I need advice , please no trolls.

I need advice , please no trolls.

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Phoenix, AZ

#1 Feb 25, 2013
So I realized today I started to develop feelings again with a girl I have been having an off and on affair with for about 2 years now. She has had someone since we meet and I didn't like her at all it was just sex. Eventually we both started to develop feelings and her man found out about our hook ups and made her stop talking to me. So we had no communication for while and she contacted me again and ect.. we have been through this about 5 times already and recently her man moved in with her and now its almost impossible for us to talk ..yet we still do. She has told me before she would be with me in a heart beat if she wasn't with him. She has also told me she loved me once..I know its bs .sometimes I believe it or just want too. I don't know what to tell her and I'm scared to fall for her because I realize she can't be trusted so I'm stuck and I wanna be with her I don't know sometimes .. any advice is appreciated and criticism. Thanks
Booooooo

United States

#2 Feb 25, 2013
U shouldnt trust a woman like her if she leaves him for u u never know if shes gunna do it again do it with someone else n do u wrong
Help

Phoenix, AZ

#3 Feb 25, 2013
Yeah I do understand that I feel used ..
nena

San Leandro, CA

#4 Feb 26, 2013
Help wrote:
So I realized today I started to develop feelings again with a girl I have been having an off and on affair with for about 2 years now. She has had someone since we meet and I didn't like her at all it was just sex. Eventually we both started to develop feelings and her man found out about our hook ups and made her stop talking to me. So we had no communication for while and she contacted me again and ect.. we have been through this about 5 times already and recently her man moved in with her and now its almost impossible for us to talk ..yet we still do. She has told me before she would be with me in a heart beat if she wasn't with him. She has also told me she loved me once..I know its bs .sometimes I believe it or just want too. I don't know what to tell her and I'm scared to fall for her because I realize she can't be trusted so I'm stuck and I wanna be with her I don't know sometimes .. any advice is appreciated and criticism. Thanks
Do either of u have kids?
Dear annie

United States

#5 Feb 26, 2013
Honestly u needa give her a ultimatum n if anything do u have some1?? If u do u needa cut ties with Tha person u least care abt! Because if anything u will end up with either n I also think that would u really take serious some1 who has some1 n is still havin an affair?? I get it could actually work but think of ur cons!! There is more fish in the sea!!
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#6 Feb 26, 2013
nena wrote:
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Do either of u have kids?
No we don't have any kids
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#7 Feb 26, 2013
Dear annie wrote:
Honestly u needa give her a ultimatum n if anything do u have some1?? If u do u needa cut ties with Tha person u least care abt! Because if anything u will end up with either n I also think that would u really take serious some1 who has some1 n is still havin an affair?? I get it could actually work but think of ur cons!! There is more fish in the sea!!
No I don't have anyone since we both meet I have had 1 gf and countless other girls in that time. Every time I get close to someone I bring her up and explain to them what has happend between us and they get jealous or angry so I try not to talk about it. I just really like her that much and have tried so many different things to call it off between us. Only my last gf actually made me not think of her and when we broke up litterally that day she txt me out of nowhere and we started again and we stoped talking again. We recently started to talk again before my bday and we had sex within seeing each other in minutes. Its not just that tho we talk for hours and txt and we don't even talk about sex we are best friends. Ughh I'm so torn cuz of this
nena

San Leandro, CA

#8 Feb 26, 2013
You said she told u all this things but what have you told her? Does she knows how you feel? For all she knows she can be thinking you're just enjoying the ride, she's not a mind reader ..i know from experience that a girl doesn't have to say "i love you" to get in a Guy's pants, so if she said it im sure she meant it..besides a guy who doesn't give up on what he wants is sexy!
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#9 Feb 26, 2013
nena wrote:
You said she told u all this things but what have you told her? Does she knows how you feel? For all she knows she can be thinking you're just enjoying the ride, she's not a mind reader ..i know from experience that a girl doesn't have to say "i love you" to get in a Guy's pants, so if she said it im sure she meant it..besides a guy who doesn't give up on what he wants is sexy!
Damn that's where the problem starts..I told her before to leave her man for me ..I told her how I felt and everytime I do we have a huge fight about how she loves her man..that's bull I know she really doesn't we just had sex yesturday during my lunch and a week before that we were going to but her man moved in oh and by the way she recently moved down my street so we see each other often like when she was comming home I saw her for a couple mins before she went with him. Idk its so much ...
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#11 Feb 26, 2013
nena wrote:
Wow that is too much, she lives down the street with him?
You'all should get free trip to Jerry Springer sorry but it's true
Yeah I know I might not get anything from posting this but I had to vent I can't talk to my friends about this because some are friends with 'them" and so on :/, I just wish I was dating someone to forget about her but I don't want anyone else currently
MRSqueenB

