Part of your "all or nothing" has to do with the fact you want to believe before you leap.<quoted text>
"As one of the most culturally significant Jewish holidays, Yom Kippur is observed by many secular Jews who may not observe other holidays. Many secular Jews attend synagogue on Yom Kippur—for many secular Jews the High Holy Days are the only recurring times of the year in which they attend synagogue—causing synagogue attendance to soar."
My sis and mom only go to mass on Christmas eve.
Yet they both consider themselves to be Catholic.
Maybe I'm just an all or nothing type guy. aka obsessive-compulsive
ps I need a few sunny dry days in a row to scrap and paint my bilco doors!!! maybe tomorrow
But as you know, there are many gradations in between.