#5 Nov 7, 2008
I also hear Dr. Carda helps people who do not want the babies they are pregnant with to find a suitable family to raise the baby. I do not know about costs, etc. but I am very interested, too. I don't know if you have to know Dr. Carda well, or be rich, or well-known, or what.
I heard foster parenting can be tough because maybe you have them 3 years then they go back home after you figure you might be keeping them. It seems kinda risky.
I do know that there is a place call Love Baskets in Hillsboro, MO that you can adopt babies from if the parents pick you but you need about $20,000.
Does anyone know of any other doctors who help, and if there is a huge cost???

“Heya:)”

Since: Sep 08

Poplar Bluff, Mo

#6 Nov 7, 2008
If you through social services you can opt for adoption only or both foster and adoption or you can just be a foster parent.
Its basically free for you too if you qualify and its easy to qualify, just take the classes they offer and pass the background checks and home visit (which you would have to do most of that anyways with any adoption).
This next part is my personal opinion here but Im gonna add it anyways, in regards to fostering and the comment above I think your being a little bit selfish. Those kids need a loving home too and if your wanting to be a mom or dad then you should give it a try and not just throw it out the window cause it has a chance of not being permanent, look at it this way if you were to become pregnant or pay 20 grand for a baby theres no gaurantee your gonna keep that child either, in life anything can happen.
Not trying to push anyones buttons or anything but its just a thought and yes Carrie Carda does help because she is pro life and no you do not have to be rich, shes not like that at all, she is a wonderful person and a great doctor:)
Curious

Saint Louis, MO

#7 Nov 7, 2008
Ever thought about Surrogacy??

Since: Nov 08

United States

#8 Nov 10, 2008
MOM wrote:
my husband and i are wanting to adopt but it is very hard. if you know of someone that is pregnant and doesn't know what to do please post. adoption is a fantastic solution - great for the child - we have a loving family and would provide a happy home.
my husband and i are adoptive parents. we have researched various routes, worked with state agencies and private physicians (some local, some not). i will answer any questions that you have based on our experience.
Dont Know

AOL

#9 Nov 10, 2008
To Adoptive Parent:

How did you finally adopt? Were you afraid of getting a child with a predisposition for mental illness or something? Do you think dealing with local physicians is a good option? What were some of the barriers you came up against? Was everyone good at communicating with you the family history of health, drug, and mental health issues?

Thanks.

Since: Nov 08

United States

#10 Nov 11, 2008
Dont Know wrote:
To Adoptive Parent:
How did you finally adopt? Were you afraid of getting a child with a predisposition for mental illness or something? Do you think dealing with local physicians is a good option? What were some of the barriers you came up against? Was everyone good at communicating with you the family history of health, drug, and mental health issues?
Thanks.
We finally went through an adoption agency. We researched many, many agencies and found what worked best for us. With adoption, yes, we were afraid of the "unknown" possibilities, but I assume these are the same fears for even expectant mothers. We were on 5 different physician lists and after 2 years of not hearing anything, we had to make other decisions. As an adoptive parent, I would have to say that the options are case by case. I would not say that we had many barriers at all, except for time. There is a lot of time that has to be put into paperwork (homestudy, background checks, letters of reference, etc...). Then as I said earlier the "unknown", the "what-ifs". Will the mother change her mind? In our case - she did for about 8 hours - so I can relate to this fear as well. We have a GREAT relationship with our birthmom. She Blessed us with our little miracle; but she allowed us to be the parents from Day 1 (with a minor 8 hour set-back 10 days later)- but as Christians, my husband and I knew that God's plan would be carried out. It is now 10 months later, and we could not be happier with our situation at all! Our birthmom shared ALL of her medical background with us - we have no background on the father --- but... we have a beautiful, happy, and healthy child!!
wantingtoadopt

Poplar Bluff, MO

#11 Nov 11, 2008
We've also been on the physician's lists for over two years and have researched many different agencies. What type of agency did you finally decide on? We're having difficulty making that decision and with the cost of adoption. Also,once connected with the agency what was your wait time and what type of support were you given. Thanks for answering our questions. This is a long, hard journey full of uncertainties and it helps to hear from someone that has made it with a happy ending.

Since: Nov 08

United States

#12 Nov 11, 2008
wantingtoadopt wrote:
We've also been on the physician's lists for over two years and have researched many different agencies. What type of agency did you finally decide on? We're having difficulty making that decision and with the cost of adoption. Also,once connected with the agency what was your wait time and what type of support were you given. Thanks for answering our questions. This is a long, hard journey full of uncertainties and it helps to hear from someone that has made it with a happy ending.
Would you be willing to share your email address? I would love to email in a setting that is not broadcasted just for the privacy of both you and I due to the sensitivity of this subject. I am willing to provide you details of our agency, along with details of all other steps. I can tell you that when the agency started marketing us, it was less than 10 months until the birth of our child.
wantingtoadopt

Poplar Bluff, MO

#13 Nov 11, 2008
I'll set up a yahoo account and get back with you on an e-mail addy. Thanks.

Since: Nov 08

United States

#14 Nov 11, 2008
wantingtoadopt wrote:
I'll set up a yahoo account and get back with you on an e-mail addy. Thanks.
Great! I look forward to sharing our adoption experience with you! I know there are A LOT of "what-ifs" but... it is SO very much worth it!
wantingtoadopt

United States

#15 Nov 11, 2008
adoptive parent, my e-mail is [email protected] Look forward to talking with you.

Since: Nov 08

United States

#16 Nov 11, 2008
wantingtoadopt wrote:
adoptive parent, my e-mail is [email protected] Look forward to talking with you.
I will be able to sit down and email around 9:00pm tonight...I look forward to talking with you as well!

Since: Nov 08

Saint Louis, MO

#17 Nov 11, 2008
wantingtoadopt wrote:
adoptive parent, my e-mail is [email protected] Look forward to talking with you.
HI, WANTING TO ADOPT - I have sent a couple of email to the address provided. They were sent back to me as "undeliverable" however; they show up in my 'sent-box'. If you do not have email from me in the morning, please let me know via topix and we'll figure it out!
wantingtoadopt

Poplar Bluff, MO

#18 Nov 12, 2008
Sorry, I forgot to add 70 to my e-mail. My correct address is [email protected] That should work.

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