Delano, CA

#12 Feb 27, 2013
she's never gonna leave her man. she's with u cause she not getting what u give her from her man. which is that feeling u get n ur heart when it beats fast. I'm sure u guys well get caught again cause what happens n the dark well come to the light and maybe then you'll guys be together but how would u know if she wont c her ex again u both have to change ur #s cause this is never gonna stop intill her man gets a hold of u
What

San Leandro, CA

#13 Feb 27, 2013
This saying might be old but, I've always thought its true " if you really love something in life you have to set it free if it comes back its yours if it doesn't it never was "
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#15 Feb 27, 2013
MRSqueenB wrote:
she's never gonna leave her man. she's with u cause she not getting what u give her from her man. which is that feeling u get n ur heart when it beats fast. I'm sure u guys well get caught again cause what happens n the dark well come to the light and maybe then you'll guys be together but how would u know if she wont c her ex again u both have to change ur #s cause this is never gonna stop intill her man gets a hold of u
That's what I think. I understand she loves him and what not, but I know there is something about me she can't get enough of that's why I say its more than sex.. and I want to get caught so her man can realize she isn't for him .we haven't offically got caught but I have confronted her and her man. I randomly walked into a store one day and her and her man was there and this was in the begining and we had stop talking. He was speechless when he saw me and I just smiled at her as I walked by.I wont fight for her but I'm sure I would beat that guy to the ground easily. They are high school sweethearts by the way and I think that's the reason she wont leave and he is a cry baby.I always seem to be a home wrecker and it kills me.. she is dumb too cuz she wants me and her man to be kool so we can cheat easier I just can't do that I mean I can't share anymore.
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#16 Feb 27, 2013
What wrote:
This saying might be old but, I've always thought its true " if you really love something in life you have to set it free if it comes back its yours if it doesn't it never was "
I never was a fan of thia quote because I don't believe in till now. I set her free about 5 times and she has came back everytime. I'm talking about months of not talking and we always start like nothing either happend.honestly I don't love her.. yet. But I have been in love before with someone I have been with for about 5 years and I don't even feel half of what I felt with her and its been about 2 years next month. That's why its killing me cuz I think I do..
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#17 Feb 27, 2013
Thank you all by the way for the positive feedback I need it
yup yup

Brooklyn, NY

#18 Feb 27, 2013
Just stop seeing her! She know she can have u at any giving time that's y she hasn't left her man...trust me it happens to me, except I was like her I never left my man I even had 5 kids with him....but I always remember that other person that loved me soo much who would almost do anything for me n I let him go...well he let me go, he couldn't see me anymore cause I was hurting him more and more every time we saw eachother...if I could go back time I would b with him, but I can't.! Let her go, ull see that she will b the 1looking for u and hopefully it would b more than what u anticipated... good luck!!
nena

San Leandro, CA

#19 Feb 27, 2013
What do you like about her so much anyway
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#20 Feb 27, 2013
yup yup wrote:
Just stop seeing her! She know she can have u at any giving time that's y she hasn't left her man...trust me it happens to me, except I was like her I never left my man I even had 5 kids with him....but I always remember that other person that loved me soo much who would almost do anything for me n I let him go...well he let me go, he couldn't see me anymore cause I was hurting him more and more every time we saw eachother...if I could go back time I would b with him, but I can't.! Let her go, ull see that she will b the 1looking for u and hopefully it would b more than what u anticipated... good luck!!
Thank you a lot this made me feel better and I do realize that I should be the one that has to really call it off cuz we both have done it. I just hope she knows what's right for her.
Help

Los Angeles, CA

#21 Feb 27, 2013
nena wrote:
What do you like about her so much anyway
We just have so much in common and we never are awkward or quite we talk so much and she doesn't get that attention from her man! I mean I take her out to go on dates and buy her little things all the time. Her man is a loser no job and can't even do basic things for her. Its her first love a reason why I'm thinking its hard for her to let go..
justsaying

United States

#22 Feb 27, 2013
If u want to get caught so bad y dnt u start by saying who she is nd who u r dumbass

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