A Marriage Without Kissing
Sandy

Richmond, KY

#147 May 31, 2013
No kisses, I couldn't imagine a marriage of 20 days? No kissing before, during, or even after sex? Why bother? You should tell him to go stick it where the sun don't shine! Now, there's a thought--maybe your new husband is actually a homosexual at heart, and only married to pretend he's straight, or maybe he's taken out a huge insurance policy on you and is waiting until an appropriate time to become a widower. You never know. If he talks, you could have a conversation with your new husband and get everything out in the open, and that way you'll see where he is coming from, and then you can decide whether you want to commit to this marriage.
I believe a new marriage should be non-stop kissing, and I mean open mouth with a non-ending tongue dance, lots of touching and caressing of each others' bodies, and entwined arms & legs, and a rhythm which ultimately peaks with sex, maybe a lap dance or two thrown in for good measure, possibly 69, but definitely sex with lots of kisses, before--during--and after, with spooning afterwards being optional; I like to spoon before and during, but not after, but then I know what I want and I'm not afraid to voice it. You need to find out what is going on with your new husband; talk to the man and get the answers you need.
B Rad

Edmonton, Canada

#148 Jun 2, 2013
Bad wrote:
My husband and I have been married 20 years and we stopped kissing during the first few years. We always and still do all the sexual acts, just no kissing. This is and has always been a HUGE void for me. Nothing lights my fires I'll say like kissing and I miss it even now! When I was in my early 20's I would go out with my friends get drunk and kiss some random guy, nothing else just kiss, and I know that is very wrong, but I was and still am desperate for kisses. I told him about it and he was mad left me for a while then we got back together and NEVER kisses still. The whole situation sucks! I have never let my self go I might add, he just never liked kissing.
I to have been married for 20 years and started dating my wife 24 years ago. I haven't kissed a women properly in over 24 years as she's a germaphobe. I too get sex but its not the same. I waited for marriage for that. I'm at my wits end and have threatened for years I'm going to find a woman yo kiss. I take care if myself and am attractive to other women as well so it's not like I'm gross. This is so unfair and totally wrong for a marriage!
june third

Pikeville, KY

#149 Jun 3, 2013
B Rad wrote:
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I to have been married for 20 years and started dating my wife 24 years ago. I haven't kissed a women properly in over 24 years as she's a germaphobe. I too get sex but its not the same. I waited for marriage for that. I'm at my wits end and have threatened for years I'm going to find a woman yo kiss. I take care if myself and am attractive to other women as well so it's not like I'm gross. This is so unfair and totally wrong for a marriage!
i wonder what it is that makes us want to stop kissing?
i mean, we dont really want to STOP kissing, just stop kissing the person we are with.
i think it is just like, we are with that person for so long, that it would feel like kissing your best friend, or your brother or well, you get it.its like, you might give them a little smooch, peck on the lips, but the passion is gone.
you can fake it, really try to give them a passionate kiss, but if there is no passion there, well i dont know the answer.
i think its just human nature to want to feel that rush of the first kiss.
its sad we have to settle.

Since: Mar 13

Location hidden

#150 Jun 4, 2013
Help wrote:
Hello, I am 28 year old wife and mother of two. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. During the early years we french kissed all the time, and now it has completely stopped. We haven't french kissed and/or "made out" in a few years!! I try to explain to him how important this is to me; I don't know what else to do. Why won't my husband kiss me??? This really hurts me...
My husband is the same way. You can't get anything out of him, he won't even tell me he loves me. We have been together for a long time and his lack of doing anything romantic has made sex not worth having. His idea of good sex is looking at porn then just doing me. So I try to avoid it anymore since he don't see my needs as important. He's cheated too, strongly suspect he has a sex addiction, know he has a porn addiction.
if it was

Pikeville, KY

#151 Jun 5, 2013
Opala wrote:
<quoted text>My husband is the same way. You can't get anything out of him, he won't even tell me he loves me. We have been together for a long time and his lack of doing anything romantic has made sex not worth having. His idea of good sex is looking at porn then just doing me. So I try to avoid it anymore since he don't see my needs as important. He's cheated too, strongly suspect he has a sex addiction, know he has a porn addiction.
if i was a female and my hubby wouldint lick my lil honey hole i would go out snd find me someone that would . even if i had to do the gitley thang .at that im told that youv not had it licked untell a girls gets a hold of it
george

Georgetown, KY

#152 Jun 5, 2013
dude wrote:
me an my o lady have been together 25 yrs. an went through some times where there was just a peck here an there,then we seperated a couple of weeks but still kept in contact and i guess we realized how much we really needed each other and when we got back together,everything was good again an we did the tongue thing and the whole bit was good so sometimes time helps so take a break fr each other and see what happens.if u get back together,it was meant to b but if not then it wasn;t.i couldnt imagine being without her,and we an;t old,its just we got married young and its still good.
from what i gather you have been driving your wife.crazy with Republican politics.you oatta know she needs a little democratic stimlation.now an again.
june fifth

