Is it ok to cheat if your wife wont g...
feel cheated

United States

#84 Aug 15, 2009
to feel cheated wrote:
You need to figure it out if you want to be around that ccrap or not.
I'm debating.

Is he a slob or overweight?

Yes

Turned 40 lately?

yes
Has he cheated?

Don't know

If sex is rare, who's fault? Yours?
I would like it every night
help youself

Lake Charles, LA

#85 Aug 16, 2009
You need to find you a mature male friend with benefits. Someone who will hug, kiss, laugh, talk, listen, hug, and make love to you so you do not become a depressed woman who turns to booze or nerve pills. That bastard does not love you, you are his maid. If you cannot afford to divorce, get a discreet man, who has needs and is a calm, neat, quiet guy to take care of you 2-3 times a week.
I know such a person who would be a good choice. He is not a drunk, wife beater, pill head, or trouble maker. He could take care of you and never make any waves. I know you may not want to do this, but a little spice in your life with no strings could make you smile a little more.
pfm

Dothan, AL

#86 Aug 16, 2009
agree wrote:
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Sports, movies, bowling etc is entertainment, not porn.. porn is a sickness. It is a threat when the man feels the need to have that to get excited.. you know maybe he has a sexual disfunction, that he has to look at porn and play with himself to get hard. There is nothing wrong with the woman, it's the man's sickness. Women deserve better.
Then us women should get porn that has a very well hung man,that can make us scream and go all nite. And we would not have sex with you until we watched our porn to turn us on. But, as we look at the size, we decide to use the vibrator instead.
Is there something physically wrong with him, E.D. diabetes high blood pressure? These things can cause a man not to be able to got an erection the normal way
Kick him

United States

#87 Aug 16, 2009
agree wrote:
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Sports, movies, bowling etc is entertainment, not porn.. porn is a sickness. It is a threat when the man feels the need to have that to get excited.. you know maybe he has a sexual disfunction, that he has to look at porn and play with himself to get hard. There is nothing wrong with the woman, it's the man's sickness. Women deserve better.
Then us women should get porn that has a very well hung man,that can make us scream and go all nite. And we would not have sex with you until we watched our porn to turn us on. But, as we look at the size, we decide to use the vibrator instead.
Then us women should get porn that has a very well hung man,that can make us scream and go all nite. And we would not have sex with you until we watched our porn to turn us on. But, as we look at the size, we decide to use the vibrator instead. U GO GIRL..........
He needs a lesson in how to love a woman and if it don't come about soon, kick him to the curb. I know it will hurt but you know, we've all been hurt. You will get over it and who knows what the future will bring. "he" might be just around the corner waiting on you. Go for it.
get some strange

Montgomery, TX

#88 Aug 16, 2009
Go get you some strange Girl! Guys who are into porno and have a shot at some on a regular basis are foolish to pass it up.
jax

Dothan, AL

#89 Aug 17, 2009
Have you told him that the porn bothers you? If you have, did he care? If he didn't care, maybe you should think about getting rid of him. Get him and yourself some counselling. If he can't seem to get in the mood without the porn, there has to be a reason. Maybe if you watch the porn with him, it could get interesting....
rodney

Mcgehee, AR

#90 Aug 18, 2009
question wrote:
She hasnt given any in like 3 months due to just not "being into it"...what should i do?
really jt...it is never ok...to cheat.. no matter the reason and i know for a fact your wife wouldn't withhold
Ike

Kennett Square, PA

#92 Jun 9, 2013
For Your Info wrote:
I am a woman and I can tell you something my husband used to tell me. "Foreplay all day" makes for great sex. Try it. Just flirt with her, give her hugs, kisses, and attention without expecting anything in return. My bedtime she should be ready for anything. Women need sex because of love, men just need it period. lol You've got to warm her up. We don't just have a switch we can flip on at the last minute.
Thank u so much i never once looked at it that way, god bless u, u just saved me from doing something stupid
hotrod

Mountain Home, AR

#93 Jun 11, 2013
i never know a man that never wonted any lol
Therapist

Longview, TX

#94 Jun 11, 2013
question wrote:
She hasnt given any in like 3 months due to just not "being into it"...what should i do?
. Marriage and individual counseling. It is never ok to cheat.
You must be crazy

Little Rock, AR

#95 Jun 12, 2013
been there wrote:
even if she is having an affair that doesnt make it right for you to do the same thing. it just makes you as bad as her. if you really love her you wouldnt even be thinking about having sex with someone else. i think you are just looking for an excuse to screw around if you aint already. if you are seriouse about the marriage consider marriage counseling if you want to stay together or get a divorce & move on with your life. once the affairs start its pretty much over anyways.
This is definitely a female, because men think about getting with anything with a pulse 24 hours a day.
Try This

United States

#96 Jul 16, 2013
So what is the outcome on the original poster and also the one woman who's husband is.into.porn?
dad of 3

Portland, OR

#97 Jul 23, 2013
It's not cheating if she knows about it and approves, don't you guys have an open marriage? I mean monogamy is unrealistic for either a man or woman, so my wife and I play with other people and it's all right I mean there's nothing wrong with it since sex is not a moral issue, and it keeps the spice in our marriage.

Since: Jul 10

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#98 Jul 23, 2013
She might just be unattracted to you, or you arent bringing it 100% to bed. you may be the problem not her. and honestly blasting her ass or lack of on here will get you futher in the dog house. you may need to just get to movin..........
question wrote:
ummm.....there is no "warming" her up anymore! there is no condition, medically, or anything like that. anytime i try to initiate, she gives this look, like, your freakin crazy if u think im givin this up! whats the deal. i talk bout it and she gets mad. i sugest seein a doctor and she gets REAL mad. soooooo???
NiLo

United States

#99 Jul 23, 2013
dad of 3 wrote:
It's not cheating if she knows about it and approves, don't you guys have an open marriage? I mean monogamy is unrealistic for either a man or woman, so my wife and I play with other people and it's all right I mean there's nothing wrong with it since sex is not a moral issue, and it keeps the spice in our marriage.
Got any ideas how I can get my husband to try having an open marriage? I love him and don't want a relationship with anyone else but I'd like to be able to play with other men sometimes. ;)
Reynolk

United States

#101 Oct 12, 2015
question wrote:
She hasnt given any in like 3 months due to just not "being into it"...what should i do?
Find a side piece. She obviously has.
haaa

Jonesboro, AR

#104 Dec 3, 2015
lol get that divorce on
Roadrunner Here

United States

#105 Dec 12, 2015
It is as long as you don't get caught!! Lol
Attempted

Horseshoe Bend, AR

#106 Oct 31, 2016
NiLo wrote:
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Got any ideas how I can get my husband to try having an open marriage? I love him and don't want a relationship with anyone else but I'd like to be able to play with other men sometimes. ;)
Well we should talk, i like to play!:)
Attempted

Horseshoe Bend, AR

#107 Oct 31, 2016
dad of 3 wrote:
It's not cheating if she knows about it and approves, don't you guys have an open marriage? I mean monogamy is unrealistic for either a man or woman, so my wife and I play with other people and it's all right I mean there's nothing wrong with it since sex is not a moral issue, and it keeps the spice in our marriage.
Love the outlook here, i need to find friends like u and ur wife i think! Hell everyone likes some spice

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