Young Men with Older Women

Young Men with Older Women

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I Love Cougars

London, KY

#1 Feb 24, 2011
I'm a 22 year old man and I'm dating a 45 year old woman (she looks more like 30 years old though) and we love each other dearly and may get married. Some people, including a few of my own relatives, greatly disapprove of our relationship because of the age gap. My question is: WHY SHOULD THEY CARE? It's me and girlfriend's business who we date, not theirs! If you love somebody and are of legal age of consent then what is wrong with it?
perhaps

Thelma, KY

#2 Feb 24, 2011
Nothing is wrong with it. Traditionally you have not seen older women with younger husbands; but why is it any different than old men with young women?

Maybe your family wants you to have children and a woman of forty five might not be too interested in that especially if she already has children. You do need to understand that your family is probably thinking long term too so that when you are 43 she will be almost 70. Those are just some things to think about; but I would also point those out if my twenty seven year old daughter was interested in a fifty year old man.
iamacougar

Pikeville, KY

#3 Feb 24, 2011
Dating is one thing.Marriage is totally different.First do you already have children? Does she? She has probably already raised a family.While hopefully children are still in your future.What do you think this age difference will be like in 10 yrs? 20? I think it can be a relationship you will treasure the rest of your life but let it go when its not good anymore.
Wheaty

Manchester, KY

#4 Feb 24, 2011
I don't think age should matter as long as they're both over 18 years old and in their right mind to consent.
I Need

Hazard, KY

#5 Feb 24, 2011
A Sugar Momma!
Candace

Crossett, AR

#6 Feb 24, 2011
I think it's cool as long as it's 2 adults. Adults can make their own choices in life. They don't need nurtured.
Pikeville Girl

Pikeville, KY

#7 Feb 24, 2011
I am 50 and my HUSBAND is 41. We have a wonderful marriage. Age is not a issue with us. I think if you truly love each other thats all that matters.

True love is hard to find!

Good Luck to you both!!!!!!
Shirley

Teaberry, KY

#8 Feb 24, 2011
I think it is wonderful to have anyone in your life you can love and depend on not matter what the age difference.....good luck to you both, be happy and enjoy everyday. Life is too short to worry about what others think!!
cooter

United States

#9 Feb 24, 2011
i dated older women when i was younger but now that im getting older i started dating younger women,go figure,but as long as both of you are happy with each other then who cares what others think,do what makes you happy and the rest will take care of itself.
GoneWithTheWind

Whitesburg, KY

#10 Feb 25, 2011
where i live there is a fifty two yr old women dateing a forty one yr old man they seem so in love and happy i think its great me myself i wish i were with a younger guy .I also know this women who was sixty yrs old two yrs ago and was a virgin she married a man who had been married before and had kids and grandkids but that just goes to show its never to late people.

Since: May 10

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#11 Feb 25, 2011
I Love Cougars wrote:
I'm a 22 year old man and I'm dating a 45 year old woman (she looks more like 30 years old though) and we love each other dearly and may get married. Some people, including a few of my own relatives, greatly disapprove of our relationship because of the age gap. My question is: WHY SHOULD THEY CARE? It's me and girlfriend's business who we date, not theirs! If you love somebody and are of legal age of consent then what is wrong with it?
I am glad you are happy. My husband is 22 as well and I am older then him. Not even remotely close to 45 but I am older and we are going on 2 years of marriage and just 7 months ago brought in our beautiful little girl. As long as you are happy (and leagal) then that is all that matters. More power to you and I hope you and her have a wonderful life together.
jack j

Virgie, KY

#12 Feb 25, 2011
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU got a family about raised an you been with your spouse for 20 or 30 years and the spouse takes off with a younger person and all them years seemed wasted? Well let me tell you how it turns out.You feel like killing someone you wasted your whole life on if they do that to you. People dont pay any attention to marriage and love honor and obey. Some people spend all that time together and they feel like their spouse is their family and will not stand for it.
next door

United States

#13 Feb 25, 2011
I just don't think it works. At some point that age difference will be glaring even though now it doesn't seem like much. As one person pointed out, when you are 47 and she's 70 that won't be so fun for either of you. You may resent her for holding you back while she will feel guilty for being a burden. Think about it...
iamacougar

Pikeville, KY

#14 Feb 25, 2011
jack j wrote:
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU got a family about raised an you been with your spouse for 20 or 30 years and the spouse takes off with a younger person and all them years seemed wasted? Well let me tell you how it turns out.You feel like killing someone you wasted your whole life on if they do that to you. People dont pay any attention to marriage and love honor and obey. Some people spend all that time together and they feel like their spouse is their family and will not stand for it.
You let them go. You learn to live your life without them. If you are thinking about hurting this person I beg you to get help.Shes really not worth destroying the rest of your life over.Your children love you both and they would lose both of you.Please don't do anything you will regret for the rest of your life. My sister was murdered by her spouse 16 years ago.Their children were left behind with more grief and pain than you can imagine and no parents to help them deal with it. Please if you can't deal with this get help.Talk to someone a friend or a professional it doesn't matter just talk to someone who can help you put this in perspective. She's only one person. You can let her go and love again if you choose to.Don't let a failed relationship destroy you.
Smiley

Bolivar, MO

#15 Feb 26, 2011
As long as it's legal, it's all good.
:)
limits

Chesterfield, MO

#16 Feb 26, 2011
I think there are limits, I think anywhere in a 10 year age gap is okay however when you start dating someone as old as your own child that is a little to weird. The age gap does make a difference and a lot of it. Music interests are different, values or different and yes when one gets older and starts having aches and pains and wrinkles someone 15 or 20 years younger is not going to be so loving for long because that is human nature, I mean if you are always have to nurture someone who is on a walker or just run down you will get tired of that if you are still at the age you want to go night clubbing.
oh yes i do

Paintsville, KY

#17 Feb 28, 2011
i'm a 60 year old woman and still enjoy a f**k with a young stud,lol
just wondering

Charleston, WV

#18 Feb 28, 2011
oh yes i do wrote:
i'm a 60 year old woman and still enjoy a f**k with a young stud,lol
How about a guy thats 46 very fit, are u interested ?
I love older women!
Just me

Charleston, WV

#19 Feb 28, 2011
iamacougar wrote:
Dating is one thing.Marriage is totally different.First do you already have children? Does she? She has probably already raised a family.While hopefully children are still in your future.What do you think this age difference will be like in 10 yrs? 20? I think it can be a relationship you will treasure the rest of your life but let it go when its not good anymore.
I was wondering how old are you cougar? Do u like to play?
oh yes i do

Paintsville, KY

#20 Feb 28, 2011
i sure am. post a email and i will answer

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