I won't let go...
The Wife

Richmond, KY

#1 May 17, 2013
He lies...he cheats...he's never home but I still love him! WHY does he do this to me??
reply

Chesterfield, MO

#2 May 17, 2013
I have always heard, once he cheats the first time, he will always be a cheater!!!

“lmao I'm a flamer”

Since: Nov 10

Point Pleasant, WV

#3 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
He lies...he cheats...he's never home but I still love him! WHY does he do this to me??
Because you let him.
angeleyes

Ransom, KY

#4 May 17, 2013
been there, he's always going to cheat. Nothing is going to be new. Get out while you still can, took me 2 years to get rid of the lying, cheating, pathetic excuse for a guy.
understandable

Grundy, VA

#5 May 17, 2013
I have been there! And you will probably always love him. But, do not lose the love you have for yourself, that HAS to be before your love for him. In my situation, he still lies and cheats, but we are no longer together. I will always love him, but I also love myself and have self respect for me and my family. He lost all of his self respect through the years due to drugs. He has been with several different women in the last few years that we have been separated. And is living with another woman now, only because he knows I will not tolerate his habit and actions and she will. It has nothing to do with love. But from what HE told me, she does drugs also. You ask "why" does he do that to you? It is because YOU allow him to do what he wants and let him back into your life to do it again.
Lmfao

Salyersville, KY

#6 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
He lies...he cheats...he's never home but I still love him! WHY does he do this to me??
Geez woman!!! Do you know that he is prolly hurting other women too? I mean who is he cheating on u with??? He prolly is seeing multiple women which is disgusting..... And when is the last he has been tested for diseases. The purpose of marriage is to rule out things like that...
You make me sick!! You know other women are being victims and being used by him too... Y would you be so worthless and puiny and sit aside and allow this!!! F that!! Find out what's going on, get some evidence, get your alimony. F men!!
The Wife

Richmond, KY

#7 May 17, 2013
I appreciate the kind comments. I know I allow it but I don't know how to be me without him. We've been together for a long time and have 2 beautiful kids who love their daddy very much and for all his faults he's a great dad. He's even a good husband in many ways...I just can't trust him. For the record no drugs involved and it's only 1 other woman, not multiples. They have worked together for more years then we've been married and she's married with kids too. I've always been suspicious and he's denied it but I got my proof recently. I just don't want to give up on my family.
The Wife

Richmond, KY

#8 May 17, 2013
Lmfao wrote:
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Geez woman!!! Do you know that he is prolly hurting other women too? I mean who is he cheating on u with??? He prolly is seeing multiple women which is disgusting..... And when is the last he has been tested for diseases. The purpose of marriage is to rule out things like that...
You make me sick!! You know other women are being victims and being used by him too... Y would you be so worthless and puiny and sit aside and allow this!!! F that!! Find out what's going on, get some evidence, get your alimony. F men!!
You sound so bitter. Have you gone through this too?
understandable

Grundy, VA

#9 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
I appreciate the kind comments. I know I allow it but I don't know how to be me without him. We've been together for a long time and have 2 beautiful kids who love their daddy very much and for all his faults he's a great dad. He's even a good husband in many ways...I just can't trust him. For the record no drugs involved and it's only 1 other woman, not multiples. They have worked together for more years then we've been married and she's married with kids too. I've always been suspicious and he's denied it but I got my proof recently. I just don't want to give up on my family.
My situation was a lot like yours. We were together for 24 years. I held on as long as I could, until the kids were grown. But with the drug issue or not, the infidelity still hurts and brings on it's own kind of problems. You may be able to forgive him, but it is going to be only if HE is willing to stop his relationship with the other woman. You will still always feel different toward him and you may never be able to feel the trust again. It will always be there in your mind and in your heart. As afr as staying in that situation for your family, in the long run, I think I let my kids and myself down by staying "for my family". We would have been better off on our own.
Disease

Salyersville, KY

#10 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
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You sound so bitter. Have you gone through this too?
No actually I haven't. I'm not ignorant enough too. I just don't understand. Kudos to you wife but you endure more pain than happiness. This is the new age and is slowly slipping away anyway. Why live under the illusion that you are saving your family??
The Wife

Richmond, KY

#11 May 17, 2013
Ok, if I'm putting this out here in hopes of getting advise I might as well lay it all out there. I care about him but more then that I'm afraid of him. He's never been physically abusive but if I try to take his kids and leave, I know it will get ugly and I mean really ugly. I have no family in the area and not even a friend that isn't his friend too so I don't even have anyone to talk to or help me with this...if I did I wouldn't be here opening myself up to the criticism by some. I truly appreciate those that are talking to me with kindness, I just need a friend.

“lmao I'm a flamer”

Since: Nov 10

Point Pleasant, WV

#12 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
Ok, if I'm putting this out here in hopes of getting advise I might as well lay it all out there. I care about him but more then that I'm afraid of him. He's never been physically abusive but if I try to take his kids and leave, I know it will get ugly and I mean really ugly. I have no family in the area and not even a friend that isn't his friend too so I don't even have anyone to talk to or help me with this...if I did I wouldn't be here opening myself up to the criticism by some. I truly appreciate those that are talking to me with kindness, I just need a friend.
Sounds like that you're in a terrible situation. But it sounds like that you've already made up your mind. You have proof of the affair, yet still stay. Most women stay because they suspect, but no proof. I know that no matter what we say on here, you're going to still stay no matter what. One question, are you afraid that he will leave you? That will make a world of difference in your decision. If you are afraid of him leaving you, then you are allowing yourself to become his doormat. He will continue to treat you this way as long as you allow it. If you know that he will never leave you because of the kids or whatever, then DO NOT STAND FOR THIS. The ball is not in your court right now...make it be. I know that you are afraid that if you start fighting back that it will end in the fall of your family...but honey, he's already started it.
Who's to say that tomorrow he won't just ask for a divorce and move out anyways? It could happen. He could all of the sudden decide that he's in love with this other woman, and she feels the same. j
If you love him, fight for him. Say that you won't stand for this.
If you are only afraid of losing your family, sounds like that it's already broken. You need to prepare yourself for the worst.
You can either fix it or throw it away. We can't make that decision for you.
the ultimate man

Winchester, KY

#13 May 17, 2013
The Wife wrote:
He lies...he cheats...he's never home but I still love him! WHY does he do this to me??
did you ever consider his needs? perhaps you don't treat him like the man he deserves to be? do you fix yourself up? have you gained weight? do you spice things up in the bedroom? you should take all these important issues in consideration.

“PROUDLY PUNKING MODS & TROLLS ”

Since: May 13

FOR 1/2 A DECADE!!!

#14 May 18, 2013
The 700 Club's Pat Robertson has been under fire all week for some really stupid comments earlier this week where he basically excused ALL men that cheat and are not faithful to their wives, Christian or
otherwise, on their wives inability to keep his interest and loyalty.
Pssh, that old codger is crazy as hell.
baaahahahaa

Winchester, KY

#15 May 19, 2013
The Wife wrote:
He lies...he cheats...he's never home but I still love him! WHY does he do this to me??
well I cannot speak for you? but my neighbor cheated on his wife cause she let herself go to crap! hell, she even wore pajamas to her parole hearing!

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