A Marriage Without Kissing
hmmm

Chesterfield, MO

#125 Mar 28, 2013
pikeville wrote:
Like I said we have been married almost 4 yrs and he has only gone down on me once. He said he doesn't like the taste of it and I told him maybe he has had a bad experience in the past but he said no.. I am as clean as a woman can get and still he isn't interested. I love oral sex and its so hard being married and u still can't get it. He wants me to go down on him but its just not fair. He has been into porn the whole marriage and he says he has an addiction to it. He'll only watch it though if I'm not around...what's up with this....I've asked him and he doesn't deny it but why jack off when you've got a wife...by the way I am 31 and he's 40..
So, your husband wants oral sex from you but doesn't want to return the favor? What a selfish, inconsiderate bore he must be. As for saying he doesn't like the taste of it, you should tell him he doesn't exactly taste like ice cream himself! Also, most men love it when their wives watch porn with them. Your husband sounds like a real oddball.
Madi

Langley, Canada

#126 Mar 29, 2013
My fiance "kisses" me still but never more then a peck we use to French kiss and make out all the time for the first 6ish months then he just stopes and finally told me that the whole saliva thing grosses him out ( he won't shareva fork or spoon either ) we've now been together for 3 years 2.5 with no intimat kissing and although we still have sex at least 4 days out of the week I feel like our relationship is passionless , sex is now dull and I feel empty afterwards and sometimes if it was not for our daughter I think about leaving even though I love him very much ... I cant imagine the rest of my life living in sorrow because my fiance can't man it up anymore

“lmao I'm a flamer”

Since: Nov 10

Point Pleasant, WV

#127 Mar 29, 2013
pikeville wrote:
Like I said we have been married almost 4 yrs and he has only gone down on me once. He said he doesn't like the taste of it and I told him maybe he has had a bad experience in the past but he said no.. I am as clean as a woman can get and still he isn't interested. I love oral sex and its so hard being married and u still can't get it. He wants me to go down on him but its just not fair. He has been into porn the whole marriage and he says he has an addiction to it. He'll only watch it though if I'm not around...what's up with this....I've asked him and he doesn't deny it but why jack off when you've got a wife...by the way I am 31 and he's 40..
Sounds like that he's still in the closet. Mention a threesome with another guy and see what he says. Even if he says no, as long as he doesn't get really mad, push the issue. Keep talking about it, even jokingly, see if he gets hard. If he gets hard by talking about a threesome with a guy or says yes right away, he may possibly be gay.

“"shes a wild one"”

Since: Jan 13

In the Pines, KY

#128 Mar 29, 2013
road_rage wrote:
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Sounds like that he's still in the closet. Mention a threesome with another guy and see what he says. Even if he says no, as long as he doesn't get really mad, push the issue. Keep talking about it, even jokingly, see if he gets hard. If he gets hard by talking about a threesome with a guy or says yes right away, he may possibly be gay.
yea and check his computer search history to see what kinda porn it is hes watching...gay or straight or what...and to the one who says shes engaged and its passionless, honey, its not gonna regain its passion once the ring is on the finger.
relationships lose passion, that is just a fact, but it should retain some, if its all gone, then sorry, but its ALL gone....women need to learn to stop sitting by quietly and watching as their sex lives and overall happiness flies out the window...they need to speak up and take control, if the men arent willing, then let them go so that both parties can find what they are really looking for.
to the one whose husband prefers porn to real sex....leave him sitting with his jar of vaseline and kleenex honey and go out and find you a real life.
pikeville

Manchester, KY

#129 Mar 31, 2013
Thanks guys! I'm leaving him sitting with his vaselin and kleenexs. Lol.. he's a real dick head..
wtf

Winchester, KY

#130 Mar 31, 2013
pikeville wrote:
Thanks guys! I'm leaving him sitting with his vaselin and kleenexs. Lol.. he's a real dick head..
I'll cuddle with him!
dont get it

Richmond, KY

#131 Mar 31, 2013
Help wrote:
Hello, I am 28 year old wife and mother of two. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. During the early years we french kissed all the time, and now it has completely stopped. We haven't french kissed and/or "made out" in a few years!! I try to explain to him how important this is to me; I don't know what else to do. Why won't my husband kiss me??? This really hurts me...
if you are still having sex with him then whats the problem? i dont kiss my wife...i wait till shes drank her 2 glasses of wine..paw at her ti ttys for a few minutes...slobber on them..give her about 10 good pumps, drop a load, roll over and go to sleep..everything is gravy!
dont get it

