looking for a good honest woman

looking for a good honest woman

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looking

Middlesboro, KY

#1 May 17, 2010
looking for a good honest FAITHFULL woman who beleave in family falues. who beleaves in working out your problems and not running off to someone else'es bed. us guys get the bad rap all the time but I know when it comes to cheating a woman will jump into anothers beds just because they think they can. I've never cheated on my wife or been mean to her but I'm fedup with being the nice guy.so how about it is there any good ladys out there left? I should be a feeman in about 60 days. if you are on drugs or drink or have a history of cheating you need not respond.and one more thing,a man is suppose to support his wife and children not his wifes family to. so if your family are leaches you need not reply.
family values

Bolivar, TN

#2 May 17, 2010
looking wrote:
looking for a good honest FAITHFULL woman who beleave in family falues. who beleaves in working out your problems and not running off to someone else'es bed. us guys get the bad rap all the time but I know when it comes to cheating a woman will jump into anothers beds just because they think they can. I've never cheated on my wife or been mean to her but I'm fedup with being the nice guy.so how about it is there any good ladys out there left? I should be a feeman in about 60 days. if you are on drugs or drink or have a history of cheating you need not respond.and one more thing,a man is suppose to support his wife and children not his wifes family to. so if your family are leaches you need not reply.
I thought i was the only person out here in the world that believed in family values anymore that's one of the most important thing in a marriage/family life i apply moral value as well i don't understand why there are so many men and women that will have a wonderful spouse at home and freaking cheat on them i myself wish i could find my prince charming...... i have a son he is 17 and he is my life he is a wonderful young man i feel blessed to have such a wonderful son i have been mom and dad for all his life and i know good morals good ethics high standers have been thought all through his life it's very important on how you present yourself to the world the company you keep is the name you'll carry. but anyway if you would like to talk just reply on here have a wonderful day
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#3 May 17, 2010
looking wrote:
looking for a good honest FAITHFULL woman who beleave in family falues. who beleaves in working out your problems and not running off to someone else'es bed. us guys get the bad rap all the time but I know when it comes to cheating a woman will jump into anothers beds just because they think they can. I've never cheated on my wife or been mean to her but I'm fedup with being the nice guy.so how about it is there any good ladys out there left? I should be a feeman in about 60 days. if you are on drugs or drink or have a history of cheating you need not respond.and one more thing,a man is suppose to support his wife and children not his wifes family to. so if your family are leaches you need not reply.
There are some of us decent ladies out here,just finding a good man is the thing Some times it is easier to just give up.Can you let us know what age group you are looking for is the next thing.Good luck whatever the age group is and be careful you might get worse than you already have.
Been There

