A Marriage Without Kissing

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#1 Jan 30, 2010
Hello, I am 28 year old wife and mother of two. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. During the early years we french kissed all the time, and now it has completely stopped. We haven't french kissed and/or "made out" in a few years!! I try to explain to him how important this is to me; I don't know what else to do. Why won't my husband kiss me??? This really hurts me...

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donnie osmond

Georgetown, KY

#2 Jan 31, 2010
Help wrote:
Hello, I am 28 year old wife and mother of two. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. During the early years we french kissed all the time, and now it has completely stopped. We haven't french kissed and/or "made out" in a few years!! I try to explain to him how important this is to me; I don't know what else to do. Why won't my husband kiss me??? This really hurts me...
all jokes aside here? but will he perform oral sex on you?

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Tina

Winchester, KY

#3 Jan 31, 2010
Do you have sex? When my ex-husband and I stopped kissing, the relationship was dead. We didn't kiss, have sex, or even hold hands. It all ended. We lived like that for quite a while for the sake of our child. Finally we divorced, and my body was re-awakened to the joys of affection once again. It was a re-invigorating time for me, to say the least. And, I am still with the first man I really dated after that. I still have those memories of making out again, and it was blissful. For you, though, I think you need to take stock of the relationship in other ways. Sometimes, issues of withholding affection are symptoms of larger problems in the relationship. Other times, these issues could be indicative of health problems...sometimes low sex drive caused by medications, diabetes, etc....Try to find the root of your problem if open communication has not worked. Also, you may need a counselor or pastor to identify the causes....best of luck....been there, done that, and it sucked.
NoFan

Pikeville, KY

#4 Jan 31, 2010
There seems to be some big problems here. If a spouse wont kiss you he can't find you attractive anymore. Or he is cheating with another woman and is having a problem being intimate with you. I would move on and find somebody who appreciates me.
the truth

Georgetown, KY

#5 Jan 31, 2010
well, one thing is after a woman has a kid? she pretty much lets herself go for the first say.....5 years? i guess thats them doing the whole"mother" thing. however, that being said ( and i know im gonna catch heat over it) a woman still married late 30s to mid 40s with kids almost grown is like a untapped resource ( no pun intended)
saywhat

Paris, KY

#6 Jan 31, 2010
brush your teeth. rinse with some minty scope. repeat 3 times per day, re-evaluate kissing situation.
not satisfied

Winchester, KY

#7 Jan 31, 2010
Help wrote:
Hello, I am 28 year old wife and mother of two. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. During the early years we french kissed all the time, and now it has completely stopped. We haven't french kissed and/or "made out" in a few years!! I try to explain to him how important this is to me; I don't know what else to do. Why won't my husband kiss me??? This really hurts me...
I am also married to a wonderful man and we do everything together except for kiss and I really enjoy that, but that is the one thing that he doesn't do with me everything else is great only when he thinks I'm upset then I get a small Kiss from him..
schoolsafety

Pikeville, KY

#8 Jan 31, 2010
Are these husbands masturbating?
ky babe

Panther, WV

#9 Jan 31, 2010
the truth wrote:
well, one thing is after a woman has a kid? she pretty much lets herself go for the first say.....5 years? i guess thats them doing the whole"mother" thing. however, that being said ( and i know im gonna catch heat over it) a woman still married late 30s to mid 40s with kids almost grown is like a untapped resource ( no pun intended)
You know i think you are right. The first three months you are a zombie and then you live for you kids, good mothers live for their babies. After the babies learn to bathe themselves and get a snack out of the cabinet and primarily entertain themselves, then its time to rediscover yourself and your sexuality.
ky babe

Panther, WV

#10 Jan 31, 2010
schoolsafety wrote:
Are these husbands masturbating?
lmfao
millie

Pikeville, KY

#11 Jan 31, 2010
ky babe wrote:
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You know i think you are right. The first three months you are a zombie and then you live for you kids, good mothers live for their babies. After the babies learn to bathe themselves and get a snack out of the cabinet and primarily entertain themselves, then its time to rediscover yourself and your sexuality.
Oh my gosh!! You hit the nail on the head. I did for my child for the first 6 years. I let my self go a little. Now, I'm back to tanning and getting regular appointments for my hair and nails. It's priorities...it just depends on where each individuals are.
yuk

Elkhorn City, KY

#12 Jan 31, 2010
Yeah and when a hubby talks about all the skanky p***y he has eaten wno wants to kiss someone that has done that..Kissing and not knowing about others is one thing,but kissing and knowing noway in h*ll.So hubbies keep your mouths shut about your other sex lives or do without..Let that be a lesson Beaver!!!!!!!
Granny Clampet

Georgetown, KY

#13 Jan 31, 2010
I know someone who lets his dog lick his teath. Who the heck would want to kiss someone like that.
what12

Pikeville, KY

#14 Jan 31, 2010
haha what in the world is this.
the real mary lou

Manchester, OH

#15 Feb 1, 2010
Been there done that..NEVER again..if and when I find another..I will be all over him....and he better be all over me or we are ....DONE...... LIFE IS TOOOOO SHORT to wait on some man that will never kiss you......hug you ....respect you..... take you out..... laugh with you..remember life is what you make it so MAKE it good....
mother may I

Pikeville, KY

#16 Feb 1, 2010
the real mary lou wrote:
Been there done that..NEVER again..if and when I find another..I will be all over him....and he better be all over me or we are ....DONE...... LIFE IS TOOOOO SHORT to wait on some man that will never kiss you......hug you ....respect you..... take you out..... laugh with you..remember life is what you make it so MAKE it good....
Nice post. I happen to agree with you 100%. The first time I was married, my husband never kissed me for the 3 years that we were married. I later found out that he was gay. Now, I've been involved deeply with a man for 10 years..he stopped kissing me 9 years ago. I'm so put out, frustrated, and frankly feel cheated. If I ever get anyone else...I'm not looking, but...I will find someone that wants to kiss me and show affection.
ladylover

Pikeville, KY

#17 Feb 1, 2010
Kissing is very personal, even more so then oral sex. If your spouse wont kiss you there is a problem somewhere, and it is a big one. If you haven't found out what it is after all this time you probably now. It is something he is ashamed of or a lack of wanting to be personal with you.
trouble

Pikeville, KY

#18 Feb 2, 2010
being a man, even I think that is not good. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now. We still kiss, have sex, and do oral at least twice a week. We also have a 5 yr old son. That never stopped us.
Bad

Williamson, WV

#19 Feb 2, 2010
My husband and I have been married 20 years and we stopped kissing during the first few years. We always and still do all the sexual acts, just no kissing. This is and has always been a HUGE void for me. Nothing lights my fires I'll say like kissing and I miss it even now! When I was in my early 20's I would go out with my friends get drunk and kiss some random guy, nothing else just kiss, and I know that is very wrong, but I was and still am desperate for kisses. I told him about it and he was mad left me for a while then we got back together and NEVER kisses still. The whole situation sucks! I have never let my self go I might add, he just never liked kissing.
Badz

Pikeville, KY

#20 Feb 2, 2010
Bad, I like kissing too. Drives me wild. It is the part of building up to other things and can get you very steamed up. If you need a kiss, just let me know.

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