Richmond, KY

#132 Mar 31, 2013
hmmm wrote:
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So, your husband wants oral sex from you but doesn't want to return the favor? What a selfish, inconsiderate bore he must be. As for saying he doesn't like the taste of it, you should tell him he doesn't exactly taste like ice cream himself! Also, most men love it when their wives watch porn with them. Your husband sounds like a real oddball.
blah blah blah get in the kitchen an fix me a damn sammich!
but you will

Chesterfield, MO

#133 Apr 1, 2013
dont get it wrote:
<quoted text> blah blah blah get in the kitchen an fix me a damn sammich!
Be happy to, darlin'! And if your sammich tastes kind of different, it's just a new brand of mustard. Bon appetit, dear!
Abby

Charlotte, NC

#134 Apr 5, 2013
Me and my husband has been married for 20 days.. Two days after we got married I found him looking at naked girls pictures. It really broke my heart. Me and lived together before we got married but he was the only boy I have ever been with.He was with 6 girls before me. As of now we fight all the time and he never kisses me even while having sex I tired to kiss him today during sex and he turned his head. Since we have got married we have only had sex 3 times. I love to kiss its what really turns me on to me sex without kissing just sucks I'm not even into it.

“"shes a wild one"”

Since: Jan 13

In the Pines, KY

#136 Apr 7, 2013
Abby wrote:
Me and my husband has been married for 20 days.. Two days after we got married I found him looking at naked girls pictures. It really broke my heart. Me and lived together before we got married but he was the only boy I have ever been with.He was with 6 girls before me. As of now we fight all the time and he never kisses me even while having sex I tired to kiss him today during sex and he turned his head. Since we have got married we have only had sex 3 times. I love to kiss its what really turns me on to me sex without kissing just sucks I'm not even into it.
i hate to give you bad advice, but, in the long run, i think it might be for the best, to just annul this marriage, or get a divorce if you have to
it has little to do with him looking at porn, that is pretty typical
its the no kissing thing
only 3 weeks in and he wont kiss you??????
that is just not right, 20 years i can see it...and even that is sad
mommyoffour

Bossier City, LA

#138 May 8, 2013
I don't understand either. He will give me a peck before he leaves for work or when he gets home. He does his thing I do mine. Any rubbing on arms or shoulders or anyother affection is me doing it. I've told him I feel more like a roommate than his wife. We've been married for 8 years. Our life is very comfortable but there is no affection. Sex is he lays there and goes until he's done whether I am or not maybe 3 minutes maybe once a week or once every two. He likes when I perform oral and I have begged but he won't on me. I'm at a lose. I want to leave but I think maybe I'm the problem. Maybe if I felt differently everything would be okay. We have kissed passionately maybe 2 times in the last 3 years. I just need that connection but he doesn't.
Daddyof2

Edmonton, Canada

#139 May 25, 2013
mommyoffour wrote:
I don't understand either. He will give me a peck before he leaves for work or when he gets home. He does his thing I do mine. Any rubbing on arms or shoulders or anyother affection is me doing it. I've told him I feel more like a roommate than his wife. We've been married for 8 years. Our life is very comfortable but there is no affection. Sex is he lays there and goes until he's done whether I am or not maybe 3 minutes maybe once a week or once every two. He likes when I perform oral and I have begged but he won't on me. I'm at a lose. I want to leave but I think maybe I'm the problem. Maybe if I felt differently everything would be okay. We have kissed passionately maybe 2 times in the last 3 years. I just need that connection but he doesn't.
.

I have the same problem! My wife says and would prefer to have sex 1 time a month. She doesn't kiss, give oral or does any sort of four play at all! I have told her many times that kissing is very important to me and that it helps in maintaining a closeness! We may have kissed 2 times in the last 4 years and I'm pretty much at the end of my patience with this stuff. It's hard to have someone not acknowledge you or care about your feelings at all! I feel like there must be something wrong with me but I didn't have this issue with anybody else before this relationship! I feel for anybody in the same situation!!
in the light of day