Montezuma, GA

#4 May 17, 2010
We are out here. We decent ladies have just decided to stop looking. We usually have already had our hearts broken because men always are looking for that better model or the younger one, or the greener pastures. I wish you luck in your search. If you want a friend and see where it goes from there, we can talk.
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#5 May 17, 2010
every one tells me that I'm better off without her being in my life but how do you just give up on 20 plus years of memories? some say that I should go out and find someone else. but right now I feel that I would be cheating even though she had cheated first. I was told that topix was a good place to go too to vent. I guess that he was right because it do'es make me fill better. maybe there are a few decent ladies still out there. but after thinking really hard about it, there whould no way that I could bring myself to do the same thing that she is doing. I'm not going to sit here and say that I don't love her because I do. thats is what makes this so hard on me. I still don't know what is going to happin. I wish that I had never had found out. I would like to ask the ladies that responed back to me. how did you get through it? if we do end up getting a devorce then I would have the right to date freely again. but I could not see some one right now because it would be wrong to but the woman I was seeing through something like that. I hope the very best for all of you out there who had been through what I'm going through right now. if we do end up splitting up I'll let you all know.
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#6 May 17, 2010
We Are Out Here wrote:
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There are some of us decent ladies out here,just finding a good man is the thing Some times it is easier to just give up.Can you let us know what age group you are looking for is the next thing.Good luck whatever the age group is and be careful you might get worse than you already have.
there just might be some decent ladies out there. maybe time will tell. I'm in my mid 40's. don't worrie ladies, I'm still in good shape.ohh buy the way. on the last post I've made a typo. when I said that I would want to but the woman through it. I ment to say put her through it.
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#7 May 17, 2010
looking wrote:
every one tells me that I'm better off without her being in my life but how do you just give up on 20 plus years of memories? some say that I should go out and find someone else. but right now I feel that I would be cheating even though she had cheated first. I was told that topix was a good place to go too to vent. I guess that he was right because it do'es make me fill better. maybe there are a few decent ladies still out there. but after thinking really hard about it, there whould no way that I could bring myself to do the same thing that she is doing. I'm not going to sit here and say that I don't love her because I do. thats is what makes this so hard on me. I still don't know what is going to happin. I wish that I had never had found out. I would like to ask the ladies that responed back to me. how did you get through it? if we do end up getting a devorce then I would have the right to date freely again. but I could not see some one right now because it would be wrong to but the woman I was seeing through something like that. I hope the very best for all of you out there who had been through what I'm going through right now. if we do end up splitting up I'll let you all know.
You seem like a decent guy,most guys would just go for it and i have to tell you I have a great deal of respect for you for being a better man.Now you ask how do we get through it well most of the time it never is the same and never works no matter how hard you work at it or want it,I personally was with a man for 15 yrs and I thought I would be with him for the rest of my life,but he had different ideals and went out with 2 different wonem well he ended up in a lot of trouble and guess who stood by him,yep ME I thought maybe we can make it work but I just couldn't get past what he had done to me,I tried really hard but I just couldn't stand to look at him or even be around him and believe me we had some grat momories to but that wasn't enough.I hope you can make it work you sounds like you want it to,maybe you are stronger than I was,I wish you the best but if you ever need someone to talk to no strings attached well just post on here and I will be your friend sometimes we all need a stranger to vent to and through email you never have to know who I am and I don't know you.so on that note good luck to you and your wife and I hope it works..........
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#8 May 17, 2010
We Are Out Here wrote:
