ATTENTION PLEASE!!! Someone was naked !!!!

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Aunt Sally

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Mar 20, 2008
 
I hope that got your attention, I Posted on here a couple times before, But I guess it wasnt juicy enough to get involved. I need opinions On this matter, as I want to do the right thing.
Do you think you should force family on kids??? I have a 16 almost 17 year old girl who lives with my family. She might as well be mine. We love her as such. She hasnt been in her familys home for quite a few years. My question is at that age should she be Forced to visit them?? She doesnt care if she sees them or not. But they insist she visit.This is not what she wants to do.The kid is a teenager there is school and practices and she wants to spend time with friends and at home (with us). What should I do??? Make her go? Tell them to back off? The kid is perfectly happy where she is, this is her home.I just dont know what to do when they insist, and she doesnt want to go. I dont want to force the kid, but I just dont know what I should do, at that age I think they know who they want to see or dont. What would you do????
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Mar 20, 2008
 
Aunt Sally wrote:
I hope that got your attention, I Posted on here a couple times before, But I guess it wasnt juicy enough to get involved. I need opinions On this matter, as I want to do the right thing.
Do you think you should force family on kids??? I have a 16 almost 17 year old girl who lives with my family. She might as well be mine. We love her as such. She hasnt been in her familys home for quite a few years. My question is at that age should she be Forced to visit them?? She doesnt care if she sees them or not. But they insist she visit.This is not what she wants to do.The kid is a teenager there is school and practices and she wants to spend time with friends and at home (with us). What should I do??? Make her go? Tell them to back off? The kid is perfectly happy where she is, this is her home.I just dont know what to do when they insist, and she doesnt want to go. I dont want to force the kid, but I just dont know what I should do, at that age I think they know who they want to see or dont. What would you do????
I would let her make up her own mind, and tell them to back off if she doesn't want to go, better yet let her tell them to back off.

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Since: Mar 08

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Mar 20, 2008
 
Concur with "okay"... She's almost 17, if she doesn't want to go, don't make her...
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Mar 20, 2008
 
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Concur with "okay"... She's almost 17, if she doesn't want to go, don't make her...
Absolutly agree. I have two children who haven't seen their biological father in over four years (by his choice). He is re-married with two other children of his own. Why force my children to visit someone they don't even know?? This girl doesn't really "know" them as family, does she? I think the court would agree that she is old enough to choose that....however, if you are not named as "legal guardian", they could really put you through it in court.
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Mar 20, 2008
 
If the family is only asking to see this child why would you not want that? Why cause trouble and hard feelings. They just love him and want him involved. Why deny them that? I agree they could cause you trouble if you are not the legal guardian. Even with their age, I wouldn't risk them making her come home. Where are the parents? WHo is wanting to see them? I think you and the child should respect this family enough to give them that. Sorry but family is very important.
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Mar 20, 2008
 
Why does this child not want to see the family?

Since: Feb 08

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Mar 20, 2008
 
I wouldn't make her see them if she doesn't want to. My family never made me visit relatives. I either wanted to, or I didn't go and I respect them so much more for that.
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Mar 20, 2008
 
I would not make her see them, why did they leave her to begin with , where were they when she needed some one , I have been through the foster parenting classes even though they say keep in contact i disagree. if she wants to see them as she gets older she will come to her own conclusion about them , don't push her tell them to back off.
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Aunt Sally

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Mar 21, 2008
 
Sorry folks I work nights and clean and do my running in the day. So I only check here seldom in the day.I should have explained our situation better. Meg's mom was our neighbor, She got pregnant very young, and her family put her out. She was never close with them either.Her father was never in the picture, or wanted anything to do with her. Us not being able to have kids of our own, watched her daily as mom worked. We fell in love with them both. Then her mom was killed in an auto accident, when she was 6.Her dad was told she belonged to him as her grandparents didnt want to raise a child. She was scared to death of him, and he didnt want her, so we offered to keep her till he thought it out. He decided to leave her in our care. That was a little over ten years ago. Her maternal grandparents called once or twice a year to check on her, without much intrest. Now in the last 6 months it is all we have heard. We want her in our lives we miss her, They dont even know her, she says these people are strangers to her. she is to recieve a nice amount of money, due to her moms death, upon her 18th birthday. I cant help but wonder if this is the sudden change in heart. I never said I didnt want her to see her family. Never. I even encouraged it. But she is so upset by having to visit she goes to tears. I can imagine how she must feel. I have tried talking to them they are not friendly people and only see there way. I still feel if they love her as they say ,then they should consider what she wants. They dont. Now its Easter, and they want her Sunday, she said no. We have a play she is in at church, and a church dinner that night. I tried to explain this to them, even invite them. They were so angry. They do threaten, as I am not her gaurdian. Never needed to, never had a problem. I know there isnt much they could do any court would agree. I just do not want her to spend her last year at home in a court battle. She will be 17 in 1 month. She even gets to graduate after first semester of school next year. Then she is to take spring classes at MSU, and its off to WVU in the fall. She is going into pediatric surgery. She is a happy , bright girl, with a very bright future, I just dont want to mess with that. Im not sure how to deal, without it getting ugly, and effecting her life. Thanx for all the opinions though I needed them.
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Mar 24, 2008
 
Sounds like a money issue to me... Unfortunately, that can make it become a legal fight too. But you're right, I think a court would say that she can have her own say...
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#18
Mar 24, 2008
 
Yup, sounds like a money issue to me as well. I think she is old enough to make her own decision on this matter. I would not force her to go if it makes her unhappy. They will just have to respect her wishes and leave her alone. I just can't understand why people would be so cruel.

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