Pikeville, KY

#140 May 26, 2013
Daddyof2 wrote:
<quoted text>.
I have the same problem! My wife says and would prefer to have sex 1 time a month. She doesn't kiss, give oral or does any sort of four play at all! I have told her many times that kissing is very important to me and that it helps in maintaining a closeness! We may have kissed 2 times in the last 4 years and I'm pretty much at the end of my patience with this stuff. It's hard to have someone not acknowledge you or care about your feelings at all! I feel like there must be something wrong with me but I didn't have this issue with anybody else before this relationship! I feel for anybody in the same situation!!
we lose passion. it is very sad, but also very true. i hear people say, you must work on a marriage, well, i do believe that is true.
i do think you have to work at it, but with any job, if you are the only one working, you begin to resent the other for you are carrying their load as well.
in time, with jobs, responsiblities, living in the same home day and night, children running about, shopping, etc, all the things we must do day in and day out, passion dies.
you may still love her/him very much and want to be married to them, but, the passion is gone and it eats away at us.
you sit and think about the hot hot kisses you shared early on, and how over time the sex became routine and even sex is something you have to work on. passionate embraces and deep mouthed kisses are replaced by a quick peck on the lips or not even that...and it takes away a little something from who we are, from our souls.
even going as far as having to schedule sex, it wasnt meant to be this way.
we all go into relationships and marriage, with wide eyed dreams that we are going to have the same hot passionate kisses and intimate sex lives we had in the beginning/
sad as it is, you can love them, and stay married to them, and on occasion, you might even have good sex.
but mostly, you lose that desire and passion and since you are already working a job, working at just simply enjoying a kiss becomes not worth the effort.

“lmao I'm a flamer”

Since: Nov 10

Point Pleasant, WV

#141 May 27, 2013
in the light of day wrote:
<quoted text>we lose passion. it is very sad, but also very true. i hear people say, you must work on a marriage, well, i do believe that is true.
i do think you have to work at it, but with any job, if you are the only one working, you begin to resent the other for you are carrying their load as well.
in time, with jobs, responsiblities, living in the same home day and night, children running about, shopping, etc, all the things we must do day in and day out, passion dies.
you may still love her/him very much and want to be married to them, but, the passion is gone and it eats away at us.
you sit and think about the hot hot kisses you shared early on, and how over time the sex became routine and even sex is something you have to work on. passionate embraces and deep mouthed kisses are replaced by a quick peck on the lips or not even that...and it takes away a little something from who we are, from our souls.
even going as far as having to schedule sex, it wasnt meant to be this way.
we all go into relationships and marriage, with wide eyed dreams that we are going to have the same hot passionate kisses and intimate sex lives we had in the beginning/
sad as it is, you can love them, and stay married to them, and on occasion, you might even have good sex.
but mostly, you lose that desire and passion and since you are already working a job, working at just simply enjoying a kiss becomes not worth the effort.
You would know

“lmao I'm a flamer”

Since: Nov 10

Point Pleasant, WV

#142 May 27, 2013
We don't lose passion, kids destroy it!! We used to have so much time to have foreplay before the kids..now it's, "hurry!!! Unzip and put it in before they walk in!!!" And 9 times out of 10, they either interrupt, or they walk in right after. Kids really do have alarms. I've reached over and grabbed him on several occasions, and one would run through the house.
We take vacations from the kids to get back our passion...it is the only way to save it. Usually, it's around an anniversary.
abul habeesh

Smiths Grove, KY

#143 May 27, 2013
road_rage wrote:
We don't lose passion, kids destroy it!! We used to have so much time to have foreplay before the kids..now it's, "hurry!!! Unzip and put it in before they walk in!!!" And 9 times out of 10, they either interrupt, or they walk in right after. Kids really do have alarms. I've reached over and grabbed him on several occasions, and one would run through the house.
We take vacations from the kids to get back our passion...it is the only way to save it. Usually, it's around an anniversary.
who cares about passion as long as I git my deek sucked!

“Pink is your new obsession!!”

Since: Mar 13

Ojai, CA

#144 May 27, 2013
abul habeesh wrote:
<quoted text> who cares about passion as long as I git my deek sucked!
you have to wait for the virgins, so go join them soon
Kate

Haslet, TX

#145 May 30, 2013
I've been seeing a guy for 6 years and have tried to tell him how important kissing is to me but it seems as though I'm speaking another language because he just doesn't get it. The relationship has moments of passion but nothing like the ones I know kissing inspires.
I thought I could marry him and bear with kissing rations but after reading your posts I'm not so sure. Just FYI, we're both healthy and attractive...he's 61 and I'm 53.
No kissing no romance

Logan, WV

#146 May 30, 2013
This is how it is men. What is this??? How can you have romance without those long fiery kisses. Men who don't engage in kissing and kissing thoroughly are missing a lot more than the kiss. Ladies need to feel desirable and the kisses are what assures her that she is. Damn, my man couldn't keep his hands or lips off of me for the first 14 years of our life together. I felt totally loved and very happy. I lost him shortly after this and have never desired another. It seems I may have been one of the lucky ones to have found such love.

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