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You seem like a decent guy,most guys would just go for it and i have to tell you I have a great deal of respect for you for being a better man.Now you ask how do we get through it well most of the time it never is the same and never works no matter how hard you work at it or want it,I personally was with a man for 15 yrs and I thought I would be with him for the rest of my life,but he had different ideals and went out with 2 different wonem well he ended up in a lot of trouble and guess who stood by him,yep ME I thought maybe we can make it work but I just couldn't get past what he had done to me,I tried really hard but I just couldn't stand to look at him or even be around him and believe me we had some grat momories to but that wasn't enough.I hope you can make it work you sounds like you want it to,maybe you are stronger than I was,I wish you the best but if you ever need someone to talk to no strings attached well just post on here and I will be your friend sometimes we all need a stranger to vent to and through email you never have to know who I am and I don't know you.so on that note good luck to you and your wife and I hope it works..........
thank you for the advice. sometimes it takes an outsider to give the advice you need to hear ,not what you want to hear.at this point in my life I honestly don't know what is going to happen. but I do want it to work out. but if it don't I'll know that I have done my best to make it work. I do wish the best for you and hope that you had found that someone speacial that will make up for all the wrong that have been done to you.I do beleave that there is a reason for everything that happens in someone life. I hope that something good will come out from this.till we chat again,take care.
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#9 May 18, 2010
Advice is free and everyone will try to tell you what to do,but in the end you have to make that final decision about your life and you are right sometimes a stranger can put things in persepctive for us better than we can especially someone that has been through the same thing.We ask our seld why has this happened why did they do this to us but you know most of the time it really isn't about us the one that cheated just isn't happy with their self.......It still don't help us understand or make it any easier,I wish you all the best but I seriously doubt you will ever look at your wife the same way again and yes it may work for a while but I have found that if they cheat once they usually do it again.Thank you for thinking of my happiness to but to tell you the truth I am a lot stronger and more independent and have learned to make it on my on I don't need a man to make me happy if someone comes into my life then I will work on that but to tell you the truth I am not looking for one.After being tied down for 15 yrs I think it is time for me to just enjoy my life as it is right now and I like it being free from someone telling me what to do.You sound like a strong and determened man so only you can know whats best for you so take your time and figure out which path you are going.Good luck and yes till we chat again,have a great day and SMILE it will work out one way or the other.
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#10 May 18, 2010
We Are Out Here wrote:
Advice is free and everyone will try to tell you what to do,but in the end you have to make that final decision about your life and you are right sometimes a stranger can put things in persepctive for us better than we can especially someone that has been through the same thing.We ask our seld why has this happened why did they do this to us but you know most of the time it really isn't about us the one that cheated just isn't happy with their self.......It still don't help us understand or make it any easier,I wish you all the best but I seriously doubt you will ever look at your wife the same way again and yes it may work for a while but I have found that if they cheat once they usually do it again.Thank you for thinking of my happiness to but to tell you the truth I am a lot stronger and more independent and have learned to make it on my on I don't need a man to make me happy if someone comes into my life then I will work on that but to tell you the truth I am not looking for one.After being tied down for 15 yrs I think it is time for me to just enjoy my life as it is right now and I like it being free from someone telling me what to do.You sound like a strong and determened man so only you can know whats best for you so take your time and figure out which path you are going.Good luck and yes till we chat again,have a great day and SMILE it will work out one way or the other.
I had a long talk with my wife last night.I did ask her why did she did the things that she did. she said that she had made a mistake and did not mean to hurt me like she did.I asked her was she sorry that she betrayed me or that she got cought. she just looked at me and started crying.I just told her that the trust is gone and I could'nt live with a woman I did'nt trust. she then said that she did'nt want this marrage to end.I asked her did she injoy her self while out f.cking around on me while I was working my @ss off for her? she said that she was sorry and it did'nt mean nothing. she then started talking about our grown son and what would he think about this. I said that it was you that cheated on me let him know the truth. but then I started thinking of what would he think about his mother because my son thinks the world of his mother and I know what this would do to him.I told her that she broke my heart, betrayed my trust in her and I'll never fill the same way towards her again and I honestly did not know how long I could stay with her.
Another resident