Pikeville, KY

#153 Jun 5, 2013
if it was wrote:
<quoted text>if i was a female and my hubby wouldint lick my lil honey hole i would go out snd find me someone that would . even if i had to do the gitley thang .at that im told that youv not had it licked untell a girls gets a hold of it
in my opinion, the only reason a woman would do a better job, is because they know where everything is and how it feels when its done to them
i had one guy go straight in and never bothered with the outside, i was like, umm, ok, well at least hes trying.
and another actually had to ask me what and where is the clitoris!!!
i was like wtffffff????
but he did ok once he learned
it wasnt so bad cause he was new to it and i didnt have to UNTEACH him all the wrong
he was a quick study

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#154 Jun 5, 2013
june fifth wrote:
<quoted text>in my opinion, the only reason a woman would do a better job, is because they know where everything is and how it feels when its done to them
i had one guy go straight in and never bothered with the outside, i was like, umm, ok, well at least hes trying.
and another actually had to ask me what and where is the clitoris!!!
i was like wtffffff????
but he did ok once he learned
it wasnt so bad cause he was new to it and i didnt have to UNTEACH him all the wrong
he was a quick study
Willingness to learn goes a LONG way.
kimberly

Georgetown, Guyana

#155 Jun 23, 2013
Badz wrote:
Bad, I like kissing too. Drives me wild. It is the part of building up to other things and can get you very steamed up. If you need a kiss, just let me know.
I really need a kiss rite now
Kris

Richland, WA

#156 Jun 28, 2013
I'm actually crying now. My hubby got back from his 2 week army training and I don't feel he misses me at all! He would kiss me but it would be just a smack on the lips and cheeks but I would like to make out and kiss my husband passionately. It hurts my feelings too! why are guys so good in kissing when you are in your dating stage then after you get married, it's all GONE! I'm thinking of just having a one time kiss with a stranger so I know how it feels to be kissed again. As years goes by and our marriage will go downhill, I know I will come to my senses and be tired of lack of appreciation and affection. But my main priority is to have a complete family so as long as I can still hold on, I will. I love my husband! I just wish if I will be in this kind of relationship, I hope I will just be numb and get used to it.
newsflash

Pikeville, KY

#157 Jun 29, 2013
Kris wrote:
I'm actually crying now. My hubby got back from his 2 week army training and I don't feel he misses me at all! He would kiss me but it would be just a smack on the lips and cheeks but I would like to make out and kiss my husband passionately. It hurts my feelings too! why are guys so good in kissing when you are in your dating stage then after you get married, it's all GONE! I'm thinking of just having a one time kiss with a stranger so I know how it feels to be kissed again. As years goes by and our marriage will go downhill, I know I will come to my senses and be tired of lack of appreciation and affection. But my main priority is to have a complete family so as long as I can still hold on, I will. I love my husband! I just wish if I will be in this kind of relationship, I hope I will just be numb and get used to it.
you will if you accept it, go up to him, take his face in your hands, and get his attention, look into his eyes, tell him you have something serious and important to tell him, once you have his full attention, move in to kiss him, and if he pulls away ,or stops you, or just gives you the little peck, then you have a problem.
its possible he is kissing another!!!
but, maybe he isnt, and maybe he is just feeling the way you are.
maybe you just need to take the lead, who knows, maybe he will give you that long deep passionate kiss you long for.
but heres a truth and a fact that no other married people will tell you, the spark maybe doesnt die completely, but it smolders.
you will never have that same passion you once had
kids and marriage and being with the same person for so long and it will fade in time.
you will still love each other, hopefully, but the passion isnt the way it once was.
Nadine

Australia

#158 Jul 19, 2013
Bad wrote:
My husband and I have been married 20 years and we stopped kissing during the first few years. We always and still do all the sexual acts, just no kissing. This is and has always been a HUGE void for me. Nothing lights my fires I'll say like kissing and I miss it even now! When I was in my early 20's I would go out with my friends get drunk and kiss some random guy, nothing else just kiss, and I know that is very wrong, but I was and still am desperate for kisses. I told him about it and he was mad left me for a while then we got back together and NEVER kisses still. The whole situation sucks! I have never let my self go I might add, he just never liked kissing.
OMG, my situation! He doesn't even think it's an issue. Seriously wtf?! When I TRY to kiss him he wiggles away and laughs uncomfortably. I really hate how some commenters are making out that 'WE' are to blame. Like it's something that 'WE' have done! There is no way of saying this without sounding 'up myself' but I am approach-ably attractive, I do not have bad breath and I've been told (pre-marriage) that I'm a great kisser. We also have a lot of sex and I VERY often 'please' him. He says that he only ever kissed before marriage to get to 'the next base' and that he's never liked it. I asked my husband if he'd like it if I told him that I'm not going to 'blow' him anymore because I just don't like it. I do NOT know what to do about this situation but I do know that it is most definitely NOT my fault and it is most definitely NOT YOURS.
Nadine