Gwynneville, IN

#11 May 18, 2010
looking wrote:
<quoted text>I had a long talk with my wife last night.I did ask her why did she did the things that she did. she said that she had made a mistake and did not mean to hurt me like she did.I asked her was she sorry that she betrayed me or that she got cought. she just looked at me and started crying.I just told her that the trust is gone and I could'nt live with a woman I did'nt trust. she then said that she did'nt want this marrage to end.I asked her did she injoy her self while out f.cking around on me while I was working my @ss off for her? she said that she was sorry and it did'nt mean nothing. she then started talking about our grown son and what would he think about this. I said that it was you that cheated on me let him know the truth. but then I started thinking of what would he think about his mother because my son thinks the world of his mother and I know what this would do to him.I told her that she broke my heart, betrayed my trust in her and I'll never fill the same way towards her again and I honestly did not know how long I could stay with her.
I am glad you had a heart to heart talk with her,but I have to ask you one question,you said you didn't know how long you could stay with her you also mentioned a grown son and how much he loved his mom[and thats natural] but if and when you leave who will take the blame for the breakup if you leave her she most likely will turn this around and make you look like the guilty one.when someone cheats the make a choice and when she said he marriage vows to you she evidently meant them but somewhere along the way she fell out of love it isn't your fault so don't blame yourself and please don't take the blame for her so she will still look like the saint,sometimes you just have to go with your gut instinct most of the time it is right.you have never once mentioned if she said she loved you but you did say she said she was sorry,and thats only because you caught her.she also said she made a mistake well I am here to tell you a mistake is making the wrong turn or buying the wrong size blouse but falling into bed with someone other than your husband or wife is a CHOICE not a mistake.you said you would never feel the same about her well you are right everytime you look at her you will wonder where she has been and what she is doing when you aren't with her as I said listen to your gut it will tell you what you need to know.Good Luck .your friend.,,,,,,
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#12 May 18, 2010
sorry i forgot to change my name from another post.but it is still me,,,,,,,,,,,,we are out here ,,,,,,lol
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#13 May 18, 2010
We Are Out Here wrote:
sorry i forgot to change my name from another post.but it is still me,,,,,,,,,,we are out here ,,,,,,lol
right now my mind is so messed up I don't know what to do.to be honest with you my gut do'es tell me to leave but mt heart tells me to stay and try to get through this. and she did tell me that she did loved me but I told her right back if she DID LOVE me she would not done what she had done.I can't even touch her right now.you know I have lost very close love ones in my life and it hurt like hell but this has hurt me to my core.I think that my problem is that the hurt is to fresh to make my mind up. I did tell her that I'm thinking about leaveing for a few days so I can clear my mind and while I'll was gone to make her mind up if she really want this marrage. but I did not say that I would want to stay with her after I had gotten back.there is alot that is going through my mind right now and I do think the best way to handle this is to just get away from her so I can just think. you said that I was the better person...no you are wrong...you are.you had the courage to leave and not look back....I don't.
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#14 May 18, 2010
looking wrote:
<quoted text>right now my mind is so messed up I don't know what to do.to be honest with you my gut do'es tell me to leave but mt heart tells me to stay and try to get through this. and she did tell me that she did loved me but I told her right back if she DID LOVE me she would not done what she had done.I can't even touch her right now.you know I have lost very close love ones in my life and it hurt like hell but this has hurt me to my core.I think that my problem is that the hurt is to fresh to make my mind up. I did tell her that I'm thinking about leaveing for a few days so I can clear my mind and while I'll was gone to make her mind up if she really want this marrage. but I did not say that I would want to stay with her after I had gotten back.there is alot that is going through my mind right now and I do think the best way to handle this is to just get away from her so I can just think. you said that I was the better person...no you are wrong...you are.you had the courage to leave and not look back....I don't.
I can understand you feeling lost and betrayed and you are right in taking a few days to be by yourself and think things outand i hope with all my heart that you can work things out,I know you have worked hard and invested a lot of love in this marriage and your home.so dear friend I know you will make the right decision for yourself.and just so you know you are a good person for even thinking about sticking around most men would done be gone and yes you are strong also.remember I am here to talk anytime.
Been There

Montezuma, GA

#15 May 18, 2010
I think you are right to take a few days to yourself. It helps to get away and just think for a while. Also, if you do decide to leave, I think you and your wife should sit down with your grown son and tell him the truth. He will appreciate that much more than you telling him half truths and him finding out later (and it will always come out) He will understand. Sounds like you have had a good marriage and raised your son together. He will be a man just like his father and understand. Things happen in life that are not so "perfect" and children are the ones stuck in the middle. Most often they are the reason that some marriages stay together even when the love is gone. Children pick up on this and will know what is going on, no matter how good you are at hiding things. Being honest is the best policy. There doesnt have to be details, but the truth will be the best way to go. And I am sure your son will be upset at some point. He will blame himself, his mother and you. But he will come to see that it was for the best that he know the truth. Dont take the blame, this was NOT your fault. And you did NOTHING wrong. This will change you and you will never be the same again. Your trust is broken and you will never look at your wife the same again. I know, been there. I tried to "work it out for the kids", but it continued to get worse and I was never able to forgive or forget. I have learned to be a strong, independent woman and have raised my children alone for years. They have coped with this much better than I have. I have friends that have told me I did the right thing, but when I am sitting ALONE at night, it is hard. But I found out just who I was and found out how strong a person I am and that I dont need a man to make me happy. My children do that everyday and I have family to help me thru the rough spots. So here's hoping you do what is right for you. Dont make the mistake of trying to take the blame or letting your wife make you the "bad one". You did nothing wrong and this is not your fault.
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#16 May 18, 2010
Been There wrote:
I think you are right to take a few days to yourself. It helps to get away and just think for a while. Also, if you do decide to leave, I think you and your wife should sit down with your grown son and tell him the truth. He will appreciate that much more than you telling him half truths and him finding out later (and it will always come out) He will understand. Sounds like you have had a good marriage and raised your son together. He will be a man just like his father and understand. Things happen in life that are not so "perfect" and children are the ones stuck in the middle. Most often they are the reason that some marriages stay together even when the love is gone. Children pick up on this and will know what is going on, no matter how good you are at hiding things. Being honest is the best policy. There doesnt have to be details, but the truth will be the best way to go. And I am sure your son will be upset at some point. He will blame himself, his mother and you. But he will come to see that it was for the best that he know the truth. Dont take the blame, this was NOT your fault. And you did NOTHING wrong. This will change you and you will never be the same again. Your trust is broken and you will never look at your wife the same again. I know, been there. I tried to "work it out for the kids", but it continued to get worse and I was never able to forgive or forget. I have learned to be a strong, independent woman and have raised my children alone for years. They have coped with this much better than I have. I have friends that have told me I did the right thing, but when I am sitting ALONE at night, it is hard. But I found out just who I was and found out how strong a person I am and that I dont need a man to make me happy. My children do that everyday and I have family to help me thru the rough spots. So here's hoping you do what is right for you. Dont make the mistake of trying to take the blame or letting your wife make you the "bad one". You did nothing wrong and this is not your fault.
WOW you took the words right from my post and made them yours,so glad you became strong and independent and decided you don't need a man to make you happy.now see where you go from here.but you are right about one thing it isn't Looking fault and he really has nothing to feel guilty about he will do what's right for him and he will be a better man for it in the end,and thats all that counts.
looking

Middlesboro, KY

#17 May 18, 2010
to been there,your words of wisdom struck home.some times it takes the words of strangers to make you see the light..I thank you....to we are out here,I took care of some personal business "just to be on the safe side" because I told her that I had to get away for a few days to do some soul serching. what surprise me is that she understood.she told me not to make the same mistake that she made.I told her not to worrie I'm not that stupid.she said she did'nt mean it the way I took it.what she ment was not to throw are marrage away.give her a chance to make it right. I don't know if she is really regretting what she had done or if she is playing mind games with me.who knows at this point what will happin.maybe we can get through this ..maybe not.but like I said before...every thing happins for a reason. if it don't then I will file for a devorce. then maybe some day we both be standing in the check out line at wallmart and just meet..lol..like I said,things happin for a reason. I'll be leaving here soon.I want to thank you both for your words of kindness and understanding.you both are 2 very SMART and CARING ladies. I guess that I was wrong...they are some nice ladies still out there. this will be my last post.you both deserve some one in your lives that will bring you happyness and laughter. to hold you on those cold nights and to hold your hand when out walking out on those sunny days.please take care....S.D.R.
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#18 May 18, 2010
looking wrote:
to been there,your words of wisdom struck home.some times it takes the words of strangers to make you see the light..I thank you....to we are out here,I took care of some personal business "just to be on the safe side" because I told her that I had to get away for a few days to do some soul serching. what surprise me is that she understood.she told me not to make the same mistake that she made.I told her not to worrie I'm not that stupid.she said she did'nt mean it the way I took it.what she ment was not to throw are marrage away.give her a chance to make it right. I don't know if she is really regretting what she had done or if she is playing mind games with me.who knows at this point what will happin.maybe we can get through this ..maybe not.but like I said before...every thing happins for a reason. if it don't then I will file for a devorce. then maybe some day we both be standing in the check out line at wallmart and just meet..lol..like I said,things happin for a reason. I'll be leaving here soon.I want to thank you both for your words of kindness and understanding.you both are 2 very SMART and CARING ladies. I guess that I was wrong...they are some nice ladies still out there. this will be my last post.you both deserve some one in your lives that will bring you happyness and laughter. to hold you on those cold nights and to hold your hand when out walking out on those sunny days.please take care....S.D.R.
Dear S>D>R I am happy for you,and I hope you find a way to work through your problems with your wife I hope for your sake she is really sorry for her indiscretion,you deserve better.Maybe while you are away you can come to terms with all this and who knows maybe you can come home and start over I hope it works that way for you because deep down I think it is what you want so thats what I want for you also and as you said if it don't work then you can go another path,but either way you deserve to find out if you can make a go of it or not,so dear friend i wish you the very best you and your wife.so I guess this is goodbye,but if i might ask one thing of you maybe someday down the road would you please let me know that you are on that is all I want for you.Good luck and may god bless you and your home.take care friend,,,,,,,,,,BFN
We Are Out Here