Australia

#159 Jul 19, 2013
OMG, my situation! He doesn't even think it's an issue. Seriously wtf?! When I TRY to kiss him he wiggles away and laughs uncomfortably. I really hate how some commenters are making out that 'WE' are to blame. Like it's something that 'WE' have done! There is no way of saying this without sounding 'up myself' but I am approach-ably attractive, I do not have bad breath and I've been told (pre-marriage) that I'm a great kisser. We also have a lot of sex and I VERY often 'please' him. He says that he only ever kissed before marriage to get to 'the next base' and that he's never liked it. I asked my husband if he'd like it if I told him that I'm not going to 'blow' him anymore because I just don't like it. I do NOT know what to do about this situation but I do know that it is most definitely NOT my fault and it is most definitely NOT YOURS.
mommyoffour

Bossier City, LA

#160 Jul 22, 2013
I wonder sometimes if it is me. I thought about having an affair just to see if something was wrong with me. I love him so much I just feel like he's with me because he has to be. I want him to act like he wants to be with me.
pyscataway

Elkhorn City, KY

#161 Jul 22, 2013
mommyoffour wrote:
I wonder sometimes if it is me. I thought about having an affair just to see if something was wrong with me. I love him so much I just feel like he's with me because he has to be. I want him to act like he wants to be with me.
get used to it, i hate to tell you, but the romance dies.
i know this isnt always the case, but i would venture a guess that it is more often than anyone wants to admit.
and there are going to be people comment and say how wrong i am, how hot and heavy their romance is with their husband.
i would say most of them are just too ashamed to admit the truth.
im not saying he doesnt love you, or that those men dont love thier wives, or that we dont love our husbands.
but love and romance become something totally different than love and lust.
you are talking about desire.
we as humans, have natural sexual desires, and that man he desires to be lusted after and wanted just as much as you do.
but after awhile with the same person, it becomes routine and boring.
that is why you see so many ppl on here asking for threesomes, its a last ditch effort to rekindle some lust or desire with their spouse.
they are just kidding themselves, because the only reason a spouse goes along with such a request, is to maybe find some lust and desire themselves.
we learn to enjoy the little things, the little moments, like when he holds the door open or gives you a shoulder or foot massage after a hard day.
those little moments become our ROMANCE and we just learn to live with it, sadly.
and sadly, love him as much as you do, you will desire that feeling the rest of your days, and sadly the only other alternative is to have that affair.
its sad that so many are fighting for the right to marry.
they are so misguided to want to live this mundane boring lustless life.
lol

Bethesda, MD

#162 Jul 25, 2013
hey Nadine how can i get in touch with you

“"shes a wild one"”

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#163 Jul 27, 2013
in some marriages, not being kissed is the least of your problems.
i know people who would rather die than kiss their spouse anyway.
Rhp

Mesa, AZ

#164 Aug 15, 2013
trouble wrote:
being a man, even I think that is not good. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now. We still kiss, have sex, and do oral at least twice a week. We also have a 5 yr old son. That never stopped us.
That is bs. I simply don't believe this guy.
Rhp

Mesa, AZ

#165 Aug 15, 2013
pyscataway wrote:
<quoted text>get used to it, i hate to tell you, but the romance dies.
i know this isnt always the case, but i would venture a guess that it is more often than anyone wants to admit.
and there are going to be people comment and say how wrong i am, how hot and heavy their romance is with their husband.
i would say most of them are just too ashamed to admit the truth.
im not saying he doesnt love you, or that those men dont love thier wives, or that we dont love our husbands.
but love and romance become something totally different than love and lust.
you are talking about desire.
we as humans, have natural sexual desires, and that man he desires to be lusted after and wanted just as much as you do.
but after awhile with the same person, it becomes routine and boring.
that is why you see so many ppl on here asking for threesomes, its a last ditch effort to rekindle some lust or desire with their spouse.
they are just kidding themselves, because the only reason a spouse goes along with such a request, is to maybe find some lust and desire themselves.
we learn to enjoy the little things, the little moments, like when he holds the door open or gives you a shoulder or foot massage after a hard day.
those little moments become our ROMANCE and we just learn to live with it, sadly.
and sadly, love him as much as you do, you will desire that feeling the rest of your days, and sadly the only other alternative is to have that affair.
its sad that so many are fighting for the right to marry.
they are so misguided to want to live this mundane boring lustless life.
Amen!
Ladies

Bethesda, MD

#166 Aug 16, 2013
If you want like to be kissed and told how hot you are let me know I am looking for a hot lady who is not satified at home and needing more

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