Gwynneville, IN

#19 May 18, 2010
Been There wrote:
I think you are right to take a few days to yourself. It helps to get away and just think for a while. Also, if you do decide to leave, I think you and your wife should sit down with your grown son and tell him the truth. He will appreciate that much more than you telling him half truths and him finding out later (and it will always come out) He will understand. Sounds like you have had a good marriage and raised your son together. He will be a man just like his father and understand. Things happen in life that are not so "perfect" and children are the ones stuck in the middle. Most often they are the reason that some marriages stay together even when the love is gone. Children pick up on this and will know what is going on, no matter how good you are at hiding things. Being honest is the best policy. There doesnt have to be details, but the truth will be the best way to go. And I am sure your son will be upset at some point. He will blame himself, his mother and you. But he will come to see that it was for the best that he know the truth. Dont take the blame, this was NOT your fault. And you did NOTHING wrong. This will change you and you will never be the same again. Your trust is broken and you will never look at your wife the same again. I know, been there. I tried to "work it out for the kids", but it continued to get worse and I was never able to forgive or forget. I have learned to be a strong, independent woman and have raised my children alone for years. They have coped with this much better than I have. I have friends that have told me I did the right thing, but when I am sitting ALONE at night, it is hard. But I found out just who I was and found out how strong a person I am and that I dont need a man to make me happy. My children do that everyday and I have family to help me thru the rough spots. So here's hoping you do what is right for you. Dont make the mistake of trying to take the blame or letting your wife make you the "bad one". You did nothing wrong and this is not your fault.
And Been There I hope you find someone that deserves you,you seem like a nice lady,personally I think I like my life just the way it is alone.good luck to you.
GoodGirl

Baxter, KY

#20 May 18, 2010
looking wrote:
<quoted text>right now my mind is so messed up I don't know what to do.to be honest with you my gut do'es tell me to leave but mt heart tells me to stay and try to get through this. and she did tell me that she did loved me but I told her right back if she DID LOVE me she would not done what she had done.I can't even touch her right now.you know I have lost very close love ones in my life and it hurt like hell but this has hurt me to my core.I think that my problem is that the hurt is to fresh to make my mind up. I did tell her that I'm thinking about leaveing for a few days so I can clear my mind and while I'll was gone to make her mind up if she really want this marrage. but I did not say that I would want to stay with her after I had gotten back.there is alot that is going through my mind right now and I do think the best way to handle this is to just get away from her so I can just think. you said that I was the better person...no you are wrong...you are.you had the courage to leave and not look back....I don't.
Im so sorry but i honestly think you deserve better.I know you love her but does she feel the same and if she doesnt then its not fair to you.It takes 2,one cant do it on their own,thats torture.If someone that claims to love you can handle being away from you without missing you like crazy and feeling like a part of them is missing then something is really wrong.Good luck.Do whats best for you and to be quite honest she should be thinking the same thing.If the relationship is worth saving the 2 of you have to meet each other halfway and forgive and forget and try to mend whats broken or part ways.

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